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Nobody can advise you because you're the only one that is living the life and know where it hurts.

You have children together, sooo many layers to uncover, you also need to know why she is cheating - if she is doing it for cruise, then you should know the next steps to take because it will never stop. If she's doing it because you're lacking in something, again, na you go know....it is not a simple yes or no situation. People advising you are not walking in your shoes so they can never understand.

My only advise to you will be to critically think and not act on your emotions, and whatever you do, PROTECT yourself!

I pray for wisdom and grace for you.

Jesus Christ! This is so heartbreaking my brother. But nevertheless, report her promiscuous life to her parents, and seek for amicably ways to resolve this horrible problem. I sympathize with you my brother.
However, do you have any children together right now?

Nextlife1:
Legally married both traditional and wedding
Was done.

diogo23:
A fool will always be a fool , keep on fooling yourself

See this one that has wasted his sexual energies on a plate of moimoi

luluosas:
Jesus Christ! This is so heartbreaking my brother. But nevertheless, report her promiscuous life to her parents, and seek for amicably ways to resolve this horrible problem. I sympathize with you my brother.
However, do you have any children together right now?

Exactly what I told him to do....but some brickbats here WEY dem papa nor pay their mama brideprice just dey put nonsense idea in op's head.

You are a good man. May God give you wisdom to overcome this trauma

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

Kollins11:
What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you?
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re but una no go hear. Your wife belongs to the street. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. A Cheating wife can kill you one day. Thats the truth. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

I would rather die than to marry a Nigerian liability wh0re. That gender are all useless... All of them.

The SIMPle man just sent her money this morning

cc Zonefree

What kind of man are you? People like you is the kind that their wives beat the hell out of them and they will come to the public to show what they are not. Pity

Kollins11:
Baba, I put it to you that she was like that. Your wife is a wh0re but you were blinded by her fake love. She was waiting for a SIMPle man to wife her quickly so she could continue her dick gobbling from one man to another.

I'm 100% sure you went down on your knees proposing begging her to marry you. I'm happy you're learning the hardest way.

It proves he is matured and not stupid. Take care

LINSAR:
The SIMPle man just sent her money this morning

cc Zonefree

Nextlife1:
We are married for more than 5 years now and I love her
Reason for me to send her to study.

Continue to foot her pills and another rugged guy keep pounding her wawa

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

Bros which kind of advice do you want again. Your wife dey Fucck another dicck you need advice.i tire for Indomie generation kids ooo!

ahnie:
Here comes another lowlife vermin.
The fact that your mum begets you thru cheating nor mean say everybody dey cheap like her.


Stupid dirty dread spotting corpse.
Product of a dysfunctional home.

lol ahnie when dem don fork scatter for Asaba.who are u speaking big English for?when I left the university u were stl a toddler ma

highchief1:
lol ahnie when dem don fork scatter for Asaba.who are u speaking big English for?when I left the university u were stl a toddler ma

Says a teenage dirtbag.
Aren't you the cheapskate that was begging for a chilled bottle of premium lager the other day?
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Paul You're a joke!
See why I told you,every woman nor dey cheap like your wife.
I spit on you.
Most of you guys are really messed up,that you would need some panel beater to beat goodnesses into your lives.

Nextlife1:
We are married for more than 5 years now and I love her
Reason for me to send her to study.

Sack her now or else you will ever regret it, am 60 years old man count your loses and move on, as she get higher in life she will be meeting people who are better than you, then ''marriage no be by force'' will kick in, she will leave, shed crocodile tears to get her parents approval

ahnie:
Says a teenage dirtbag.
Aren't you the cheapskate that was begging for a chilled bottle of premium lager the other day?
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Paul You're a joke!

lol I don’t drink alcohol ma.u too get bad mouth

highchief1:
lol I don’t drink alcohol ma.u too get bad mouth

Then rest and allow the blood of Jesus inside your life.your life is too dry.
Allow me to sprinkle Listerine into your life.

