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Woman who slept with male best friend following quarrel with husband, seeks help on how to clear her conscience

by April 3, 2022, 6:42

A lady went online to seek advice after she had an affair with her longtime male best friend following a quarrel with husband.

According to the lady, she had been friends with the said friend for a long time and people even felt they were dating but nothing could be further from the truth.

The lady and the male best friend usually attend a training in the UK and following a quarrel with her husband, she slept with her male friend and now she can’t seem to forgive herself and get the image out of her head.

Read her post,

“Hello. Kindly post as anonymous.

This guy has been my only best friend for over 10years. We were accused of having a relationship but nope there was nothing like that between us. We were real friends.

Last year we met in Uk for a training as we always do, since we are in the same field.

Before the trip, I had issues with my husband that made us cold towards each other.

This time around my best friend and I were extremely close that we started talking about sxx and all that. Like joke we slept together! (A very short time)

Since then I have never been myself. The guy has feelings for me but I always took him as a brother. I feel so dirty, and I regretted sleeping with him.

I have decided to stop the friendship. I cut him off completely. The problem now is my conscience. I want to erase this part from my head. I get mad at myself anytime my mind goes on it. And it’s killing me

Please advise! Thank you”

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you see goat and yam ehnnn, Na eventual something goat most feed on yam. If you are married try and respect your spouse stay away from bestie, whatever relationship you want start it with your partner, force it, since you are married you have life time to build it.

Wahala


You're in a big big mess.

Forgive yourself, tell your husband and accept what may come.

Hmm.
I am fasting- no comment

Na Wetin dey her mind since she do, Na so women dey do after dem use a man satisfy their sexual urge, them go come dey act like they force her do am, some go even hold you join body for bed still dey tell you stop I don't want to do it, Oya Na leave me na make I get up na, lai lai. She go don use that same strategy take sleep with more than ten men, still dey form I didn't want it.

all na format...olosho system de her body

It is long awaited dream come true to your life. Tell your husband and ask for his forgiveness. Be fast about it before your (sex) friend blackmail you before your husband. As for erasing the picture, forget it. It will forever haunt you. Women act before they think.

Let that conscience prick you to death idiot. No married woman should have a male friend for whatever reason.

This is why i don't always agreed with this male bestie of a thing. Guys usually don't make friends with who they don't like or have feelings for initially, they just pretended or don't want to be married to that person.

Bestie bestie

No be today naa

One thing I hate about the other gender is that, they don't no when to call it quit. You see when when I get married, anything called best friend or long time friend being the opposite gender is a no no for me. Because if I catch you when, I will call army and even street guys to come and flog you.

You obiously have feelings for him. You even talked about it before doing it, so it was premeditated. Its what you wanted, and the opportunity presented itself so you took it. Next time you guys meet you'll do it again.

I hate all this bestie stories ehn mtchewww

Iyaebe:
I hate all this bestie stories ehn mtchewww

Seriously e no dey make sense, cos a lot of times they compromise.

A Nairalander here said she's falling in love with her beastie, and I was horrified to hear that they do what couples do but are not dating. I feel ladies should dignify themselves by not sleeping with anyone they're not in a relationship with. This Nairalander said her bestie has other female friends, Imagine if the guy is getting it from all or most of his female friends he would find it difficult respecting woman o. Just my thoughts though

immortalmortal:
You obiously have feelings for him. You even talked about it before doing it, so it was premeditated. Its what you wanted, and the opportunity presented itself so you took it. Next time you guys meet you'll do it again.

You are very correct

babajero:
Na Wetin dey her mind since she do, Na so women dey do after dem use a man satisfy their sexual urge, them go come dey act like they force her do am, some go even hold you join body for bed still dey tell you stop I don't want to do it, Oya Na leave me na make I get up na, lai lai. She go don use that same strategy take sleep with more than ten men, still dey form I didn't want it.

@ some go even hold you join body for bed and still dey tell you to stop......
.

Rotji:
Seriously e no dey make sense, cos a lot of times they compromise.

