Good morning my fellow nairalanders
Please am bringing this issues here because I need advice am just so worried
There is the a secondary school friend of mine
We were so closed till I stopped hearing from him after our graduation in secondary school
The last time I heard from him he said he was in akure
Learning photography
He ended up coming back to delta
Where we reunited in villa during Xmas period
I went back to my base in warri he called me that he needs shelter with me I took him inn
Made him comfortable got him an android phone
Even started training him in my photo lab studio and printing press
He was acting loyal
And my plans was to keep the my company under his care when I travel to Ukraine before Russia invaded

My friend who knows him well saw his picture on my phone he was surprised he asked me when the guy came back from remind after stealing a motorbike and attempted to murder the bike owner
I said there was nothing like that I denied for him
And that was the end of discussion

His girl friend came visiting him I was never informed about it till he told me he was at the park that he went to pick his girlfriend
He came back to store where I was working
And his attitude changed he started acting like he was the boss
He took the girl home went straight to my bed locked the room
The girl spent two days
And they both never came out
I gave him money to make her feel comfortable
I never knew he told the girl that we both pay the rent together
And contributed money to purchase my car
And also contributed in opening my store
He also showed her my building project in villa that he owns it
I was shocked when I heard it
Sometimes he lies to me that he needs to send money to his mum
I never knew he was sending it to a girl
Am currently in villa now and I have heard alot about him
Of how he attempted to rap a girl after stealing from their hux and lots more and how he crippled his mums business
Infact there are so many things I have heard
And now his mum doesn't answer my mum's greeting
He mum is always saying I and my family turned his son to slave where as when ever we too visit villa people who knew him before I took him to warri
Always keeps thanking me because he looks fresh and added up lots of Wight
My brothers wife confronted him on why he lied to his girl friend
He apologised and he was warned
He even went as far to bring a stranger into my hux to live with us and I was told yesterday that the guy he brought has corrupted my younger brother they both now goes out to smoke weed
Am so worried and he is also a jealous type
Am thinking of telling him to go back to villa

Please I need advice should I send him back or warn him and give him a chance
My greatest fear is the fact that he is a jealous type

Simple. Talk to your mother or elder ones to do the talking, that he has stayed long enough that they feel it is time he left to his family. Don't do the talking yourself. Learn how Banky W's mum sent 9ce away from his house. Use the same method. Chase him out of everything/place he had access to before. Change all padlocks. You too relocate for six months after you chase him away to break the link permanently

. I never knew he told the girl that we both pay the rent together
And contributed money to purchase my car
And also contributed in opening my store
He also showed her my building project in villa that he owns it
I was shocked when I heard it

Why are you shocked?

This is exactly what Nigerian girls love to hear. Your guy took the shortcut to get the kpekus. Tell them what they love to hear and get the kpekus. Simple stuff.

You are sitting a on time bomb keeping such a person very close to you.

Apili:
Good morning my fellow nairalanders
Please am bringing this issues here because I need advice am just so worried
There is the a secondary school friend of mine
We were so closed till I stopped hearing from him after our graduation in secondary school
The last time I heard from him he said he was in akure
Learning photography
He ended up coming back to delta
Where we reunited in villa during Xmas period
I went back to my base in warri he called me that he needs shelter with me I took him inn
Made him comfortable got him an android phone
Even started training him in my photo lab studio and printing press
He was acting loyal
And my plans was to keep the my company under his care when I travel to Ukraine before Russia invaded

My friend who knows him well saw his picture on my phone he was surprised he asked me when the guy came back from remind after stealing a motorbike and attempted to murder the bike owner
I said there was nothing like that I denied for him
And that was the end of discussion

His girl friend came visiting him I was never informed about it till he told me he was at the park that he went to pick his girlfriend
He came back to store where I was working
And his attitude changed he started acting like he was the boss
He took the girl home went straight to my bed locked the room
The girl spent two days
And they both never came out
I gave him money to make her feel comfortable
I never knew he told the girl that we both pay the rent together
And contributed money to purchase my car
And also contributed in opening my store
He also showed her my building project in villa that he owns it
I was shocked when I heard it
Sometimes he lies to me that he needs to send money to his mum
I never knew he was sending it to a girl
Am currently in villa now and I have heard alot about him
Of how he attempted to rap a girl after stealing from their hux and lots more and how he crippled his mums business
Infact there are so many things I have heard
And now his mum doesn't answer my mum's greeting
He mum is always saying I and my family turned his son to slave where as when ever we too visit villa people who knew him before I took him to warri
Always keeps thanking me because he looks fresh and added up lots of Wight
My brothers wife confronted him on why he lied to his girl friend
He apologised and he was warned
He even went as far to bring a stranger into my hux to live with us and I was told yesterday that the guy he brought has corrupted my younger brother they both now goes out to smoke weed
Am so worried and he is also a jealous type
Am thinking of telling him to go back to villa

