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Kobojunkie:
Cut the gender bull and tell me if any of what I stated is wrong.

I'm not trying to be an hypocrite here because I dey fvck olosho steady, no doubt, Nigerian girls are us*l*ss. I dey fvck them like beast.

But, I want you to understand that olosho no be work.

Kollins11:
I'm not trying to be an hypocrite here because I dey fvck olosho steady, no doubt, Nigerian girls are us*l*ss. I dey fvck them like beast.

But, I want you to understand that olosho no be work.

Again.....Cut the gender bull and tell me if any of what I stated is wrong.

Kobojunkie:
Again.....Cut the gender bull and tell me if any of what I stated is wrong.

Lol, no vex. Nothing is wrong.

Someone cannot play you again. Abeg no vex

Jesus solves most problems. God solves all problems. Just Kean on Him. As for me, I am sad and devastated you are going through this. But it's a phase, it will pass

VOsimhen144:
Una go dey dey run una month anyhow.
The poor boy no like d work E mama dey do, yet you expect am to collect such money from her?

Everybody no fit be like you wey dey derive joy to dey spend your mama prostitution money.

no mind am! he just dey type wetin no make sense

VOsimhen144:
You're not getting the point. You're the one who's senseless here.. abi you see where the boy write say E dey hungry? According to him, E papa dey send am money, E sure say E uncle too go still find am small money.

I no blame you, na people like you dey collect 25k as monthly salary na why you feel say na the boy lose.

loud am!

Kobojunkie:
Change what fact? That you lost much of your money patronizing ashawos?

That ashawos don't give you bonus for your money's worth? What fact?

Lol,

How do I tell u that I don't value sex

I can stay for three years without sex, just provide me work with a good returns which can turn to riches and wealth..

Who sex help.

2Radii:
Lol,How do I tell u that I don't value sex I can stay for three years without sex, just provide me work with a good returns which can turn to riches and wealth..
Who sex help.

You claim you value work but here you condemn another for working to earn a living?

@op.
You are right to be irritated and disgusted by the kind of lifestyle and career path your mum has chosen, it's not abnormal for you to feel this way.
But I'd tell you for free, it's a blessing to have a mother irrespective of how involved in your life she has been.
Many people will choose to have a slut mum over a deceased one (I thank God I am not in this category of individuals).

Fortunately for me, I really cannot relate with your predicament so I wouldn't really know how you feel but know this, some decisions in life were taken out of sheer and absolute necessity.

I'm certain that if you sit down with your mum to listen to her side of the story, you'd appreciate life better, knowing that when there's life, there's hope. You might even be surprised to know that some of those tough decisions were made for you and your half sibling.

I'm not saying you should promote, accept or tolerate her lifestyle either, I'm saying you should try to correct it from a position of love.

Love conquers all and I'm certain that if the roles were reversed, she might not give up on you as easy as you want to give up on her.

Make u no go turn to bigger ashawo your self in the future

IGBO ADAGE: AGWO AHAGHI IMUTA IHE DI OGOLOGO.......A SNAKE MUST GIVE BIRTH TO SOMETHING TALL AND CREEPY

Cyntie55:
I know you feel so heart broken seeing your mother in such situation but you shouldn't have brought it to a public forum.

Do you know the emotional pains that woman is also going through? You just stated that your grandparents don't want her visiting home again. That means she already had issues with them.

Again, she already had failed marriage/relationships that I can't judge whether she was the one at fault or not. That alone shows she's really going through a lot.

No matter what! she's still your mother and she still care about you. If your mother disclose to you half of what she's going through, you might hate Life generally.

I'm not saying prostitution is a good alternative But all I'm saying is that Life is not fair to anyone.

She cares about him and didn't visit him for 9 years? What are you talking about? Why do we go crass emotional when mum is mentioned? His mum is very irresponsible period. Which one is life conditions and all that sh*t? Furthermore, he has a right to bring this sorta issue to a public forum cos you can't even say this sorta stuff to a friend or relative. He will be mocked sooner or later. Here is faceless, so he can vent his feelings rather than bottling it up and getting depressed. Take care.

Weirdcamila:
When you grow older you will understand why , she even gave you 25k and you didn’t collect it .
Na she I blame , she owes you nothing! Some women snorted their own kids but she gave birth to you and didn’t throw you away .
Well Soon you will be responsible for yourself in a country like Nigeria, let’s see what you will turn into .

