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My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Ehis8(op): 5:14pm On Sep 20, 2022*

I am 17 years old, I am done with my secondary school, I stay with my grandparents in the village, Uromi Edo state. I started living with my grandparents since I was 8 years old around 2013 when my parents got separated. My father live in Abeokuta and he is married to another woman with 2 children. Although my father has been the one paying my school fees and sending me money for up-keep, he even told me to pick jamb form in order to further my education in uniben.

My mother live in Lagos, she has a daughter for another man but they were not married. The man took his daughter and kick my mother out his house. Now my mother is Single, she own a mini bar where she do her ashawo work. She sleeps with men that come to drink in her bar. Her house is just opposite the bar.
No wonder my grandfather ban her from visiting us in village. 9 years I didn't set my eyes on my mother. So when my uncle visited us, I begged him to carry me to Lagos just to see my mother, I also begged my grandparents too.
When I got to Lagos, My mother was looking like a slut. Long eye lashes, nails, chewing gum, tight leggings revealing her bum bum & hip, her skin looks bleached.

Since on Friday evening i came to Lagos I have been crying. She couldn't even respect herself. She have just 1 sales girl in her shop, the girl is also an ashawo, she dressed seductive like my mother, she would be in her early 20s. Anytime men comes around to drink and they want to have sex with my mother or her sales girl, my mother will jst take them to her house opposite the bar.
I told her I will be going back to the village tomorrow, she gave me 25k but I rejected it. I was crying, she was crying too. She could sense that I hate her reckless lifestyle cry

I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by slan87(m): 5:23pm On Sep 20, 2022

You just have to forgive her, it hurts but you just have to erase it from your mind. Best wishes

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Helpout12345: 5:26pm On Sep 20, 2022

You must be devastated for sure. It's good you see her by yourself. Now you will be in better place to know how to do things with both your parents.

As your uncle said, forgive her because she is still your biological mother. Maybe one day, she will change her ways and become more responsible.

My advise to you is that you should not allow this to derail your focus in life. Use her as an experience that most bad behaviors are not sustainable in the long run. Be focused on your studies and if you decide to learn a trade, be focused on it too. Hard work pays.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Nobody: 5:30pm On Sep 20, 2022

Eiya sorry about your sad story, I believe your mom needs deliverance. Don’t hate her please, she’s still your mother and believe me she’s not proud of her lifestyle. Pray for her and ask God to save her.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by sirjoggy(m): 5:31pm On Sep 20, 2022

Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Helpout12345: 5:39pm On Sep 20, 2022

Rozross:
Eiya sorry about your sad story, I believe your mom needs deliverance. Don’t hate her please, she’s still your mother and believe me she’s not proud of her lifestyle. Pray for her and ask God to save her.

Very good! Hope you will give this type of sincere and unemotional advise if this involves a father ?

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Nobody: 5:40pm On Sep 20, 2022

Helpout12345:
Very good! Hope you will give this type of sincere and unemotional advise if this involves a father ?

Stop turning everything to gender war on this forum

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Jeon(f): 5:43pm On Sep 20, 2022

OK. But don't use your mom's story and experience to judge other Women.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Reinamaria(f): 5:57pm On Sep 20, 2022

It is so unfortunate you had to see your mother do what no one would ever want to imagine their mother do. What a nightmare.

Just know this; God still loves your mother, and if she's willing to change, God can erase all of her mistakes and give her a clean start.
she's your mother and she loves you.
Your love can help her too.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by wordbank(m): 6:06pm On Sep 20, 2022

Rozross:
Stop turning everything to gender war on this forum

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Weirdcamila: 6:15pm On Sep 20, 2022

When you grow older you will understand why , she even gave you 25k and you didn’t collect it .
Na she I blame , she owes you nothing! Some women snorted their own kids but she gave birth to you and didn’t throw you away .
Well Soon you will be responsible for yourself in a country like Nigeria, let’s see what you will turn into .

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:30pm On Sep 20, 2022

as much as you dont have to accept/agree about what she is doing, the supposed woman who couldnr respect herself IS your mother.... and probably the reason why its your grandparents who raised you.

remember, life aint rosy and fair to all, when you grow up you will ultimately understand that some people out there will do anything/everything to survive (but wont get a 9-5 job).

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by NemoDatQuod(m): 6:35pm On Sep 20, 2022

What exactly is your mother to be forgiven for?
Do you think she woke up one morning and decided to give her body to men in exchange for money?

