mindset is what determines production . and what determine our mindset is location ,family and experiences . even the bible says , all things are possible for he that believeth and have faith .
This country has mess up full time , I just had a chat with a white lady. Our conversations was going well until she asked me. Where are you from? I replied: Nigeria, she said goodbye and blocked me. Big thanks for those ruining the name of this country. Next time I will choose Ghana.
All those things you mentioned are affecting you. When you live in too conducive environment where there no challenges our productivity will be low and your mindset will be affected too. The spiritual one is very deep and it encompasses the other too. If the foundation of the environment you are does allow progress, you will just be working without result thus you mindset will be full of doubt and dismay hence low productivity.
The solution is that you need to pray and seek counselling for proper guidance and I know you are coming up.
It has more to do with your mind. Mighty forces are there. Be grateful that your mind is still intact. If a man loses his mind, for me, he's as good as gone. Failure will teach you many lessons that school can't. Most heroic myths have failure imbued in them: Muhammed Ali when Joe Frazer broke his jaw; Frank Sinatra when he had no record label, and Jesus Christ on the cross. We know how it all went: Ali would fight Frazer six months later to reclaim his belt. Capital Records later signed Frank Sinatra, and he went on to record From Here To Eternity. And, 3 days later, the stone would roll away from the tomb, and the King of Glory would become The LORD of all. You need a lot of mental strength to wade through the floods of this inscrutable gift called life.
failure is one of the things that lead to success..because it gives u more experience about life...so dont be depressed and dont think it's about village people or whatever..u are just passing through some hard times which will eventually turns to joy with time
It's a good thing you are able to recognize when you are losing focus. Please, go back to your half brother's house, since you achieve more and complete all your goals when with him. Your success is more important than some utopian relationship you hope to get from your half brother!
Op the truth is that you're yet to take responsibility of your life, you're just one unserious fellow who believes he has enough options to safe his ass from hunger and shelter, one of those reasons you keep jumping into peoples houses like a monkey.
About your marketing skills, it's not enough esp in this country where business owners claim they know how to do everything by themselves, I'll advice you to learn other tech skills if you're looking to make it in life.
Shadysen: This country has mess up full time , I just had a chat with a white lady. Our conversations was going well until she asked me. Where are you from? I replied: Nigeria, she said goodbye and blocked me. Big thanks for those ruining the name of this country. Next time I will choose Ghana.
Choosing Ghana is another disaster too, they are notorious for sakawa scam.
Bros, jejely carry your cross, but remember to always curse our roguish leaders.
A psychologist gave me this book and it really helped. 2019 I had an accident 2020 I lost my business & went bankrupt 2021 I got separated from my wife and 2 children, and i relocated to my family house. 2022 Now with courage to restart 1. Move closer to God in fasting & prayer and use all your energy to work for God. 2. Move closer to friends and family that truly believe in you, talk your mind to them. 3. Go for long walk regularly at least 10km a week, cardiovascular exercise. 4. Admit you're restarting your life, be humble and move. Make sure you make progress daily. Most importantly don't fell intimidated humiliated or insulted with peoples attitude. (I went off social media) 5. I've been applying for all jobs Driver, Marketer, Estate Manager, facility manager etc. I'm a graduate of estate manager i use to run an estate firm, but now I'm doing anything that occupies my time either make me happy or get me payed. Please do same. 6. Testimony will be our portion in Jesus Name
you are really confused....village people are dialing your number....if u dont act fast you may end up with a mental break down and depression...on the other hand it could just be anxiety since u are still young...take ur time and pick the things u want to do gradually...also exercise and hit the gym as ur body is getting into shape ur adrenalin will start pumping well again.
Your self discovery lines on your state of comfortability. You are more proactive n productive when you are not in your comfort zone. You need to go back to Lagos and moreover you blend well with your brother's wife, that's what matters the most. I could have advice you not to stay with your brother if to say his wife is having issues with you.
Hey, Everyone has a story tell and at the end how you were able to persevere and endure is what will take you to your promise land.
Your are not motivated enough and seems that you are going through mid life crisis but the good thing is after the rain comes sunshine. Such a time like this God will show you your true self, your enemies and your true friend and he will show you what you need to do and be a little patience with people and with your self as you are nothing but a perfectionist.