Please I need advice should I send him back or warn him and give him a chance
My greatest fear is the fact that he is a jealous type

You dey seek advice on this death trap again?? If you don't send him packing asap,he will kill you and take over all you laboured for.. Be wise.. As his lies and doings are known to you now,he might just decide to end you.. People I hate to work with are ,lairs,the jealous types and thieves..

BigYash:
You dey seek advice on this death trap again?? If you don't send him packing asap,he will kill you and take over all you laboured for.. Be wise.. As his lies and doings are known to you now,he might just decide to end you.. People I hate to work with are ,lairs,the jealous types and thieves..

Am doing that ASAP when I get back to warri
Thanks for the advice bro

DoctorOlasDesk:
Simple. Talk to your mother or elder ones to do the talking, that he has stayed long enough that they feel it is time he left to his family. Don't do the talking yourself. Learn how Banky W's mum sent 9ce away from his house. Use the same method. Chase him out of everything/place he had access to before. Change all padlocks. You too relocate for six months after you chase him away to break the link permanently

Thanks for the advice bro my rent is expiring next month and I want to relocate to another environment
So I will just do exactly what you said

Zonefree:
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Why are you shocked?

This is exactly what Nigerian girls love to hear. Your guy took the shortcut to get the kpekus. Tell them what they love to hear and get the kpekus. Simple stuff.

Not all girls are after what's in your pocket
My girlfriend never knew I was living a comfortable life
I was even working as an apprentice
And also going to building construction site with my dad
The day she found out she got so mad at me for not
Telling her the truth

I hate people who live fake life

Apili:


Thanks for the advice bro my rent is expiring next month and I want to relocate to another environment
So I will just do exactly what you said

Please make sure say you miss for like six months. Anywhere he know you with, no go dat area, make the matter no turn from envy to war. If the rope between you both break, e go find him way. You don over-feed am, e go hard for am to want discharge. Just keep us updated here make we dey follow the matter up. Too many evil friends dey these days. No dey open up too much like this again my brother. You get luck say him never enter you. Do good to people and friends, but maintain the privacy of your life and household

This is one of the reasons why you don't open your door to everyone. Learn to help from afar especially when it's money and accommodation related issues.

I had a similar experience with my church member once and had to tell her to leave cos I had become a squatter in my own house. She brought in her family and almost took over my house.

This your friend is a bad influence to your siblings and a chronic liar. He needs to leave. Start by putting boundaries on your personal belongings and Stop giving him access to your room.

You can invite your family members to come visit regularly and stay over too. And finally, tell him to start looking for an alternative accommodation cos he's overstayed in your apartment and you are not renewing your rent.

You can use your mother or sister in law to pass the message to him if he proves difficult.

madridguy:
You are sitting a on time bomb keeping such a person very close to you.

It might soon explode that's why I came to seek advice

DoctorOlasDesk:



Please make sure say you miss for like six months. Anywhere he know you with, no go dat area, make the matter no turn from envy to war. If the rope between you both break, e go find him way. You don over-feed am, e go hard for am to want discharge. Just keep us updated here make we dey follow the matter up. Too many evil friends dey these days. No dey open up too much like this again my brother. You get luck say him never enter you. Do good to people and friends, but maintain the privacy of your life and household

I will do just that I don't even mind closing my studio for a year prevention is better than cure

Apili:


Am doing that ASAP when I get back to warri
Thanks for the advice bro

Very good. And be security conscious hence fourth, cux such niggas mind is the real definition of wickedness. He might wanna fight back,after discharging him.. So,be very careful and prayerful brother. Shalom!

Useless broke guys life revolves around stealing, drugs, alcohol, women. Na who know man dey kill man, move with better people.

Apili:


I will do just that I don't even mind closing my studio for a year prevention is better than cure

I take God beg you. That studio go don dey turn to idle place to smoke weed, sleep with girls and do all sorts the devils appoint him and his goons to do. I for say make you close am a year, then divert to another business

Get him out of thy house and thy life before we read about thy death here on Nairaland...

Full-stop...

The friend will kill you..

Bury you...


Tell your family you travelled...


And when Jesus comes to judge the world will the truth be known



Foolish boy