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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Ekwutox: 3:40pm On Mar 26, 2022
CAPSLOCKED:


MAYBE THEY'RE SINGLE BECAUSE MOST SUCCESSFUL WOMEN WOULD RATHER GO FOR MORE SUCCESSFUL MEN, AND WE KNOW THE NUMBER OF MEN UP IN THAT ZONE IS LIMITED COMPARED TO AVERAGE AND POOR MEN.

A RICH MAN CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH A STRUGGLING GRADUATE OR FRUIT HAWKER. A RICH WOMAN WILL ONLY SETTLE FOR RICH DUDES. THE SMARTER SHE IS THE SMARTER A PARTNER SHE'LL SEEK FOR. THE MORE EXPOSED SHE IS THE MORE SHE'LL BE LOOKING TO SETTLE FOR A MORE EXPOSED MAN. LET'S NOT PRETEND TODAY THAT HYPERGAMY DOESN'T EXIST. wink

And this so called hypergamy is mostly as a result of insecure men who feel threatened by every thing their wealthy wives does.

What woman would want to deal with such?

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by CAPSLOCKED: 4:02pm On Mar 26, 2022
Ekwutox:


And this so called hypergamy is mostly as a result of insecure men who feel threatened by every thing their wealthy wives does.

What woman would want to deal with such?

EARTHQUAKES, TSUNAMIS, RAINFALL AND LIGHTNING BOLTS ARE ALSO ON THE LIST OF THE UNMENTIONABLE THINGS THAT MEN ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by HardMirror(m): 4:27pm On Mar 26, 2022
socialmediaman:
Many men would've loved to marry their high school or college sweethearts with similar education if they had the means while they were dating or after graduation, so is this just a figment of your imagination?
case closed. This Is so true. But she is right too, some men are easily intimidated while some fear such women we ould be disrespectful

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by bukatyne(f): 9:53pm On Mar 28, 2022
1Sharon:
I've seen some men state they do not want to marry highly educated women because they feel she'll butt heads with them and be too opinionated. So instead they feel lowly educated women make better spouses and opt for them instead.

Now when these men have daughters, they wouldn't want her to have little to no academic education, they'd want her to make the most she can of herself. They might even call her lazy or unambitious if she decides not to pursue further or higher education.

Now these type of men are encouraging and moulding their own daughters to be the kind of women they would have never picked for a spouse.

So is this hypocrisy or nature?

For men like this, if women that are highly educated are a turn-off and have already priced themselves out of the market:

Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?

It is not a 'man' thing, it is a human nature which is hypocritical:

We have a proverb: werey dun so, ko she bi lomo.

While it is 'fun' to watch a mad person display, nobody wants to have a mad child.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by bukatyne(f): 9:55pm On Mar 28, 2022
1Sharon:


That's funny because alot of successful BLACK women are single.
Look at the Nigerian women in entertainment, in music and film.

Compete with who? A man?

Have you thought that maybe the 'successful black woman' doesn't want a man? undecided

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by emmaodet: 4:19am On Mar 29, 2022
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MAYBE THEY'RE SINGLE BECAUSE MOST SUCCESSFUL WOMEN WOULD RATHER GO FOR MORE SUCCESSFUL MEN, AND WE KNOW THE NUMBER OF MEN UP IN THAT ZONE IS LIMITED COMPARED TO AVERAGE AND POOR MEN.

A RICH MAN CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH A STRUGGLING GRADUATE OR FRUIT HAWKER. A RICH WOMAN WILL ONLY SETTLE FOR RICH DUDES. THE SMARTER SHE IS THE SMARTER A PARTNER SHE'LL SEEK FOR. THE MORE EXPOSED SHE IS THE MORE SHE'LL BE LOOKING TO SETTLE FOR A MORE EXPOSED MAN. LET'S NOT PRETEND TODAY THAT HYPERGAMY DOESN'T EXIST. wink

grin grin grin

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by efficiencie(m): 5:10am On Mar 29, 2022
1Sharon:
I've seen some men state they do not want to marry highly educated women because they feel she'll butt heads with them and be too opinionated. So instead they feel lowly educated women make better spouses and opt for them instead.

Now when these men have daughters, they wouldn't want her to have little to no academic education, they'd want her to make the most she can of herself. They might even call her lazy or unambitious if she decides not to pursue further or higher education.

Now these type of men are encouraging and moulding their own daughters to be the kind of women they would have never picked for a spouse.

So is this hypocrisy or nature?

For men like this, if women that are highly educated are a turn-off and have already priced themselves out of the market:

Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?

