| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by IGoComotYaTeeth: 2:20pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Threebear:
The thing Sheggz is doing to Bella is giving me the creeps.
Like an abuser , isolating his victim and then pouncing on them.
I've been with a lot of shitty men in the past ...
First they'll gas you up.
Make you a loner by acting like you're the most special person in the world .
Treat you like a princess.
Then start acting like they did you a favor by picking you in the first instance.
Then you practically have no one because then , your whole existence is tied to them .
And then they switch totally when you've fallen yakata.
I just hope I'm wrong about this .
As much as I'm loyal to my faves , I can't support an abuser. 
Whatever is going on between them is giving me the jitters ...
Bella came in like a lioness but she's been reduced to a doll eyed puppy .
It's incredibly sad to witness.
They're honestly better apart ! mad o, Threebear don unstan Sheggz |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by kUNLEMYBARBECUE(f): 2:22pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Amya(f): 2:25pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.
Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to ensure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.
Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.
In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.
Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.
Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.
They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.
Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.
Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.
Run Bella, Run! 36 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Beorn: 2:25pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
fitzmayowa:
He has successfully done that, Amaka barely speaks to Phyna now while Amaka is always irritated seeing then together, should both survive eviction this week Amaka will have a long week ahead.....
All of them contributed to getting Beauty DQed while they silently eyed the "cheap boy" according to Phyna.... Amaka never see anything. On Friday after the task, while they were heading back inside, Amaka was asking Biggie for a private diary session. My guess is she wants to ask Biggie for the possibility of switching to level 1 since she can't stomach seeing Groovy & Phyna together. She better get prepared for the bumpy ride because unless Biggie swaps her, or Groovy leaves Phyna, they are both going to torture her with PDA till she gets sense not to involve emotions in a show where HMs are playing each other. 2 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Titaniumental: 2:28pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
During that conversation between Sheggz and Bella this afternoon, Sheggz did mention that he asked Bella for space but she refused. Bella was even mad at him for making such request. So many shit going on dr we don't even get to witness 4 Likes 1 Share 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by IGoComotYaTeeth: 2:28pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Demnan:
Doyin, see your life outside Bella chose violence |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Gentlefury: 2:30pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Alphagan:
Nigerians are too judgemental. Can we all just see that bbnaija is a game and not a morality contest. Even in the real world, are all the emergency apostles of morality saints? Beauty was never married to Groovy, instead, she used the guy for her game, unfortunately, it backfired. Allow Groovy be and Phyna should play her game the best way she knows how to.
Doyin is a vibe on her own, I don't understand her need to boo'd up by fire by force. The same thing i said, Groovy is offending no one by what he's doing with Phyna, Phyna has even stated that she's going nowhere if Groovy gets another girl. Forget her uncouth razzness, she's still pretty and willing to do ANYTHING Groovy wants, even in fantasy porn movies you won't see women like that! Amaka should suck it up and move on, afterall she's as vain as they come, is she not the same person that bounced Pharmsavi because she didn't rate him as her spec? Why should Groovy be forced to see her out of pity? Ilebaye should also accept that in the house, her and Groovy is an impossibility. That leaves Chomzy & Chi-Chi, with the exotic dancer already mind-screwing Chomzy into giving her chance by focusing on a weirdly arrogant and delusional Eloswag with a Napoleon complex. The girls this season no try, at least double wahala girls behaved themselves with Miracle. SYE girls still managed to comport despite the attractive and liberal naughtiness of Cross and the refreshing foreign-ness of very cool Micheal (even though Jackie B forgot her home training here sha). Why can't the women this year maintain their respectful distance and decide to holla at Groovy AFTER the show? 1 Like |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Eeghe(f): 2:32pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Adekunle is soooo calm
One can easily picture staying with him in a hotel room, just gisting him about their escapades, telling him wild things and he would be there, all cracked up and totally not judging them…
That said, many women may find him unexciting, but those who see him would really enjoy him
I like, like his person
Calm introvert 21 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by MissAnneboleyn: 2:32pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.
Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the Perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to insure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.
Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.
In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.
Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.
Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.
They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.
Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.
Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.
Run Bella, Run!
Well written post.
I remember some of us were saying the same thing in the early stages of the show when Shegs was already talking about wedding, marriage kids, I believe this was day 3 or 4?
Bella was walking around with big girl energy and thinking she could handle it but it is clear to see that she cannot handle it. Shegs has alienated her, she has no friends, we as fans of the show do not even know who Bella is because in 99.999% of their interactions Shegs talks about himself. The toxcity is palpable. 9 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Gentlefury: 2:33pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
MissAnneboleyn:
Showmancing Phyna is a confidence boost?  No, that's not a showmance. It's a live illustration of when 2 single adults in a heavily air-conditioned environment express a basic form of attraction with no commitments while enjoying each other's company, kinda like what many of us do when there are no cameras. 3 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Titaniumental: 2:34pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.
Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the Perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to insure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.
Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.
In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.
Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.
Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.
They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.
Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.
Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.
Run Bella, Run!
I didn't read tru,as a matter of fact i don't need to read 2ru,all i need to see is Sheggz and narcissism in the same sentence,then i definitely know you're drunk and that's why you can shameless sit-down like dis and type gibberishly, whatever nonsense you aim to achieve with this bull crap won't fly. Sit down and watch show,you won't,but wen it is time to twist hms word and come out with senseless literature na dr we dey see una. 3 Likes 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by MissAnneboleyn: 2:35pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Eeghe:
Adekunle is soooo calm
One can easily picture staying with him in a hotel room, just gisting him about their escapades, telling him wild things and he would be there, all cracked up and totally not judging them…
That said, many women may find him unexciting, but those who see him would really enjoy him
I like, like his person
Calm introvert He is husband material. I called him boring but he likes to think before he acts, he was also on his journey of self-discovery so that has impacted his behaviour. I like him. 3 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by chiomaP(f): 2:35pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Titaniumental:
During that conversation between Sheggz and Bella this afternoon, Sheggz did mention that he asked Bella for space but she refused. Bella was even mad at him for making such request. So many shit going on dr we don't even get to witness Lol the criminal is asking for space after killing the poor girls game...God forbid 2 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by ebunchi(f): 2:36pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Gentlefury:
She somehow thought she could make Giddyfia jealous or upset! Giddyfia, that Calabar Joker who has obviously sworn to leave this Earth with a big laugh on his face? It's like he has an exclusive VIP comedy show going on in his head 24/7!  � � � LMAO, how how |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by kowema(f): 2:36pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Pharmsavi is busy drooling over the fact that he spent time with Diana and the Diana can't even remember what happened betwn them. She can't remember being with him. 2 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by IGoComotYaTeeth: 2:37pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Eeghe:
Adekunle is soooo calm
One can easily picture staying with him in a hotel room, just gisting him about their escapades, telling him wild things and he would be there, all cracked up and totally not judging them…
That said, many women may find him unexciting, but those who see him would really enjoy him
I like, like his person
Calm introvert He reminds me of myself very quiet 1 Like |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by kUNLEMYBARBECUE(f): 2:37pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Eeghe:
Adekunle is soooo calm
One can easily picture staying with him in a hotel room, just gisting him about their escapades, telling him wild things and he would be there, all cracked up and totally not judging them…
That said, many women may find him unexciting, but those who see him would really enjoy him
I like, like his person
Calm introvert Oh Nnem thanks for seeing the good in him and speaking out  Don't mind my vawulence at u before Henceforth u are out of my blacklist  6 Likes 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Threebear(m): 2:38pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
IGoComotYaTeeth:
mad o, Threebear don unstan Sheggz I haven't. I'm still observing though . Maybe I'm wrong and we are all misjudging him . 2 Likes 1 Share 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Bennytwin: 2:38pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Ilebaye,khalid and groovy can even leave.
