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DeLaRue:
I suspect there's a lot more to it than just the issue of buying rice.

1. I suspect pent up frustration on the part of your wife, probably to do with staying at home doing nothing. She needs to find a job, however small, just to get her out of the house and increase her sense of worth.

2. That your wife slapped you, and you in turn whipped her with cable wire suggests there's is a history of physical altercation between you. The slap should not be viewed in isolation.

3. Any man that hits his wife with a cable wire has a violent streak in him. To flog her so violently with such horrible material is inexcusable. Your wife slapped you, so what? Be so upset as to call the parents, may be even ask for a separation. That's fine. But beat her with cable wire? No responsible man does that.

4. You have money to pay to arrest someone, stay overnight in a hotel and pay for sex, but no money to help your wife plan her life so she too can have a sense of self worth. If a woman is left at home all day, what else will she do other than house work, care for your child, and watch TV. But you are angry she watches TV.

5. No responsible man, however angry he gets with his wife goes to hotel and sleeps with a prostitute, and be so grossly reckless as to do it a 2nd time. Meaning the prostitute was lying their with you in the bed for a while...ewwww. I suspect you have a history of sleeping with people outside your marriage thus undermining the time, energy, love, affection and tolerance that your wife needs and deserves.

Whether you take a 2nd wife (that's up to you) or choose to work at your relationship with your wife, one thing you must understand is, you need to help the woman you choose to spend the rest of your life with, to make a success of her own life outside of being just a wife.

A happy wife will most likely make a happy home for you and your children.

A woman doesn't just wake up one day and slap her husband. Your wife is frustrated. Frustrated by you. That's not to say her behaviour is excusable.
I thought I read somewhere she is a student.
All you said is right, the issue of flogging I agree with you is wrong.
Anyway, unless she has slapped him before and he did not respond, which the encouraged her to do it again.
As I wrote earlier, a newly married man must sent his boundaries. If you wife slaps you, slap her 2ice harder and even land a punch. Strange as it my be, this does not mean you are a violent or abusive person, but you need to show you will not take that bullshit!
I assure you, over the course of that marriage she will not try that again.

We4all:
Sharap, the OP is not any different from the killers of Deborah. He is the violent type. But I also blame the stupid wife for becoming a liability to a stupid husband.

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

Persephone1:
My Mama always warn me of men with wonderful narrative skills! I've seen an example on Nl today. He narrated it so well it will take extra effort to detect the lies, people like this can kill! They are hardly ever wrong or at fault.
Pity!

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

tonididdy:
I stand to be corrected but na SAPA dey cause see finish for marriage.
@OP so on one night you spent at least 30,000 but you couldn't spare yourself all the disrespect and give her the money for the bag of rice besides she's looking out for the good of the family with all that prayer house visits

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
File for a divorce ASAP...you both are faulty here..she hit you then you retaliated..
Next thing you had to do was have sex with a different lady..well your marriage is currently in shambles..you either keep deceiving yaself or divorce and keep wh**ring around..

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

LilMissFavvy:
That is why it is good for a woman to have a source of income. If she had her own money, she would have bought what she wanted.

Very bad that she fought her husband, and only she knows if she truly wanted a bag of rice or she needed money for something else.

The same man who said he didn't have money for a bag of rice, had 20k to pay for hotel room and prostitute'. He also says he will start patronising prostitutes',. The marriage is already ruined.

Ishilove:
Another episode of Things That Never Happened.

Your column in Hints magazine would have been called "Marriage Palaver: Marital woes of oga Cletus"

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

OyeofIkoTuN:
Her school boyfriend told her to use that format to collect funds..

skoskosko:
After going through all you wrote, I understood your frustrations. You have been running amok telling people shatap. I saw you fell right into the category that has done so much albeit unsuccessfully to rationalize her bad behaviors, the bitter women class. Most probably one of the bitter feminists who are here pursuing gender support. I am happy you rightly unknowingly called the wife a LIABILITY/LEECH to the husband that she is. I unfortunately could not find how you managed to equate the husband to Deborah’s killers. So you do not know that domestic violence is not gender based. You clearly don’t know the husband has rights to self defense. In other to prove he is not violent, he has to endure a slap today, tomorrow the monster he failed to tame will graduate from slap to stab in his sleep. Try harder, this attempt was lame.

We4all:
Mumu, have you listened to the wife’s side of the story?

ibechris:
I can see how painful it is...

People like u can't amount to anything because insulting people u don't know runs in ur family.

I got no surprise here.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

Persephone1:
You must be a pathetic being to script the event of things so nicely that you have no fault while your wife is painted a lunatic who slapped you for a bag of rice. Even the poor lady wasn't left out, she's the seductress, while you are just a weak man burdened with family issues. How responsible of you!

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

olibeans:
This man no get sense.. You need to grow up and tame your anger.