One . It is wiser to say "Some men..." and not "Men...". Two . True, some men would like to marry a weakling they can control but would love their daughters to be in charge just as some women would like a man they can control but would want their sons to be alphas. Three . Being uneducated does necessarily imply you can be subject to control. Some men married regular village ladies and were the victims of charms and other diabolical acts by their uneducated wives. Four . Some women are highly educated and even much richer than their husbands but they submit absolutely to their husbands. Five. It is easy to mistake "leadership" for "control". Some ladies will never yield to their husband's "leadership" and they consider it "control" and yet they will rant, whine and lament when their men cease being responsible and revert to bachelorhood. Six. Most ladies don't want a man that does not know how to stand his ground, cannot make tough but accurate decisions (sometimes contrary to their wives' opinion) and is not competent. Ladies naturally hate weaklings Seven. Society is never fair on weaklings generally. That is why any man interested in surviving wants to build himself into a mentally, physically and spiritually strong man and marry a woman that also share these characteristics. Being strong as a man, does not imply being a bully or a tyrant and being a strong as a woman does not imply lacking utmost regard for their husband. Being a strong man means being a competent leader in every sphere of life and being a strong woman means having the capacity to provide support where it is lacking.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by 1Sharon(f): 7:16am On Mar 29, 2022
bukatyne:


Have you thought that maybe the 'successful black woman' doesn't want a man? undecided

BS. Most women want a man unless she's homosexual.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by addictiv(m): 7:30am On Mar 29, 2022
Op... Only yeye men want that... True alphas want the best for their wives and daughters. Stop breeding with rifrafs.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Kobojunkie: 1:45am On Mar 30, 2022
addictiv:
Op... Only yeye men want that... True alphas want the best for their wives and daughters. Stop breeding with rifrafs.
ROFLMAO
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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by CuteMike01(m): 7:14am On Mar 30, 2022
1Sharon:
I've seen some men state they do not want to marry highly educated women because they feel she'll butt heads with them and be too opinionated. So instead they feel lowly educated women make better spouses and opt for them instead.

Now when these men have daughters, they wouldn't want her to have little to no academic education, they'd want her to make the most she can of herself. They might even call her lazy or unambitious if she decides not to pursue further or higher education.

Now these type of men are encouraging and moulding their own daughters to be the kind of women they would have never picked for a spouse.

So is this hypocrisy or nature?

For men like this, if women that are highly educated are a turn-off and have already priced themselves out of the market:

Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?

There could be a lot of reasons for that but a major one is that the life of an average lady is very complicated and bleeped up. Remember it is a man's world.

We want to have our peace of mind thus our marriage with less educated women. We also wouldn't like our daughters to be far behind at this time of the world that we are. With the way things are tough now, it wouldn't be a good idea to raise a daughter who isn't capable of at least fending for herself. Thus, we empower our daughters.

Hypocritical you say?

We humans, male or female are all hypocritical in one way or another. Your feelings can't change this dear. If you want people to act according to your thoughts, feelings or imagination, you're living in a fool's paradise.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Nobody: 10:55pm On Mar 30, 2022
Lari03r:
Be specific about the category of men you are talking about.

An educated man can not enjoy companionship with an uneducated woman. The thread binding them will only be intercourse and mundane matters, they can never connect on an intellectual level. And this means the man will definitely prefer a different woman as time goes by.

You are probably referring to semi-literate men who learned a skill after secondary school. While all men are men, there are differences in orientation, quality and outlook.

I personally love intelligent women especially female lawyers. Men who are afraid of a woman's education belong to the last century.
killed it. You are so on point.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Nobody: 12:33am On Mar 31, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


All men are hypocrites seriously.

They called every man that love and respected women simp, but same men will call a man that shows their own daughter so much love, respect and care a responsible and God fearing man.

If the man be a little hard on their daughter has they been preaching that men should be, you see them opening the gate of hell for the man.


That's them for you, especially most of them parading here in Nigeria.

Confused lots.

You are wrong on so many fronts. I call every man that love and respect women the real man who deserves lots of adulation. Not all men are Redpillers you know.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by 1Sharon(f): 9:59am On Apr 02, 2022
CuteMike01:


There could be a lot of reasons for that but a major one is that the life of an average lady is very complicated and bleeped up. Remember it is a man's world.

We want to have our peace of mind thus our marriage with less educated women. We also wouldn't like our daughters to be far behind at this time of the world that we are. With the way things are tough now, it wouldn't be a good idea to raise a daughter who isn't capable of at least fending for herself. Thus, we empower our daughters.

Hypocritical you say?