With your weird brain

Weirdcamila:
When you grow older you will understand why , she even gave you 25k and you didn’t collect it .
Na she I blame , she owes you nothing! Some women snorted their own kids but she gave birth to you and didn’t throw you away .
Well Soon you will be responsible for yourself in a country like Nigeria, let’s see what you will turn into .

To whom brain is given, sense is expected nah

Ehis8:
I going back to the village

Ehis this your story just made me sad. Well all you can do is pray for your mum. At the end of the day she is your mother ( you can't run away from this fact). She might have gone into prostitution to survive the harsh realities of the country.

See it in your heart to forgive her. You have no other mother but her. Cheers.

Kobojunkie:
You claim you value work but here you condemn another for working to earn a living?

Lol, so a professional assassin and a bank manager are both working to earn a living abi??

Delusional...

Forgive her bro she still ur mother, just pray she repents.
It is well.

Ehis8:
I am 17 years old, I am done with my secondary school, I stay with my grandparents in the village, Uromi Edo state. I started living with my grandparents since I was 8 years old around 2013 when my parents got separated. My father live in Abeokuta and he is married to another woman with 2 children. Although my father has been the one paying my school fees and sending me money for up-keep, he even told me to pick jamb form in order to further my education in uniben.

My mother live in Lagos, she has a daughter for another man but they were not married. The man took his daughter and kick my mother out his house. Now my mother is Single, she own a mini bar where she do her ashawo work. She sleeps with men that come to drink in her bar. Her house is just opposite the bar.
No wonder my grandfather ban her from visiting us in village. 9 years I didn't set my eyes on my mother. So when my uncle visited us, I begged him to carry me to Lagos just to see my mother, I also begged my grandparents too.
When I got to Lagos, My mother was looking like a slut. Long eye lashes, nails, chewing gum, tight leggings revealing her bum bum & hip, her skin looks bleached.

Since on Friday evening i came to Lagos I have been crying. She couldn't even respect herself. She have just 1 sales girl in her shop, the girl is also an ashawo, she dressed seductive like my mother, she would be in her early 20s. Anytime men comes around to drink and they want to have sex with my mother or her sales girl, my mother will jst take them to her house opposite the bar.
I told her I will be going back to the village tomorrow, she gave me 25k but I rejected it. I was crying, she was crying too. She could sense that I hate her reckless lifestyle
I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

Forgive her,go to school graduate with good grades
And be successful, then pull her out of that shitty business she is doing right now and establish her

HarunaWest:
She cares about him and didn't visit him for 9 years? What are you talking about? Why do we go crass emotional when mum is mentioned? His mum is very irresponsible period. Which one is life conditions and all that sh*t? Furthermore, he has a right to bring this sorta issue to a public forum cos you can't even say this sorta stuff to a friend or relative. He will be mocked sooner or later. Here is faceless, so he can vent his feelings rather than bottling it up and getting depressed. Take care.

The boy is already disappointed at what his mom is doing, so why condemn his mother the more? I agree she didn't visit him for 9 years but don't forget he also stated that his grandparents stopped his mom from visiting too.

2Radii:
Lol, so a professional assassin and a bank manager are both working to earn a living abi??

Delusional...

Do these not offer services that someone pays for?. So what is delusional about that?

Kobojunkie:
Do these not offer services that someone pays for?. So what is delusional about that?

so to you all works are good and justified so far it put food on ur table, u dont care to know if the jobber is a killer, armed robber, prostitute, swindler or a noble jobber.?so far he makes money, u re pleased abi??
delusional...

Helpout12345:
Very good! Hope you will give this type of sincere and unemotional advise if this involves a father ?

I love the question,

2Radii:
so to you all works are good and justified so far it put food on ur table, u dont care to know if the jobber is a killer, armed robber, prostitute, swindler or a noble jobber.?so far he makes money, u re pleased abi??
delusional...

My justification matters for nothing.

The dictionary defines work as activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Most people work to earn a living. They don't do what they do in order to be justified by me, or you.

Ehis8:
I am 17 years old, I am done with my secondary school, I stay with my grandparents in the village, Uromi Edo state. I started living with my grandparents since I was 8 years old around 2013 when my parents got separated. My father live in Abeokuta and he is married to another woman with 2 children. Although my father has been the one paying my school fees and sending me money for up-keep, he even told me to pick jamb form in order to further my education in uniben.