Emaprince:
loool..what the hell? This is pure garbage.

How can you blame it all on money....and also subtly pushed the blame to the man by claiming she suspects he is cheating . Well only a foolish man listens and believe what comes from the mouth of a woman.

The married men might be for money...so you should be sleeping around for money and think you are not a who.re? Even after being married? Why is she letting her fellow students fuxkk her too? For money?

A who.re is a who.re...and Nigerian women that dates several men at the same time will continue in that character after marriage. They are already used to it.

This OP also seems like a naive man. How can a man be so stupid to send a woman to school in the name of love? If he is interested in an educated woman..why not find a graduate who have done all the dirt in the school. 99% of married women in school aare extremely promiscuous much more than the single ones. Any man whose wife is in school or travelling abroad to study should have it in mind that by the time she comes back, she must have garnered more body counts from school while married to him..cos she won't let only one man hit...there is usually an evil spirit that possess them ..that makes them feel like they are off the chain and have to live life and have fun with other guys to the fullest. Looking at what married women do in NYSC camp in a short period of 21days says it all.

His wife is even a side chick and used as a sexxx to.y by other men..lol. his wife!!! Damn... This alone will make me msg her not to return back again cos she is worthless. A man of no value is that man that will welcome back a woman who is used as a sexxx toyy by his fellow men. His pride is in the mud...and the only way to stand up as a man again is to bin the dirty cheap hoe.

Women can really bring shame to men.

Sorry to say. I couldn't read all the shit you wrote next time be brief and display intelligence. Bye!!!

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

If u want to train somebody atleast train somebody with character and sense not any small girl that's looking for a sponsor. Marriage didn't even stop her from cheating imagine.

MufasaLion:
Wether you have been married for a decade or century, your actions are not justifiable. It's unwise to do what you are doing. Even the elites that their kids will end up marrying rich folks, will always enroll their kids in school, some till Ph.D. level before/after marriage.

You people (both genders) always let love becloud your reasoning hence the reason you always settle for less. Your wife was not exposed to some lifestyle before marriage but now that she's schooling, she's met men of different social class which has made her feel more valuable and reckless at the same time.

Also, men like you that have plans to enroll their woman in school should also upgrade their own life in terms of education, enlightenment and social class because women like your wife will be carried away easily by some basic things.

Women are hypergamy in nature, so it's part of the reasons you're being cheated on and disrespected.

U can be good at everything, even if he's educated and has social class the wife can go for a younger who has better looks. People cheat because they lack character not just because ure not good enough or u lack something.

Well it depends on why or who she cheated with.

From his write up I think he's not so educated and his wife is now attracted by some educated men with some change. They stimulate her senses in a way he can't. Lol

MufasaLion:
Brother, I understand you and I must let you know that you're the one putting yourself under pressure. It's not a must you marry a student or plan to marry her. Also, it's not a crime to do so but you must know that it comes with many things you'll need to overlook.

I'd urge you to ease the pressure you put on yourself. She's in a noble profession and she's gonna excel well in her career wether in or in the U.K. What you need to do now is to focus more on her character because that's the most important of all. She's still young and the exuberance will always be there, so it's up to you to decide if you wanna live with it or not.

I love this statement, “the exuberance will always be there”. It’s so on point. That’s factual

Mryacks:
I see what u did here...

You're the only one who grasped the sarcasm

obinna58:
this women will not kill us, na her school mate friend be this, he should also buy her things and beg her to forgive him for not being as hot/cool as the plenty guys she cheated with. And fight for her too
Agent of doom

Yes. When Nigerian men get married they lose themselves. They don't go through hormonal changes or give birth, yet they manage to let themselves go. They start developing moobs, pot belly and bald head

No woman wants to come back home to a bag of beans. Learn to appear neat as you approached her, how hard is that?

MufasaLion:
When will you people (both genders) learn to stop bearing the burden that was never meant for you?

