jmichael259:


tonda faya.. Won't Kids go to school? Do you yourself or the so called lady in this story spend the entire day with kids?

If dropping kids with your own mum means nobody, suffice to know that other people's mothers aren't nobodys. So face front when you don't know what to say.

na ogun go Kee you there, idiot... There are things that are basically best if a mother teach her girl Child, eg sex education, which also include how to take care of herself when she starts being a grown woman, Na the man wan do am Abi u dey mad Don't make it seem like I'm downplaying the importance of their grand mother in their life, I too was raised by my grand mother and she did a good job, but this is a girl Child and raising a girl Child is so delicate and require alot of time and attention and motherly bond and trust. Believe it or not a girl Child is better raised with the mother if alive than a grand mother or their father.. I'm not talking because I want to talk, I'm talking because I know what I'm saying... those wise one among us knows this is the truth, I wont blame ur sorry ass because u still see life with the eye of a single guy wen thunder go fire, u never born before so u fit dey mad here.. Continue

redseason:

Good advice, but what if she calls his bluff and refuses to turn up? What if there is no forwarding address to locate her in Lagos and she changes her phone number since it’s switched off? What if her family claims they don’t have much forwarding information about her? What can a welfare system do?

Oga, ASAP, get her mother arrested! In your statement rope her into the kidnap of your daughter. Inform the police they were both involved in requesting for the kids visitation to her home. She should be detained and charged as an accomplice in a kidnap case. Do this and watch her run down from Lagos with your daughter. You guys can now sit down and do the needful the proper way. There is a similar case here on NL where the MIL even prevented the father from seeing his twin for 6 years, immediately after arrest, the elusive twins appeared from God knows where.

Her scheming to talk your daughter deceitfully leaves much to be doubted. It shows the girl is not even safe with her. You would have failed your child, if as a parent you don’t even have a verifiable address where she resides, where she schools and the safety of the environment where she lives. You deserve to even know what this ex does for a living. What if she is into hook up/prostitution? you don’t want such character raising your girl child.

Get her mother arrested for what? What kind of advice is this? Better fear God. No be everything be violence

redseason:

Good advice, but what if she calls his bluff and refuses to turn up? What if there is no forwarding address to locate her in Lagos and she changes her phone number since it’s switched off? What if her family claims they don’t have much forwarding information about her? What can a welfare system do?

Oga, ASAP, get her mother arrested! In your statement rope her into the kidnap of your daughter. Inform the police they were both involved in requesting for the kids visitation to her home. She should be detained and charged as an accomplice in a kidnap case. Do this and watch her run down from Lagos with your daughter. You guys can now sit down and do the needful the proper way. There is a similar case here on NL where the MIL even prevented the father from seeing his twin for 6 years, immediately after arrest, the elusive twins appeared from God knows where.

Her scheming to talk your daughter deceitfully leaves much to be doubted. It shows the girl is not even safe with her. You would have failed your child, if as a parent you don’t even have a verifiable address where she resides, where she schools and the safety of the environment where she lives. You deserve to even know what this ex does for a living. What if she is into hook up/prostitution? you don’t want such character raising your girl child.

you did not bother to ask him if the mother has tried talking with him that she wants to take the girl before. Maybe he refused and the reason she decided to act this way. I'm not in support of the woman taking the child without his permission, for me, that's very risky. What if sth happens, she will have to start explaining story but maybe she has tried before and he refused. Also, a girl child is better raised with her mother if she's a responsible mother and from the tone of his writing, doesn't look like she,s irresponsible or the op would have used every means to say so since they are separated.

Helpout12345:


Even at that, she needs to do it proper way.

How will she do it properly? No way she would have gotten the daughter without acting the was she did. Doubt if the op would have released her willingly without court process or a fight.

Prospertochu:
My ex and mother of my triplets and I are separated. The children were with me.

Last week she called me to inform me that she is in the village and she wants to come over to see the children. I told her no problem my mother is at home with the kids she can come over anytime and she came on Monday while I was a t work. She brought foodstuffs and toys for the kids.

