I would have posted this in the travel section but the people there are still processing their visa, they aren't living with their spouses yet. Someone I know is getting married to a US based man she has never met before. She will meet him for the first time next month when he arrives for the wedding. He saw her picture on a mutual friends WhatsApp, he sends lots of money and they communicate via video calls. I will be attending the wedding to witness the miracle with my two eyes. I also know a schoolmate that did this same type of marriage, she also met the man physically on the week of their traditional wedding.

My question is, do you know anyone that has done this type of marriage and is enjoying it. Like you know them personally, not just because they are posting happy pictures online. If you did this type of marriage, are you enjoying it? Were your expectations met after you landed abroad and started living with your husband or were there disappointments? Everyone sees it as miracle marriage but then I worry about what life will be like living with someone I haven't spent some time with.

i heard they are alwys good in sex?

Wish them best of luck, isn't there any thing like getting to know if you are compatible with your partner before tie the knot anymore,how could two people that hasn't met physically before know that?

Marriage is solely dependent on commitment but getting to know each other is key to remain committed. Should you find any physical or behavioral attribute offensive, commitment is thrown through the window.
Well Op, just go and eat rice, join them to buga on the dance floor and let them have it their way

You better tell the truth that it is you.

Well,I know someone who also did it.Met the person once when he came visiting and came back to marry.
No one will tell you the truth about their marriage though.If they are not enjoying it,they will keep it away from people so they are not criticized.

You cannot know someone well enough by phone or online communication.Getting married this way is a lottery.It may click or not.
The motivation to travel out is stronger than any cons in this case for anyone who wants to take the option so I don't think much advise will change anything.

he sends lots of money

Someone you know or you?

I am yet to see one that has ever work well.
No friendship or relationship before now.
Thy should think it well ooo

missidy:
I would have posted this in the travel section but the people there are still processing their visa, they aren't living with their spouces yet. Someone I know is getting married to a US based man she has never met before. She will meet him for the first time next month when he arrives for the wedding. He saw her picture on a mutual friends WhatsApp, he sends lots of money and they communicate via video calls. I will be attending the wedding to witness the miracle with my two eyes. I also know a schoolmate that did this same type of marriage, she also met the man physically on the week of their traditional wedding.

My question is, do you know anyone that has done this type of marriage and is enjoying it. Like you know them personally, not just because they are posting happy pictures online. If you did this type of marriage, are you enjoying it? Were your expectations met after you landed abroad and started living with your husband or were there disappointments? Everyone sees it as miracle marriage but then I worry about what life will be like living with someone I haven't spent some time with.

It is not me o, abeg. Why would I be asking few weeks to my wedding and not during the talking stage!

I know one that is working, she has 3 children. She post happy pictures online so I can't really tell if she is enjoying the marriage or not but they are still together.

gratefulheart:
I am yet to see one that has ever work when.
No friendship or relationship before now.
Thy should think it well ooo

I know someone who did it. She is a born hustler, the type that will do anything to live a good life not caring the consequences. I can't tell if she is happy but she looks good in her pictures and she is definitely on a higher level.

missidy:
It is not me o, abeg. Why would I be asking few weeks to my wedding and not during the talking stage!

it's you

Some evening newspapers on this Nairaland are guilty. Don't want to start mentioning names. But them know themselves. Some are still hustling it. Men like that are simps who will fall for the worst pretenders among the female folk.

Threesha:
it's you

missidy:
I would have posted this in the travel section but the people there are still processing their visa, they aren't living with their spouces yet.

Shots Fired

My sister, It doesn't work, don't let anyone deceive you. Sometimes folks are in that type of union because they don't want the world to know they have failed until they can no longer keep the union. Friendship keeps marriage, not even love.

Forget about the "he sends lots of money and they communicate via video calls" part, no be by sending money.

if it was you bro abeg signed a prenup or else you will forever regret or may regret your decision. I did not sign foolishly and i am regretting it big time. i was with one ibadan chic since 2014 and she nearly burn and destroy my life for abroad in 2020. i slept for police prison after she called police. she run away with my son too. Suddenly i saw was child maintenance order wey land for my door. I am grateful to God the witch did not collect my house.


Make sure you give conditions and she signs accepting those conditions with witnesses. Try get like 3 pikin dem in naija before u carry am enter please even 4.

