It bothers me a great deal to see lots of baby mamas struggling to raise up their kids alone. And some of them are children of men who are capable but they just let the women alone suffer to raise their children. And when the kids become somebody in the society, they show up to lay claim on them.

I see this as wickedness that will not go unpunished. The Bible condemns it. Some of them even claim to be Pastors. I wonder what they teach their congregation.

This is wickedness. Those who neglect their children under the care of their baby mamas will end up in hell no matter who you are. The scripture says;

Psalms 9:17 The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God.

And corruption will not allow welfare department to do their jobs. We do not even have strong laws in Nigeria to check this evil. You can try it in some countries. You will end up in jail.

So, stop this wickedness if you are one of them.

some babymamas were warned to abort that child and the minute they didnt, she knew that she would be living a life of solitude....you CANNOT force a child upon a man who doesnt want one, IMPOSSIBLE! some men out there can easily abandon/ignore that child and their mother.

women should learn to STOP TRYING TO USE CHILDREN AS BLACKMAIL.

BTW pls dont give me no BS about abortion bla bla bla, if a woman can have unprotected sex with a man that she aint married to, then abortion is just as easy to do in her sinful life.

Most baby daddy n mummy are irresponsible.

Babymamaism n babypapaism breeds irresponsibility on the large scale.

U dnt wanna comit or be responsible. U will prefer balling with ur goons on a weekend than paying sch fees or feeding fees..

The matter ehn..

Stop this talk biko...

Everybody wan woke now...

I support gender equality like this...

If she can open legs,then should do the needful not wait on one ediot or simp shoulder to cry on

If you know you are not ready to be called a parent then zukwanike.

Woman use children for emotional blackmailing since 1260
No man will want his children to suffer so check d woman life style well before condemning d man
From yur write up woman never black mail before

Most baby mama's aren't worth living with.... definitely there must be a reason for a man to abandoned his baby mama .... Not all men are bad

Because they never loved their baby mamas.


There's an adage in Yoruba land, which says.......... It's the wife that we love that we usually extend hand of love to her children.


Another reason is because the so called babby daddy too has never been responsible and accountable, so, to adjust to the new task seems like an Herculean task to them.

And for the women who spreads legs for them also share in the blame.

MrBrownJay1:
some babymamas were warned to abort that child and the minute they didnt, she knew that she would be living a life of solitude....you CANNOT force a child upon a man who doesnt want one, IMPOSSIBLE! some men out there can easily abandon/ignore that child and their mother.

women should learn to STOP TRYING TO USE CHILDREN AS BLACKMAIL.

BTW pls dont give me no BS about abortion bla bla bla, if a woman can have unprotected sex with a man that she aint married to, then abortion is just as easy to do in her sinful life.

No matter what, baby fathers should take care of their children. At least, the children are innocent. You don't know what that child will be in future.

Natbrowny:
Most baby daddy n mummy are irresponsible.

Babymamaism n babypapaism breeds irresponsibility on the large scale.

U dnt wanna comit or be responsible. U will prefer balling with ur goons on a weekend than paying sch fees or feeding fees..

The matter ehn..

My point is not how responsible or irresponsible the baby mamas or papas are. The child should be cared for. Some of the crimes rate we have today in the society is because of children not being given the needed care and attention.

Ken4Christ:
No matter what, baby fathers should take care of their children. At least, the children are innocent. You don't know what that child will be in future.

so you are telling me that a man, who refuses to have a child and demand that this woman abort it (BECAUSE HE IS NOT READY/WILLING TO BE A FATHER YET), must love/care for an unwanted child that this woman decided "on her own" to keep?!!?!?!

having a child is not a game, if someone believes that they are ready, while you (father) aint, then let her take care of that child by herself.... as someone famous once said:" if women can decide whether they want to keep a child or not, then thats ok, but MEN should therefore also be allowed to abandon that child or not" (if thats what they desire).

OyeofIkoTuN:
Stop this talk biko...

Everybody wan woke now...

I support gender equality like this...