Doesn't she have a father or mother that could enroll her in school? You left educated women to marry someone you'll be funding her education, what for?

Your premium heartbreak is about to start!

The worst is he is still asking what he would do? To me, supporting anyone to go to school is not a crime if you have the resources but if he or she is ungrateful just save your money for the grateful ones.

vickydevoka:
Try n give him some

Already did

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

What happened to online schools?

What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you? angry
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re but una no go hear. Your wife belongs to the street. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. A Cheating wife can kill you one day. Thats the truth. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

I would rather die than to marry a Nigerian liability wh0re. That gender are all useless... All of them.




sooo much hatred for women.please calm your nerves mbok.

Raychee:
Nairaland mods stop recycling these cheap and stale stories nah. They're old, dead and should be long buried. Try something else.

They are old, dead and stale cus you are also in same clique of promiscuous wives/GF . Shame on your dirty pussy.

vickydevoka:
Most men do marry women out of pity. Wic I’m about to do Buh I keep remembering what my dad told me.
1. She’s a nursing student in final year , we are friends n I dash her money n gift her stuff. She told me openly she like me as I know want hurt her I told her same. Buh I also to her I can’t give her 100 percent assurance for marriage. I hate to be tied up to one thing.

I came to realise most Nigerian men that got married to nurses end up suffering in de marriage. Couple with the fact that I will spend over 10 million Naira to settle down with her ( money for wedding, bringing her here and getting a house in uk).
I might end up feeling entitled cuz I will feel I brought her here, so when ever she shouts at me or nags I might get pained easily and might regret bringing her up. That’s y must Nigerian men in us kill their wife when the woman start showing up they feel they have lost.
I need a peaceful marriage I don’t need a woman’s money in marriage abeg.

What does she bring to the table? Is she productive?

Clearly men here will post one thing and in reality do another thing. You all truly want dependent wives.

Only the broke ones are looking for a woman who will struggle for them.

1Sharon:
Yes. When Nigerian men get married they lose themselves. They don't go through hormonal changes or give birth, yet they manage to let themselves go. They start developing moobs, pot belly and bald head

No woman wants to come back home to a bag of beans. Learn to appear neat as you approached her, how hard is that?

Haaa!! I don't know why I'm kind of impressed with what you said but women cheat for uncountable reasons, the hot cool guys get cheated even more
An average woman brings chaos in a man's life, that's why they should be dumped when they have shown their full self and not encouraged or be begged for amendments.
Op she'll cheat again, again and again, if possible she'll kill you and bring someone else she'll continue to cheat on, they're incompetent and hardly knows what they're doing.

Zonefree:
So, you get mind go pay bride price for an untrained Nigerian liability?

You still get mind dey send her go school.

After schooling, you'll still establish her.

All these just for procreation

Now, see the result.


To pay bride price for an untrained Nigerian girl is 4th most foolish things on earth!

LOL
wetin be 1st, 2nd and 3rd?

luluosas:
Jesus Christ! This is so heartbreaking my brother. But nevertheless, report her promiscuous life to her parents, and seek for amicably ways to resolve this horrible problem. I sympathize with you my brother.
However, do you have any children together right now?

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Life itself is a risk. Whether we're trynna better ourselves or others, we sure gonna be taking those risks.
I can relate to this as one who'd been thru the four walls of higher institution.
The pressure of passing thru it is always intense. Doesn't matter one's gender. It goes the way it wants. Only God can help in cases there. From sex demand by Alpha mates and Lecturers to rape or embracing new lifestyle thats fueled by lust.
Back then in school, I had coursemates who would've done anything I ask of them so as to get my help with term papers, quizzes, practicals, projects and exams. Some even branded me boyfriend to my ignorance and will even stage a fight or hurt another mate just in illusion of marking their teritory.
Lectures weren't different as most of them were out on a hunt for cute young guys or the brainy ones to own them, bleep them and also have them tend to their office desks.
Akada pressure no be smol one. Las las, na God dey help pesin..