However, you maybe lucky and she turns out great. I have seen others examples happily � married. So just count your luck.

Please keep us posted as things happens.

Most times, it ends in regrets and many cover it up though there are exceptions.

Threesha:
it's you

Oga where u dy thieve all this all this hook up girls pix from, u no dy tire ni, haba .

Attended the wedding yesterday, it was a beautiful. With the way this country is going, I think I might give this a shot if I see the opportunity . Everybody wants to japa.

thorpido:
You better tell the truth that it is you.

Well,I know someone who also did it.Met the person once when he came visiting and came back to marry.

The one you posted is better they have met once and the he later came for marriage.

Anyway I believe you must have met whoever you want to marry before he comes for marriage. Meet online, relation ship online, propose online, then come for marriage fiam like that? E get as e dey be.

At least they should have met. Not marrying someone you have never met before MBA.

missidy:
Attended the wedding yesterday, it was a beautiful. With the way this country is going, I think I might give this a shot if I see the opportunity . Everybody wants to japa.

Sha don't go and enter the abroad husband Nigeria based wife trap.

Many have gone.

never. I won't even get pregnant until I see my visa, nobody can tie me down here.

NoToPile:


Sha don't go and enter the abroad husband Nigeria based wife trap.

Many have gone.

This kain marriage is a disaster waiting to happen.

Klass99:


Missidy, you are such a clown .

missidy:
I would have posted this in the travel section but the people there are still processing their visa, they aren't living with their spouses yet. Someone I know is getting married to a US based man she has never met before. She will meet him for the first time next month when he arrives for the wedding. He saw her picture on a mutual friends WhatsApp, he sends lots of money and they communicate via video calls. I will be attending the wedding to witness the miracle with my two eyes. I also know a schoolmate that did this same type of marriage, she also met the man physically on the week of their traditional wedding.

My question is, do you know anyone that has done this type of marriage and is enjoying it. Like you know them personally, not just because they are posting happy pictures online. If you did this type of marriage, are you enjoying it? Were your expectations met after you landed abroad and started living with your husband or were there disappointments? Everyone sees it as miracle marriage but then I worry about what life will be like living with someone I haven't spent some time with.

Does he have firm plans to relocate her after the wedding (emphasis on "firm".

The marriage will at best deceitful without that.

Yes he does, he will file for her. He wanted someone from his tribe and he got it. It's not a deceitful marriage. I have noticed that most Igbo guys come down to marry girls from their tribe especially those that studied nursing/nurses.

Resurgent2016:


Does he have firm plans to relocate her after the wedding (emphasis on "firm".

The marriage will at best deceitful without that.

missidy:
Yes he does, he will file for her. He wanted someone from his tribe and he got it. It's not a deceitful marriage. I have noticed that most Igbo guys come down to marry girls from their tribe especially those that studied nursing/nurses.

Many women were made "wife-for-breeding" here in Nigeria with such promise. Just double-check to be sure and possibly only get pregnant when papers are ready.

Generally, most guys abroad will prefer fellow africans. Forget the nairaland alpha males who deride African women and exalt white girls. African women are generally more understanding, tolerant and family-oriented so there is good reason to come back home and marry beyond the profession.

missidy:
I would have posted this in the travel section but the people there are still processing their visa, they aren't living with their spouses yet. Someone I know is getting married to a US based man she has never met before. She will meet him for the first time next month when he arrives for the wedding. He saw her picture on a mutual friends WhatsApp, he sends lots of money and they communicate via video calls. I will be attending the wedding to witness the miracle with my two eyes. I also know a schoolmate that did this same type of marriage, she also met the man physically on the week of their traditional wedding.

My question is, do you know anyone that has done this type of marriage and is enjoying it. Like you know them personally, not just because they are posting happy pictures online. If you did this type of marriage, are you enjoying it? Were your expectations met after you landed abroad and started living with your husband or were there disappointments? Everyone sees it as miracle marriage but then I worry about what life will be like living with someone I haven't spent some time with.

And the person is you.. Kai

missidy:
never. I won't even get pregnant until I see my visa, nobody can tie me down here.

Okay oo I hear you.

missidy:
I know one that is working, she has 3 children. She post happy pictures online so I can't really tell if she is enjoying the marriage or not but they are still together.

Posting pictures online differ from inner happiness. Most People come online to hide their pains.