She texted me to asked if she can take them to her mother's place I said yes. She left with the 3 children. I expected her to bring them back today she said she is going back to Lagos tomorrow and this evening I came home I met my boys, not my girl. My mother said it was her brother who dropped them and I saw a big luggage with plenty of clothes she bought for them. I asked my mum what did the brother said about my girl he said my ex told her to inform me that she will bring her back tomorrow morning. I called, her number is switched off so I went at her mother's place, she said she left with the girl to Lagos yesterday.

I am very upset that she took the girl to Lagos without my consent and I want my girl back.

What should I do to have my child back with me?

Your Ex is traveling abroad with ur daughter.

She’ll definitely use the girl to get her brothers/her sons, when they’re all grown up.

Act accordingly and wise

Validated:
Oga, please, read this SLOWLY, AGAIN & AGAIN

No woman carry sugar for her waist. No woman can give your children more love than their mother. Even, your own mother cannot. I am not an advocate for divorce and I believe you can work out your differences, no matter how deeply entrenched they are. Even if it is infidelity. Are you perfect? Bring back your wife JUST BECAUSE OF YOUR CHILDREN. They are a priceless gift from God. A woman that gave you triplet cannot kill you, because she would need both of you to train them. Mind you, your mother could go home to rest with God anytime. Go and reconcile with your wife and see the joy your children will grow up with.

JUST FIND A WAY TO BRING HER HOME FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN

Do not create a deeper gulf in your family by going to police, lawyer, welfare, etc. Work on your marriage. Thtee wonderful words in every relationship are Sorry, forgive , and love.
Can you say, I am SORRY?
Can you forgive her? Just tell her!
Do you still love her? Just say it

Your next action:
Stop the fight, Text her and say, "Dear, please, I am sorry, I forgive you because I still love you and the children". Hear what she replies. These words work wonders in marriages.

By the way, I read your other topic about you and your wife. It all boil down to your lack of Finance. N55k is too small for your family of 5 plus your mother. Get other source of income sir

The woman obviously knows that he cannot take good care of them. Imagine taking them to the village. Why not invite his mother to come stay with him and raise them under his watchful eyes in the city. The woman only left them for a while cos she had to go and get a job before coming for the girl. Trust me, She's coming for the rest cos obviously she loves the kids. so, instead of looking for a solution on how to take care of the kids, you're talking abt a woman coming to take her daughter. i know she didnt take d right steps, but trust me, she will take better care of that child than your mother. Even your mum knows that. Your mum is too old to raise responsible kids at her age. allow the woman rest. she has taken care of you, why burden her with taking care of your kids. Me, i for no leave anyone for you o

chimeremodlyn:


you did not bother to ask him if the mother has tried talking with him that she wants to take the girl before. Maybe he refused and the reason she decided to act this way. I'm not in support of the woman taking the child without his permission, for me, that's very risky. What if sth happens, she will have to start explaining story but maybe she has tried before and he refused. Also, a girl child is better raised with her mother if she's a responsible mother and from the tone of his writing, doesn't look like she,s irresponsible or the op would have used every means to say so since they are separated.

I believe you read his story and it’s crystal clear she did not ask. No need making excuses for her. What she did is actually abduction and it’s criminal.

Lexusgs430:



Parenting is the responsibility, of both parents..... You would have to seek legal redress, so a shared custody format, can be worked out .......

What arrangements did you have in place, for their joint custody...........

The man does not have the financial capacity to take legal action, else, he would not have come here

redseason:

I believe you read his story and it’s crystal clear she did not ask. No need making excuses for her. What she did is actually abduction and it’s a criminal offence.

I also saw how some people ignorantly and emotionally feels a girl child is best taken care of by the mom. A lot comes into play in the fight for custody. I am divorced myself. My son was 6 and my girl 2. Shocker, I successfully won custody and she was 3 just yesterday. I even stopped her from unsupervised access when I am not around. And this caused her so much agony, though not intentional. No be everything we suppose post for SM. How can a woman without a known income, known forwarding address, known accommodation be talking of custody? Must everything be about emotions? The child’s welfare, well-being and safety comes first. The responsibility of the mother to be a good parent comes next.