If she can open legs,then should do the needful not wait on one ediot or simp shoulder to cry on

And if she can't, the child should suffer who is innocent. I think this is wickedness. Let's have a little compassion for children.

neonly:
Woman use children for emotional blackmailing since 1260
No man will want his children to suffer so check d woman life style well before condemning d man
From yur write up woman never black mail before

I don't have to blackmailed to do what is right. I hate to see people suffer especially children. Please, let's separate the cause from the issue. You may have beef with the baby mama but take care of your child in any way possible.

nifemi25:
Most baby mama's aren't worth living with.... definitely there must be a reason for a man to abandoned his baby mama .... Not all men are bad

I am not talking about living with baby mamas. I am talking about taking care of the child she has for you. Any man who has the means to take care of his child and doesn't do so is heartless. That child could grow up one day and become better than you.

MrBrownJay1:


so you are telling me that a man, who refuses to have a child and demand that this woman abort it (BECAUSE HE IS NOT READY/WILLING TO BE A FATHER YET), must love/care for an unwanted child that this woman decided "on her own" to keep?!!?!?!

having a child is not a game, if someone believes that they are ready, while you (father) aint, then let her take care of that child by herself.... as someone famous once said:" if women can decide whether they want to keep a child or not, then thats ok, but MEN should therefore also be allowed to abandon that child or not" (if thats what they desire).

I don't agree with you. That child is not a mistake. If you didn't want the child, you should have had protected sex and stop putting the blame on the woman.

Whitney Houston's greatest love song comes to mind

Ken4Christ:
I don't agree with you. That child is not a mistake. If you didn't want the child, you should have had protected sex and stop putting the blame on the woman.

i am not putting blame on anyone, i just remind you that if a father does NOT want a child, there is very little anyone can do about it. you and I know that many of these women keep these children in order to force someone to marry them.

not everyone having unprotected sex want to have a child, just like they dont want to catch a STD, but unfortunately accidents do happen!

MrBrownJay1:


i am not putting blame on anyone, i just remind you that if a father does NOT want a child, there is very little anyone can do about it. you and I know that many of these women keep these children in order to force someone to marry them.

not everyone having unprotected sex want to have a child, just like they dont want to catch a STD, but unfortunately accidents do happen!

I get your point. But that father is wicked and irresponsible. He lacks empathy. There is no profit in being wicked.

Ken4Christ:


I don't have to blackmailed to do what is right. I hate to see people suffer especially children. Please, let's separate the cause from the issue. You may have beef with the baby mama but take care of your child in any way possible.

Correct d child should be taken care of because he or she is innocent of all dis issues

Ken4Christ:
I get your point. But that father is wicked and irresponsible. He lacks empathy. There is no profit in being wicked.

look at this issue a different way: WICKED is the woman who knows fully well she cant take care of child (emotionally/physically/financially) for the next 18yrs, but yet selfishly goes ahead and have that child.

again, you cant make an irresponsible person "responsible", just because some woman (he doesnt care about) just had a child.

MrBrownJay1:


look at this issue a different way: WICKED is the woman who knows fully well she cant take care of child (emotionally/physically/financially) for the next 18yrs, but yet selfishly goes ahead and have that child.

again, you cant make an irresponsible person "responsible", just because some woman (he doesnt care about) just had a child.

Thank you for schooling the nigga.

A lot of them get emotional but will never agree that the mother is as wicked as the father in cases like these, if not more wicked.

Why would a woman open her legs for an irresponsible man in the first place and then decide to keep a baby the man does not want?

Well, if a woman conceives and give birth in a marriage to someone she has examined and believes to be upright and responsible, it's highly unlikely such a thing would happen

Things like this mostly happen when you widen legs and get pregnant for some guy all in the name of relationship or whatever.

Ken4Christ:


I don't agree with you. That child is not a mistake. If you didn't want the child, you should have had protected sex and stop putting the blame on the woman.

OP...
After spe.rm leaves a man's balls, whether or not a child will be born is out of the man's hands... I'm other words, IT IS SOLELY IN THE WOMAN'S HANDS....