We humans, male or female are all hypocritical in one way or another. Your feelings can't change this dear. If you want people to act according to your thoughts, feelings or imagination, you're living in a fool's paradise.

Well you know you're ruining your chances of your daughter finding a spouse if she's too educated.

I'f you're saying not being educated kepps you far behind. You don't want it in a spouse?

Do you feel a woman highly educated is good or not?

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by CuteMike01(m): 4:31pm On Apr 03, 2022
1Sharon:


Well you know you're ruining your chances of your daughter finding a spouse if she's too educated.

I'f you're saying not being educated kepps you far behind. You don't want it in a spouse?

Do you feel a woman highly educated is good or not?


For others maybe yes but for marriage stability and longi
etivity, I personally would prefer a less educated lady. No offense.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by 1Sharon(f): 5:27pm On Apr 03, 2022
CuteMike01:


For others maybe yes but for marriage stability and longi
etivity, I personally would prefer a less educated lady. No offense.

Would you want your daughter to be less educated?

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by CuteMike01(m): 9:34pm On Apr 03, 2022
1Sharon:


Would you want your daughter to be less educated?

Most likely. An education to the senior level and a profitable skill/trade will be a good decision the way I see it. Wouldn't want to be a willing party to her marital chaos.

You might not understand what I'm insinuating but you needn't bother yourself to.
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by CuteMike01(m): 9:53pm On Apr 03, 2022
1Sharon:


Well you know you're ruining your chances of your daughter finding a spouse if she's too educated.

I'f you're saying not being educated kepps you far behind. You don't want it in a spouse?

Do you feel a woman highly educated is good or not?


She might be good in terms of commerce but less likely in terms of marriage especially if the man is deficient somewhere or somehow.

We both know this, most educated women are more chaotic in their marriages than the other. They hardly appreciate their husbands cause they are always noticing and dwelling on his lapses everytime. You might say otherwise but this has been a pattern in most marriages and patterns never lie.

You tell me, Why would a man want to invite chaos into his life with his own hands? Is the woman worth the trouble after all?

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:19am On Apr 04, 2022
who wants an uneducated olodo as a wife?! who wants an uneducated olodo as the mother of his children? isnt it that same uneducated olodo that will now raise your kids?

only a very insecure man would look down on an educated woman...

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by jeff1607(m): 7:13am On Apr 04, 2022
Favfables1:
Sweetheart...

I don't know where you heard this from, but I WILL NEVER MARRY AN UNEDUCATED WOMAN

likeeee....
How we won communicate?
How will she raise my kids?

Abeg o...
The future of my seeds is at stake here undecided....
Make she carry her wahala comot Biko....

Who is an illiterate and who is not ? Abi is spoken English, academics etc.


Many graduates can’t compose one
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by 1Sharon(f): 3:08pm On Apr 04, 2022
MrBrownJay1:
who wants an uneducated olodo as a wife?! who wants an uneducated olodo as the mother of his children? isnt it that same uneducated olodo that will now raise your kids?

only a very insecure man would look down on an educated woman...

I said less educated, not completely uneducated.

Come on now, classroom education is not a test of intelligence.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by kkins25(m): 4:13pm On Apr 04, 2022
Ekwutox:


And this so called hypergamy is mostly as a result of insecure men who feel threatened by every thing their wealthy wives does.

What woman would want to deal with such?
Its not insecurity sir, its basic biology. You don see loneliness being dorminated by a weaker male?? Its the same priniciple.
Why do you think a girl would not mind dating a married man? Especially if he is successful? Biology sir! Biology.. Go and find out why women also over look short men. Its not culture, its biology sir, Biology!!
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by thorpido(m): 5:51pm On Apr 04, 2022
1Sharon:
I've seen some men state they do not want to marry highly educated women because they feel she'll butt heads with them and be too opinionated. So instead they feel lowly educated women make better spouses and opt for them instead.

Now when these men have daughters, they wouldn't want her to have little to no academic education, they'd want her to make the most she can of herself. They might even call her lazy or unambitious if she decides not to pursue further or higher education.

Now these type of men are encouraging and moulding their own daughters to be the kind of women they would have never picked for a spouse.

So is this hypocrisy or nature?