Congrats to ur little princess. A blissful life to her.
do not forget that we've not heard from her. This is not about emotions, the story is only one-sided. If you hear from her ehn, you go vex. You are actually the one acting on emotions because you have same case as op in marriage but at least, its not your mother taking care of the kids and you sound like a responsible father. I take good care of my 2kids all by myself but that's because their father is late, but i will never let any man help me raise my kids because men don't have that much capacity to care for kids especially when they're little. and when they remarry, their wives will turn d kids to slaves. This is what i have experienced wella, so i beg to pass. Make i raise my kids by myself. I wont even ask the man for upkeep

Harmony92:
Bros the one that I witnessed on Monday,the woman arranged with her current husband to send her 13 years old daughter to Libya, according to the woman she said the girl is going there to work for her . Her ex husband found out about it and arrested her.
I wonder the kind of job that will make a woman to send her own underage daughter from Edo state to Libya .

Na edo pple work be that- prostitution. Pls, the kid is only 3yrs. The mum cant use her for that, besides, he should try following her progress

Jennifer89:
I wonder how a mother will be able to sleep at night without her children

My sister, i wonder pass you o. i no fit am. I will just die of heart attack. Ive had opportunity to travel out but when they said, i shd come later for kids, i cancel am sharp sharp

frozen70:


Is it possible you give me her contact

Where do you base

OK ma I will dm you her number and I live in Enugu

chimeremodlyn:


The woman obviously knows that he cannot take good care of them. Imagine taking them to the village. Why not invite his mother to come stay with him and raise them under his watchful eyes in the city. The woman only left them for a while cos she had to go and get a job before coming for the girl. Trust me, She's coming for the rest cos obviously she loves the kids. so, instead of looking for a solution on how to take care of the kids, you're talking abt a woman coming to take her daughter. i know she didnt take d right steps, but trust me, she will take better care of that child than your mother. Even your mum knows that. Your mum is too old to raise responsible kids at her age. allow the woman rest. she has taken care of you, why burden her with taking care of your kids. Me, i for no leave anyone for you o

Just to clarify that my ex wife and I had never lived in the city before we are born and bred In Enugu and I didn't take my children to the village to my mother. We had both lived in Enugu in the same house with my mother when she left the marriage she went back to her mother place somewhere in Enugu. The house that she visited the kids it is the same house we were living together and it is where I am still living with my mother and my 2 boys. She left Enugu to Lagos for a greener pasture and it is only 3 months since she had left.

chimeremodlyn:


The man does not have the financial capacity to take legal action, else, he would not have come here

He would have to find the money.......... Unfortunately, he got no legal rights to deprive the mother, her motherly rights and obligations, towards their children.........

Prospertochu:


OK ma I will dm you her number and I live in Enugu

Are you from Enugu state

chimeremodlyn:


My sister, i wonder pass you o. i no fit am. I will just die of heart attack. Ive had opportunity to travel out but when they said, i shd come later for kids, i cancel am sharp sharp

Seriously I just don't know the kind of heart some women have.

chimeremodlyn:


Na edo pple work be that- prostitution. Pls, the kid is only 3yrs. The mum cant use her for that, besides, he should try following her progress

Yea I believe she is the only one that can take care of her little girl.

The same ex wife you complained in May to be collecting 5k for the girl's upkeep is the same ex wife you are here in November saying she kidnapped the girl last week. Op fear God with your lies.

jmichael259:


Women whose kids are dead, boarding or abroad should kill themselves? Then, She shouldn't have abandoned them!

Do you think a woman doesn't think of her dead child even when she have other children? Even in years to come she still feel the pain.

If a child is in boarding school in the next three months the child will be home for holidays and there's also a day set aside for parents to visit.
The child can also communicate with her parents through her teacher if she needs anything.

I can never ever never leave my kids behind we move together especially when they're still tender and can't take decisions on their own.

That girl go menstruate so she is more safer with her than you Brr, so lockup

etrange:
A similar thread was created here last year (or earlier this year). A lady claimed her ex kidnapped thier son and Nairaland people attacked her for calling it "kidnap" when the guy is clearly the father. They said he just took his son. Surprisingly, the same Nairaland people seem to agree with the OP on this one. Lol... this life no balance.

Indeed.... Nigerian are very biased ..

You had a wife who gave birth to triplets for you. You are with the 3 kids, how do you think a mother feels not being with her kids?

