A friend of mine told his friend that he is behaving like woman wrapper, simply because he always assist his wife with chores. For instance, if the woman is cooking and washing plate,the man will voluntarily sweep or wash his personal clothes. His wife once told me that her husband usually assist him with house chores before but he stopped because people advice him that is not traditional.
As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores. Though some women tend to use this avenue to "make it compulsory thing" which ought not to be so. I think men or husbands should assist their wives in housechores. Assisting the woman doesn't make you man-less but it shows that you truly love your wife.

As a man, do whatever you like or want in your marriage but please don't wash plates.

In Life, Variation is a Border.

Francisanointed:

As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores.

As a christian or as a normal human being?

Some men grew up with their grandmothers or with parents where doing chores was very normal, nothing special really. That your other friend, when he was a bachelor living alone, who was doing his chores? Does he hire people to come & clean the house, wash his clothes for him. If he has been doing all of this things normally in his own house, so why does it feel strange now?

At the end, everyone should do what works for them. I wouldn't call traditional or modern system bad, anyone that works for the family should be adopted.

Nothing wrong with assisting your wife with house chores. I do assist her often, name them. I do it all. Does not take away the man you are. Its only half men who shy away from that.
I mean does it make sense when you are around and at home to watch your wife labour herself to exhaustion because of one useless ego?

Men need to start helping as regards to that.

Zonefree:
As a man, do whatever you like or want in your marriage but please don't wash plates.

Okay, this is funny . The man shouldn't wash plates but should cook? Or he shouldn't clean the restroom but he should clean the couch?

See ehn, If you're a masculine man who has authority over his home, your wife will know, It is not by forcing it.

That is why I don't buy all these false Alpha male/female talk. If you're alpha, you won't even move an inch, people will know just by your conversation and how you go about doing things. They would know they can't mess with you.

Very bad. U re not her house boy.

Woman hardly appreciate a good man. Dem go begin see u finish. It's in dis blood.

Just provide the money, that all.

If she complains, tell her u no be her house girl. Is she is still insisting. Kick her out.


TRP if golden.

#NoSimping

What a question.

There's nothing wrong in assisting with chores because the house and everything in it belongs to both of you. You both make use of it therefore the duty to clean and tidy it lies on both of you.

Mind you, you are not doing it because you love your wife but because it's a normal thing that needs to be done. Before you got married you were doing your chores and it wasn't because you loved yourself. Its a necessity.


By the way, if a woman can assist the man in the financial responsibilities, the man should as well assist in the duties of the home.

If you as a husband is less busy or have nothing doing I don't see why you can't help with the house chores, it's your house too not like you are a stranger so why kill your wife with everything just because you are bothered about what others will say

And you're not "helping" or "assisting" with anything...you're doing chores, together, in your home, equally.

Blessedmercy8:
What a question.

There's nothing wrong in assisting with chores because the house and everything in it belongs to both of you. You both make use of it therefore the duty to clean and tidy them lies on both of you.

If a woman can assist the man in the financial responsibilities, the man should as well assist in the duties of the home.

@bolded. How many women assist in financial responsibilities?

For me, there's nothing wrong to assist with chores, but, it must be done with decorum. You want to assist shouldn't condescend to washing plates or washing her pants.

Man, know thy limit.

goodamerican:
There is nothing wrong with a husband helping his wife with house chores, especially if he sees that the wife could use an extra pair of hands. Marriage is a team effort.


Why are people on NL using "His" instead of "Her" for females these days? Is this a new trend?

Thanks for spotting but it was a mistake.

I can't marry or be in a relationship and still do chores and be spending on her.....


She handles the house chores while I handle the funding.......

Zonefree:

@bolded. How many women assist in financial responsibilities?

For me, there's nothing wrong to assist with chores, but, it must be done with decorum. You want to assist shouldn't condescend to washing plates or washing her pants.

Man, know thy limit.

What's condescending about Washing a plate you ate with?

