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Biglittlelois:
Yes but the thing is, how can parents monitor their kids 24/7?

"Don't give them phones", what of friends they keep? How can we know all of them? Cos no matter how much you try, they will keep some special ones away from you

"Don't give them internet enabled phones" have you forgotten sms? They will say whatever they want to say and delete it immediately, what exactly can be done if we should carefully think things through, cos I don't seen how any solution will curb these menace 100%.

Kids don't lie while they are young. Be very friendly with your kids and there is nothing they can't share with you.

Hmmm!!! am speechless!! Parenting is not an easy task but I believe with God all parents would never be put to shame.

The day i knew rapist lived with us was when a girl visitor was raped down floor below me in school. I called editor of press klub into my room. Luckily for us, the victim was released to go ease herself after the incident. We cornered her into my room and engaged her with short interview and took some pictures, swollen eyes, torned jeans and pant. Unfortunately, the lady didn't allow us to report the incident to school authority.

Omo , the girl see pepper Sha, never support some evils girls, doing evils doing, especially 10 years old girl,haba.

DopeChick:
ChrislandSchool- My Daughter Fooled Me Too

https://dopereporters.com/chrislandschool-my-daughter-fooled-me-too/


I saw the video of that Christland girl’s mother online; you know, as a mother, I felt sad for her. Especially when I read that they suspended her daughter.

But something in me said, “hmmnnn, the children we are raising these days are “wiser” than us their parents. I said ‘wiser’ because that is what they think of themselves.

A few days after, when I now saw the video of the small girl that was said to have been raped…I said, oh, these children will not kill us, o��. This is what my own daughter did to me too. How I wish the girl’s mother had just quietly sought help for her child because now we all know the girl isn’t the little innocent the mother thought she was. I am not judging o but everyone who saw it say the girl isn’t as innocent as we think. My own daughter did me the same shege!

Children of these days? Forget them, they can fool you into the well, cover you up and not even blink.

If I have an opportunity to talk to the girl’s mother, I will just tell her to keep quiet, she should learn from me.

Few years ago, my daughter, she’s my niece actually; her mother died a long time ago and I have raised her since she was six years old…so she is my child. She was just 15 when this incident happened.

I sent her to one of these Model Colleges in Lagos state.

She was in boarding school. That school didn’t even allow phones or any of this yanmayanma that private schools allow, they are like the old Unity Schools of our days. That’s why I thought, she would be well disciplined and focus on her studies…

She was in SS1. They resumed that day and whenever they resume, the school insisted they returned in their house wears. This was way before Covid when parents and relatives were allowed to follow the returning students into their hostels and help them settle in.

That day, I went to drop my daughter in school…of course she was in her green check house wear. I went with my son, who helped her carry her box and bucket to the front of her hostel. I was at the bursar’s office, settling the outstanding fees and showing receipts for other payments I had made for books… you know that sort of thing.

My son came back to meet me on the queue at the Bursar’s and said his sister was settled…they call each other brother and sister even though they are cousins. Anyway. By the time I finished because there were lots of parents and guardians too who came to settle financial issues with the bursar, it was late. So I told my son to go tell his sister I would come visit in two weeks’ time. I also couldn’t even see her before leaving because it was about 6.30pm and the bell was ringing for students to go into their hostels for head count. The school always did head count every evening and especially upon resumption.

Many of the students still loitering around the premises ran into the hostels to be counted.

We left that day and I thought I had done my job as a mother.

Three days later, that was on a Wednesday, I was called by my daughter’s house mistress asking for my daughter.

I said, “Huh? What are you talking about?”

She said my daughter hadn’t resumed school and that she was wondering what had happened to her!

I said, “Haba! Are you dreaming? I brought her to school on Sunday, she resumed with the rest of her mates on Sunday!”

House mistress said my daughter hadn’t been seen in school for three days and though her bed was always made, she hadn’t been physically seen!

I almost ran mad as I raced to the school that day.

My mind was in a turmoil, I drove her to school myself, and she was checked into the hostel by the house mistresses’ assistant, where could she be?

