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Nonexisting:
Ladies Gentlemen and gentlemen, we have a new confused vaginarian here. Finally, someone to give Sio fra a run for her foolishness.

pansophist:
I agree. Love is like a vehicle that carries virtues/values. The word 'love', in a relational context is an action word, a verb, and not an emotion. What most people see as Love is lust.

Because he/she is hot, and your stomach rumple with butterflies, you call it Love. A man can be lucifer himself and a woman will think she is in love because he gives her butterfly feelings. That's wrong.

Look at it from another angle. I'm not romantically attracted to my sister for example, but I love her. I will relate with her from a position of virtue because that's how I can demonstrate my love for her.

So I'll tell her the truth, I'll be dependable, I'll forgive her, be tolerance of her excess, I won't insult her, I'll assist financially, I'll sympathise with her, I'll accept her, practice justice, and so forth.

So you see, love have nothing to do with attraction, because to love someone is to commit to them. It's why you see couples that are married for over fifty years and probably not having sex decades ago, but still together.

Our generation messed up the definition of love. This is also why lots of people are divorcing easily, because they expect that butterfly feeling to be permanent. If their partner gained weight for example, they fall out of love. This is nonsense.

Lots of us annoyed our parents almost to death. If they didn't love you, they would have dumped you long ago in a motherless home, but they were there for you through your fragile and demanding years, because love is an action. It's something you do, not something you feel.

Lots of young people even though they have a messed up understanding of the obligation of love, they know it instinctively when others love them. Love will never burden you, but elevates.

Love is a universal language, even animals understand it. Treat even a lion with kindness from young, and he would never harm you. There is no sex here with the lion, just pure actions. Love is an action.

Enitanmii:
Love is Enough!

Someone once said Love is not enough to run a successful relationship and the thought did spread on social media.

The thought was, aside love, "commitment, selflessness, care, trust and suchlike" are needed to run a relationship,

I didn't agree with the thought and here's my reason.

The society we live in has done so much injustice to the definition of love.

They've described love as a feeling you have for the other person and that misconception often lead many into marital errors.

They have ascribed feelings to love, such that once it feels great then it's love.

Advanced Dictionaries got it all wrong too by defining love as "a great feeling of likeness or affection".

In reality, love isn't a thing you feel (good feelings) but a thing you do, just that "feelings" are the thermometer of love.

"Feelings are the thermometer of love. Feelings are what love uses to thrive."

But that it feels good all the time doesn't mean it's love. Rebuke can make you feel sad, yet it's necessary in a working relationship. AND THAT IS AN ELEMENT OF LOVE!

Here's my explanation:

When I hear people say, "My partner doesn't love me anymore", I try to ask why they think so and the answers would be like, "'he doesn't care', 'she nags', 'he is too proud', 'she's uncultured', 'he's not trustworthy' and so on.

When your partner does something that betrays your trust, YOU FEEL BAD, right?

That means those things find expression through feelings.

Back to love...

Love is like the air. We're told it's a mixture of gases. We can see the gases but can't see the air.

Love is like a tree and every good thing that engenders joy make up the branches.

That means, commitment, selflessness, trust, integrity, thoughtfulness, care, dedication, devotion, etc, are what make love.

Finally, when someone proves to love you and the affection isn't tied to applauding values, it's LUST!

LUST will only see physical endowments but LOVE, inner beauty.

So will you agree with me that love is enough?

If you do agree let me know, then share this post with anyone you want to have the same understanding.

We're blessed!

pansophist:
I agree. Love is like a vehicle that carries virtues/values. The word 'love', in a relational context is an action word, a verb, and not an emotion. What most people see as Love is lust.

Because he/she is hot, and your stomach rumple with butterflies, you call it Love. A man can be lucifer himself and a woman will think she is in love because he gives her butterfly feelings. That's wrong.

Look at it from another angle. I'm not romantically attracted to my sister for example, but I love her. I will relate with her from a position of virtue because that's how I can demonstrate my love for her.

So I'll tell her the truth, I'll be dependable, I'll forgive her, be tolerance of her excess, I won't insult her, I'll assist financially, I'll sympathise with her, I'll accept her, practice justice, and so forth.

So you see, love have nothing to do with attraction, because to love someone is to commit to them. It's why you see couples that are married for over fifty years and probably not having sex decades ago, but still together.

Our generation messed up the definition of love. This is also why lots of people are divorcing easily, because they expect that butterfly feeling to be permanent. If their partner gained weight for example, they fall out of love. This is nonsense.

Lots of us annoyed our parents almost to death. If they didn't love you, they would have dumped you long ago in a motherless home, but they were there for you through your fragile and demanding years, because love is an action. It's something you do, not something you feel.

Lots of young people even though they have a messed up understanding of the obligation of love, they know it instinctively when others love them. Love will never burden you, but elevates.

Love is a universal language, even animals understand it. Treat even a lion with kindness from young, and he would never harm you. There is no sex here with the lion, just pure actions. Love is an action.

Demigod22:
LOVE is not ENOUGH.