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How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 9:47am On Feb 02, 2020
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by HacheNoire: 9:50am On Feb 02, 2020
Poison him on one of his coming visits

He will die either enroute home or at home.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Pavore9: 9:51am On Feb 02, 2020
And your husband is clearly aware he is your ex?

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Nobody: 9:52am On Feb 02, 2020
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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Foodqueen(f): 9:52am On Feb 02, 2020
Tell your husband that u are not comfortable with him around.


It's like this guy was destined to ruin you,and he is really working towards it, going by your older post.


Ur husband too de free I beg.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by sisisioge: 9:54am On Feb 02, 2020
Does your husband not know that he's your ex? Orisirisi!

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 9:54am On Feb 02, 2020
Pavore9:
And your husband is clearly aware he is your ex?
Yes. We hard an issue last two years that leads to their union.
Read my first thread on this forum you will know what happened.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 10:01am On Feb 02, 2020
Foodqueen:
Tell your husband that u are not comfortable with him around.
I have told him. He said I shouldn't worry.
My husband promised to sponsor his edding whenever he wants to marry as an appreciation for all he did for me when I was single.
Just to please him, last year my husband awarded him a contract and that contract brought them together.

During my child's naming ceremony he was given our house address.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by donstan18(f): 10:08am On Feb 02, 2020
I see nothing but a married lady who so much miss the magnifying great sex she was getting from her ex and scared she'll one day fall for him if he keeps on visiting.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Pavore9: 10:10am On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
I have told him. He said I shouldn't worry.
My husband promised to sponsor his edding whenever he wants to marry as an appreciation for all he did for me when I was single.
Just to please him, last year my husband awarded him a contract and that contract brought them together.

During my child's naming ceremony he was given our house address.

Very weird!

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by OcVoice: 10:15am On Feb 02, 2020
Super story undecided

Do we have to spoon feed some of you here?

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by NwaAmaikpe: 10:16am On Feb 02, 2020
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.


Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be.
This is because I've just found out from your previous post that your ex isn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your prostitution days.

You owe him, an agreement is an agreement.
Your husband is a proper gentleman so he should understand this too.
I don't think your husband will even mind because someone who brings home his wife's ex and someone who marries a hoe doesn't expect much out of marriage.

My only prayer is that your husband is forever able to meet his financial, emotional and sexual obligations because water will surely find it's level.

What do I even know, over to Lalastic. lala and the other elders.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by decatalyst(m): 10:17am On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?


Some men can be very disappointing sha!

How can you give an ex free access to your home?

If the woman gets tempted...you blame the woman and the devil.

Please, make your husband know, I clear terms, that you don't want your ex around again. Also, he should severe relationship with that ex that supposedly does not have a serious job to do, than to be visiting an ex!

Or is your food too sweet ni? grin Don't cook for him when he comes next time! grin grin

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by AFONAMARO: 10:18am On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

I am still wondering why on earth your husband should be friends your ex, is your hubby insecure in anyway?

As for your question, simply tell your ex to stay away from your home and ensure to tell your hubby that you ain't comfortable with the idea of him coming to the house.

It's not every issue that requires counseling, counsel yourself at times

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by OcVoice: 10:21am On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

Madness on a psycho level grin

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Omar09(m): 10:21am On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

Chai Jesus. Oh boy na craze laidis oh.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Shellsploit: 10:30am On Feb 02, 2020
Nairaland and Ex sef

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SHOPPERS(m): 10:35am On Feb 02, 2020
Sometimes, men become so friendly with each other to the point of trusting way beyond what women can understand.

Though your ex is obviously overdoing things, your husband has grown to trust him and believes he won't dare do anything.

But your husband is ignoring the fact that as a lady, you lost your virginity to that same guy and can easily be swayed in a moment of flimsy passion.

You guys should stop tempting the devil. Okafor's law is real.

Stand up and explain to your ex himself that you don't find it convenient having him around. It's not that you don't trust him but seeing him around brings uncomfortable memories back and that is having bad effects on your thoughts.

Tell him to politely stay away and only ensure he comes at after verifying that your husband is at home.

Make him realize that you're not against his friendship with your husband as long as it doesn't extend to having him around when you alone are at home.

