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TO AVOID EMBARRASSMENT AND UNNECESSARY PRESSURE IN LIFE.

1. Put your kids in schools you can afford because expensive schools don’t guarantee good results. Just ensure they attend a good affordable school.

2. Rent apartments you can pay for conveniently. Don’t live in a house you struggle to pay yearly. If your 3 or 4month salary or biz profit can’t pay for your accommodation, that accommodation is probably not for your level.

3. A man whose wife is pregnant has good 9months to prepare, same as the pregnant woman in question. They should even plan for the worse and only seek help when it is extremely necessary.

4. Some problems in our lives don’t just pop up, if you don’t own a home, we knew we would pay rents…So its not an emergency. We know life happens and that is why savings is encouraged no matter how little try to save something.

5. Let’s plan our lives and live within our means. Save more and spend less and Invest wisely. Never invest in something that will make you rich overnight. No seed grows to a tree overnight and provide fruits, not even tomatoes.

6. Some women buy food for their children every morning before going to school or even for the whole family, do you know it’s cheaper to cook at home?

7. Some people don’t earn much, but have DSTV at home, go for GOTV and upgrade when your income upgrades. It’s still the same CNN anyway! Besides, most people pay for cable subscription they don’t have light or time to watch. Pay for the package you can afford.

8. Eat healthy meals and protect your family from mosquitoes to avoid going to the hospital always. Sleep under mosquito treated net, saves you cost of treatment on malaria. Especially if you live in mosquito prone environment.

9. Take advantage of food and fruits in season, its cheaper and you can be creative to create amazing meals. Every fruit in each season is meant to help your body fight sickness or health challenges in that season.

10.Don’t copy your neighbor’s lifestyle, she earns well and her husband is a ‘big man’.

11. Don’t follow trends, wear clean well- ironed clothes and keep your hair neat. You would still look good.

12. Keep your circle small, keep only friends that have senses!

13. Above all things, have the fear of God, have integrity, don’t be lazy and be prayerful.

14. Planning is the key, if you fail to plan, you plan to FAIL.

15. Don’t do more than your budget this year, there is no award given to best family that wore an expensive cloth for the year.

16.Don’t be in competition with anyone, The purpose of shoes and clothes are to cover our unclothedness, make us smart and good. Be wise!


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Spot on.

In a nutshell, self-respect and humility will save you unnecessary stress, pressure, and embarrassment. This is why I admire the northerners, they are so humble generally.

Nice one.

Good points.

In addendum:

1. Don't be overly optimistic. To avoid depression work with quality knowledge and reality.

2. Life doesn't always go as planned. You don't need to lament over this till death, it is life for you. Create options. Even your options may fail.

3. Don't live to please anybody. They will not come to your rescue when you fail.

4. Don't be ashamed to work yourself out of shame. You will be ridiculed, mocked, and henpecked, but as far as you learn something, gain something and make little progress you'll become better and even more than them.

5. Do good with no expectation of reciprocity. However, pen down the names of the ungrateful.

6. Everything that seems complex will become simple only if you dedicate time to it. So, if a task seems daunting and challenging, set a good time for it and repeat it until simple.

7. I'm not a fan of "saving". However, save from your abundance. Don't deprive yourself of good wear and food because you are saving for the future. Learn from King Pharoah and prime minister Joseph. They saved during abundance.

8. You may die tomorrow, so don't deprive yourself of any good today. Refer to 7 above.

9. Character, integrity, honor, intelligence, and wisdom are the exceptions, but they are the beauty that sets you apart.

10. You can easily judge people's character by using yourself as a yardstick, but this can only be possible if you appreciate truth, light, and knowledge. Refer to 9 above.

11. Empathy and sociopathy come from a place of experience and self-reflection. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

12. Respect people. But take note of the humble and arrogant. Refer to 5 above.

13. Women need protection and provision from both men and society, including men themselves - funny right? Even men want to be provided for and protected. But as an individual you must develop yourself to the extent you become less dependent on people. This will grant you leverage when they disappoint you.

14. Embarrassment and unnecessary pressure are because you depend more on people. Learn to depend less. Refer to 2 and 13 above.

15. Avoid hoods that are prevalent with crimes and animals. You don't need to act like James Bond to fools and criminals, because they are always in groups and will embarrass you. Better to avoid them.

16. Build strength and energy because a day will come when your strength is needed. Refer to 15 above.

17. Don't argue with the less intelligent. They will embarrass you with their dumbness and waste your precious time. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

18. Never be caught looking tattered and rejected. With the little you have, tend to look good. Humans fall for the halo effect; you don't know who you will come across as you step out.

19. Respect family. Respect elders. Respect quality friends. Among them are some of the people that may come to your rescue when situations get tough for you. Don't say " I don't need them", it is foolish to talk.

20. Live according to your resources. Avoid greed. Aim higher. Refer to 3 above.

21. Insist to work for them rather than beg them. Embarrassment is minimised when there is an exchange of value. Howebeit small, strive for mutual relationships. You don't want the roof of your head when the cloud is dark right?

It is time to break this stream of thoughts...

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
Good points.

In addendum:

1. Don't be overly optimistic. To avoid depression work with quality knowledge and reality.

2. Life doesn't always go as planned. You don't need to lament over this till death, it is life for you. Create options. Even your options may fail.

3. Don't live to please anybody. They will not come to your rescue when you fail.

4. Don't be ashamed to work yourself out of shame. You will be ridiculed, mocked, and henpecked, but as far as you learn something, gain something and make little progress you'll become better and even more than them.