We got to school, lo and behold, upon speaking to me and realizing something was off, the house mistress had summoned my daughter’s close friends to her office. She wanted to know who had been laying her bed and fooling her staff. Because you see, a laid bed means the child is around, right? So they had been laying her bed, making the hostel staff believe she was around. Empty beds or unlaid beds meant the child hadn’t returned to school.

She called three of my daughter’s closest friends and asked them where my daughter was.

They didn’t tell her, they kept silent but she delivered well intended backhand slaps and they began to confess like witches…she then took them all to the principal’s office, that was where I met them.

The girls were still crying when I got there. They confessed that my daughter had met one boy on Facebook who invited her to come visit him at one hotel. He had called her the following day to meet him at a certain place outside the school gate.

Unfortunately for us, they didn’t know the name of the hotel. They said when I dropped her in school wearing her house wear, she had gone into the hostel and changed to mufti. I had no idea she packed mufti in her box because you see, I packed the box myself. I did so not because I even suspected she would go to school with contraband, (the school allows provisions but there are certain items they forbid like phone, etc); they checked their boxes upon resumption. So I packed her box because when she packed the box, it was so jumbled up, I had to remove everything to repack neatly and it was in my presence her brother dragged the box into the car…so you see these children can fool you.

Anyway, that’s how we began to look for my daughter.

From hotel to hotel, we begged to search, some proprietors allowed us search, many said they didn’t have anyone that looked like her as guest. We went with her photo. Oh yes, we went first to the police before I began searching with my son and another relative of ours.

For two days, we got nothing. I didn’t sleep, I didn’t eat because I believed in my heart my child was deceived by some monster she saw on the internet.

But, my child wasn’t the little innocent I thought she was after all!! Ase, she had been chatting with this man and agreed to come and visit him. She had changed to mufti in the evening and gone out of the school gate disguised as a cleaner in the school!

Meanwhile, as far I knew then, she had no phone. I didn’t buy her a phone because I just couldn’t even afford it; I gave her an old one I had used before but she told me it couldn’t do internet and so she dropped it…I had no idea she had another phone!

Do you know how we found her?

On Friday, early in the morning, around 5.30 am, the evil boy she went to meet dumped her naked in front of the school gate!

Yes.

They had raped her, used her…it was a painful sight. She had red blotches all over her body. They were many boys who raped her over and over again…for five days. She was barely alive when they dumped her at their school gate. Maybe they had heard police was looking for her, I don’t know.

The gate man said he heard a sound, like some crying feebly at the gate, he opened the gate and saw a naked girl…that was my own child. The child I sent to school telling myself she was safe in school! I would swear my daughter was well behaved. Quiet, didn’t even go out when on holidays. Many times I forced her to go do some deliveries for me; she preferred being indoors, watching Tv.

When they identified her as their student, she was able to say her name before she fainted again. They called me, I went to the school and took her straight to a nearby hospital.

They admitted her and began to treat her.

A few days later, when she had regained her strength, she told me what happened.

She was begging me and crying saying she had learned her lessons and would never deceive me again. I couldn’t even scold her because seeing her condition, I saw she had suffered enough. Her punishment was all over her body. She suffered several lacerations on her vagina, one broken rib, she said they were beating her as they raped her; her face was badly swollen and red with blood, her hands and feet had been tied during the acts… and I knew a great lesson had been learned.

What else was there to say to her?

She spent three weeks in the hospital after which the school suspended her for that term… Oho! I don’t blame the school. The story had gone out that she was setting a bad example.

Ha!

She herself saw hell that period. Walking and urinating was hell for some time; thankfully she didn’t get pregnant because that would have meant she would’ve had to stop school entirely.

But I thank God today. I made her go back to finish school. She was ashamed and didn’t want to go back, I said, “what did you say?”

