In real life, this is the way for someone to be accidently killed. If you have made a mistake, telling your partner can cause them an immense amount of pain, cause them to lose feeling for you, cause them to act irrationally and possibly cause them to leave. If you are prepared for that, then tell them. If not, it's best to "sin no more".

Odetokun3:


Read your Bible again please.

God asked him what he want in the dream. He mentioned wisdom. It's not David that told him to choose.

He is the wisest to be and wisest to ever.

Read your Bible again, David had told him to choose Wisdom, Solomon himself tells us this in Proverbs.

Dtruthspeaker:


Satan has nothing reasonable to say therefore she insults as said

When The Debate Is Lost, Slander Becomes The Tool Of The Loser

For most schizophrenics who lean heavily on religion, anyone who don't align with their myopic reasoning is seen as Satan......I understand, it comes with the territory.

Yes.
When you are ready to give it up.

cutecommend:
When a married Christian falls into adultery with a woman or a man, does he or she need to confess such to his or her spouse, or is repentance enough?

Yes, it will usually save you stress of being victimized and usually makes you more accountable.

omowolewa:
Yes, nothing should be kept secret.

But if it's a man, he should prepare his will.

For a woman, she should inform her Haulage Company first.

Funny!

I can see do many saints here!
So, where the Christians wey dey fall into the sin of Adultery dey?

May we be able to remain standing "having done all"!

Pimine:

But you didn't just sin against God, you also sinned against your partner.

Is it the spouse that created the law of sin?

What about other sins of lust, immoral thoughts, Is adultery the worst of all sins?

Where is the scriptural backing and express command to this confession?

There are some things that are good, commendable but they are not necessarily the ways of God.

Confessing to your spouse wouldn't prevent you next time a bigger temptation come knocking but only the grace of God and obedience to already laidout plan of escape.

That it is shameful to confess would be mere penance and cannot obliterate the evil done.

In summary, confess if you feel and believe it would help you but never you think it's God's requirements for forgiveness.

The adulterous woman brought to Jesus was the closest to this situation. She was never asked to go and confess to anyone before Jesus'declared her forgiven!

If you have stolen money before and now repent, will you go to EFCC to report yourself for prosecution? Your answer to this question should be the same as the topic.

Modified
This is not a matter that should be treated in black and white.
For some partners that's the end of the marriage, some won't end it but the marriage will suffer forever, some will take to violence and dire consequences. Some may have forgiving spirit, and with time, things will return to normal as if it never happened.
Make sure you truly repent. If you think telling you partner will help you remain faithful henceforth, do tell.

Now there could be STDs or pregnancies from that adultery, in which case you should tell.
As a rule of thumb, determine which will help the marriage and your faithfulness, but whichever the case, if the partner does find out, be certain they found out only from you!

cutecommend:
When a married Christian falls into adultery with a woman or a man, does he or she need to confess such to his or her spouse, or is repentance enough?

Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24

If your intention is to have God forgive you your own sins, then you are best asking forgiveness from those whom you have hurt even before you ask God to forgive you for the same sins.

jmoore:
Question: "Do I have to confess my adultery to my spouse?"
Answer: Whether or not to confess the sin of adultery to one's spouse is a dilemma for many Christians who have had the unfortunate experience of the sin of adultery. Worldly "experts" usually encourage adulterers to keep their mouths shut about their infidelities, proclaiming worse damage will be done by confessing.

The problem with this is that it stifles one's conscience
and doesn't allow for the restoration of relationships that confession is intended to encompass. James 5:16 says, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."

Stifles one's conscience? For Pete's sake, Jesus Christ commands that you ask forgiveness from those you have hurt even before you even approach God - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24 . Anyone who does not do as Jesus Christ commands sins against God by such foolishness, conscience or no conscience.

Jesus didn't teach anything about conscience on this so why add these meaningless ideas when they are unnecessary?

Kobojunkie:
Stifles one's conscience? For Pete's sake, Jesus Christ commands that you ask forgiveness from those you have hurt even before you even approach God - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24 . Anyone who does not do as Jesus Christ commands sins against God by such foolishness, conscience or no conscience.

Jesus didn't teach anything about conscience on this so why add these meaningless ideas when they are unnecessary?

What if the partner will never even know you hurt them?
I believe your assumption is that the partner is a true Christian to the heart, who is continually led by the spirit. If not, news headline: "WOMAN, 32, BATHS HUSBAND WITH ACID OVER INFIDELITY!"

crows2ravens:
What if the partner will never even know you hurt them?
I believe your assumption is that the partner is a true Christian to the heart, who is continually led by the spirit. If not, news headline: "WOMAN, 32, BATHS HUSBAND WITH ACID OVER INFIDELITY!"

Never?

Jesus Christ no ask you that one. He made it clear that you should ask forgiveness from those you have hurt or you sin against God by refusing to do so.