You are taking life too serious and criticising yourself every time for no reasons at all.
There is time for everything. Soon, i mean very soon God will pour rain of blessing on you but first of all remove worries and stop attributing success to good luck, bad luck or your village people. Our poor economy and family background is enough to be called Village hunters.
See, you will get there but the time is not ripe be deligent in all your ways, cut out women totally and masturbations. See yourself as an Holy person in and out and refocus. Focus on that which you want to achieve and see how the universe will turn around for you. Stop worrying to much, be positive even in a negative situation and the mostly be You.
Like every other bright mind with positive energy and knacks for success. I stepped confidently into the new year 2022 with the right portion of optimism and motivation.
One would wonder if one Village Priest had prepared a prosperity charm for me; cause my energy was mind-blowing. I was so confident about winning in every facet of my life.
Although I sustained some gun wounds of failures that 2021 inflicted on me - lost Dad to the greedy fangs of death, got served breakfast by my girlfriend - because she wanted to serve God, got rejected by so many companies for internships, and had to separate myself from 90% of my family member and siblings cause most of them are friendly enemies, got depressed, betrayed, reject. etc. Yet I could still boldly say to myself that healing would find me in 2022 and greatness would comfort me.
Oops! Maybe a weird description is when you think this young boy has too many track records of misfortune and failures in his life. But I guess some of the best success stories are told with tons of tragic experiences in them. And I've left my life with the best scriptwriter to write the best out of me.
Fast forward to the new year, my jaw got broken by the heavy first of failure. I got into internet Marketing and my results were nothing to write about. I made some good cash though, but I couldn't hit my target.
Also, I wrote a promising book that I've been struggling to find a publisher who is willing to publish it for free and run a good publishing investment deal with me.
This time around, the thunderstorm of failure sent me running like a thief who is scared of jungle justice. I was broken beyond repair because those were my biggest plans for 2022 as regards financial stability and independence.
I was sent into a coma mentally and I knew I needed a break, to fix myself, move on and get back on my feet. That has always been how I respond to previous failures. Fortunately and pathetically, ASUU changed the game and their strike was like a blessing in disguise to me.
I would have loved to go to Lagos to spend the "never-ending ASUU holiday" but Lagos was longer home for me. Ever since I lost Dad and he was buried, I have seen no tangible reason why I should visit home again.
I couldn't stand seeing Dad's grave every day, I'll just collapse and die a coward's death. Also, I don't wanna stay with my stepmom. I've had enough of stepmom's stories growing up as a young boy. Trust me, it's a hell experience.
My mum's place could have been another good option, she lives in a 2 bedroom apartment on the mainland. But I don't think I can cope with an environment where electricity is foreign to them because most of my activities require stable electricity to power my phone and laptop especially, and that she can't supply.
Living in my half-brother's place in Lagos whom we share the same mother could have been another perfect option, I've lived with him a couple of times and I'm very productive each time I stay with him.
I get to complete every task on my to-do list that brings development in every area of my life each day, and eventually actualize both my long-term and short-term goals. Their electricity is stable couple with free Wi-fi. His place put me on my toes to work and do the needful.
But the issue is just that some part of me feels like I don't belong there. We don't get along as brothers, he's 10 years older than I am, and I dare not disrespect him but the kind of relationship we have is like that of a boss and an apprentice.
His wife and I are very cool friends, but he and I don't just get along like brothers should do. Maybe because we were not raised together (my both parents are polygamous). But I want a close friend, mentor, and confidant out of him. Not a never smiling, rigid brother and boss. I've tried talking to him severally but there are no positive changes from him.
My other half-siblings from my father's side are no-go areas. They are all friendly enemies who are jealous of every bit of my success, especially in my academics. Because they all blew up the opportunities to go to higher institutions. They have so much hatred for me because I'm the last child of the family and I used to be Dad's favourite.
So I decided to go live with my Dad's friend in Ogun state and that was when life drew its nightmares upon me. Dad's friend is a very good man, his family members are good people as well. They welcomed me like their child, I would rate them better than some of my family members.