If he's sensible, he should understand and back off.

Even normal husband's friends are not supposed to come visit when he himself is not at home. It's a dangerous setup.

........

The guy might not even have anything in mind, but make him realize that it is making you uncomfortable.

Do this when next he comes around... At the gate. And turn him back on the way to his house.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 10:37am On Feb 02, 2020
AFONAMARO:


I am still wondering why on earth your husband should be friends your ex, is your hubby insecure in anyway?

As for your question, simply tell your ex to stay away from your home and ensure to tell your hubby that you ain't comfortable with the idea of him coming to the house.

It's not every issue that requires counseling, counsel yourself at times
I have done all these and my husband told me not to worry. For my ex, I told him if he must visit he should come only when my husband is at home.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Shellsploit: 10:38am On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by crackkhaus: 10:44am On Feb 02, 2020
You and this your ex...the same one you used to pay back his financial assistance with sex, the same one who you informed you were married but still he held you to your agreement about sex for cash, the same ex is now a friend to your husband with free access to your home and your husband is okay with it... cheesy

Damn, you can't make shít like this up mehn. This has to be a very good script for a Hollywood box-office thriller, OR you and your husband are probably the most stupid couple I have ever had the displeasure of hearing about.

I don't know what else to tell you, perhaps you and this ex are really destined to be together and your husband was only just keeping your cóochie warm for him all this while.
I also feel you are still sexually attracted to him, which is why I'm tempted to agree with Nwaamaikpe - a threésome has to be somewhere in the plan, because this makes absolutely no sense whatsoever by any measurable metric on earth.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by crackkhaus: 10:45am On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
I have done all these and my husband told me not to worry. For my ex, I told him if he must visit he should come only when my husband is at home.
Why must he even visit?
Una head correct at all?

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Wisest101: 10:45am On Feb 02, 2020
Madam
I guess you did not listen to the advice someone gave you some years back..i had to go back to your previous post, and I found little wisdom there.
Kindly go back and check..

He was giving you money while you kept on offering him sex. That's PROSTITUTION, but I don't have problems with that, it's common with you ladies.



Back to your issue.



MISTAKE ; When you were dating your husband, you made a mistake by not letting your him know about an unfulfilled agreement you had with one of your exes. This wouldn't have gotten to this extent had it being you told him.



AGREEMENT ; Your ex has every right to do whatever he's doing now because it was bargained and an agreement between you both, you took his money in an agreement to sleep with him, it doesn't matter if you are married or not, it's an agreement.



WAYWARDNESS ; You were a prostitute during your school days, sleeping with a man to get financial rewards is prostitution, waywardness, irresponsible and very bad. And you are now paying the price.



RISK ; You are married, if you sleep with your ex, you will regret it, he MIGHT end up blackmailing you with pictures, videos or proofs that you just slept with him, and with that he'll keep asking for sex from you.



STRANGE ; I'm yet to understand the kind of pussay you have that someone had to travel outside all to come back insisting he'll sleep with you even when you pleaded to refund him twice, this your pussay na Belgium made o.





ADVICE ; I might not be able to give you a good advice that will help resolve the issue, but I can give you an advice on how to remain on a safer side.



My dear. Don't fulfill that promise, don't do it.



Why? Because It's better to fail a promise you made out of desperation than to break the vows you made to your husband before the altar and loved ones.





KINDLY TELL YOUR HUSBAND. You can't handle this alone without falling astray, I know how hard it might seem for you to tell him, but just do it.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 10:51am On Feb 02, 2020
SHOPPERS:
Sometimes, men become so friendly with each other to the point of trusting way beyond what women can understand.

Though your ex is obviously overdoing things, your husband has grown to trust him and believes he won't dare do anything.

But your husband is ignoring the fact that as a lady, you lost your virginity to that same guy and can easily be swayed in a moment of flimsy passion.

You guys should stop tempting the devil. Okafor's law is real.

Stand up and explain to your ex himself that you don't find it convenient having him around. It's not that you don't trust him but seeing him around brings uncomfortable memories back and that is having bad effects on your thoughts.

Tell him to politely stay away and only ensure he comes at after verifying that your husband is at home.