Before you married her, were you not washing your plates yourself? Why feel low all of a sudden doing it the moment she joins you?

Most of you see the woman as a house help but forget that even a house help gets paid to do such jobs while you expect your woman to slave just because she married you. Never!

The duty to keeping the home clean and habitable lies on everyone living in that house.

There's nothing wrong doing that once a while but don't make it your duty.

Women came prepared for marriage, they know what they are signing up for.

Same way a woman should let her man contribute more financially.

LikeAking:
Very bad. U re not her house boy.

Woman hardly appreciate a good man. Dem go begin see u finish. It's in dis blood.

Just provide the money, that all.

If she complains, tell her u no be her house girl. Is she is still insisting. Kick her out.


TRP if golden.

#NoSimping

'See mouth.....Na your type go dey form humble husband, gladly doing the house chores, going to the supermarket, minding your children etc to remain in the good books of a Caucasian wife.....dem plenty here as they are forced to drop that irrational way of thinking, even those married to fellow blacks, do their share of house chores.

goodamerican:
There is nothing wrong with a husband helping his wife with house chores, especially if he sees that the wife could use an extra pair of hands. Marriage is a team effort.


Why are people on NL using "His" instead of "Her" for females these days? Is this a new trend?

na evening school dem go

Personally I don't see anything bad in helping my wife or girlfriend in doing house chores, as it makes the chores go faster and even easier for her. There is nothing like woman wrapper in it. She is a helper and not a slave. What happens when she is sick and unable to do the chores, will you go outside to get someone else to do them for you or force her to do them.

Mindlog:


'See mouth.....Na your type go dey form humble husband, gladly doing the house chores, going to the supermarket, minding your children etc to remain in the good books of a Caucasian wife.....dem plenty here as they are forced to drop that irrational way of thinking, even those married to fellow blacks, do their share of house chores.

Not me,. I have taken d red pill. Weda Coucasian or anything, I won't help her out with house shores and I won't tolorate her nagging in my house.
I will kick her out.

I now understand women beta, never treat them like Queens, except they are Queens in real life.

Woman wey once u laff wit her, she go begin see u as nonsense.. But if u kip serious face she go tink say u b human being.

boxer022:
Personally I don't see anything bad in helping my wife or girlfriend in doing house chores, as it makes the chores go faster and even easier for her. There is nothing like woman wrapper in it. She is a helper and not a slave. What happens when she is sick and unable to do the chores, will you go outside to get someone else to do them for you or force her to do them.

It has never ended well. U can ask men u have done that shit in the past. The moment u become too nice and house boyish to ur wife/GF, then it's time for her to dump and get a real man.

A real man to many women, is an evil man, bad man. If she is sick make she go stay for hospital make I know say she really dey sick.

LikeAking:


Not me,. I have taken d red pill. Weda Coucasian or anything, I won't help her out with house shores and I won't tolorate her nagging in my house.
I will kick her out.

I now understand women beta, never treat them like Queens, except they are Queens in real life.

Woman wey once u laff wit her, she go begin see u as nonsense.. But if u kip serious face she go tink say u b human being.

No be only shores, na harbours!

See mouth like "my house...I will kick her out", well it is in Nigeria, you can try that rubbish, go Europe or North America make you see where you rank on the ladder!

If the workload is too much on her why can't u help out. After all ur both in it together. It's team work on everything when necessary. If there's a help then no need to but if u can't get a help then it's not extraordinary to make things easy once once if u notice the work load is too much for little time

LikeAking:


Not me,. I have taken d red pill. Weda Coucasian or anything, I won't help her out with house shores and I won't tolorate her nagging in my house.
I will kick her out.

I now understand women beta, never treat them like Queens, except they are Queens in real life.

Woman wey once u laff wit her, she go begin see u as nonsense.. But if u kip serious face she go tink say u b human being.

Lol helping doesn't mean u should make it a duty. Once in a while when u are available u can do things to make the load lighter if necessary not as a duty

Marriage is partnership, marriage is teamwork done in love. If we were to follow biblical history, a good number of them had servants.

