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Cutehector:
well i understand his salary is little at this time. I pray that the op gets a better job to let him support his father well. Amen

God won't answer this prayer. He's only a student. Your prayer point should be towards ASUU. The young man needs to resume school and complete his studies with good grades and without distractions (like providing food and water for his father).

verifiablefacts:
Ungrateful children:
If you have only a portion of food, make sure you make it available for your parent(s),and starve.

You are supposed to feel ashamed for your father to even need to borrow from you in the first place.

All those advice,from those ladies above, would have been different had the equation had in it a mother, instead of a father.

Your parents ,they raised you, which I know wasn't easy, paid for your school and yes,got you a job, and may be you re still living under their roof.

It's your type that will rush their aged parents to the home for the elderly, just to wean them off you.

All these insults because you want students to provide for their parents?

A student who is able to meet his or her needs without calling home for money is already a blessing to a responsible and sensible parent.

Morningblues:
Wow thanks to the advice, I’ve already told him I will give it to him, because of the way he was sounding, but I haven’t given him yet… I don’t know what to do.
Just confuse

Since you have already promised him and he's relying on that promise, give him, even if it's the amount you can (not lending).

mariahAngel:
Since you have already promised him and he's relying on that promise, give him, even if it's the amount you can (not lending).

now you are talking.

mariahAngel:
Since you have already promised him and he's relying on that promise, give him, even if it's the amount you can (not lending).

I can dash him 20k and forget not borrow him 60k he won’t pay back

Morningblues:
I can dash him 20k and forget not borrow him 60k he won’t pay back

then dash him the 20k then.

Cutehector:
then dash him the 20k then.

Yea I will, I don’t just want him to feel bad for not giving him the 60k

Acidosis:
All these insults because you want students to provide for their parents?

A student who is able to meet his or her needs without calling home for money is already a blessing to a responsible and sensible parent.

Heyyy
Acidosis I have missed you

Morningblues:
Yea I will, I don’t just want him to feel bad for not giving him the 60k

Don't dash him abeg
Tell him you're borrowing him
He'll probably not return it,then you can decide to let the matter go but don't tell him you're dashing him
Give him 15k or 20k
If you turn broke,what will happen to you??

mariahAngel:
Since you have already promised him and he's relying on that promise, give him, even if it's the amount you can (not lending).

Let him lend him
Or else he should expect further emotional extortion
He is just a student for God's sake na

Lucrativress:
Heyyy
Acidosis I have missed you

Hian What's your alternate handle?

Acidosis:
Hian What's your alternate handle?

Ahn ahnnn
You no con know me again??
Therapy
Neurological...........
Remember now?

Borrow him 20k, and if he refuse to pay you back, disown him.

Morningblues:
So I recently received my salary and I gave my dad some money from inside (dash him) so today he called me and ask me to borrow him 60k Naira that he want to use to for something urgent, that he will give me the money by November. He usually borrow money from me like 5k,10k,20k he doesn’t pay and I forget about it, I normally don’t drag him.. I don’t know whether to borrow him this 60k, what if he doesn’t pay back! He is retired and I’m a student, he normally collect salary from retirement and he was the one who gave me the job I’m currently doing now….borrowing him is not the problem. What if he doesn’t pay back?? I earn 40k monthly but I haven’t received salary from 3month so the pay was 120k this month that just pass, he knows when they pay me and the amount they me. I’m confused…

If you have money, please give your father. Give him, not borrow please. A father is a father

Lucrativress:
Ahn ahnnn
You no con know me again??
Therapy
Neurological...........
Remember now?

My memory is failing me, hunie
No worries, I will go through your threads. How have you been?

He's borrowed money in the past and never returned them. It won't be different this time around
Don't borrow him any money, but give what you can afford to help him.
If it's 10 or 20K that you can conveniently give, do so.
Nobody should be counting your coins for you including your parents.
Becasue he knows you've just been paid after 3 months of no salary doesn't mean he should ask for half of the pay.
I'm sure you have some outstanding bills to settle from not being paid for 3 months.
Don't go into debt because your dad says he needs 60K urgently without telling you what the urgency is about

He's your dad. Help him the best you can. Don't expect anything in return.

