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SerikiFulani:
They're having sexual relations

Women cheat a lot....It's just that they're very secretive....

I see no gain in marriage these days....It's not an achievement and it ain't worth it

OP,you did the best thing and please don't have anything to do with that ratchet hoe you call a wife

Osama2478:
As for me, I don't engage in any private discussion with my friends' girlfriends let alone wives.

For any man that engages in private discussions with his friend's wife without his knowledge and to the point of sending money to her especially when the man is not around if nothing is happening at the moment, it clearly showed that he has got a plan. That was my conviction. These are the kind of people that will keep pretending to care for the woman because her husband is not around till they get in between their legs.

Funny enough, this was a guy that was owing me money and never talked about it again because I have traveled abroad.

VULCAN:
Stop trying to absolve the woman.

Neither of them could explain what the money was for because neither of them expected him to find out.

That your fairytale is nothing like what happened cos if it was why did the woman not tell her husband that his friend dropped 30k for ice cream?

Then when Oga returned why could she not explain the circumstances surrounding the money.

No offence but you sound a bit gullible sha

Oh!! No offence but U sounds like you have a Gomorrah mindset Sha

Desusi:
This is the mistakes most people make in relationship, money is not everything. Keeping your wife in Nigeria and residing in Europe? Your friend is indirect taking care of her aside from money.what a world! His telling you if he cannot take care of your wife who would? There's much to this. Its either you take your wife with you or allow her to look for another man who can service her regularly. The temptation to cheat on you is great. I observed you're a jealousy fellow as is common to all men.Arise and wake up from your slumber.

Osama2478:
Thank you for your contribution. I have only tried to shorten the story as much as possible. As of this moment, she is now with me in Europe. As someone also said above, she was never remorseful about the whole thing in fact, she never saw anything wrong in what she did.

Before I saw the fund transfer between them, I have been working on her traveling plans alongside the kids. When their visas were approved, I was still keeping the whole thing under wrap and was hoping to start telling people until they reach here or closer to their departure, I never knew that my wife had already told that my friend. Only for the guy to reach out to me to show him ways on how to travel and pretending as if he didn't know anything about the visas of my family.

From the way he was talking, he gave himself out until I found out that my wife had to him. It is one of the reasons why I ended my friendship with the guy as I don't consider him as a friend anymore. As for the wife too, I can't afford to close my two eyes while with her again. It is very obvious that I am dealing with a dangerous woman.

For this abroad, I am scared of having any significant investment to her knowledge because I am tired and wary of her. A marriage without trust is as good as dead.

Antimarraige:
From 2010 upwards, na fool dey marry

Enjoy your woes

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

frankyfranky:
Oga, if u love ur wife, just find away to travel with her... No union is perfect either but she might be feeling lonely n ur so called friend took advantage of that ..
Avoid ur Frd, he is not a Frd.
Even if they have not done something, they do it soon.

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

Richy4:
My brother, I taya,.. people just look at things in one parallel line as if that's just how life is... .. how do this guys brainstorm in their places of work? Or projects they were executing... Abi someone go suggest and they follow without looking at another possibility?

Bro, one even said I was the OP and was trying to keep the thread alive just imagine that stupid comment ...
And the op couldn't crawl out from wherever rat hole he is staying to say no, we are different people and have never seen or known each other... He just kept mute
Another said that I was that OP's friend... "So many wise people here".. no wonder the owner doesn't stay here but have a 'permanent resident visa' on twitter..

Make I no forget to ask, how are u man.. hope you are good

GboyegaD:
I am doing okay, thanks for asking.

Reading post here makes me wonder how we reason. I want to believe they just want to trend and sometimes, I am forced to think that things have really gone too bad with us that it has affected our reasoning so much.
How are you and the family doing?

maasoap:
May be you should go and get the spelling of your moniker right first before calling couples fools

Richy4:
We are fine my brother.....

I just want to hope for the best that that's not how they are offline... Because if it was, then the world is in deep trouble...

I wish that I have an expert that can give me a concrete reason for the split personality act people exhibit.. Why can't individuals be who they are online as well as offline.?..

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

Antimarraige:
fool there's a reason I spelt it wrongly, because marriage itself is wrong, how can I be living my life for another person daughter

Richy4:
<< Trust is really dead in this weird world..
***Does it mean that this can never be a possible scenario any more in this weird world?**

<< John my friend stays in France, the wife Sandra stays in Nigeria...
<<On a good day, out of my kind and benevolent heart, gave Sandra 30K to buy icecream for the kids and herself.. thinking I was looking out for the interest of my friends John..
<<John came back to Nigeria, saw the alert on the wife's phone and began to "Meleske"
<< My goodness, suddenly turned into betrayal, adultery and infidelity
<< Na waaaOo!!