A Nairalander here said she's falling in love with her beastie, and I was horrified to hear that they do what couples do but are not dating. I feel ladies should dignify themselves by not sleeping with anyone they're not in a relationship with. This Nairalander said her bestie has other female friends, Imagine if the guy is getting it from all or most of his female friends he would find it difficult respecting woman o. Just my thoughts though

Its only ladies that knack head for ground that sleeps around anyhow, imagine sleeping with someone and calling it bestie or whatever, if this is what they call woke then I refused to woke

yuping:
you see goat and yam ehnnn, Na eventual something goat most feed on yam. If you are married try and respect your spouse stay away from bestir, whatever relationship you want start it with your partner force it, since you are married you have life time to build it.

Hmmmm, years ago when I newly got married and my wife was far away a married colleague and friend of mine suddenly said she developed feelings for me, and we weren't besties o to make matters worse her husband also worked in the same organisation. Na grace help man pikin last last

Iyaebe:
Its only ladies that knack head for ground that sleeps around anyhow, imagine sleeping with someone and calling it bestie or whatever, if this is what they call woke then I refused to woke

Such ladies will come across as cheap na, why give something so sacred cheaply to a man just like that in the name of bestie or friend with benefit. Some level of celibacy will help a lot of women o

Rotji:
@ some go even hold you join body for bed and still dey tell you to stop......
.

My brother the thing taya me.

Reading through the post, it is clear we're dealing with a loose woman.

Firstly, you said you guys are REAL friends. Then four paragraphs down, you said the guy has feelings for you. You knew all along he had feelings for you but your harlot nature encouraged the "friendship".

Any woman in a relationship, let alone married who has a male bestie or a relationship with the opposite sex that warrants private/personal conversation is already a cheat, at least emotionally. It is only a matter of opportunity before the physical manifest

Now, the bîtch has soiled her marriage and defiled herself. There are grave consequences for that even in Satan's Kingdom where immorality reigns.

Rotji:
Woman who slept with male best friend following quarrel with husband, seeks help on how to clear her conscience

by April 3, 2022, 6:42

A lady went online to seek advice after she had an affair with her longtime male best friend following a quarrel with husband.

According to the lady, she had been friends with the said friend for a long time and people even felt they were dating but nothing could be further from the truth.

The lady and the male best friend usually attend a training in the UK and following a quarrel with her husband, she slept with her male friend and now she can’t seem to forgive herself and get the image out of her head.

Read her post,

“Hello. Kindly post as anonymous.

This guy has been my only best friend for over 10years. We were accused of having a relationship but nope there was nothing like that between us. We were real friends.

Last year we met in Uk for a training as we always do, since we are in the same field.

Before the trip, I had issues with my husband that made us cold towards each other.

This time around my best friend and I were extremely close that we started talking about sxx and all that. Like joke we slept together! (A very short time)

Since then I have never been myself. The guy has feelings for me but I always took him as a brother. I feel so dirty, and I regretted sleeping with him.

I have decided to stop the friendship. I cut him off completely. The problem now is my conscience. I want to erase this part from my head. I get mad at myself anytime my mind goes on it. And it’s killing me

Please advise! Thank you”


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Wahala

Ashawo dey your eyes since.

Next..........

Tell her to marry so-called bestie concubine, since female friends are too weak and poor to give out advice like men for their female counterpart even married women. They said nothing bad in having close friendship with man , they said such man will be better friend even more than hubby.


Naija people had been hidden under one finger since 1759.


You shall know the truth and the truth shall set u free.....

Friend zoned for 10 years.
.
Escape for a night by mistake and stroke of luck, now going to lose the whole friendship.
.
Friend zone is the worst cubicle u can find yourself as a man.

This knacking sef ehn...

How come one of you couldn't stop the other from doing it? It seems you both have always nursed the idea and only awaited the opportunity to strike or the guy had always assured a time like this.

In it all, forgive yourself first and then tell your husband.

I have nothing to contribute here

See life o. To me there is nothing like male best friend. It's like asking a dog to keep meat for u. It will surely eat it one day.