For men like this, if women that are highly educated are a turn-off and have already priced themselves out of the market:

Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?
It's a good thing you said some men.
Well,the men who don't want highly educated women either have an inferiority complex or a fear of not getting it right in their marriage based on what they have seen in other marriages.
Of course no sensible man will not want his daughter to attain the greatest height of education.He will also try to raise her with virtues of humility, selflessness and love.What she does with her life in the future is in her hands.
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by yuping(m): 6:14pm On Apr 04, 2022
1Sharon:
I've
Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?
Na finish men they think like that, men without class. I don't want to get married to a robot I want the one we will deliberate on matter argue and resolve to a conclusion, I want t the one that can make decision when I'm not present that can also represent, stand out, confident.
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Ekwutox: 6:28pm On Apr 04, 2022
kkins25:
Its not insecurity sir, its basic biology. You don see loneliness being dorminated by a weaker male?? Its the same priniciple.
Why do you think a girl would not mind dating a married man? Especially if he is successful? Biology sir! Biology.. Go and find out why women also over look short men. Its not culture, its biology sir, Biology!!

Hypergamy has nothing to do with biology okay. Its all about social/educational status which most women who are higher in that aspect refuse to date men who are lower due to insecurity and toxic masculinity.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Ximenez(m): 7:40pm On Apr 04, 2022
1Sharon:


This topic is about men that feel women who are less educated make better spouses

Don't pretend you haven't heard men say this
The men you are talking about are those illiterate spare parts dealers.
Most of them even prefer to go to the village and marry someone who doesn't have pry school certificate.
But at the same time they will do everything it takes to see that their female children get the highest level of education possible.
Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by kkins25(m): 2:25pm On Apr 05, 2022
Ekwutox:


Hypergamy has nothing to do with biology okay. Its all about social/educational status which most women who are higher in that aspect refuse to date men who are lower due to insecurity and toxic masculinity.
Hehehe. I'm sure you did elementary biology in secondary school. remember what your teacher rold you about Res neck lizards and their chance of getting laid as compared to Other red necks who have lost that beauty?

How about the peacock? remember?
There are many more animals that select spiuses based on the capability of it to provide resources. Humans are not left out.

For example, you would prefer to marry a woman who would bear kids. Just like you would choose a woman with more facial symmetry.

This is not to say that the Human Logos cannot trump instincts, because even dogs can subdue some instincts.
Nonetheless, this instinct make up the intricate complexes of decusion making in animals.

Nonetheless, any man who cannot endure ro see his wife be more successful than him has not grown pass the reptilian phase of his consciousness.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Dynmyt: 2:39pm On May 13, 2022
1Sharon:


Don't gaslight me abeg. On this very forum, men have repeatedly stated women who are highly educated and thus very successful are a turn off because they won't submit and allow them to dominate.

Nigerian men have an issue with a woman that even owns a car for Christ sake!
Yup even their own family, they be like so you want to marry a woman that will look us in the eye when we speak... Smh

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Dynmyt: 2:42pm On May 13, 2022
Favfables1:


Sweetheart...
To a man who has an MSc. or a PH.D, a secondary school lady is no different from an illiterate, no offence...

And that kind of individual (a lady with "less education) in my opinion isn't good enough to raise my kids...
Many men do not care about that, their ego comes first even before children's welfare.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by Dynmyt: 3:31pm On May 13, 2022
1Sharon:
I've seen some men state they do not want to marry highly educated women because they feel she'll butt heads with them and be too opinionated. So instead they feel lowly educated women make better spouses and opt for them instead.

Now when these men have daughters, they wouldn't want her to have little to no academic education, they'd want her to make the most she can of herself. They might even call her lazy or unambitious if she decides not to pursue further or higher education.

Now these type of men are encouraging and moulding their own daughters to be the kind of women they would have never picked for a spouse.

So is this hypocrisy or nature?

For men like this, if women that are highly educated are a turn-off and have already priced themselves out of the market:

Why do you encourage your own daughters to be exactly like them?
If the topic was "why do men go after classy educated ladies", u will see them coming out of their holes saying, who wants a classy educated lady.. Those evening newspaper? Is it those ones that don't respect their husbands? Everyone will claim redpiller automatically grin

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by 1Sharon(f): 9:35pm On May 17, 2022
Dynmyt:

If the topic was "why do men go after classy educated ladies", u will see them coming out of their holes saying, who wants a classy educated lady.. Those evening newspaper? Is it those ones that don't respect their husbands? Everyone will claim redpiller automatically grin

Don't mind them. Even here, they have revealed the truth eventually.

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Re: What Men Want In A Spouse Is Not What They'd Want For Their own Daughters by DaveedXI: 11:09pm On May 17, 2022
1Sharon:


Don't mind them. Even here, they have revealed the truth eventually.

You've received quite some insightful responses already, with some people willing to debate you in a mature fashion... But you refuse to acknowledge all that: just to make sweeping generalizations based on your insignificant negligible experiences and reality?

Quite frankly, I believe you already had the answer to your question in your mind, and this online exercise initiated by you is just to garner some
clout.

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