5. Do good with no expectation of reciprocity. However, pen down the names of the ungrateful.

6. Everything that seems complex will become simple only if you dedicate time to it. So, if a task seems daunting and challenging, set a good time for it and repeat it until simple.

7. I'm not a fan of "saving". However, save from your abundance. Don't deprive yourself of good wear and food because you are saving for the future. Learn from King Pharoah and prime minister Joseph. They saved during abundance.

8. You may die tomorrow, so don't deprive yourself of any good today. Refer to 7 above.

9. Character, integrity, honor, intelligence, and wisdom are the exceptions, but they are the beauty that sets you apart.

10. You can easily judge people's character by using yourself as a yardstick, but this can only be possible if you appreciate truth, light, and knowledge. Refer to 9 above.

11. Empathy and sociopathy come from a place of experience and self-reflection. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

12. Respect people. But take note of the humble and arrogant. Refer to 5 above.

13. Women need protection and provision from both men and society, including men themselves - funny right? Even men want to be provided for and protected. But as an individual you must develop yourself to the extent you become less dependent on people. This will grant you leverage when they disappoint you.

14. Embarrassment and unnecessary pressure are because you depend more on people. Learn to depend less. Refer to 2 and 13 above.

15. Avoid hoods that are prevalent with crimes and animals. You don't need to act like James Bond to fools and criminals, because they are always in groups and will embarrass you. Better to avoid them.

16. Build strength and energy because a day will come when your strength is needed. Refer to 15 above.

17. Don't argue with the less intelligent. They will embarrass you with their dumbness and waste your precious time. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

18. Never be caught looking tattered and rejected. With the little you have, tend to look good. Humans fall for the halo effect; you don't know who you will come across as you step out.

19. Respect family. Respect elders. Respect quality friends. Among them are some of the people that may come to your rescue when situations get tough for you. Don't say " I don't need them", it is foolish to talk.

20. Live according to your resources. Avoid greed. Aim higher. Refer to 3 above.

21. Insist to work for them rather than beg them. Embarrassment is minimised when there is an exchange of value. Howebeit small, strive for mutual relationships. You don't want the roof of your head when the cloud is dark right?

It is time to break this stream of thoughts...

Thanks.

Sweet. a round of applause for mr Cave

Number 6 hit differently. CaveAdullam, you deserve a standing ovation

SavageBoy:
Number 6 hit differently. CaveAdullam, you deserve a standing ovation

Thanks you for your kind words. I do appreciate it. I promise to improve and do better.

pansophist:
Sweet. a round of applause for mr Cave

Thank you, big uncle. You lead I follow.

"Na you still win am las las".

CaveAdullam:
Thank you, big uncle. You lead I follow.

"Na you still win am las las".

Truly he wins over you sha, but both of you are really good writers all the same.

CaveAdullam:
Good points.

In addendum:

1. Don't be overly optimistic. To avoid depression work with quality knowledge and reality.

2. Life doesn't always go as planned. You don't need to lament over this till death, it is life for you. Create options. Even your options may fail.

3. Don't live to please anybody. They will not come to your rescue when you fail.

4. Don't be ashamed to work yourself out of shame. You will be ridiculed, mocked, and henpecked, but as far as you learn something, gain something and make little progress you'll become better and even more than them.

5. Do good with no expectation of reciprocity. However, pen down the names of the ungrateful.

6. Everything that seems complex will become simple only if you dedicate time to it. So, if a task seems daunting and challenging, set a good time for it and repeat it until simple.

7. I'm not a fan of "saving". However, save from your abundance. Don't deprive yourself of good wear and food because you are saving for the future. Learn from King Pharoah and prime minister Joseph. They saved during abundance.

8. You may die tomorrow, so don't deprive yourself of any good today. Refer to 7 above.

9. Character, integrity, honor, intelligence, and wisdom are the exceptions, but they are the beauty that sets you apart.

10. You can easily judge people's character by using yourself as a yardstick, but this can only be possible if you appreciate truth, light, and knowledge. Refer to 9 above.

11. Empathy and sociopathy come from a place of experience and self-reflection. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

12. Respect people. But take note of the humble and arrogant. Refer to 5 above.

13. Women need protection and provision from both men and society, including men themselves - funny right? Even men want to be provided for and protected. But as an individual you must develop yourself to the extent you become less dependent on people. This will grant you leverage when they disappoint you.

14. Embarrassment and unnecessary pressure are because you depend more on people. Learn to depend less. Refer to 2 and 13 above.

15. Avoid hoods that are prevalent with crimes and animals. You don't need to act like James Bond to fools and criminals, because they are always in groups and will embarrass you. Better to avoid them.

16. Build strength and energy because a day will come when your strength is needed. Refer to 15 above.

17. Don't argue with the less intelligent. They will embarrass you with their dumbness and waste your precious time. Refer to 9 and 10 above.

18. Never be caught looking tattered and rejected. With the little you have, tend to look good. Humans fall for the halo effect; you don't know who you will come across as you step out.

19. Respect family. Respect elders. Respect quality friends. Among them are some of the people that may come to your rescue when situations get tough for you. Don't say " I don't need them", it is foolish to talk.

20. Live according to your resources. Avoid greed. Aim higher. Refer to 3 above.

21. Insist to work for them rather than beg them. Embarrassment is minimised when there is an exchange of value. Howebeit small, strive for mutual relationships. You don't want the roof of your head when the cloud is dark right?

It is time to break this stream of thoughts...

Thanks.

Words of Wisdom as usual.