Ogun state pose to be like paradise to me, there was stable electricity, inverter, and generator. That's 24/7 light, the environment was conducive and I was confident that I would heal fast and achieve a lot here.
I feel my productive energy coming back and I was enthused again. I drafted some core goals that I need to achieve their in Ogun state like taking a Data Analysis Course, Joining the Nigeria Institute of Public Relations (NIPR), Raising my school fees, going back fully to Internet Marketing, Completing My Final year research Project, Finding an investor and publisher for my book, etc.
A few weeks into my stay in Ogun state, I began to lose interest in almost everything, I became indifferent to achieving my goals, and I became extremely lazy - giving meaningless excuses and procrastinating till eternity.
I wasn't lazy with house chores, I did that perfectly. But when it comes to doing little things that will develop me and prepare a better future for me, I wasn't motivated to do any. I sat myself down severally and talked senses into my head but, it seems I wasn't gonna yield.
I knelt, begged myself, and cried a lot because I knew it was my life and I need to take responsibility for it. I told myself that even if I wasn't making money, I should engage in things that would develop me. Yet, I didn't change. It's two mouth now in Ogun state, and I've not been productive at all.
Now all I do is waste my precious time with the TV, playing games or on social media, eating like a foodie, sleeping like a bull, and chatting with some friends (distractions). This kind of lifestyle has become a daily routine for me.
This isn't me, this is not the way I used to be. I used to be a very intelligent, hardworking, serious, and dedicated goal-getter who used to be very serious with his life and is determined to fetch a bright future for himself. I've heard people talk about comfort zone but I never experienced one not until now.
Each day, my mind will always tell me that I'll bounce back to whom I used to be, but if school resumes without me achieving my goals here in Ogun state. l'll feel like a total failure. I know I need to act fast, cause time isn't waiting for me.
I am considering leaving Ogun state, to go and stay in my brother's place in Lagos, at least I can be confident of productivity there. but I don't want to leave a negative mindset in Dad's friend's mind about my sudden leaving. He might feel I don't like his place and I can't keep wasting my time here doing nothing.
Although I'm tempted to think this is a spiritual attack, I wanna go back to Lagos to see if I'd be productive there.
Please, good people of Nairaland, advise me on what to do. And please recommend tactics and strategy that can save me from this situation even if it means reading a life changing book.
I'm currently on the same shoes man, mine was that, I was in Makurdi being productive until I had to come down to Jos and everything died down. Currently writing my own book
But I read someone's comment here and I got shattered, he said he has written several books and made zero naira.
But in few months while learning coding, everything change for him
Like every other bright mind with positive energy and knacks for success. I stepped confidently into the new year 2022 with the right portion of optimism and motivation.
One would wonder if one Village Priest had prepared a prosperity charm for me; cause my energy was mind-blowing. I was so confident about winning in every facet of my life.
Although I sustained some gun wounds of failures that 2021 inflicted on me - lost Dad to the greedy fangs of death, got served breakfast by my girlfriend - because she wanted to serve God, got rejected by so many companies for internships, and had to separate myself from 90% of my family member and siblings cause most of them are friendly enemies, got depressed, betrayed, reject. etc. Yet I could still boldly say to myself that healing would find me in 2022 and greatness would comfort me.
Oops! Maybe a weird description is when you think this young boy has too many track records of misfortune and failures in his life. But I guess some of the best success stories are told with tons of tragic experiences in them. And I've left my life with the best scriptwriter to write the best out of me.
Fast forward to the new year, my jaw got broken by the heavy first of failure. I got into internet Marketing and my results were nothing to write about. I made some good cash though, but I couldn't hit my target.
Also, I wrote a promising book that I've been struggling to find a publisher who is willing to publish it for free and run a good publishing investment deal with me.
This time around, the thunderstorm of failure sent me running like a thief who is scared of jungle justice. I was broken beyond repair because those were my biggest plans for 2022 as regards financial stability and independence.
I was sent into a coma mentally and I knew I needed a break, to fix myself, move on and get back on my feet. That has always been how I respond to previous failures. Fortunately and pathetically, ASUU changed the game and their strike was like a blessing in disguise to me.
I would have loved to go to Lagos to spend the "never-ending ASUU holiday" but Lagos was longer home for me. Ever since I lost Dad and he was buried, I have seen no tangible reason why I should visit home again.
