I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

Hahah
Problem!

I hate irresponsible men

Well, he worked for it.

Does he play pool?

It's either he has a side chick, has 3.0 odds to play, or drinks.

You really ought to ask him if "spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large" is better and wiser than spending those money on his family.

If you have younger siblings, see it as your responsibility and duty to protect and ensure they are nourished when he beats or disowns you.

Your father owes you nothing, most especially in his old age as a pensioner. In the western world, children as young as 14 have started doing little jobs here and there to make money for themselves. By 18 they're out of the house and moved in with a friend or living alone. I know because I saw a lot of them doing summer job for the City of Vaughan at Summer Camps.

Give your father a break! He worked for his pension, go get yourself something to do as well.

You will not mind your business. He work for his money for goodness sake.

budaatum:
You really ought to ask him if "spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large" is better and wiser than spending those money on his family.

If you have younger siblings, see it as your responsibility and duty to protect and ensure they are nourished when he beats or disowns you.

No younger ones.

My dad till date shares his monthly pension with my two sisters all because he feels he will get more money from me.

I once complained but I just had to let them do their things their own way.

I respectfully owe him alot.

He tried for us.

I know it is painful but allow him leave his remaining years the way he wants it.

ibechris:
My dad till date shares his monthly pension with my two sisters all because he feels he will get more money from me.

I once complained but I just had to let them do their things their own way.

I respectfully owe him alot.

He tried for us.

I know it is painful but allow him leave his remaining years the way he wants it.

You don't owe him. It was his duty as your father to train, sacrifice and give you the best. He decided to bring you to the world. You can also do your best to take care of him of course now that he is older. But children should never be parents retirement plan. Now that he is paid his pension, he is supposed to utilize it well on himself and not be feeling entitled to yours because you have your own life to live. Hope you will do better to your kids. African parents need to stop that rubbish.

ireneidiva:

You don't owe him. It was his duty as your father to train, sacrifice and give you the best. He decided to bring you to the world. You can also do your best to take care of him of course now that he is older. But children should never be parents retirement plan. Now that he is paid his pension, he is supposed to utilize it well on himself and not be feeling entitled to yours because you have your own life to live. Hope you will do better to your kids. African parents need to stop that rubbish.

U are complaining for me.
How is it my problem...giving my money and gift to my dad makes me feel good and mentally balanced.

If it hurts u...so be it.
Did I tell that I find it difficult giving to him.

Small children wey think say life is all about Internet. Wake up and stop being childish.

ibechris:




U are complaining for me.
How is it my problem...given my money and gift to my dad makes me feel good and mentally balanced.

If it hurts u...so be it.
Did I tell that I find it difficult giving to him.

Small children wey think say life is all about Internet. Wake up and stop being childish.

Adult you stated that you complained at some point. Well, nobody is imposing an opinion on you.

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

Have you tried ti find out how much he gets as salary because there is no way it will be equivalent to what he earns as salary

Secondly, can't you guys seat him down and talk to him if he is actually spending it outside

At this his retirement age, he should be managing his money and not wasting it on people

frozen70:


Have you tried ti find out how much he gets as salary because there is no way it will be equivalent to what he earns as salary

Secondly, can't you guys seat him down and talk to him if he is actually spending it outside

At this his retirement age, he should be managing his money and not wasting it on people

The exact salary he earned while he worked is exactly what he's earning in pension. I'm sure of that. We've talked to him before. Right from his youth he always had lots of friends, he even trained most of his relative in school. He was also able to build two storey building and has lots of land (Atleast he hasn't remembered to be selling them lol),but because he was in active service he could always finance those ridiculous expenses but now he's a pensioner he still maintains most of his friends draining his pocket. No one asks him for money because our family size is small and all of us are doing well in on our own but Atleast he should learn to manage himself and stop the ridiculous high expense lifestyle. The last time I was with him to a function, he took all of us to a joint and spent alot on us and I got to understand that's his usual routine lol

ireneidiva:

You don't owe him. It was his duty as your father to train, sacrifice and give you the best. He decided to bring you to the world. You can also do your best to take care of him of course now that he is older. But children should never be parents retirement plan. Now that he is paid his pension, he is supposed to utilize it well on himself and not be feeling entitled to yours because you have your own life to live. Hope you will do better to your kids. African parents need to stop that rubbish.

If you are truly female then I don't pray for my enemy to marry your type

ireneidiva:

You don't owe him. It was his duty as your father to train, sacrifice and give you the best. He decided to bring you to the world. You can also do your best to take care of him of course now that he is older. But children should never be parents retirement plan. Now that he is paid his pension, he is supposed to utilize it well on himself and not be feeling entitled to yours because you have your own life to live. Hope you will do better to your kids. African parents need to stop that rubbish.

Sure, a lot of parents can decide on a great retirement plan, at the expense of their kids.

Why should I send my kid to a private school when I can send him to a public school and use that money

I remember some truly scruffy looking kids in my uni days who everyone kept saying forget, their dad has money in stocks.

Maybe that guy is the kind of one you deserve, one looking out for himself first.

A parent can decide their obligations are to provide you with the most basic provisions, which would free up money for a big retirement plan.

Be careful not to jump on oyibo ideas of entitlement.

