GboyegaD:
I can't advise you on what to do however, let her finish her exams and then bring up the issue. During the discussion, watch out for both verbal and non-verbal cues. Process them and pray to whatsoever you believe in to guide you.

You did no wrong sponsoring her education. It is part of what marriage is about so don't guilt trip yourself. Marriage is about uplifting one another and big kudos for you for bot trying to suppress your wife.

Most importantly, if you can, do not disclose anything happening in your home to friends and family. Come online to rant if you need to. If you choose to forgive her, those you tell may never.

In it all, I pray may the peace of the Lord that surpasseth human understanding be with you and may His Holy Spirit guide you and you home in this moment in Jesus Name, Amen.

I so much respect you Sir

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

She's cheating on you and you don't want her to fail. You are your own problem. You don't need any advice.

Luminary1:


They are old, dead and stale cus you are also in same clique of promiscuous wives/GF . Shame on your dirty pussy.

Your mother is our idol. Omo ale jatijati. Anumpama.

ahnie:

Then rest and allow the blood of Jesus inside your life.your life is too dry.
Allow me to sprinkle Listerine into your life.

lol which one be listerine

Joyfulgal:


I so much respect you Sir

Thank you!

BRATISLAVA:


What does she bring to the table? Is she productive?

Clearly men here will post one thing and in reality do another thing. You all truly want dependent wives.

Only the broke ones are looking for a woman who will struggle for them.

Broke men are trying to break the chains.
Few weeks ago Burnaboy was asked his type of woman. His answer was “ woman that won’t give me stress. When you touch money na peace of mind n joy remain.
Nothing pain man pass say na you use your hand go find watin destroy you. That’s y arrange marriage is not advisable this day since morality and cultural value is at the barest minimum in our society.
Us or uk sweet Buh na marriage spoil am

Nextlife1:

She deny it said her tradition forbid it but I have my evidence already.

Whats your heart or inner self telling you on how to handle this !? make sure that you decide with a sound mind! dont let feelings guide you! think rationally!! YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Raychee:


Your mother is our idol. Omo ale jatijati. Anumpama.

Now it's clear You were not properly raised. Good luck raising kids who cuss their parents and end up as hoes on the streets.

Luminary1:


Now it's clear You were not properly raised. Good luck raising kids who cuss their parents and end up as hoes on the streets.

Hypocritical much? If you were properly raised, you wouldn't mention a comment that has nothing to do with you and pronounce me a who*e without knowing any single thing about me. Demented old man! You'd be wasting your time if you mention me again.

smart177:
Whats your heart or inner self telling you on how to handle this !? make sure that you decide with a sound mind! dont let feelings guide you! think rationally!! YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Thanks alot am grateful.

BRATISLAVA:



You all truly want dependent wives.

Only the broke ones are looking for a woman who will struggle for them.

100000000000000% fact!!!
Each time I posted here that I can't marry a doctor.People keep asking why....The above is "why"!!!

I can do stupid things in this world but I will never marry a woman who is not ready to settle as a house wife.

How can u catch a life fish, throw it into the river and expect it to come out to you back. No be juju be that?

Raychee:


Hypocritical much? If you were properly raised, you wouldn't mention a comment that has nothing to do with you and pronounce me a who*e without knowing any single thing about me. Demented old man! You'd be wasting your time if you mention me again.

Shame on you little kid. I feel sorry for the unfortunate man who takes you as a wife!

The bible said what God join together let know one put asunder. Use this verses to pray and God we intervain and scattered the ungodly relationship in Jesus name

Nextlife1:

Am not
I spent alot on the education
And we both managed together when we have nothing and she was loving caring and above all understanding. I mate her vagin.

You claim your wife is cheating on you but you are bothered if telling her will affect her performance in her exams and how much you spent on her education..are you for real man?

Advision:


You claim your wife is cheating on you but you are bothered if telling her will affect her performance in her exams and how much you spent on her education..are you for real man?