I couldn't stand seeing Dad's grave every day, I'll just collapse and die a coward's death. Also, I don't wanna stay with my stepmom. I've had enough of stepmom's stories growing up as a young boy. Trust me, it's a hell experience.
My mum's place could have been another good option, she lives in a 2 bedroom apartment on the mainland. But I don't think I can cope with an environment where electricity is foreign to them because most of my activities require stable electricity to power my phone and laptop especially, and that she can't supply.
Living in my half-brother's place in Lagos whom we share the same mother could have been another perfect option, I've lived with him a couple of times and I'm very productive each time I stay with him.
I get to complete every task on my to-do list that brings development in every area of my life each day, and eventually actualize both my long-term and short-term goals. Their electricity is stable couple with free Wi-fi. His place put me on my toes to work and do the needful.
But the issue is just that some part of me feels like I don't belong there. We don't get along as brothers, he's 10 years older than I am, and I dare not disrespect him but the kind of relationship we have is like that of a boss and an apprentice.
His wife and I are very cool friends, but he and I don't just get along like brothers should do. Maybe because we were not raised together (my both parents are polygamous). But I want a close friend, mentor, and confidant out of him. Not a never smiling, rigid brother and boss. I've tried talking to him severally but there are no positive changes from him.
My other half-siblings from my father's side are no-go areas. They are all friendly enemies who are jealous of every bit of my success, especially in my academics. Because they all blew up the opportunities to go to higher institutions. They have so much hatred for me because I'm the last child of the family and I used to be Dad's favourite.
So I decided to go live with my Dad's friend in Ogun state and that was when life drew its nightmares upon me. Dad's friend is a very good man, his family members are good people as well. They welcomed me like their child, I would rate them better than some of my family members.
Ogun state pose to be like paradise to me, there was stable electricity, inverter, and generator. That's 24/7 light, the environment was conducive and I was confident that I would heal fast and achieve a lot here.
I feel my productive energy coming back and I was enthused again. I drafted some core goals that I need to achieve their in Ogun state like taking a Data Analysis Course, Joining the Nigeria Institute of Public Relations (NIPR), Raising my school fees, going back fully to Internet Marketing, Completing My Final year research Project, Finding an investor and publisher for my book, etc.
A few weeks into my stay in Ogun state, I began to lose interest in almost everything, I became indifferent to achieving my goals, and I became extremely lazy - giving meaningless excuses and procrastinating till eternity.
I wasn't lazy with house chores, I did that perfectly. But when it comes to doing little things that will develop me and prepare a better future for me, I wasn't motivated to do any. I sat myself down severally and talked senses into my head but, it seems I wasn't gonna yield.
I knelt, begged myself, and cried a lot because I knew it was my life and I need to take responsibility for it. I told myself that even if I wasn't making money, I should engage in things that would develop me. Yet, I didn't change. It's two mouth now in Ogun state, and I've not been productive at all.
Now all I do is waste my precious time with the TV, playing games or on social media, eating like a foodie, sleeping like a bull, and chatting with some friends (distractions). This kind of lifestyle has become a daily routine for me.
This isn't me, this is not the way I used to be. I used to be a very intelligent, hardworking, serious, and dedicated goal-getter who used to be very serious with his life and is determined to fetch a bright future for himself. I've heard people talk about comfort zone but I never experienced one not until now.
Each day, my mind will always tell me that I'll bounce back to whom I used to be, but if school resumes without me achieving my goals here in Ogun state. l'll feel like a total failure. I know I need to act fast, cause time isn't waiting for me.
I am considering leaving Ogun state, to go and stay in my brother's place in Lagos, at least I can be confident of productivity there. but I don't want to leave a negative mindset in Dad's friend's mind about my sudden leaving. He might feel I don't like his place and I can't keep wasting my time here doing nothing.
Although I'm tempted to think this is a spiritual attack, I wanna go back to Lagos to see if I'd be productive there.
Please, good people of Nairaland, advise me on what to do. And please recommend tactics and strategy that can save me from this situation even if it means reading a life changing book.
This is happening to me too , I suddenly find my self less productive , and procrastination