Tunjibalogun:

The exact salary he earned while he worked is exactly what he's earning in pension. I'm sure of that. We've talked to him before. Right from his youth he always had lots of friends, he even trained most of his relative in school. He was also able to build two storey building and has lots of land (Atleast he hasn't remembered to be selling them lol),but because he was in active service he could always finance those ridiculous expenses but now he's a pensioner he still maintains most of his friends draining his pocket. No one asks him for money because our family size is small and all of us are doing well in on our own but Atleast he should learn to manage himself and stop the ridiculous high expense lifestyle. The last time I was with him to a function, he took all of us to a joint and spent alot on us and I got to understand that's his usual routine lol

A leopard cannot change its spots so just leave him to keep living the best way he knows how to

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

So far he's not training anyone again, and all his children are doin fine.

Mama nko?? I am sure she ok hersef..(she's even ok, what i am sayin) you wey dey talk, no be abroad u dey??
I saw ur argument with ednut1 on a Canadian thread on ednut friend created, so i know u re ok


So now, plss allow the baba to enjoy his life small before he cross over to the other divide.

To train pikins and manage wife no be wasa ooh, now the burden is gone, its tym to jolificate..

Abeg allow baba to flex, that is the essence of retirement sir.


But make he no dey carry woman if mama is still alive ooh.

Tunjibalogun:

The exact salary he earned while he worked is exactly what he's earning in pension. I'm sure of that. We've talked to him before. Right from his youth he always had lots of friends, he even trained most of his relative in school. He was also able to build two storey building and has lots of land (Atleast he hasn't remembered to be selling them lol),but because he was in active service he could always finance those ridiculous expenses but now he's a pensioner he still maintains most of his friends draining his pocket. No one asks him for money because our family size is small and all of us are doing well in on our own but Atleast he should learn to manage himself and stop the ridiculous high expense lifestyle. The last time I was with him to a function, he took all of us to a joint and spent alot on us and I got to understand that's his usual routine lol

Since it's now a habit he formed from his youth days, don't expect him to stop it at all

I think you guys should keep demanding from him and make him to take you guys out untill he has nothing in his pocket at that giving time

ibechris:
My dad till date shares his monthly pension with my two sisters all because he feels he will get more money from me.

I once complained but I just had to let them do their things their own way.

I respectfully owe him alot.

He tried for us.

I know it is painful but allow him leave his remaining years the way he wants it.

Thank you. If person tell me say I no owe my parents, we fit kill ourselves with fight there.

It is this attitude that got foreigners where thy are now. Dumping their parents in old peoples home. Even me wey be woman, if man look me talk that thing- I go just know say e no get better family values.

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

You don't worry bro... Good you looking after ur dad

But u can try and speak to any elder in your family maybe they can help... it's not even about the spending but the danger in drinking maximum alcohol at his age...

GloriousGbola:


Sure, a lot of parents can decide on a great retirement plan, at the expense of their kids.

Why should I send my kid to a private school when I can send him to a public school and use that money

I remember some truly scruffy looking kids in my uni days who everyone kept saying forget, their dad has money in stocks.

Maybe that guy is the kind of one you deserve, one looking out for himself first.

A parent can decide their obligations are to provide you with the most basic provisions, which would free up money for a big retirement plan.

Be careful not to jump on oyibo ideas of entitlement.

It is the duty of every parent to give their children the best. Don't go and misquote me. Parents deserve all the care in the world especially when they are old. But the entitlement and using children as retirement plan is what is wrong. Plan for your old age. Life happens and things come up that scatter plans, I know. Your children can now help as much as they can.

brightest5050:


If you are truly female then I don't pray for my enemy to marry your type

You have a right to your opinion.

ireneidiva:

It is the duty of every parent to give their children the best. Don't go and misquote me. Parents deserve all the care in the world especially when they are old. But the entitlement and using children as retirement plan is what is wrong. Plan for your old age. Life happens and things come up that scatter plans, I know. Your children can now help as much as they can.

you see that thing called money? unless you are wealthy - you will have it in limited amounts
that is reality, not motivational speeches

then we have basic economics - opportunity cost. as you have limited resources, any choice will impact on something else
rest assured, any parent giving their children the best is doing it at an opportunity cost to other things

maybe you arent an adult, and can only understand this when you are actually earning money

'plan for your future'. i am sure the money to invest and plan for the future falls from trees. and is unlimited

ibechris:




U are complaining for me.
How is it my problem...giving my money and gift to my dad makes me feel good and mentally balanced.

If it hurts u...so be it.
Did I tell that I find it difficult giving to him.

Small children wey think say life is all about Internet. Wake up and stop being childish.

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Tunjibalogun:

The exact salary he earned while he worked is exactly what he's earning in pension. I'm sure of that. We've talked to him before. Right from his youth he always had lots of friends, he even trained most of his relative in school. He was also able to build two storey building and has lots of land (Atleast he hasn't remembered to be selling them lol),but because he was in active service he could always finance those ridiculous expenses but now he's a pensioner he still maintains most of his friends draining his pocket. No one asks him for money because our family size is small and all of us are doing well in on our own but Atleast he should learn to manage himself and stop the ridiculous high expense lifestyle. The last time I was with him to a function, he took all of us to a joint and spent alot on us and I got to understand that's his usual routine lol

You dad is not going to change, that lifestyle keeps him going

Pension is equal to salary? Is he a past governor?

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

Your dad is living his best life, so let him be.
As long as he's not spending his pension on hospital bills, you should be grateful. Think about it.