Yes am for real
We went through alot together
She cheating on me is a very big mistake she chose to make for herself.
I don't want to take away the only last thing that can keep her moving that her results.
She can get work and continue her life. Reason I don't want to come between her success.
She have destroyed me around.
I will wait till after her exams just like I said before discussing it with her.

Nextlife1:

Yes am for real
We went through alot together
She cheating on me is a very big mistake she chose to make for herself.
I don't want to away the only last thing that can keep her moving that her results.
She can get work and continue her life. Reason I don't want to come between her success.
She have destroyed me around.
I will wait till after her exams just like I said before discussing it with her.

You paid a caterer to prepare a meal for you. The caterer starts preparing it but is dishing out the meal you paid for to others.

You notice the fraud but will not challenge it because you are concerned the caterer may get distracted and burn the food. So you'll just wait till the caterer finishes cooking.

Bros, keep waiting there

smart177:
Whats your heart or inner self telling you on how to handle this !? make sure that you decide with a sound mind! dont let feelings guide you! think rationally!! YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Thanks am grateful
I have been through alot
Hoping that things will work out hoping that am in the same chapter with her.
Believing that we will achieve alot together.
And bring up our children together.
But I was very wrong.
I was keeping my self being a nice guy or just like people here said simple guy.
Am very simple because I do everything at home no time this a man trying to love his wife and care for his family.
Why am very pained is that I don't cheat how I wish I do I will not be affected like this.
May God give me the grace to overcome this.
It's the biggest shock of my life.

Advision:


You paid a caterer to prepare a meal for you. The caterer starts preparing it but is dishing out the meal you paid for to others.

You notice the fraud but will not challenge it because you are concerned the caterer may get distracted and burn the food. So you'll just wait till the caterer finishes cooking.

Bros, keep waiting there

My friend is the person that wear shoe no where is paining him.
One every body is not the same yes she have wrong me and humanity .
I can't pay evil with evil
Let her have the result that's my gift to her.
Bro we have come along way.
There was a time we don't have things to eat or clothes to wear but she was with me .
But today is different I was even planning to send her to UK by next year before I discovered this cheating.
But life goes on.
Am bagging God to heal my pain.
I keep my body for my wife alone even as she is living in school.
I don't have thought of looking after another woman.

Divorce her

Nextlife1:

My friend is the person that wear shoe no where is paining him.
One every body is not the same yes she have wrong me and humanity .
I can't pay evil with evil
Let her have the result that's my gift to her.
Bro we have come along way.
There was a time we don't have things to eat or clothes to wear but she was with me .
But today is different I was even planning to send her to UK by next year before I discovered this cheating.
But life goes on.
Am bagging God to heal my pain.
I keep my body for my wife alone even as she is living in school.
I don't have thought of looking after another woman.

Your house is on fire and you are more concerned about the damage the water used to extinguish the flame will cause to the wall paintings, then I doubt there is any way you can help the situation.

Your wife is cheating on you (according to you) but you are more bothered about how confronting her about your findings will affect her studies, then I doubt you will find any solution on nairaland.

GboyegaD:
I can't advise you on what to do however, let her finish her exams and then bring up the issue. During the discussion, watch out for both verbal and non-verbal cues. Process them and pray to whatsoever you believe in to guide you.

You did no wrong sponsoring her education. It is part of what marriage is about so don't guilt trip yourself. Marriage is about uplifting one another and big kudos for you for bot trying to suppress your wife.

Most importantly, if you can, do not disclose anything happening in your home to friends and family. Come online to rant if you need to. If you choose to forgive her, those you tell may never.

In it all, I pray may the peace of the Lord that surpasseth human understanding be with you and may His Holy Spirit guide you and you home in this moment in Jesus Name, Amen.

Thanks am very grateful
I have not told any family member both from her side and my side.
In my tradition it's forbidden for me to eat from her pot since I have find out about her cheating and I can't sleep with her as well until she perform some ritual.
That's if I chose to forgive her in feature.