She repeated but is just one year behind her mates and she is determined to do better. Sometimes, experience truly is the best teacher, now my daughter mentors younger girls and advises them against online predators and not telling their parents where they were going…

Today, I’m proud of my daughter, we both “bleeped up", but like that musician, Black Sherif said, “Of course, I bleeped up…Who never bleeped up, hands in the air, no hands?” # DEAR PARENTS, PLEASE LET'S LEARN TOGETHER. OUR CHILDREN SHALL MAKE US PROUD & NOT BRING SHAME TO US IN JESUS NAME . AMEN.
(written by Peju Akande and based on true story)

This is ....... I'm just bereaved of words!

Fabu

jimtemi1:
what happen to her by following the matter up. Arrest the culprit,and charge them to court.By the way it not a difficult matter for police, trace the phone and the FB id sikene

Nigeria police?
You must really rate them o.
Lol.

She would have followed up sha.
Probably left out that detail.

No phones till University
No boarding school
You misbehave, you get grounded and disconnected from all activities.
If you don't listen to the small things they want to tell you today, they won't tell you the big things tomorrow.

Girls are wahala
Isn't easy to train up a girl ooo

Are you a single mother? I don't see where you mentioned the girl's father. Absence of fathers in the home can lead to some of these ills

In a world where parents spend more time on phone than with kids, you can only expect the worst.


A world where teenager's are now catching bodies and posting online..... Sex tapes is already a norm and drugs is like a basic.

The worst part, parents get lost when they finally get to know. Those obedient and quite boys you think you have are not what you think and why you have to be more of a friend than a parent. Only that way they will open up to you.

In a world of today, you can NEVER protect your kids from knowing about ills, you can only create relationships that will make them tell you when they see new things.

I would have looked for and gotten those boys o!

Children imitate the atmosphere around them.

** When you have satan in Aso rock,

** Governors mansions are filled with drug barons, occultist/fetish, fraud ex-cons riding the best cars, their family living large,

** Stupendously rich ex-heads of state who robbed the country blind, bullion van ex-governor are king maker, movers and shakers,

** When these people have completely ran down the education system inherited from the colonialists :

You should never expect to see saintly well behaved children, in fact it will get even worse. God help us.

Nice the story made positive impression on you. Please extend the lesson to your peers as you keep your morals intact.

Shocking story, I almost cried felt like I was the girl cause I'm also a teenager. We teenagers take big risks just to have "fun" and not think about the damage it'll cause in the future. God saved most of us from these predators. I wish you and your daughter the best in life, thank you ma for sharing this. Learnt a lot.

After this Chrisland scandal I made pledge that I must be my children best friend, by keeping an open and honest relationship with them, no fucking privacy and I must know who their friends are and how well behaved they are

9182736455O1999:
Why didn't you think of seeking justice for the girl.

must she tell u everything.

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oz4real83:
It seems the issue of privacy for kids should be totally banned, with what is happening nowadays. All these keep happening because parents want kids to have their "privacy". If you monitor anyone your child associates with, all her text messages and calls even on that "small Java" phone, some of these issues will reduce. A child should not be friend or acquaintance of somebody the parents don't know.

Madam actually I don't know true your story is oo my question is are you telling us to let our kids learn in a hard way or what

WtF is wrong with motherhood this days like this women una dey carxe?. How are you expecting your daughter to be open to you when if you can't communicate with her freely without barking on her like a dog with 10kids
Let your kids know you are they're parent let your daughter discus with you with free mind without of my mum will beat me I tell her haba

9182736455O1999:
Why didn't you think of seeking justice for the girl.

Justice from who the school unknown boys

And that your daughter can not just dress in a native and disguise and go out like that without anyone seeing her sneak out or else she jump the back fence. And what did you do to the assistance house mistress hand over your daughter to Are all of you mad or something? If you be my wife with this kind of narration I will trow you out of my house because you are not qualified to mother a child didirin

aspabay:
Justice from who the school unknown boys

From that school they know something about the missing girl, that school should be closed down

Useless mother!

Biglittlelois:
Yes but the thing is, how can parents monitor their kids 24/7?

