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guys something have been happening for a while now, signs are there that something unknown could be looming or happening but what happened today is what
made me create this post. My wife is a fashion designer, she goes to tejuosho market to buy materials and sometimes she claims she buys ready made to sell. Sometimes, mostly on Mondays like this, she wont inform me that shes leaving early, and when she does, breakfast is missed, or any other important stuff is sidelined. Overtime we have had discussion on why it is always like this, and her excuse have always been " if i dont meet up early, there are certain materials that i wont be able to get, will be sold out before i reach there" that statement to me sort of like made a little sense, but shouldnt be to the detriment to the responsibility of her as a wife considering the fact that I manage 75% of the home financial responsibility.

So today, I woke up 8.42am, she was gone since, i showered, clothed myself to resume office, by the time i opened the car door, the safe compartment was opened down with all of our international passports, both her passport, my passpport, our kids USA passport all there, my hand fall, immediately. The reason why the passport were there is because we had gone somewhere yesterday to do sometings, and the passports where required, though we forgot to return them back inside when we got back home. The moment I saw the opened down compartment, I did a video and sent it to her via whatsapp, and i stated the obvious that it was because of the rush, she concurred and said she didnt see the passports, common, over 6 passports clearly and obviously showing, next she said the stuff probably didnt close well. Now peeps, is it that bad that rushing to get to the market to get materials could make a woman overlook such important documents being opened to the public eye, because anybody passing on the street can definitely see the passports from the passenger side of the safe compartment, why the rush that u took something out of there and couldnt push it back to lock, or was so much in a rush that in the process of pushing it back, the rushing didnt make her push it back properly to lock. I'm beginning to think something else, who else is thinking what am thinking? Plus if I say we need to regulate her rushment to the market, she go talk sey short men like me are sort of controlling.

What are you thinking?

I'm thinking about getting this laptop- Del Inspiron 3793 - for myself..

continue thinking till you destroy your Marriage...


if your wife is a carefree person you should know by now...if she only made a mistake you should know by now...oga you know her personality more than anyone of us here. .


about breakfast...just one day only she goes to market,you can't fix a breakfast?..even when you go to work by 9am?...oga support your wife...you should be glad you have a wife that is putting her time to a productive use....


STOP FINDING FAULT... THAT'S A VERY UNHEALTHY THING IN MARRIAGE...

I don't know what OP is talking about because I don't have time to read that epistle.


What am thinking now is the noodles am about to prepare.

I'm thinking what you are thinking,. but there's no perfect being, just adjust and move on

Bros your wife dey hustle, you dey think why she dey wake up early go hustle. you prefer make she sleep all day.

Dashing out of the house, leaving the glove box unlocked doesn’t mean anything. She fit shut the thing make it open back.

Cmon you better don’t use your over thinking send her go do wetin she no get for mind.

What stops you from doing the necessary things to the passports? Why waiting or expecting your wife to do it? Will you die if you keep the passports properly?

Nobody is thinking what you're thinking because your thinking is slow

Op, make I no lie, you go sabi nag die.

Also, listen to and be reasonable with your wife.
When she says she needs to get to the market early to get the best materials, then believe it.

For Lagos, na the earliest birds dey get the fattest worms.
you snooze, you lose.
So, understand and support her in every way you can. She's hardworking.

Can you imagine? Na by 8:42am you dey wake!

Nobody is perfect

Try and find a balance between the two of u

Op I understand how u feel and what's on your mind.
1. No mind all Nairaland daughters of eve. They will never tell u d truth.
2. Someone was even asking u why wake up by 8:42am as if u dey work under her.
Since u provide 75% bill in d family, baba I think u her money is her money and your money is una money. That means she is not contributing anything.
Many things dun change for your house sir, a lot dun change in your household and its hightime u call her to order.

It is either you don't love your wife or you don't trust her. So you cannot wait for her to get back and you tell her what she did was wrong. Instead you are bringing her matter to Nairaland so that those bitter and bias guys will help you bash her.

So you can't make breakfast for yourself on Mondays or find an alternative. Only Mondays o. You seem like someone that prefers to complain and find fault instead of leaving room for consideration. Please talk with your wife like a husband should and stop whining here.

emmanuelbrown26:
Op I understand how u feel and what's on your mind.
1. No mind all Nairaland daughters of eve. They will never tell u d truth.
2. Someone was even asking u why wake up by 8:42am as if u dey work under her.
Since u provide 75% bill in d family, baba I think u her money is her money and your money is una money. That means she is not contributing anything.
Many things dun change for your house sir, a lot dun change in your household and its hightime u call her to order.

Imagine the man of the house, waking up by 8:42am on a weekday....even if he owns his business.
What kind of example is he setting for his children?
And you find nothing wrong with that? How would you?
He should learn from his wife.

Mariangeles:
Imagine the man of the house, waking up by 8:42am on a weekday....even if he owns his business.
What kind of example is he setting for his children?
And you find nothing wrong with that? How would you?
He should learn from his wife.

Since he is d one handling d family bills, is should never be your headache, all these daughters of eve will always be daughters of eve. Same attribute from their earthly mother just in different ways.
Non of u daughters of eve even said anything about d wife, but u all came for d husband's head.

ImaIma1:
It is either you don't love your wife or you don't trust her. So you cannot wait for her to get back and you tell her what she did was wrong. Instead you are bringing her matter to Nairaland so that those bitter and bias guys will help you bash her.

So you cannot make breakfast for yourself on Mondays or find an alternative. Only Mondays o. You seem like someone that prefers to complain and find fault instead of leaving room for consideration. Please talk with your wife like a husband should and stop whining here.

