| Re: My Younger Sister. by Michelle55: 8:49am On Apr 11, 2022 |
OP, you've got no right to invade her privacy and go as far as slapping her too, that's a sign of a woman beater. You need to work on your emotions and anger management, you will need it more. She's 20 for goodness sake, why would you open the message in the first place?
That she's your younger sister doesn't give you the right to invade her privacy cos she's no longer a child, your duty is to advice her and let her make her own mistakes. She would learn better that way.
There are things you need to handle with diplomacy and you have failed woefully the moment you raised your fist on her, you owe her an apology and after which you guys can have the talk.
I do know that you're trying to protect her but you are going about it the wrong way, change tactics and you guys can talk about anything without her being scared or uncomfortable. My uncle tried this harsh tactics with me while I was growing up but failed cos we're all strong-headed, you can only win me over with calmness and that's one thing he lacked and it ruined our relationship.
Start by apologizing for hitting her and then be friends with her, only then can you gently tell her the pros and cons of what she's embarking on in terms of relationship with men. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by thorpido(m): 8:51am On Apr 11, 2022 |
You're trying to protect your sister but you're going about it the wrong way.
Your sister is an adult now and the best you can do is advise her and talk to her from time to time. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 8:55am On Apr 11, 2022 |
Shoodboi:
Was I the one who left the comments below? It's you who should read well before jumping into concusions:
Your arrogance will destroy you. Your sister will put you in your place very soon.
so because I made a post about needing advice's, means anybody somewhere would just jump into the trend and say am stupid, as his first statement because he is trying to prove a point.  Those above gave their mature advice without any sort of tension or what so ever. Why can't he do same? 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by ibechris(m): 9:19am On Apr 11, 2022 |
In Africa there is nothing like invading anyone's privacy as far as she lives under the canopy of your parents.
I only blame u for not sending those messages to your self and thereafter break down that phone to pieces.
Yes,it is actually painful when u see someone u trust misbehaving.
Do not take it easy with her,in fact tell ur parents now about it now or never. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by flames007(m): 9:28am On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart. 
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
That was a violation of privacy Op. In as much as you don't want her to explore, i think you're too late. She's 20 fgs. Talk to her like an equal and she'll be less obstinate and more yielding. 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by faithfull18(f): 9:38am On Apr 11, 2022 |
Let your parents know oh. At that age, she probably feels she is old enough to do what she likes. As long as she is still under your roof, she can still be talked to.
She should be ready to face the consequences of having pre-marital sex when it comes. 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Richy4(m): 10:32am On Apr 11, 2022 |
<<<What you were doing is the nightmare of every parent( though u are a sibling)... It is the relinquishing power and control over their children especially young adults...What they should wear, whom they should associate with etc. You are a good guy no two ways about it.. but u should know when and how to achieve certain goals without throwing muscles around...
<<<The funny thing is that up till now, You did not see anything wrong with reading an adult's messages on her phone...She gave u that phone trusting you as the big brother to do what you wanna do, and hand it over without violating her privacy. and u went into her private space, read her messages and even have the guts to confront her over it with violence...
<<<A 20 year old lady is old enough to contest for a local govt election... she is old enough to stand on trial without her parent speaking on her behalf, she is old enough to go to adult prison.. she is old enough to get married and make babies... to sum it all, she is old enough to make an informed/uninformed decision and be held accountable for it....
<<< You should not have slapped her or put her in a position that she will become defensive...if you have a vast experience, or you are street smart, and u discovered that she wasn't, U should have called her as the big brother u are and tell her about the wolves out there... U let her know that the game is still the game with the same rules but different players...
<<< Stop Lording over her buddy...She is almost a graduate... u were not the one writing her exams or doing her assignments...She was the one taking those decisions in the exam hall and have been excelling... Do not put her in a position where she will be defensive next time instead strike up a conversation of a big brother talking to a dear kid sister, With the information u have, U should have educated her on how boys behave without her knowing that u have accidently seen her messages....You are the big brother and your role is massive in her life... but slapping and being physical is not part of it..
3 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by 1Sharon(f): 11:01am On Apr 11, 2022 |
ibechris:
In Africa there is nothing like invading anyone's privacy as far as she lives under the canopy of your parents.
I only blame u for not sending those messages to your self and thereafter break down that phone to pieces.
Yes,it is actually painful when u see someone u trust misbehaving.
Do not take it easy with her,in fact tell ur parents now about it now or never.
Misbehaving because she has a bf at the age of 20? Hypocrite 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 12:07pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
I said i need matured minds not an 18/17 years old boy who doesn't have a direction in life yet. Abeg, no slap the guy! |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Oyiboman69: 12:17pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
for the record am not a woman beater but you are entitle to your opinion no mind the simp...what is wrong in beating one's sister?, would he'd said that if he had beating his brother?. the way some people trow caution to the wind just to place the female in a precarious situation is something else.... 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Dbrawllm0098(f): 12:38pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
She's an adult and can date/sleep with whoever she wants. Mind your own business. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 12:52pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Richy4:
<<<What you were doing is the nightmare of every parent( though u are a sibling)... It is the relinquishing power and control over their children especially young adults...What they should wear, whom they should associate with etc. You are a good guy no two ways about it.. but u should know when and how to achieve certain goals without throwing muscles around...