"Don't give them phones", what of friends they keep? How can we know all of them? Cos no matter how much you try, they will keep some special ones away from you

"Don't give them internet enabled phones" have you forgotten sms? They will say whatever they want to say and delete it immediately, what exactly can be done if we should carefully think things through, cos I don't seen how any solution will curb these menace 100%.

The energy u use in monitoring them use it in building a solid relationship with them. if a child trust u like a friend and not fear u like an overbearing parent they will tell you about everything that they go through cos they trust u enough to correct them rightly and tell them the Truth.

This why parents need to install spyware on their kid phone's. Getting access to her sms, call log and location becomes easier with spyware. Parenting is actually tasking. When kids fear God and respect their parents parenting becomes so easy.

oz4real83:
It seems the issue of privacy for kids should be totally banned, with what is happening nowadays. All these keep happening because parents want kids to have their "privacy". If you monitor anyone your child associates with, all her text messages and calls even on that "small Java" phone, some of these issues will reduce. A child should not be friend or acquaintance of somebody the parents don't know.

I have never for once supported child's privacy. What is so private in a child's life? The kids know that there's no privacy in the house for them cos me their father has no privacy self.

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when grows up he will not depart from it. Prov.22:6. Still true.
One of the challenges that we have in the society today is the 'untrained boys and girls, or children from carefree parents that are now parents'.

What you don't have, you can't give. Girls want to marry, crying and scheming for husband up and down the street, old boys want to bleep, probably settle down with one lady at last.
No moral lesson from their own parents that is more than 'how to manage your spouse' and virtually nothing on parenting.

The supposed parent have no idea what PARENTING entails.

You'd rather see these so called parents on tiktok half naked doing shit. What do you expect their daughters and sons to do? Of course, they are there online getting immoral training from a wayward artist/celebrity to pornographic lessons (abi na where chrisland girl learn those cowgirl style from? rape my foot!! Abi na she sef dey rape that boy...in rape definition) and online meet up and dating.

What we must all do aside hustling for money on a daily basis is to be trained on how to train our children. Religious doctrines, Moral, and cultural ethics of doing things will definitely help.
Proverbs 29:15, 17
"The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

17 "Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul."

DopeChick:
ChrislandSchool- My Daughter Fooled Me Too

https://dopereporters.com/chrislandschool-my-daughter-fooled-me-too/


I saw the video of that Christland girl’s mother online; you know, as a mother, I felt sad for her. Especially when I read that they suspended her daughter.

But something in me said, “hmmnnn, the children we are raising these days are “wiser” than us their parents. I said ‘wiser’ because that is what they think of themselves.

A few days after, when I now saw the video of the small girl that was said to have been raped…I said, oh, these children will not kill us, o��. This is what my own daughter did to me too. How I wish the girl’s mother had just quietly sought help for her child because now we all know the girl isn’t the little innocent the mother thought she was. I am not judging o but everyone who saw it say the girl isn’t as innocent as we think. My own daughter did me the same shege!

Children of these days? Forget them, they can fool you into the well, cover you up and not even blink.

If I have an opportunity to talk to the girl’s mother, I will just tell her to keep quiet, she should learn from me.

Few years ago, my daughter, she’s my niece actually; her mother died a long time ago and I have raised her since she was six years old…so she is my child. She was just 15 when this incident happened.

I sent her to one of these Model Colleges in Lagos state.

She was in boarding school. That school didn’t even allow phones or any of this yanmayanma that private schools allow, they are like the old Unity Schools of our days. That’s why I thought, she would be well disciplined and focus on her studies…

She was in SS1. They resumed that day and whenever they resume, the school insisted they returned in their house wears. This was way before Covid when parents and relatives were allowed to follow the returning students into their hostels and help them settle in.

That day, I went to drop my daughter in school…of course she was in her green check house wear. I went with my son, who helped her carry her box and bucket to the front of her hostel. I was at the bursar’s office, settling the outstanding fees and showing receipts for other payments I had made for books… you know that sort of thing.