Considerstion u say? when one thinks that he has heard it all, in d next minutes same daughters of eve woupd just tell u no, u are yet to hear more.
Non of u even condemned what d wife did, but u ladies are just after d man.
For d man to come on nairalsnd to voice out his anger shows that he has torelated enough.
Well, i only blame men that can't just call their wives to order.

emmanuelbrown26:
Since he is d one handling d family bills, is should never be your headache, all these daughters of eve will always be daughters of eve. Same attribute from their earthly mother just in different ways.
Non of u daughters of eve even said anything about d wife, but u all came for d husband's head.

He said he handles 75% of the bills, not all. Besides it's his word against hers. If we ask her, she could also say she's the one that handles 75% of the bills.

But you as usual are quick to jump at anything that in anyway puts a woman in a bad light. Then you will scream your "victim and emotional" mantra

emmanuelbrown26:
Considerstion u say? when one thinks that he has heard it all, in d next minutes same daughters of eve woupd just tell u no, u are yet to hear more.
Non of u even condemned what d wife did, but u ladies are just after d man.
For d man to come on nairalsnd to voice out his anger shows that he has torelated enough.
Well, i only blame men that can't just call their wives to order.

Sweetheart what is the wife's offence?

emmanuelbrown26:
Considerstion u say? when one thinks that he has heard it all, in d next minutes same daughters of eve woupd just tell u no, u are yet to hear more.
Non of u even condemned what d wife did, but u ladies are just after d man.
For d man to come on nairalsnd to voice out his anger shows that he has torelated enough.
Well, i only blame men that can't just call their wives to order.

Are you married?

Op, men like you are why there is a generally held belief that short men are difficult. Why are you reporting her to us here instead of hashing it out with her? Your wife is obviously a careless person so the onus lies on you to correct her with love (not with bad mouth).

Besides, one day out of the week is not too much for you to assist since that is essentially her 'morning off'.

ImaIma1:
He said he handles 75% of the bills, not all. Besides it's his word against hers. If we ask her, she could also say she's the one that handles 75% of the bills.

But you as usual are quick to jump at anything that in anyway puts a woman in a bad light. Then you will scream your "victim and emotional" mantra

When somebody is handling 75% of bills, automatically d person should be in charge of d affairs of that institution.
U didn't mention d husband's first annoyance.
U didn't ask d husband for long it has being going on like that?
For d husband to come on nairaland and say things like this, shows that he has seen more than what he wrote.

ImaIma1:
Sweetheart what is the wife's offence?

READ AGAIN AND SEE WHERE D ANNOYANCE IS

Ishilove:
Are you married?

It has nothing to do with this thread

ImaIma1:
He said he handles 75% of the bills, not all. Besides it's his word against hers. If we ask her, she could also say she's the one that handles 75% of the bills.

But you as usual are quick to jump at anything that in anyway puts a woman in a bad light. Then you will scream your "victim and emotional" mantra

Bcs d generation of daughters of eve made it that way.

emmanuelbrown26:
It has nothing to do with this thread

Oh, it has EVERYTHING to do with this thread. You seem very opinionated about how a man should handle his marital affairs, so one should expect you are speaking from a position of practical experience.

twinning200:
she go talk sey short men like me are sort of controlling.

Ishilove:
Oh, it has EVERYTHING to do with this thread. You seem very opinionated about how a man should handle his marital affairs, so one should expect you are speaking from a position of practical experience.

U don't expect me to answer such a question and I don't answer it both online and offline.

emmanuelbrown26:
Since he is d one handling d family bills, is should never be your headache, all these daughters of eve will always be daughters of eve. Same attribute from their earthly mother just in different ways.
Non of u daughters of eve even said anything about d wife, but u all came for d husband's head.

What offense did the wife commit? Leaving home early to go get materials for her work?

Why did you not call out the man for being petty, selfish, unreasonable and overbearing?

He not only made a video and sent to his wife to complain about the passports (who does that?), he still came here to snitch on her. What sort of man does that? What a nag!

Please, don't quote me concerning this issue again. I'm done having this toxic conversation.
Family section is downright the most toxic section on nairaland.

Mariangeles:
What offense did the wife commit? Leaving home early to go get materials for her work?

Why did you not call out the man for being petty, selfish, unreasonable and overbearing?

He not only made a video and sent to his wife to complain about the passports (who does that?), he still came here to snitch on her. What sort of man does that? What a nag!

Please, don't quote me concerning this issue again. I'm done having this toxic conversation.
Family section is downright the most toxic section on nairaland.

SMH for u all daughters of eve. So nobody picked any offence from d wife's angle? Well not surprised at all that women will always support evil and that's why evil and division are always in a every united home bcs of them

emmanuelbrown26:
READ AGAIN AND SEE WHERE D ANNOYANCE IS

You won't last a month in marriage if you want to start counting the things you should overlook.

I'm sure the ops wife forgives him of his trespasses too. Because it's not like he's perfect and doesn't offend.

emmanuelbrown26:
When somebody is handling 75% of bills, automatically d person should be in charge of d affairs of that institution.
U didn't mention d husband's first annoyance.
U didn't ask d husband for long it has being going on like that?
For d husband to come on nairaland and say things like this, shows that he has seen more than what he wrote.

Whoever is handling the bills should not determine who is in charge. By your reasoning, that would mean that if things were to change and the woman is handling most of the bills, she will be in charge also. She can wake up by 8am and expect her husband to have made her breakfast.

For the husband to come on Nairaland for something his wife explained to him which happens just once a week, means he is not supportive or he's just a nag

Ishilove:
Oh, it has EVERYTHING to do with this thread. You seem very opinionated about how a man should handle his marital affairs, so one should expect you are speaking from a position of practical experience.

He can't answer that question because he's not just single but a single ignoramus who always has something childish and silly to say about marriage issues.