Cutehector:
oh yes...i will do it again and again my dear. It is my money. I went out to eat this morning and i saw a security man who is an old man,

After eating i went to meet him and asked him if he as eaten, he said no.. I told him to follow me. He did, we went to the woman i went to eat at her place and told her to give him anything he wants.

This old man blessed my life.


See my dear, men are suffering inside. I will do it again and again and again!

Wonderful

Morningblues:
So I recently received my salary and I gave my dad some money from inside (dash him) so today he called me and ask me to borrow him 60k Naira that he want to use to for something urgent, that he will give me the money by November. He usually borrow money from me like 5k,10k,20k he doesn’t pay and I forget about it, I normally don’t drag him.. I don’t know whether to borrow him this 60k, what if he doesn’t pay back! He is retired and I’m a student, he normally collect salary from retirement and he was the one who gave me the job I’m currently doing now….borrowing him is not the problem. What if he doesn’t pay back?? I earn 40k monthly but I haven’t received salary from 3month so the pay was 120k this month that just pass, he knows when they pay me and the amount they me. I’m confused…

Don't borrow him without knowing the purpose of the money he is sourcing.

Cutehector:
then if i am the op. I will set up something that will be giving him money. Abegi. My father? Suffer in life? Impossible.

The op is still a student o. And the no he's doing, he earns 40k, yet his dad wants him to lend him 60k.

Pedrocross4568:
Tell him that you have already kept the money in a fixed deposit account as your way of saving.

@ Morningblues

You can use this advice

Morningblues:
So I recently received my salary and I gave my dad some money from inside (dash him) so today he called me and ask me to borrow him 60k Naira that he want to use to for something urgent, that he will give me the money by November. He usually borrow money from me like 5k,10k,20k he doesn’t pay and I forget about it, I normally don’t drag him.. I don’t know whether to borrow him this 60k, what if he doesn’t pay back! He is retired and I’m a student, he normally collect salary from retirement and he was the one who gave me the job I’m currently doing now….borrowing him is not the problem. What if he doesn’t pay back?? I earn 40k monthly but I haven’t received salary from 3month so the pay was 120k this month that just pass, he knows when they pay me and the amount they me. I’m confused…

You are earning 40k as salary and you are a student

Are you schooling on scholarship that you don't need money to sponsor yourself

That he got the job for you doesn't mean he should demand more than a month Salary from you

You have been giving him money on a borrow level he has never returned them back

If you borrow him this money, consider it gone and it will affect your education and personal needs

Be wise and tell him that you paid part of your school fees and need money to complete the payment

Stop giving him the impression that your salary above 100k

Use wisdom and follow him before you get into financial distress

I don't even care to ask you what he needs the money for

Aareakinwunmi:
Tell him you have pressing need, that you can only borrow him 30k. Even though your money might not be refunded

At the start of November, remind him he's owing you, this will prevent him from asking for more.

Pressing need from a person who is being fed, housed and has his school fees paid by his parents Odiegwu

Anytime you collect salary call him immediately and beg him to borrow you some cash, if he ask about your salary, tell him you are paying for a loan. Or better still use 80 percent of your salary to collect loan for the next a year. He will learn to be independent financially.

Look at it this way,

When u were in school, he would rather go hungry and pay your fees.

Op give him the 60k,I promise you ,you won't die.

See this Life is complicated jare.

Parents should always do what they can for their kids and not go overboard,try and enjoy your life small too.

Depending on your Kids is wrong.

Born 1 0r 2 kids,train them,use d Remaining money to enjoy your life instead of having 4 kids.

My popman is also like ur dad,he asks for money every week,na so so complain.

Im tired.I don double my hustle

You know what bro @MorningBlues

If you really want to get a better answer and see how twisted the world is,
->Create a new moniker,
->Ask this exact same question but let it be your "mum" in need and not your "dad" ..
-> Come back and notice how screwed up the world is for men.
-> Then go ahead and do what you think is best.

All I can say is that your dad does not have good plans for you even if he meant well. He knows you haven't being said for three months and immediately he knows you have been paid he suddenly has an imaginary emergency and gunning to take half of the money after you have gifted him sonetbibg from the said money. Did he discuss with you how you should have or invest ibsonethibg no matter how little. Sorry to say your dad is an entitled leeche that wont pay you back and you won't be able to drag him.

Parents should allow children grow