Make him realize that you're not against his friendship with your husband as long as it doesn't extend to having him around when you alone are at home.

If he's sensible, he should understand and back off.

Even normal husband's friends are not supposed to come visit when he himself is not at home. It's a dangerous setup.

........

The guy might not even have anything in mind, but make him realize that it is making you uncomfortable.

Do this when next he comes around... At the gate. And turn him back on the way to his house.
Thank you sir. I've told him. Yesterday when he visited I franked at him and he told me he didn't come for me that my husband was aware of his visit.
He visits and 30mins later my husband drove in. They sat and talked, drank and he went home.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by heffem(m): 10:53am On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.

Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be because I've just found out that your ex wasn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your Olosho days.
Water will surely find it's level.
Oga, you and I know that you are over-mad, but I won't deny the fact that you are one of those psycho on NL who says the truth in every crazy way.... I love you bro

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 11:02am On Feb 02, 2020
Wisest101:
Madam
I guess you did not listen to the advice someone gave you some years back..i had to go back to your previous post, and I found little wisdom there.
Kindly go back and check..

He was giving you money while you kept on offering him sex. That's PROSTITUTION, but I don't have problems with that, it's common with you ladies.



Back to your issue.



MISTAKE ; When you were dating your husband, you made a mistake by not letting your him know about an unfulfilled agreement you had with one of your exes. This wouldn't have gotten to this extent had it being you told him.



AGREEMENT ; Your ex has every right to do whatever he's doing now because it was bargained and an agreement between you both, you took his money in an agreement to sleep with him, it doesn't matter if you are married or not, it's an agreement.



WAYWARDNESS ; You were a prostitute during your school days, sleeping with a man to get financial rewards is prostitution, waywardness, irresponsible and very bad. And you are now paying the price.



RISK ; You are married, if you sleep with your ex, you will regret it, he MIGHT end up blackmailing you with pictures, videos or proofs that you just slept with him, and with that he'll keep asking for sex from you.



STRANGE ; I'm yet to understand the kind of pussay you have that someone had to travel outside all to come back insisting he'll sleep with you even when you pleaded to refund him twice, this your pussay na Belgium made o.





ADVICE ; I might not be able to give you a good advice that will help resolve the issue, but I can give you an advice on how to remain on a safer side.



My dear. Don't fulfill that promise, don't do it.



Why? Because It's better to fail a promise you made out of desperation than to break the vows you made to your husband before the altar and loved ones.





KINDLY TELL YOUR HUSBAND. You can't handle this alone without falling astray, I know how hard it might seem for you to tell him, but just do it.
I have told him. I even told him I'd go report to my ex's mother. My husband said he isn't stupid for allowing my ex to visit that I shouldn't worry about my ex.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Mizwisdom(f): 11:23am On Feb 02, 2020
Your ex is using your destiny, drive him away as fast as you can. Tell your husband, both of you should plan for him, get him beaten black and blue. After severely beating him, kick him out, his dicck will never stand in your presence again.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Foodqueen(f): 11:26am On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
I have told him. I even told him I'd go report to my ex's mother. My husband said he isn't stupid for allowing my ex to visit that I shouldn't worry about my ex.

My advice to you:
When next he visit, don't open the door for him. When he is tired, he will go back home.
Stand your ground.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by b3llo(m): 11:54am On Feb 02, 2020
That Ur ex is a psychopath

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by punisha: 11:58am On Feb 02, 2020
Something is wrong with your husband.
Ur ex get spare key to ur house too? Who opens d door for him? Abi this is a post to get some validation? Why don't u ask ur husband to chose between your happiness and ur ex. No matter what happened with ur ex and in the past, it is logically wrong to have ur ex around often in your matrimonial home. This won't end well.
If I were u, I'd simply tell ur husband that the idiot who can't seem to get over u, trued to rape u and if he doesn't react, run from that marriage your husband is no good

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Meteng: 12:41pm On Feb 02, 2020
He comes mostly when your husband is not around? He's planning kpansh and believe me, hell soon succeed

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by urahara(m): 1:38pm On Feb 02, 2020
OcVoice:


Madness on a psycho level grin

It's the way he always uses this smiley at the beginning of every post that truly makes him mad

shocked

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