<<<The funny thing is that up till now, You did not see anything wrong with reading an adult's messages on her phone...She gave u that phone trusting you as the big brother to do what you wanna do, and hand it over without violating her privacy. and u went into her private space, read her messages and even have the guts to confront her over it with violence...
<<<A 20 year old lady is old enough to contest for a local govt election... she is old enough to stand on trial without her parent speaking on her behalf, she is old enough to go to adult prison.. she is old enough to get married and make babies... to sum it all, she is old enough to make an informed/uninformed decision and be held accountable for it....
<<< You should not have slapped her or put her in a position that she will become defensive...if you have a vast experience, or you are street smart, and u discovered that she wasn't, U should have called her as the big brother u are and tell her about the wolves out there... U let her know that the game is still the game with the same rules but different players...
<<< Stop Lording over her buddy...She is almost a graduate... u were not the one writing her exams or doing her assignments...She was the one taking those decisions in the exam hall and have been excelling... Do not put her in a position where she will be defensive next time instead strike up a conversation of a big brother talking to a dear kid sister, With the information u have, U should have educated her on how boys behave without her knowing that u have accidently seen her messages....You are the big brother and your role is massive in her life... but slapping and being physical is not part of it..
OK..thank you for the advice |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 12:53pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Michelle55:
OP, you've got no right to invade her privacy and go as far as slapping her too, that's a sign of a woman beater. You need to work on your emotions and anger management, you will need it more. She's 20 for goodness sake, why would you open the message in the first place?
That she's your younger sister doesn't give you the right to invade her privacy cos she's no longer a child, your duty is to advice her and let her make her own mistakes. She would learn better that way.
There are things you need to handle with diplomacy and you have failed woefully the moment you raised your fist on her, you owe her an apology and after which you guys can have the talk.
I do know that you're trying to protect her but you are going about it the wrong way, change tactics and you guys can talk about anything without her being scared or uncomfortable. My uncle tried this harsh tactics with me while I was growing up but failed cos we're all strong-headed, you can only win me over with calmness and that's one thing he lacked and it ruined our relationship.
Start by apologizing for hitting her and then be friends with her, only then can you gently tell her the pros and cons of what she's embarking on in terms of relationship with men. OK...thanks for the advice 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by frozen70(f): 1:19pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
She will deny anything so far it has to do with a guy Once a girl starts sleeping with a man, she becomes bolder I will advise you seat her down and give her brotherly advice, that's all She is in the university and anything can happen because you are not there to watch her Most girls that got into university as a Virgin, breaks their virginity before graduation 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nobody: 1:30pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
frozen70:
She will deny anything so far it has to do with a guy
Once a girl starts sleeping with a man, she becomes bolder
I will advise you seat her down and give her brotherly advice, that's all
She is in the university and anything can happen because you are not there to watch her
Most girls that got into university as a Virgin, breaks their virginity before graduation thank you for your motherly advice. 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by frozen70(f): 1:32pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
thank you for your motherly advice. Thanks dear 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by franklingud(m): 1:54pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
I said i need matured minds not an 18/17 years old boy who doesn't have a direction in life yet. All the same, you are still stupid for slapping a 20 year old mature girl. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Ultraviolet5: 1:59pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Mode5:
how did I invade her privacy?I saw a WhatsApp message popping up I decided to check it out meaning I invaded her privacy.
Am I not supposed to look after her wellbeing if my our parent aren't no more In the nearest future! op Na mumu ,not your phone,NOT your chat,Not your boyfriend,Not your message. 20yrs old is past the age of consent and she is an ADULT!. Will you marry her?! 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Ultraviolet5: 2:02pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Richy4:
<<<What you were doing is the nightmare of every parent( though u are a sibling)... It is the relinquishing power and control over their children especially young adults...What they should wear, whom they should associate with etc. You are a good guy no two ways about it.. but u should know when and how to achieve certain goals without throwing muscles around...
<<<The funny thing is that up till now, You did not see anything wrong with reading an adult's messages on her phone...She gave u that phone trusting you as the big brother to do what you wanna do, and hand it over without violating her privacy. and u went into her private space, read her messages and even have the guts to confront her over it with violence...
<<<A 20 year old lady is old enough to contest for a local govt election... she is old enough to stand on trial without her parent speaking on her behalf, she is old enough to go to adult prison.. she is old enough to get married and make babies... to sum it all, she is old enough to make an informed/uninformed decision and be held accountable for it....