My son came back to meet me on the queue at the Bursar’s and said his sister was settled…they call each other brother and sister even though they are cousins. Anyway. By the time I finished because there were lots of parents and guardians too who came to settle financial issues with the bursar, it was late. So I told my son to go tell his sister I would come visit in two weeks’ time. I also couldn’t even see her before leaving because it was about 6.30pm and the bell was ringing for students to go into their hostels for head count. The school always did head count every evening and especially upon resumption.

Many of the students still loitering around the premises ran into the hostels to be counted.

We left that day and I thought I had done my job as a mother.

Three days later, that was on a Wednesday, I was called by my daughter’s house mistress asking for my daughter.

I said, “Huh? What are you talking about?”

She said my daughter hadn’t resumed school and that she was wondering what had happened to her!

I said, “Haba! Are you dreaming? I brought her to school on Sunday, she resumed with the rest of her mates on Sunday!”

House mistress said my daughter hadn’t been seen in school for three days and though her bed was always made, she hadn’t been physically seen!

I almost ran mad as I raced to the school that day.

My mind was in a turmoil, I drove her to school myself, and she was checked into the hostel by the house mistresses’ assistant, where could she be?

We got to school, lo and behold, upon speaking to me and realizing something was off, the house mistress had summoned my daughter’s close friends to her office. She wanted to know who had been laying her bed and fooling her staff. Because you see, a laid bed means the child is around, right? So they had been laying her bed, making the hostel staff believe she was around. Empty beds or unlaid beds meant the child hadn’t returned to school.

She called three of my daughter’s closest friends and asked them where my daughter was.

They didn’t tell her, they kept silent but she delivered well intended backhand slaps and they began to confess like witches…she then took them all to the principal’s office, that was where I met them.

The girls were still crying when I got there. They confessed that my daughter had met one boy on Facebook who invited her to come visit him at one hotel. He had called her the following day to meet him at a certain place outside the school gate.

Unfortunately for us, they didn’t know the name of the hotel. They said when I dropped her in school wearing her house wear, she had gone into the hostel and changed to mufti. I had no idea she packed mufti in her box because you see, I packed the box myself. I did so not because I even suspected she would go to school with contraband, (the school allows provisions but there are certain items they forbid like phone, etc); they checked their boxes upon resumption. So I packed her box because when she packed the box, it was so jumbled up, I had to remove everything to repack neatly and it was in my presence her brother dragged the box into the car…so you see these children can fool you.

Anyway, that’s how we began to look for my daughter.

From hotel to hotel, we begged to search, some proprietors allowed us search, many said they didn’t have anyone that looked like her as guest. We went with her photo. Oh yes, we went first to the police before I began searching with my son and another relative of ours.

For two days, we got nothing. I didn’t sleep, I didn’t eat because I believed in my heart my child was deceived by some monster she saw on the internet.

But, my child wasn’t the little innocent I thought she was after all!! Ase, she had been chatting with this man and agreed to come and visit him. She had changed to mufti in the evening and gone out of the school gate disguised as a cleaner in the school!

Meanwhile, as far I knew then, she had no phone. I didn’t buy her a phone because I just couldn’t even afford it; I gave her an old one I had used before but she told me it couldn’t do internet and so she dropped it…I had no idea she had another phone!

Do you know how we found her?

On Friday, early in the morning, around 5.30 am, the evil boy she went to meet dumped her naked in front of the school gate!

Yes.

They had raped her, used her…it was a painful sight. She had red blotches all over her body. They were many boys who raped her over and over again…for five days. She was barely alive when they dumped her at their school gate. Maybe they had heard police was looking for her, I don’t know.

The gate man said he heard a sound, like some crying feebly at the gate, he opened the gate and saw a naked girl…that was my own child. The child I sent to school telling myself she was safe in school! I would swear my daughter was well behaved. Quiet, didn’t even go out when on holidays. Many times I forced her to go do some deliveries for me; she preferred being indoors, watching Tv.

When they identified her as their student, she was able to say her name before she fainted again. They called me, I went to the school and took her straight to a nearby hospital.

They admitted her and began to treat her.

A few days later, when she had regained her strength, she told me what happened.