Level 1 should be automatically up! They have been too relaxed.
Y do i have a feeling groovy is fourth! Khalid was up last week so maybe those that saved him then might save him again.
Or did beauty fans vote groovy this time around? |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Bennytwin: 2:39pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Threebear:
I haven't.
I'm still observing though .
Maybe I'm wrong and we are all misjudging him . Threebear,who is second and third pls |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by MissAnneboleyn: 2:40pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
chiomaP:
Lol the criminal is asking for space after killing the poor girls game...God forbid He love-bombed her, did not allow her socalise with other housemates, now he is trying to temporarily discard her. Shegs is a narcissist. 2 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by fitzmayowa: 2:40pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Amaka might be very loud and most times annoying, she is book smart to an extent..... 11 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by COOL10(m): 2:40pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.
Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the Perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to insure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.
Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.
In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.
Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.
Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.
They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.
Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.
Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.
Run Bella, Run!
Narcissists are extremely terrible people to be around. Demonic and vengeful when exposed. This is exactly why I wanted Groovy to stay far away from Beauty as much as possible. If this isn't a game Sheggz is playing, then it's safe to call him a 'covert narcissist' at least for now. Nice explanation. 2 Likes |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by MissAnneboleyn: 2:41pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
kowema:
Pharmsavi is busy drooling over the fact that he spent time with Diana and the Diana can't even remember what happened betwn them. She can't remember being with him.  |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Titaniumental: 2:42pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
chiomaP:
Lol the criminal is asking for space after killing the poor girls game...God forbid Did you even understand what you just read,b4 quoting.....i'm sure you don't,hence,your nonsense of a response Stop bn nonsensical and always read to understand and not read to just give stupid nauseous replies 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Clement1111(m): 2:43pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Rosalinda1988:
Phyna
Bryann
Groovy
Ilebaye
Khalid
Source: my Deloitte's friend
deloitte nko |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Eeghe(f): 2:43pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
kUNLEMYBARBECUE:
Oh Nnem thanks for seeing the good in him and speaking out Don't mind my vawulence at u before Henceforth u are out of my blacklist Lol I like him for me, not for you @ bolded, total rubbish! You are free to knock yourself out, anytime  1 Like |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by fitzmayowa: 2:44pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Bennytwin:
Ilebaye,khalid and groovy can even leave.
Level 1 should be automatically up! They have been too relaxed.
Y do i have a feeling groovy is fourth! Khalid was up last week so maybe those that saved him then might save him again.
Or did beauty fans vote groovy this time around? Word on the street is a lot of peeps voted Groovy because of the abuse he got from Beauty last week, while Khalid pissed off alot of peeps by being hypocritical, telling Daniella he can't be with her because she drank and because his religion doesn't allow that, but will go ahead and knack the same gal without regards for his precious religion...... 1 Like |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Titaniumental: 2:45pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
BBN fans are funny asf, you see dem hating on Groovy for doing what dey'all have been wanting Sheggz to do? While they hate Sheggz for being loyal to Bella and still hate Groovy for serving the bad boy/player script? 2 Likes 1 Share 
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| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Eeghe(f): 2:45pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
IGoComotYaTeeth:
He reminds me of myself very quiet Good for you, your username belies this tho |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by bassman007(m): 2:45pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Bennytwin:
Ilebaye,khalid and groovy can even leave.
Level 1 should be automatically up! They have been too relaxed.
Y do i have a feeling groovy is fourth! Khalid was up last week so maybe those that saved him then might save him again.
Or did beauty fans vote groovy this time around? Brov stop being disillusioned. Groovy has his own fans and we are solidly behind him 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: BBNaija 2022 Live Updates Thread by Threebear(m): 2:46pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.
Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to ensure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.
Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.
In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.
Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.
Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.
They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.
Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.
Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.
Run Bella, Run!
Omo ....I've known a few narcissists in my life and this right here is their pattern . 100/100 What am I stanning this year o ? 9 Likes 
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