I don't make any assumptions about the partner at all since the one to whom Jesus Christ's command is meant for is the one who seeks to please God. Acid bath or not, God's decree is that and He does not bend His standard for any man or any reason.

Lighthouse50:
Repentance is not enough. Repentance means you have changed your heart or realized what bad youve done. this alone may be for short duration and the person goes back when greater temptation arise. Repentance without RESTITUTION Is fake. You need to restitute with your spouce and the fornicator.

Jesus Christ no command restitution at all since that is instead of the Old Covenant folks- Ezekiel 33 vs 9 - 20.. What He instead makes clear in His New Covenant Law aka the Gospel is that you are to ask forgiveness from those whom you have hurt even before you approach God - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24 - else you sin against God.

SenatePresdo:
I would pray to God to forgive my sins, as I forgave those who trespassed against me.

That's all

You commit sin against God by not seeking forgiveness from those you have hurt even before approaching God for forgiveness for your sins - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24. So bear in mind that until you seek forgiveness, that sin will probably remain over you.

humberjade:
Trust is like an egg in a relationship, once it is dropped, if it doesn't shatter, it is left with cracks.

It is better you confess to your God, ask Him for forgiveness and make sure you remain loyal to your partner afterwards. Tell him or her, and your relationship might never remain the same again. Any innocent lateness or action relating to adultery would be viewed as such by the said partner.

My opinion though.

Read Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24 where God instead outrightly decrees you seek forgiveness from the partner you have erred against before you even approach Him to begin with. Else you continue to sin against God. That which concerns God should never be based on opinions which are nothing but lies to begin with.

chivic:
It depends on your marriage.Some did and nothing bad happen,instead it fostered love among them.But another may attempt it and marriage will end immediately or it will come up some other day and crash the marriage.There is no standard to this kind of thing .

If keeping your marriage is more important to you than your relationship with God, sure.

Pimine:

But you didn't just sin against God, you also sinned against your partner.

You also sin against God by not seeking forgiveness from the one you hurt - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24

Kobojunkie:
Never?

Jesus Christ no ask you that one. He made it clear that you should ask forgiveness from those you have hurt or you sin against God by refusing to do so.

I don't make any assumptions about the partner at all since the one to whom Jesus Christ's command is meant for is the one who seeks to please God. Acid bath or not, God's decree is that and He does not bend His standard for any man or any reason.

Jesus gave us two commandments, love God, and love others. Every other law you see is a guideline. Please keep this in your heart.
Loving your spouse may mean telling or not telling them. What if by telling, the partner commits murder? Doesn't another "decree" say he that makes his brethren to fall or commit sin has done a terrible thing?
I know there are Christian spouses here, and some of them will prefer to not even know at all that there partners cheated.
My point is, know your partner.

uncleck:
Too many babies these days!!!

There are some secrets that should definitely go to the grave with you, adultery for the women is one of them.

And eventually to hell as well, right?

Slurity:
GOD'S WISDOM IS NEEDED AT THAT POINT ON HOW TO GO ABOUT. ELSE, EITHER WAY YOU CHOOSE MAY BE BRUTAL

Read Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24 to learn God's wisdom.

cutecommend:
When a married Christian falls into adultery with a woman or a man, does he or she need to confess such to his or her spouse, or is repentance enough?

Confession is important for healing.

dnor:
Nothing to confess. I can never sleep with any other woman outside my marriage. If my partner does it, marriage is over. Shikena

Just pray.

Kobojunkie:
You commit sin against God by not seeking forgiveness from those you have hurt even before approaching God for forgiveness for your sins - Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24. So bear in mind that until you seek forgiveness, that sin will probably remain over you.

It said ; "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you"


So if the spouse doesn't know about the affair you had, how would they have something against you?

Dtruthspeaker:
For the children of God who have not yet fallen, Proverbs 3- 9 is your best friend.

All and every woman other than your wife is your death.

There is no short cut or escape or sharp guy about it.

No one has fallien into adultery and escaped it. No, not even the wisest man, David.

And you see, he almost did not make it. And you see how VERY HARD AND THE SUFFERING HE WENT THROUGH TO MAKE IT

If not that he was in deed the wisest man, you see he would not even made it

So that tells you how terrible that way is.

DON'T ENTER IT AT ALL.

He didn't ask for the consequences of adultery, or whether adultery is a noble act. He asked a simple question: is it compulsory to confess adultery to one's partner? Geez!

crows2ravens:
1. Jesus gave us two commandments, love God, and love others. Every other law you see is a guideline. Please keep this in your heart.

2. Loving your spouse may mean telling or not telling them. What if by telling, the partner commits murder? Doesn't another "decree" say he that makes his brethren to fall or commit sin has done a terrible thing?

3. I know there are Christian spouses here, and some of them will prefer to not even know at all that there partners cheated.
My point is, know your partner.