She was begging me and crying saying she had learned her lessons and would never deceive me again. I couldn’t even scold her because seeing her condition, I saw she had suffered enough. Her punishment was all over her body. She suffered several lacerations on her vagina, one broken rib, she said they were beating her as they raped her; her face was badly swollen and red with blood, her hands and feet had been tied during the acts… and I knew a great lesson had been learned.

What else was there to say to her?

She spent three weeks in the hospital after which the school suspended her for that term… Oho! I don’t blame the school. The story had gone out that she was setting a bad example.

Ha!

She herself saw hell that period. Walking and urinating was hell for some time; thankfully she didn’t get pregnant because that would have meant she would’ve had to stop school entirely.

But I thank God today. I made her go back to finish school. She was ashamed and didn’t want to go back, I said, “what did you say?”

She repeated but is just one year behind her mates and she is determined to do better. Sometimes, experience truly is the best teacher, now my daughter mentors younger girls and advises them against online predators and not telling their parents where they were going…

Today, I’m proud of my daughter, we both “bleeped up", but like that musician, Black Sherif said, “Of course, I bleeped up…Who never bleeped up, hands in the air, no hands?” # DEAR PARENTS, PLEASE LET'S LEARN TOGETHER. OUR CHILDREN SHALL MAKE US PROUD & NOT BRING SHAME TO US IN JESUS NAME . AMEN.
(written by Peju Akande and based on true story)

Unfortunately, this particular woman claimed she saw the video of her daughter from a neighbor before her dress rehearsal for her crocodile tears.

The mother of that Chrisland student is complicit in her crime. She knowing the truth had the audacity to claim victim!

Parent can only pray for their children after doing all they are expected to do in guidance! It is God's grace that help parents grow Godly and responsible children

Maverick777:
You people just type without thinking
must you fool yourself all the time?
was it the 'badly raised men' that snuck the girl out of school in the guise of a cleaner??
when you see wrong call it wrong, and don't be a hypocritical gender bigot!

olodo
Who raped the girl?
Please try not to show your dullness in some threads.

Let's go back to the Bible and all these will barely surface. We've gone too far from the Bible in the name of liberalism.

How do you train and monitor a child successfully without the word of God? Depending on you own idea and wisdom will fail you. The word of God says that by strength shall no man prevail.

If you can't teach your child the word of God by yourself, expose the child to faith-based gatherings often and send the child to schools that don't joke with God's word.

I know schools that are purely found on God's teaching. The first condition to admit your child is to append your signature on a paper stating that your child must attend the chapel. I have monitored two of such schools since 2011 till date and no record of any scandal even as they turn out over 120 graduates every year.

I lived with Muslim couple that sent their two kids to one of the schools and those children turned out well.

I know of an ogboni man who personally handed his children over to a neighbour to ensure they always followed her to church services promising to give every necessary material support so they don't end up like him.

Involve God in training your children and they will turn out well.

She was groomed.

There are sophisticated paedophiles out there.

God help us.

UKhelper:
Hmmm.. This is very true.
I once met a man on Facebook who was a Medical Doctor and we fell in love when I was 21.
He asked me to come and spend 3 nights with him.
I was at home because it was during my holiday but I lied to my Parents that I want to go and visit my very good Christian friend for an assignment related to our coursework . Mum dropped me at bus stop closed to her house, prayed and left due to the trust she had in me.

Immediately I took a 5 hours bus down to Ilorin.
The Guy came, took me to his room, raped me and disvirgined me.
On the 2nd day, he gave me abortion pill and asked me to leave his house, I was left with no option than to shamefully leave his house and went home. I cried bitterly when I got home, I could not explain what happened and I never mention what happened to my Parents till today.
I am still always ashamed of that experience

Y'all really need to start taking responsibility for your actions and learn to live with the consequencies.

At 21, you deceived your parents, travelled across state borders to visit a man, and you are here claiming rape? You can do better than that.

Boarding schools are a breeding ground for different kinds of evil like lgbt ,stealing and so on..most parents send thier kids to Boarding out of laziness and some do so cos the will have enough space to Bleep...