It is not surprising you are feeling this way. When you grow up a bit more, you will come to understand a number of things about life. The life of a woman is hard, very hard. Sometimes, they don't have a choice but to give up their children( like she did you), marry men they don't like, open their legs for men they detest and do things they hate for money. It does not excuse what they do. But it explains it.

There is a reason why an ancestress of Jesus Christ, the son of God, was a prostitute named Rehab. God allowed his son to have a prostitute as an ancestress, while he was here on earth.

Your mother must really love you for her to be crying, because she realised she has been belittled in your eyes. You should be kind to her, very kind.

Next year, you will become an adult under the law. I suggest you strikeout on your own and go find work and rent a room and pay your own way through university. You will immediately begin to understand what your mother has been and is going through.

If Nigeria were a country of civilized beings, your mum would not have been left bereft by your Dad. She would have gotten enough off him to continue to take care of you and have a decent accommodation for you both. She is the victim here.

I am equally sure that you have exaggerated what you saw. She could not have been going to bed with every man who comes to her bar for drinks.

As you start your journey toward adulthood, start by developing empathy for everyone around you. Put yourself in the other person's shoes, ALWAYS. You will grown up well adjusted and be a better man or woman for it.

Ehis8:
I am 17 years old, I am done with my secondary school, I stay with my grandparents in the village, Uromi Edo state. I started living with my grandparents since I was 8 years old around 2013 when my parents got separated. My father live in Abeokuta and he is married to another woman with 2 children. Although my father has been the one paying my school fees and sending me money for up-keep, he even told me to pick jamb form in order to further my education in uniben.

My mother live in Lagos, she has a daughter for another man but they were not married. The man took his daughter and kick my mother out his house. Now my mother is Single, she own a mini bar where she do her ashawo work. She sleeps with men that come to drink in her bar. Her house is just opposite the bar.
No wonder my grandfather ban her from visiting us in village. 9 years I didn't set my eyes on my mother. So when my uncle visited us, I begged him to carry me to Lagos just to see my mother, I also begged my grandparents too.
When I got to Lagos, My mother was looking like a slut. Long eye lashes, nails, chewing gum, tight leggings revealing her bum bum & hip, her skin looks bleached.

Since on Friday evening i came to Lagos I have been crying. She couldn't even respect herself. She have just 1 sales girl in her shop, the girl is also an ashawo, she dressed seductive like my mother, she would be in her early 20s. Anytime men comes around to drink and they want to have sex with my mother or her sales girl, my mother will jst take them to her house opposite the bar.
I told her I will be going back to the village tomorrow, she gave me 25k but I rejected it. I was crying, she was crying too. She could sense that I hate her reckless lifestyle
I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Tinububalls: 7:02pm On Sep 20, 2022

Op. Are you a boy or a girl?
If you're a guy get close to her, but if you're a girl, stay away from her for now because you are still young.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by obinna58(m): 8:36pm On Sep 20, 2022

Nigeria is very hard bro.
Work hard, make money and put an end to this, crying won't solve anything.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by cobby14(m): 8:52pm On Sep 20, 2022

Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by cobby14(m): 8:53pm On Sep 20, 2022

Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by 2Radii: 8:58pm On Sep 20, 2022

Rozross:
Stop turning everything to gender war on this forum

don't mind the imbec!le, she would rather called the man names., Unprintable names

Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by 2Radii: 9:02pm On Sep 20, 2022

Weirdcamila:
When you grow older you will understand why , she even gave you 25k and you didn’t collect it .
Na she I blame , she owes you nothing! Some women snorted their own kids but she gave birth to you and didn’t throw you away .
Well Soon you will be responsible for yourself in a country like Nigeria, let’s see what you will turn into .

Arshewoooooooh!!

Weyrey!!

Imbec!le!!!

Herlut!!

See the nonsense u re writing., Hey!! Should I tell u that it's even better she had aborted him away.

Bird of same feather.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Cyntie55(f): 9:20pm On Sep 20, 2022

I know you feel so heart broken seeing your mother in such situation but you shouldn't have brought it to a public forum.

Do you know the emotional pains that woman is also going through? You just stated that your grandparents don't want her visiting home again. That means she already had issues with them.

Again, she already had failed marriage/relationships that I can't judge whether she was the one at fault or not. That alone shows she's really going through a lot.