1. Jesus Christ did not give you those two commandments as they are instead both from the Old Covenant Law of Moses - which consists of a total of about 613 laws - that God gave to the Nation of Israel Israel a Constitution in the Land of Canaan. The first is called the Shema - Deuteronomy 6 vs 4 - 9 whereas the second one is found written in the Leviticus 19 vs 9 - 20. And as Jesus Christ said, those two are the greatest - not to be confused with only - of the Law of Moses and the prophets of Old.

By the way, all laws, from the greatest to the least of them, are meant to help guide you to doing that which God wants instead of that which you instead imagine, hence the reason why God cursed those who would neglect some of His laws while they instead hold to those they consider more important.

The Gospels contains about 100 laws/commandments meant to guide you to doing exactly that which God desires from you instead of that which is born of your imagination in His Name. And according to Jesus Christ, those who love Him are those who obey His commandments- John 14 vs 20 - 25 - and His friends, those who do as He asks - John 15 vs 14

2.. God's law in regards to this situation is clearly stated in Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24. Would you rather do as Jesus Christ asks or would you rather sin against God by refusing to obey Him all so you can continue with the illlusion that is love for your partner. That is the question here.

You cannot make a person do anything the person has not first intended to do. Jesus Christ explained this when He made it clear that the bad things we do comes from what is in fact stored up in our hearts, for example, lies. So in order to be responsible for another's sin, you woudk have to manipulate such a person, for instance with lies to achieving that. Here, you are instead confessing a truth.

3. Your relationship with God shouldn't be dependent on the fears harbored by your partner, should it?

Ghg

SenatePresdo:
It said ; "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you"

So if the spouse doesn't know about the affair you had, how would they have something against you?

How do you know for a fact the spouse isn't aware of the affair?

Do you simply pretend she doesn't because she hasn't asked and so she is not hurt by it?

How much awareness is required in this case before you seek forgiveness for that hurt which you have caused another?

Kobojunkie:
1. Jesus Christ did not give you those two commandments as they are instead both from the Old Covenant Law of Moses -

Stop mixing old and new testament when it comes to commandments.
Follow the transfiguration of Jesus, with Moses on one side, and Elijah on the other side. A voice came from heaven, "This is my beloved son...HEAR YE HIM"
Moses represented the old covenant and its laws. Elijah represented the old prophets. But God said, listen to Jesus!!!
Jesus states clearly He is giving us TWO commandments, and they are both of love. If you understand love and its depth, you will know that you CAN'T apply any other law again in black and white.

There's a lot I wish I can share for us to discuss, but will be too long to read.

crows2ravens:
1. Stop mixing old and new testament when it comes to commandments.
Follow the transfiguration of Jesus, with Moses on one side, and Elijah on the other side. A voice came from heaven, "This is my beloved son...HEAR YE HIM"
Moses represented the old covenant and its laws. Elijah represented the old prophets. But God said, listen to Jesus!!!
Jesus states clearly He is giving us TWO commandments, and they are both of love. If you understand love and its depth, you will know that you CAN'T apply any other law again in black and white.

There's a lot I wish I can share for us to discuss, but will be too long to read.

Again, the two laws which you claim were given you by Jesus Christ instead belong to the Old Covenant Law of Moses, so the one mixing old and new is you, not me..

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...1. Jesus Christ did not give you those two commandments as they are instead both from the Old Covenant Law of Moses - which consists of a total of about 613 laws - that God gave to the Nation of Israel Israel a Constitution in the Land of Canaan. The first is called the Shema - Deuteronomy 6 vs 4 - 9 whereas the second one is found written in the Leviticus 19 vs 9 - 20. And as Jesus Christ said, those two are the greatest - not to be confused with only - of the Law of Moses and the prophets of Old.

By the way, all laws, from the greatest to the least of them, are meant to help guide you to doing that which God wants instead of that which you instead imagine, hence the reason why God cursed those who would neglect some of His laws while they instead hold to those they consider more important.

The Gospels contains about 100 laws/commandments meant to guide you to doing exactly that which God desires from you instead of that which is born of your imagination in His Name. And according to Jesus Christ, those who love Him are those who obey His commandments- John 14 vs 20 - 25 - and His friends, those who do as He asks - John 15 vs 14

Kobojunkie:
Read Matthew 5 vs 23 - 24
That which concerns God should never be based on opinions which are nothing but lies to begin with.

Which opinion is "a lie" if I may ask?

If it's what I am thinking, it becomes a lie if your partner confronts you with it and you deny it.

And please, where is the correlation for crying out loud? If you don't understand a potion of the Bible, you seek knowledge and stop seeing yourself as a Bible scholar aren't.

The verse didn't say anything about adultery or confessing to your partner about it. Your partner can only be angry at you if he or she catches you in action, hears about it or you confess to him or her. The verses is even only telling the person to forgive others before going to God. Thrash out your misunderstandings with others before going to God.

The verse like many related ones is simply teaches peaceful co-existence with others; being at peace with them before bringing any spiritual or physical offerings to him.

I am sure someone like you won't forgive your partner if she confesses to adultery.