You open your mouth wide like a shark to say she kidnapped the child.

Oga, abeg close your mouth. Do you think it is easy for any woman to be without her kids.
As it is now, una don share the kids.

Hold the boys while she hold the girl child.

You should even be thinking of uniting with your wife so you can raise those kids with parental love so they grow with each other under one roof, you are here saying she kidnapped pikin.

Abeg grow up are and see the bigger picture.

Kidnap ko, confiscate ni

cedricksly:
na ogun go Kee you there, idiot... There are things that are basically best if a mother teach her girl Child, eg sex education, which also include how to take care of herself when she starts being a grown woman, Na the man wan do am Abi u dey mad Don't make it seem like I'm downplaying the importance of their grand mother in their life, I too was raised by my grand mother and she did a good job, but this is a girl Child and raising a girl Child is so delicate and require alot of time and attention and motherly bond and trust. Believe it or not a girl Child is better raised with the mother if alive than a grand mother or their father.. I'm not talking because I want to talk, I'm talking because I know what I'm saying... those wise one among us knows this is the truth, I wont blame ur sorry ass because u still see life with the eye of a single guy wen thunder go fire, u never born before so u fit dey mad here.. Continue

God bless you

cedricksly:
There are things that are basically best if a mother teach her girl Child, eg sex education, (afterall na only women dey be biology teacher and gyneacologist?) Yes, the man can do it and guide her to responsible mothers around. I am deliberately downplaying the importance of their grand mother in their life, I too was raised by my grand mother and she did a good job, but raising a girl Child is so delicate and require a lot of time and attention and motherly bond and trust. Believe it or not is better raised with the mother if alive than a grand mother or their father.. I'm not talking because I want to talk, I'm also talking what i don't know

ur grandma cant raise d gal child because she herself was never a mother and a woman who abandoned her kids and yet to secure a safe accomodation should have right to d child dan d invested father?!

Truly, Na ur papa be d single guy wey thundr go faya.

chimeremodlyn:


prostitution. Pls, the kid is only 3yrs. The mum cant use her for that

You sound extremely naive to happenings in today's world. Ignorance is bliss.
Child trafficking, prostitution & child porn is currently a global booming menace.

chimeremodlyn:


Get her mother arrested for what? What kind of advice is this? Better fear God. No be everything be violence

child Abduction,
child trafficking,
kidnapping,
attempted kidnapping
conspiracy to kidnap.. A good law firm can get up to 12 charges on her head when caught. I may update later if i'm chanced. If u think a woman can't kidnap her own child, can a man rape his own wife? Ask a competent court

Lexusgs430:



He got no legal rights to deprive the mother, her motherly rights and obligations, towards their children.........

who dey teach una all these nonsense? First, he has all legal rights to scrutinize her income, shelter and child safety situation and deny her access to the kids if found wanting or there's a threat. Secondly, there is nothing like mother rights. Thirdly, you need to follow and read all of OP's story completely.

litaninja:
What are you even saying?

a yam wondering

jmichael259:


who dey teach una all these nonsense? First, he has all legal rights to scrutinize her income, shelter and child safety situation and deny her access to the kids if found wanting or there's a threat. Secondly, there is nothing like mother rights. Thirdly, you need to follow and read all of OP's story completely.

Who dey teach you all this nonsense.........

It's common sense and logical thinking....... Their children, their responsibility.........

He got no right to just yank all the children away, not unless she is happy to have it that way .........

You can clearly see how the yanking away, got her perfectly executing her plans. ..........

Lexusgs430:



Who dey teach you all this nonsense.........

It's common sense and logical thinking....... Their children, their responsibility.........

He got no right to just yank all the children away, not unless she is happy to have it that way .........

You can clearly see how the yanking away, got her perfectly executing her plans. ..........

are you dyslexic or something? Who is yanking who in this story? I even told u to go and read through and get the entire story.

jmichael259:


are you dyslexic or something? Who is yanking who in this story? I even told u to go and read through and get the entire story.

I only read the initial tale, that OP posted .....

He could have sent subsequent updates, that I am not aware of. ..........

What point(s) are you trying raise ....... You know this dyslexic person, is also an illiterate............

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