No matter what! she's still your mother and she still care about you. If your mother disclose to you half of what she's going through, you might hate Life generally.

I'm not saying prostitution is a good alternative But all I'm saying is that Life is not fair to anyone.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by austine4real(m): 9:23pm On Sep 20, 2022

Sorry about that

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Weirdcamila: 9:27pm On Sep 20, 2022

2Radii:

Arshewoooooooh!!

Weyrey!!

Imbec!le!!!

Herlut!!

See the nonsense u re writing., Hey!! Should I tell u that it's even better she had aborted him away.

Bird of same feather.

Collect his mums number so you can tell her.
You are responsible for your own life , the earlier you realize the better.
If you have parents doing fine then congratulations but if you don’t , appreciate the prostitute that gave you money , life ain’t easy and only the people with good heart give out of the little they have .
That 25k maybe payment she got from 5 men.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by VOsimhen144(m): 9:46pm On Sep 20, 2022

Weirdcamila:
Collect his mums number so you can tell her.
You are responsible for your own life , the earlier you realize the better.
If you have parents doing fine then congratulations but if you don’t , appreciate the prostitute that gave you money , life ain’t easy and only the people with good heart give out of the little they have .
That 25k maybe payment she got from 5 men.

Una go dey dey run una month anyhow.
The poor boy no like d work E mama dey do, yet you expect am to collect such money from her?

Everybody no fit be like you wey dey derive joy to dey spend your mama prostitution money.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Weirdcamila: 9:51pm On Sep 20, 2022

VOsimhen144:
Una go dey dey run una month anyhow.
The poor boy no like d work E mama dey do, yet you expect am to collect such money from her?

Everybody no fit be like you wey dey derive joy to dey spend your mama prostitution money.

Who lose ? Him or him mama? Have sense

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by VOsimhen144(m): 10:01pm On Sep 20, 2022

Weirdcamila:
Who lose ? Him or him mama? Have sense

You're not getting the point. You're the one who's senseless here.. abi you see where the boy write say E dey hungry? According to him, E papa dey send am money, E sure say E uncle too go still find am small money.

I no blame you, na people like you dey collect 25k as monthly salary na why you feel say na the boy lose.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by RepoMan007: 10:26pm On Sep 20, 2022

Pray for your mama or people like her. She needs prayer o. Prostitution is by a spirit and even she cried when you rejected her work proceed but can't help herself.

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Kobojunkie: 10:26pm On Sep 20, 2022

2Radii:
:oArshewoooooooh!!
Weyrey!!
Imbec!le!!!
Herlut!!
See the nonsense u re writing., Hey!! Should I tell u that it's even better she had aborted him away.

Bird of same feather.

But wait ooo... ashawo na work. Albeit condemned mostly by the small-minded in society but it is honest work still. Dem no steal and dem no kill anyone. They provide their customers with what they request and get paid for their service. And many a successful men and women out there today where raised by mothers who had to do ashawo work to put food on the table when there was none, so? undecided

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Kobojunkie: 10:31pm On Sep 20, 2022

Ehis8:
I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

You are disappointed, and who wouldn't be. But if she didn't shun you or reject you, aren't you at least happy that you got to see her? undecided

Look, you need to forgive in order that you don't end up a bitter individual. If you decide never to see her again, that is your choice but forgive her for your sake at least. And endeavor to grow up better person than both your mother and father combined. undecided

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Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by 2Radii: 10:36pm On Sep 20, 2022

Kobojunkie:
But wait ooo... ashawo na work. Albeit condemned mostly by the small-minded in society but it is honest work still. Dem no steal and dem no kill anyone. They provide their customers with what they request and get paid for their service. And many a successful men and women out there today where raised by mothers who had to do ashawo work to put food on the table when there was none, so?

it stil does not change the fact grin

Re: My Mother Is An Ashawo. No Wonder My Grandparents Banned Her From Visiting Us. by Kollins11: 10:39pm On Sep 20, 2022

Kobojunkie:
But wait ooo... ashawo na work. Albeit condemned mostly by the small-minded in society but it is honest work still. Dem no steal and dem no kill anyone. They provide their customers with what they request and get paid for their service. And many a successful men and women out there today where raised by mothers who had to do ashawo work to put food on the table when there was none, so?

@bolded. Lol.

This gender no go kill me with laugh.