My mother live in Lagos, she has a daughter for another man but they were not married. The man took his daughter and kick my mother out his house. Now my mother is Single, she own a mini bar where she do her ashawo work. She sleeps with men that come to drink in her bar. Her house is just opposite the bar.
No wonder my grandfather ban her from visiting us in village. 9 years I didn't set my eyes on my mother. So when my uncle visited us, I begged him to carry me to Lagos just to see my mother, I also begged my grandparents too.
When I got to Lagos, My mother was looking like a slut. Long eye lashes, nails, chewing gum, tight leggings revealing her bum bum & hip, her skin looks bleached.

Since on Friday evening i came to Lagos I have been crying. She couldn't even respect herself. She have just 1 sales girl in her shop, the girl is also an ashawo, she dressed seductive like my mother, she would be in her early 20s. Anytime men comes around to drink and they want to have sex with my mother or her sales girl, my mother will jst take them to her house opposite the bar.
I told her I will be going back to the village tomorrow, she gave me 25k but I rejected it. I was crying, she was crying too. She could sense that I hate her reckless lifestyle
I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

I just want to say sorry for witnessing nonsense from your mum

That's the life she has choosen to live and nothing will stop her except God

Meanwhile wipe your tears and move on with your life without her as she is a bad influence on you

Use her wayward life to build yourself so that you will be better than her and if she cimes to you in future don't chase her away but make sure she repents and devote her life for Christ

Buy first of all make sure sje doesn't come home with HIV AIDS

NemoDatQuod:
What exactly is your mother to be forgiven for?
Do you think she woke up one morning and decided to give her body to men in exchange for money?

It is not surprising you are feeling this way. When you grow up a bit more, you will come to understand a number of things about life. The life of a woman is hard, very hard. Sometimes, they don't have a choice but to give up their children( like she did you), marry men they don't like, open their legs for men they detest and do things they hate for money. It does not excuse what they do. But it explains it.

There is a reason why an ancestress of Jesus Christ, the son of God, was a prostitute named Rehab. God allowed his son to have a prostitute as an ancestress, while he was here on earth.

Your mother must really love you for her to be crying, because she realised she has been belittled in your eyes. You should be kind to her, very kind.

Next year, you will become an adult under the law. I suggest you strikeout on your own and go find work and rent a room and pay your own way through university. You will immediately begin to understand what your mother has been and is going through.

If Nigeria were a country of civilized beings, your mum would not have been left bereft by your Dad. She would have gotten enough off him to continue to take care of you and have a decent accommodation for you both. She is the victim here.

I am equally sure that you have exaggerated what you saw. She could not have been going to bed with every man who comes to her bar for drinks.

As you start your journey toward adulthood, start by developing empathy for everyone around you. Put yourself in the other person's shoes, ALWAYS. You will grown up well adjusted and be a better man or woman for it.

Someone is talking nonsense with audacity.
Is giving one's body freely to all men the answer to all the problem on ground?

ojotobiloba1:
Someone is talking nonsense with audacity.
Is giving one's body freely to all men the answer to all the problem on ground?

Giving what body freely?

And have you yourself answered all questions on ground?

Ehis8:
I am 17 years old, I am done with my secondary school, I stay with my grandparents in the village, Uromi Edo state. I started living with my grandparents since I was 8 years old around 2013 when my parents got separated. My father live in Abeokuta and he is married to another woman with 2 children. Although my father has been the one paying my school fees and sending me money for up-keep, he even told me to pick jamb form in order to further my education in uniben.

My mother live in Lagos, she has a daughter for another man but they were not married. The man took his daughter and kick my mother out his house. Now my mother is Single, she own a mini bar where she do her ashawo work. She sleeps with men that come to drink in her bar. Her house is just opposite the bar.
No wonder my grandfather ban her from visiting us in village. 9 years I didn't set my eyes on my mother. So when my uncle visited us, I begged him to carry me to Lagos just to see my mother, I also begged my grandparents too.
When I got to Lagos, My mother was looking like a slut. Long eye lashes, nails, chewing gum, tight leggings revealing her bum bum & hip, her skin looks bleached.