Lost the only best friend I think I have
The only one I trusted with my life.
I can't sleep I can't think I can't even eat
God have mercy for me to come out of this heart broke alive.

Nextlife1:
Lost the only best friend I think I have
The only one I trusted with my life.
I can't sleep I can't think I can't even eat
God have mercy for me to come out of this heart broke alive.

See! It is not an easy situation most especially if you are a faithful man yourself. But for you to easily come out of it unscathed, you have to face the reality.

Forget that you guys have gone through a lot together. If she remembers that, she will not do what she did. At this point, look out for your interest and that of your children only. And in all you do, remember that as a man, you don't forgive and continue to live with a cheating wife!

You life is precious, guide it with all diligence.

Stevenbright:


See! It is not an easy situation most especially if you are a faithful man yourself. But for you to easily come out of it unscathed, you have to face the reality.

Forget that you guys have gone through a lot together. If she remembers that, she will not do what she did. At this point, look out for your interest and that of your children only. And in all you do, remember that as a man, you don't forgive and continue to live with a cheating wife!

You life is precious, guide it with all diligence.

Thanks am grateful.

Kollins11:
What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you?
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re but una no go hear. Your wife belongs to the street. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. A Cheating wife can kill you one day. Thats the truth. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

I would rather die than to marry a Nigerian liability wh0re. That gender are all useless... All of them.

You will not understand.

Kollins11:
Baba, I put it to you that she was like that. Your wife is a wh0re but you were blinded by her fake love. She was waiting for a SIMPle man to wife her quickly so she could continue her dick gobbling from one man to another.

I'm 100% sure you went down on your knees proposing begging her to marry you. I'm happy you're learning the hardest way.

No she is not it all started in this her final year.

Nextlife1:

We are married for more than 5 years now and I love her
Reason for me to send her to study.

are you educated
An uneducated man should not send his spouse to school without sending himself ...

You can't make your wife to become civilized while you remain uncivilized, She would drop Ya Black Ass ....

It can be comfortable for an aeroplane to Date a Car even if both of them started off on the Tarmac .

You wanna fly your wife be ready to be a high flyer yourself because the Gap in Civilisations will make you boring and Uninteresting to Her except she loves you Adequately well if not ...

Women Management is a Course Men need in 21st Century because it is anti Masculinity and anti Testosterone for a Man to Blame Woman for His Own Silliness ... That Dick ain't for Nothing as well as that Big Brain !

Use your Head not your Heart

Nextlife1:

No she is not it all started in this her final year.

What is your level of Education?
Which degree is She Pursuing

DonroxyII:
What is your level of Education?
Which degree is She Pursuing

I left nysc 2015 and started business.

DonroxyII:
are you educated
An uneducated man should not send his spouse to school without sending himself ...

You can't make your wife to become civilized while you remain uncivilized, She would drop Ya Black Ass ....

It can be comfortable for an aeroplane to Date a Car even if both of them started off on the Tarmac .

You wanna fly your wife be ready to be a high flyer yourself because the Gap in Civilisations will make you boring and Uninteresting to Her except she loves you Adequately well if not ...

Women Management is a Course Men need in 21st Century because it is anti Masculinity and anti Testosterone for a Man to Blame Woman for His Own Silliness ... That Dick ain't for Nothing as well as that Big Brain !

Use your Head not your Heart

Yes but am into business.

1Sharon:


Were you denying her sex at home?

As soon as your wife starts cheating, just know there's something that you are not doing, go down on your knees and pray, don't let another man break your home. Always appear neat the way you were the very first time you approached her and don't yell at her all the time, show her care and love so that she will not look outside, sometimes walk around naked and don't wear anything to bed, always try to catch her attention. Thanks and God bless you as you do so.

Thank you for this. Women are always advised to act this way when they encounter challenges like this hahahah