Now..
There are so many things that can be done to prevent conception even after having unprotected sex...

And if the woman refuse to take advantage of all those things and yet has a child against the man's wishes then she should care for the child without the man's help!!

The same way you can't force a woman to keep a child against her wishes should be the same way you shouldn't force a man to take responsibility for a child against his wishes!!

Isn't that the equality we've all been fighting for? ...

Ladies should be responsible for what enters their body. Will i blame a woman if she gives me hiv?

Fahvvy:


OP...
After spe.rm leaves a man's balls, whether or not a child will be born is out of the man's hands... I'm other words, IT IS SOLELY IN THE WOMAN'S HANDS....

Now..
There are so many things that can be done to prevent conception even after having unprotected sex...

And if the woman refuse to take advantage of all those things and yet has a child against the man's wishes then she should care for the child without the man's help!!

The same way you can't force a woman to keep a child against her wishes should be the same way you shouldn't force a man to take responsibility for a child against his wishes!!

Isn't that the equality we've all been fighting for? ...

So the innocent child should suffer? What if that child becomes better than you in future? You will now claim he is your child. People with your kind of mindset are simply wicked. You lack empathy.

So if you have the opportunity to help children that are not yours, you won't do it because they are not your children?

MrBrownJay1:


look at this issue a different way: WICKED is the woman who knows fully well she cant take care of child (emotionally/physically/financially) for the next 18yrs, but yet selfishly goes ahead and have that child.

again, you cant make an irresponsible person "responsible", just because some woman (he doesnt care about) just had a child.

Two wrongs cannot make a right. Forget about the error of the woman and take care of your child. If not, you might regret later. You don't know what will become of that child.

And God says such men are worse than infidels.

Ken4Christ:


So the innocent child should suffer? What if that child becomes better than you in future? You will now claim he is your child. People with your kind of mindset are simply wicked. You lack empathy.

So if you have the opportunity to help children that are not yours, you won't do it because they are not your children?

Go back and read my write up again ....
This time, do it s-lo-wl-y ...

Fahvvy:


Go back and read my write up again ....
This time, do it s-lo-wl-y ...

I read your post very thorough. I insist it is wickedness to neglect the welfare of your child because you feel the woman knew what to do. So, she should take responsibility. This is wickedness and you will not go unpunished.

Ken4Christ:
Two wrongs cannot make a right. Forget about the error of the woman and take care of your child. If not, you might regret later. You don't know what will become of that child.

And God says such men are worse than infidels.

A) again, if an irresponsible man doesnt want children, AND SAY SO BEFORE, never think that having a child will make that man responsible.

B) do you really believe that such man give a damn what will become of that child?!

C) again, stop focussing on the wrong things and instead focus on what your god says about sexual immorality and/or sex before marriage.

D) you are right....two wrong dont make a right, and therefore you should LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS....and certainly not expect everything to change because some women wants it to change.

FINALLY yeye ignorant women cannot sleep unprotected with useless good for nothing men, and thereafter expect these men to turn into great men/fathers.

Ken4Christ:


I read your post very thorough. I insist it is wickedness to neglect the welfare of your child because you feel the woman knew what to do. So, she should take responsibility. This is wickedness and you will not go unpunished.

Okay ...

As long as a child has been birthed and the biological father identified (even DNA confirmed), the man is obligated to make provision for the child irrespective of the relationship with his child's mother. It is in countries where the system is weak, that fathers abdicate from such responsibilities of providing for their children.

MrBrownJay1:


A) again, if an irresponsible man doesnt want children, AND SAY SO BEFORE, never think that having a child will make that man responsible.

B) do you really believe that such man give a damn what will become of that child?!

C) again, stop focussing on the wrong things and instead focus on what your god says about sexual immorality and/or sex before marriage.

D) you are right....two wrong dont make a right, and therefore you should LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS....and certainly not expect everything to change because some women wants it to change.

FINALLY yeye ignorant women cannot sleep unprotected with useless good for nothing men, and thereafter expect these men to turn into great men/fathers.

Because of your wickedness, God himself will lift that child above you so you will be ashamed.