Since on Friday evening i came to Lagos I have been crying. She couldn't even respect herself. She have just 1 sales girl in her shop, the girl is also an ashawo, she dressed seductive like my mother, she would be in her early 20s. Anytime men comes around to drink and they want to have sex with my mother or her sales girl, my mother will jst take them to her house opposite the bar.
I told her I will be going back to the village tomorrow, she gave me 25k but I rejected it. I was crying, she was crying too. She could sense that I hate her reckless lifestyle
I am at my uncle's place now, I am so devastated, My heart is wounded. My uncle told me so many things but he said I should forgive her, a day will come that my mother will come looking for me by herself.
I will be at iyare motor park tomorrow morning going back to the village

Sorry about your experience, Ehis. You're most likely a guy, going by your name, so I understand how much it hurts as a guy to see your mum living such lifestyle.

Your mum's lifestyle has roots in her upbringing. If her parents had been very strict with her and also had the resources to ensure she either gets good education or learn a valuable skill she would not end up this way.

Because the hard and sad truth in today's Nigeria is that a woman who has no education and no skill/handwork will still need to survive and fend for her basic needs like food, shelter and security.

If the education and skill/handwork is not there to help her find and utilise opportunities around her to meet these needs, she will default to using her body to earn income because sex is also a product that sells in the market.

Another contributing factor is that your mum likely has a wild/free and stubborn spirit and it takes a very disciplined and principled father/mother to break and tame such kind of children before they get to adulthood were they can no longer be tamed and moulded. Again, her upbringing.

So, Ehis, just know that your mum still loves you as her child but she can no longer help herself. To break free of the habit she has now learnt to help her survive, she needs another lifeline, a fresh start. She needs to be put in a place where she can learn a productive skill, she needs money to support her rent, feeding, clothing and transportation, and she needs to go to a new town to start life afresh. Who will provide the resources for her to do this? You? Her parents?

You see that's the reason she's still doing what she's doing even though it's not what she's proud of, otherwise she won't be crying. In there in her heart is a woman who wished she had good education, handwork and living under the protective care of a husband. But those are things that she will find extremely difficult to acquire given her age and current situation.

It's a hard life bro.

Just channel your pain into an energy source to fuel your ambition to succeed and perhaps help lift your mum out of the trenches. Make sure you make the right choices today and every other day ahead with respect to your education and training and skill acquisition. Flee from people and lifestyle that will lead you astray to become wayward or irresponsible. There's a battle ahead you'll need to fight and you need all the knowledge, success, humility, ambition, drive, discipline, empathy and motivation to help you win.

I just pray God helps you and helps your mum live long enough to a point where you can lift her up from her situation.

And this your story should be a warning to every father, mother, parent, brother, sister, uncle, aunty, relative to a female child or anyone who has a female child in their lives. Especially if you are male, please do your best to ensure that little female child gets the right training, education and discipline to help her succeed in life so she doesn't end up doing prostitution to survive. If they fail, you also failed.

Kobojunkie:
My justification matters for nothing.

The dictionary defines work as activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Most people work to earn a living. They don't do what they do in order to be justified by me, or you.

Hmmmm

Word on marble

Please if I may ask, which work do u do?? Let be free, and civil, let have a meaningful conversation


Which work do u do?

Do you think that maybe you have a minor problem with comprehension?

Go read a second time and you will see where I clearly stated that what the mother does is not excused, nut is understood. But even if I did not say that, if what you got from my write up was that prostitution is the only way of resolving difficulties, then you need to go and spend sometime to learn to read and comprehend and then understand.

ojotobiloba1:
Someone is talking nonsense with audacity.
Is giving one's body freely to all men the answer to all the problem on ground?

2Radii:
HmmmmWord on marble

Please if I may ask, which work do u do?? Let be free, and civil, let have a meaningful conversation
Which work do u do?

I am a "fisher of men", the line of work Jesus Christ called His followers to, and as for job description, well, my job is to believe in the one who sent Jesus Christ - John 6 vs 25 - 35

Kobojunkie:
I am a "fisher of men", the line of work Jesus Christ called His followers to, and as for job description, well, my job is to believe in the one who sent Jesus Christ - John 6 vs 25 - 35

Lol

Let be serious buddy.

What do u do for a living??

2Radii:
Lol
Let be serious buddy.
What do u do for a living??

I am being at least 1000 % serious right now.