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In the original Igbo culture prior to European intrusion, women retain their maiden name after marriage.

Documentation Wahala

No big deal here. Wahala go start if she says my children go bear her maiden name.

I call it SIMPing. Giving her your name must be your number one goal after "purchasing her" from her people via the bride price. It is named bride PRICE for a reason. Keep your idealism out of my mention and face reality!

So?!! That can never be a big deal!

Why should anyone be put through the rigors of change of name?!!

That means going through the entire process all over again in the event of a divorce!

Omo you don pay na except you still dey owe.of not,no reason why she nor go answer your name.

Favfables1:
The only way she is retaining her name is if her maiden name is already well established, asides that, nahhhhhh ...

Are you well established?....?

Told my wife to keep her maiden name, madam no gree lol

She doesn't want to sound odd when the names of each member of the family is being called.

Imagine father and children bearing same surname, only for mother to be bearing something different like a nanny.

It's just a name, it means absolutely nothing........ What does changing her maiden name, add to the equation..... Absolutely nothing ........

Kobojunkiee:
To reduce any unnecessary record keeping burdens, women should keep their maiden names after marriage. It is not like marriage is some sort of rebirth, but instead a mere transitioning from one location to another in many cases.

You get sense.
In Nigeria, the process is draining!

LegitGirl:
A friend asked me this question, recently.

A guy, as a matter of fact. He said he doesn't mind his wife reraining her maiden name.

What do you guys think?

Its not her maiden's name. Its her fathers name.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

simpleseyi:
As if we care.

We guys are not begging you to bear our surname, in fact, we do not want to get married, you ladies are the ones doing everything possible including going diabolical to make us marry you. If not, we no want marry.

Why are you triggered

Kobojunkiee:
What you guys? It is tradition in much of Nigeria that the woman change her name once married so what are you rambling about abeg?

What tradition exactly?!!...

Currently, it's a matter of choice and agreement between couples. No pressure at all!

Let's stop dragging tradition about abeg!!!

Lexusgs430:
Are you well established?....?

ROFLMAO

foolbuster:
Its not her maiden's name. Its her fathers name.

What's the difference please?

Angelfrost:
What tradition exactly?!!...
Currently, it's a matter of choice and agreement between couples. No pressure at all!
Let's stop dragging tradition about abeg!!!

A matter of what choice abeg?

Are we still talking of the same country where the tradition is if a man pays to buy a woman for a wife then she bears his name, or another country?

Abeg, if you don't know reality for naija,Waka pass on this one.

Saifullah01:
Well it has never been an issue for me. My wife still bears her father's name. I can say mostly in the north that's how it is.

because of fear of the man divorcing them suddenly without notice

LordIsaac:
I call it SIMPing. Giving her your name must be your number one goal after "purchasing her" from her people via the bride price. It is named bride PRICE for a reason. Keep your idealism out of my mention and face reality!

Alaye, if you were to pay all the money her family spent to raise her as bride’s price, can you afford it?

Brooke60:
You get sense.
In Nigeria, the process is draining!

indeed it is!

My mum was still working on her name change when I was already about 10 years of age.

Romanoff:
There's nothing wrong in it.

It doesn't make the woman less or more faithful or less or more committed to the marriage.

Everyone knows she's your Mrs, the stress of going to change name upandan is not easy.

Yeah.

I think the only advantage is the elimination of the stress and complexity that comes with changing names.

Other than that, I think retaining the maiden name kinda screams individuality, as against oneness.

I also wouldn't want to bear a different name from the LOML, and my kids.

Let's all be one.

a woman who wants to retain her maiden name is not ready to marry and should stay in her father's house.

I saw a comment about retaining her fathers name if he is a prominent person, again stay in your father's house!!!

Kobojunkie:
A matter of what choice abeg?

Are we still talking of the same country where the tradition is if a man pays to buy a woman for a wife then she bears his name, or other country?

Yes sir... Tradition has limits!

A lot of couples decide to forego that. Most do it more out of impulse than tradition.

Some just bear the name in word, but check their official documents, social media handles, etc, it remains the same even after a decade of blissful union!

It is down to a couple's decision and choice or what works for them!!!

Kobojunkiee:
To reduce any unnecessary record keeping burdens, women should keep their maiden names after marriage. It is not like marriage is some sort of rebirth, but instead a mere transitioning from one location to another in many cases.

Not in my house. My great sisters dropped our name once they got married and we are not expecting them back to pick it. The least among them is a director of health in an FMC. Say whatever you like , it is our family tradition as long as they don’t start trouble foolishly . Feminism and all round gender equality should go to blazes . Ask your wife who dragged the father’s name to your house if the mum did same. There won’t be issues with me and my wife as long she uses one at a time. Either use your father’s name or mine. Combining them like is indecent to me. As prominent as the family of my mother in-law's family is , she dropped it and got serious with her marriage. Daughters of nobodies are everywhere dragging along the names of their no-do-well fathers , claiming woke

perambulator:
a woman who wants to retain her maiden name is not ready to marry and should stay in her father's house.

I saw a comment about retaining her fathers name if he is a prominent person, again stay in your father's house!!!

Yet, women in many other cultures retain their names after marriage, and we are talking cultures that are thousands of years old here?.

Romanoff:
There's nothing wrong in it.

It doesn't make the woman less or more faithful or less or more committed to the marriage.

Everyone knows she's your Mrs, the stress of going to change name upandan is not easy.

How is she my Mrs when officially she will be bearing Mrs her father's name ?

somehow:
Told my wife to keep her maiden name, madam no gree lol

She doesn't want to sound odd when the names of each member of the family is being called.

Imagine father and children bearing same surname, only for mother to be bearing something different like a nanny.

I agree. Kinda odd.

Outsider feeling.

Our marriage is almost 10 years, she still uses her maiden name. It safes a lot of stress

Lightorder:
Not in my house. My great sisters dropped our name once they got married and we are not expecting them back to pick it. Say whatever you like , it is our family tradition as long as they don’t start trouble foolishly

As you already stated, some of you bow to traditions which you foolishly adhere to against logic, so there is always that to contend with.

That's the origin of feminism!