<<< You should not have slapped her or put her in a position that she will become defensive...if you have a vast experience, or you are street smart, and u discovered that she wasn't, U should have called her as the big brother u are and tell her about the wolves out there... U let her know that the game is still the game with the same rules but different players...
<<< Stop Lording over her buddy...She is almost a graduate... u were not the one writing her exams or doing her assignments...She was the one taking those decisions in the exam hall and have been excelling... Do not put her in a position where she will be defensive next time instead strike up a conversation of a big brother talking to a dear kid sister, With the information u have, U should have educated her on how boys behave without her knowing that u have accidently seen her messages....You are the big brother and your role is massive in her life... but slapping and being physical is not part of it..
Exactly,he is looking for validation for what he did and refusing to accept that he is in the wrong. |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Richy4(m): 2:23pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Ultraviolet5:
Exactly,he is looking for validation for what he did and refusing to accept that he is in the wrong. He still sees her as "that my little innocent kid sister"...May have remembered when she was "pooping" and "weeing" herself ... That's the kind of eyes most parents uses on their children especially African parents...Reasons why most of them don't knock while entering the rooms of their 15yr old and above  ... 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by HeyCorleone(m): 2:28pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Oyiboman69:
no mind the simp...what is wrong in beating one's sister?, would he'd said that if he had beating his brother?. the way some people trow caution to the wind just to place the female in a precarious situation is something else.... And what will slapping her do? SMH Some of you are just insane idiots. How does going physical fix things? Have we not learnt anything? God, we were a generator raised with beatings and slaps, how did that turn us right? You and the person you’re defending are both fools. |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by ukaface(f): 3:30pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
she's a fvcking adult, treat her like one. You can't get any answer from her with the attitude you introduced. If you really wanted to know what sup with her, you should have done it in a more mature manner |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by AKWATGOLD1(m): 4:22pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Senior Sister, park well. Over monitoring too much afterall she is above 18 yrs if she likes make her boyfriend bleep her virginal come out.Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
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| Re: My Younger Sister. by Nilx: 5:20pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
E remain ten years for her to turn to old newspaper, do you want to marry her? |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:49pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
that girl is not a kid. You invaded her privacy thereby bringing disrespect to yourself. If you even handled this amicably it would have been better. Were you thinking she was a virgin? At 20 ? In final year? Bro, wake up. |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:52pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Shoodboi:
It's not your responsibility to tell her whether to have a boyfriend now or when to have one. She is 20 -- two years past the legal age of an adult. On top of that, she's almost done with uni.
Also, you shouldn't beat/fight an adult for any reason unless their behavior is becoming a threat to the safety of other people and their properties.
Plus having a bf doesn't distract her from improving on herself. How do they even correlate?
One last thing: Mind your business
I tire oooo, I wonder how having a bf would hinder one from achieving their goals 2 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:53pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
ibechris:
In Africa there is nothing like invading anyone's privacy as far as she lives under the canopy of your parents.
I only blame u for not sending those messages to your self and thereafter break down that phone to pieces.
Yes,it is actually painful when u see someone u trust misbehaving.
Do not take it easy with her,in fact tell ur parents now about it now or never.
someone you trust? Asin For knack aspect? You funny ooo |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by YourFavorite21(m): 8:47pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Don't ever hit again, a 20 year old is no longer a kid.
Pls Stay away from her phone, you can only advise her That's all. |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Justkatty(f): 9:52pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Dear op truth be told you were wrong
1. You collected her phone for something else, and it was so unfortunate a message popped in, you didn't have any right to open it.
2. As a big bro, you were supposed to have made use of your head instead of your physical strength and your position in the family.
3. Advicing her would have been the best thing
So far I am concerned, you owe her an apology.
I don't know how you wanna do it, but don't let your ego blind corrections. 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by weslay: 10:22pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Bro cut her some slack. She is an adult n has the right to chose the life she wants to live.
Besides they school together, so who knows they could end up together. 1 Like |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by Ishilove: 10:23pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
9182736455O1999:
Hmmn,
all these people that are telling Op to mind his business. E be lyk say una never see sth I'm just looking at them. So we should look away and mind our business if our sibling is going astray? Unruly generation. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Younger Sister. by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:28am On Apr 12, 2022 |
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
your approach to the matter was wrong i wont focus on her privacy but i want you to build a picture of her world and the best way you would have used to approach the matter 1 your is 20 at uni, uni groups people in one place and there is a high chance of your sister picking one person she likes or being liked by someone and her liking the person, its a situation that your sister has to navigate through feelings and proper guidance of balancing uni, dating and avoiding pregnacy if she is already sexual active 2 now you have seen what she is too, find aways to adress your concern without spilling the beans that your saw her conversation, talk in general how guys in uni can mislead her or even getting her pregnant or use her for money, spill the beans on how guys can distract one's education and things to watch out for in guys 3 your approach closed the opportunity to guide her without accusation and failed to address her vulnerability due to age and being far from home were there is less monitoring of her moments moral etc 2 Likes |
