When younger we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. *Marrying the wrong person*

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure.

Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life.

Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one.

Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. *The opportunities you did not seize*

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself.

Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. *The bridges you burned*

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost.

Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain.

But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4. *The child you aborted*

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby.

When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. *The child you rejected*

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child.

You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

6. *The marriage you destroyed*

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful.

Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. *The God you disowned*

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God.

Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. *The body you messed up*

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly.

When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. *The time you wasted*

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. *The dreams and talents you shelved*

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them?

Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself,

"That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 *The name you defamed*

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation,

what are you leaving behind?

Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. *The wealth you threw away*

Are you riding on good money during your productive years?
Earning good money?

Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. *The good love that got away*

Is there that great person in your life loving you good?

Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 *The parents you despised*

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know?

They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style.

Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.

Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have

Thanks for reading

God bless you for this article.


Lala, fp

Amen

Painintheass221:
God bless you for this article.


Lala, fp

Very bitter truth

Thanks for sharing.

Great article

Psalm 71:9
Do not cast me off in the time of old age; Do not forsake me when my strength fails

Suus

No good health insurance

Getting married to ashawo

No Long term investment plan

Marrying the wrong person

Hmmmmm?, this is deep!
Only the elderly married members will understand.

Not for the small boys to understand..... no be dem load!

We Rise.

Nahunger:


Bro, believe me at some point people make decisions and choices based on what is best for them at a particular time..

The advice I give people is don't take decisions or choices which you are not ready to shoulder its consequences.

In every action there must be two reactions it could either be...
1. Positive
2. Negative
Best bet prepare for either outcome.

Hmmmmm, this is deeper!
Words of a wise man.

Btw,
We no be Bro o.
We are simply WE.

May we never live to regret our actions (@ old age)

Why you use only Oyibo people picture?




Okay, e be like say the first picture na Black man...i think he is a black American anyway










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i live my life with no regrets. i embrace all my choices and fuckups

but let me add one

1- being 80 years old in a nursing home in the UK beng slapped by jamaican nurse and regretting not going back home to naija where elders are respected small

Nice write-up

Dope one

The God you disowned

Hmmmmmm, this is the deepest!

God bless you for this OP.

END OF THREAD!!!

PJ123:

Honestly, this is the deepest!!!

Yes o,
Deeper than the deepest.
Lol

One of the best things on nairaland in a long while. Precise and concise!

15. Rn, The Nigeria that you stayed back! If you get chance, Japa!

There will always be regrets!
Lived my life so far trying to make sure that there are no regrets but no matter how good life is, there will always be that one thing you will always think you should have done or not have done! Life is like that!
Don't be too hard on yourself. We are here for only a while. And no one is perfect
Do your utmost best and let the rest slide..

Hmmnn.

Don't take life too serious, even though it is serious

Number 7 I substitute with the word humanity

What if you no live long to regret anything

The kind of post we need for us youths

yinkuscious:
One of the best things on nairaland in a long while. Precise and concise!

You can say that again bro.

Onpe