But, the average married man wants to be treated as lords and saviour, you want the woman to do chores, take care of everything in the home. You only want to do finance and you still expect the woman to work and support you with the finance part as well.

Little wonder, married women most times look older than their husbands and some children somewhere will have the guts to be asking what women bring to the table.

Francisanointed:
A friend of mine told his friend that he is behaving like woman wrapper, simply because he always assist his wife with chores. For instance, if the woman is cooking and washing plate,the man will voluntarily sweep or wash his personal clothes. His wife once told me that her husband usually assist him with house chores before but he stopped because people advice him that is not traditional.
As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores. Though some women tend to use this avenue to "make it compulsory thing" which ought not to be so. I think men or husbands should assist their wives in housechores. Assisting the woman doesn't make you man-less but it shows that you truly love your wife.

Women ought to stop marrying such immature men for husbands abeg.

Assist your wife with chores? You even pretend Christianity has something to do with this foolishness. Since when did chores become a wife only responsibility? In a marriage, depending on the agreement between a man and woman, chores can either be shared or even handled by just one partner. It isn't written somewhere in stone that it is a wife's duty. That decision to be made by each couple.

goodamerican:
There is nothing wrong with a husband helping his wife with house chores, especially if he sees that the wife could use an extra pair of hands. Marriage is a team effort.
Why are people on NL using "His" instead of "Her" for females these days? Is this a new trend?

Helping wife with chores or doing chores?

Marriage is an agreement between a man and woman and it is for each couple to decide how to handle chores as they see fit in there own marriage. There is nothing like wife's chores. Instead, there are chores and responsibilities for each to be decided by the couple.

Francisanointed:
A friend of mine told his friend that he is behaving like woman wrapper, simply because he always assist his wife with chores. For instance, if the woman is cooking and washing plate,the man will voluntarily sweep or wash his personal clothes. His wife once told me that her husband usually assist him with house chores before but he stopped because people advice him that is not traditional.
As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores. Though some women tend to use this avenue to "make it compulsory thing" which ought not to be so. I think men or husbands should assist their wives in housechores. Assisting the woman doesn't make you man-less but it shows that you truly love your wife.

Anyone that sees doing house chores as 'assistance' is wrong.

LikeAking:


It has never ended well. U can ask men u have done that shit in the past. The moment u become too nice and house boyish to ur wife/GF, then it's time for her to dump and get a real man.

A real man to many women, is an evil man, bad man. If she is sick make she go stay for hospital make I know say she really dey sick.

You may be speaking from experience but I also have seen this which I wrote and can confidently tell you that it didn't end their union or cause problems as stipulated, instead it strengthens their bond even more.

Francisanointed:
A friend of mine told his friend that he is behaving like woman wrapper, simply because he always assist his wife with chores. For instance, if the woman is cooking and washing plate,the man will voluntarily sweep or wash his personal clothes. His wife once told me that her husband usually assist him with house chores before but he stopped because people advice him that is not traditional.
As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores. Though some women tend to use this avenue to "make it compulsory thing" which ought not to be so. I think men or husbands should assist their wives in housechores. Assisting the woman doesn't make you man-less but it shows that you truly love your wife.

Bad to who ? you or other people if it works for you, go for it

do you marry for the people ?

It’s not bad, since she’s also giving you sex and other comfort as his wife . There should be boundaries if the relationship is still on fiancee level, it’s not enough to be doing wifely duties

truthsayer009:


As a christian or as a normal human being?

Some men grew up with their grandmothers or with parents where doing chores was very normal, nothing special really. That your other friend, when he was a bachelor living alone, who was doing his chores? Does he hire people to come & clean the house, wash his clothes for him. If he has been doing all of this things normally in his own house, so why does it feel strange now?

At the end, everyone should do what works for them. I wouldn't call traditional or modern system bad, anyone that works for the family should be adopted.

When he got married, he felt he acquired a maid.