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Greetings dearest brethren.
There's a tragic event that unfolded in my hometown which I want to share. I actually felt unperturbed about the whole saga but something drew my attention to it........My mom and my dad sided different personnel,so I have to think deep in this case and indeed....."it is complicated".

It happened that in a family (in my kindred), a man had two sons and 2 daughters but the first son is a sickler (suffering from sickle cell anaemia). So the family managed to marry for her, they gave her a wife, then because this man is a sickler, he wasn't allowed by the family to bear a child rather,her wife was bearing children from outsiders.

Due to the severe case of his illness, this man later died but his father still alive.

Now here the problem comes. There's this culture in Igboland (my hometown adheres to it strictly) that if a first born dies in the lifetime of their father, the second son will take over the full mantle of ultimate head of the family owning to the fact that the first born did not pay his tribute or bonafide allegiance to their father (this,he has to do during the burial of their father on a normal condition). So technically,the eldest son has to be the one to bury the father in order to retain his full respect.

So as the first son in this family died, the second son now take the full mantle of leadership in this family. This second son is a very rich man. Built a mansion in the compound (because they have a big compound). But he has this belief that the wife and children of the first son should pack out from their Fathers main building (Built by the father of the two sons), that it is now his own property.

So he went to a land far from their main compound to build a house for the family of the first son, but the children of the first son(now a grown ups) rejected the offer. Insisting that the compound is thiers. With the rejection of this offer, the second son now began using a harsh hand to the family of the first son. That they must park out since he will be the one to bury their grandpa when he dies. With the help of his sisters......they packed the family of the first son outta the compound.

Now fortuitously as crazy as we may have it......this second son that is claiming to be the one to bury thier father when he eventually dies died yesterday while the father (the grandpa of them all) is still alive.

So I was wondering many things. If the children of the first son(already grown ups) rise and chase the children of the second son (still kids) outta the main compound, even if it requires chasing them also from their dad's mansion as he didn't live to bury the Grandpa for which he has been boasting and claiming superiority........Will you say they did wrong??.

This is the scene that may unfold in this family. Remember.......the second son is the first to initiate "pack out from my compound"

Guys what have you to say in this complicated case??

Also......is this culture good or bad ??

But you said the first son of the man don’t have legitimate children..

And his wife had kids by outsiders ...

Are those kids legitimate?

Is the legitimate kids with the blood of grandfather that owes the house by tradition

Or the grandfather can still will his properties S he wish

The second son automatically becomes the first son when the first son is no more

Asgard73:
But you said the first son of the man don’t have legitimate children..

And his wife had kids by outsiders ...

Are those kids legitimate?

Is the legitimate kids with the blood of grandfather that owes the house by tradition

Or the grandfather can still will his properties S he wish

This is where a great problem lies bro (actually where my parent had different thought over the issue).

The fact that the children of the first son are illegitimate gives more credit to the second son.
But....

The children of this first son are hot-blooded. They don't listen to advise, can fight you if you come closer (some are agboro).

So as the kids of the second son are still small... people are thinking that this mob of the first son may chase them out

Sergio103:
This is where a great problem lies bro (actually where my parent had different thought over the issue).

The fact that the children of the first son are illegitimate gives more credit to the second son.
But....

The children of this first son are hot-blooded. They don't listen to advise, can fight you if you come closer (some are agboro).

So as the kids of the second son are still small... people are thinking that this mob of the first son may chase them out

Is their grandfather incapacitated?

If no?

He knows the right thing to do

If yes

The kinsmen will do the right thing

If no nobody.. the kinsmen will side with the wife and get police to drive the stubborn kids

Only wicked elders will take side with the i illegitimate blood for selfish reason

The first son's first son should be incharge now

illicit:
The first son's first son should be incharge now

But he's illegitimate bro