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folake4u:
This thing enter oh.

My sister, when you realise that neither big nyash nor small yansh will matter in heaven, that is when you will be free.

I am at peace like this...

Magnoliaa:
My sister, when you realise that neither big nyash nor small yansh will matter in heaven, that is when you will be free.

I am at peace like this...

Abi!!!!! Las las, whether small or big yansh e go still do the work.

Make I use this motivational quote hold body.

Magnoliaa:
The disrespect is getting too much.

Shey if not that I am already processing my divorce from Afro, how much is money for BBL that I cannot ask for?

Mscheeewwww.

folake4u:
Magnolia wahala for person wey nor get big yansh oh.

See the way pocohantas is trolling us. We wee not take it.

Let's file an action in court. Small yansh lives matter biko. Wetin big yansh fit do, our small yansh fit do. See oppression everywhere.

Lmao! The first time I heard the song, I was seriously laughing. The part I find funnier is even the small boy part. I come reason am, can small boy really do what big man is doing? Shey e no go kill imsef?

Mr Eazi is quite sensitive to sing this song in an era where ladies are endangering their lives to get BBLs.

pocohantas:
Lmao! The first time I heard the song, I was seriously laughing. The part I find funnier is even the small boy part. I come reason am, can small boy really do what big man is doing? Shey e no go kill imsef?

Mr Eazi is quite sensitive to sing this song in an era where ladies are endangering their lives to get BBLs.

Wizkid na small boy (body size) but he like wetin big pass am. Remember that video where he tried to carry Tems (with all her booty) on stage.
He fit do wetin big man dey do na.


I go wait till e reach N2,500 for Benin before I do BBL. I trust my people not to disappoint.

folake4u:
Wizkid na small boy (body size) but he like wetin big pass am. Remember that video where he tried to carry Tems (with all her booty) on stage.
He fit do wetin big man dey do na.


I go wait till e reach N2,500 for Benin before I do BBL. I trust my people not to disappoint.

After reading what Pocohantas wrote about maintenance fear catch me

I was thinking once done it's for me to go home and enjoy my big booty.

Didn't know that's just the beginning of wahala.


when I see them either bigger and sometimes badly shaped afterwards. I will just ask why don't leave they leave it the way it was?

Didn't know it comes with the maintenance

doggedfighter:
After reading what Pocohantas wrote about maintenance fear catch me

I was thinking once done it's for me to go home and enjoy my big booty.

Didn't know that's just the beginning of wahala.


when I see them either bigger and sometimes badly shaped afterwards. I will just ask why don't leave they leave it the way it was?

Didn't know it comes with the maintenance

Lmao. I know right.

All that extra wahala ontop big bakassi ehn?? Abeg, make I kuku rest.

Say no to panla shaming
Say no to bakassi oppression

This is a PSA from gloriousgbola and the patriarchal intervention

All bakassi matter. Naija Men like all bakassi (and we just told a lie)

Cc izzou.

Magnoliaa:
The disrespect is getting too much.

Shey if not that I am already processing my divorce from Afro Knight, how much is money for BBL that I cannot ask for?

Mscheeewwww.

Abeg no bring me come your pink pill discussion abeg abeg. I’m not in good terms with women at the moment. I’ve broken up with my 3 steady girlfriends

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnoliaa and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

AmazonTopaz:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnolia and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Good morning Topaz.

I will watch it later then. Thank you.

If men shouldn’t be responded to here, then they shouldn’t be mentioned either. That way they don’t have to respond to you and be left hanging. Simple pink pill courtesy.

AmazonTopaz:
Good morning Magnolia and folake this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Alright, dear.

Will you a feedback when I am done watching.

pocohantas:
If men shouldn’t be responded to here, then they shouldn’t be mentioned either. That way they don’t have to respond to you and be left hanging. Simple pink pill courtesy.

My bad.

I wasn't even going to respond to him in here...

Won't break that rule again.

AmazonTopaz: Good morning Magnolia his is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Okay... so I've watched it this.

First, I must say it is an interesting discussion.

There's no time they never have an interesting topic, anyway, so...

They all raised pretty important points and great perspectives on the matter.

I still felt like Morayo's question was not addressed in-depth maybe because of the time.

One thing that jumped out to me is ... indoctrination. She was asking if those women's testimonies over their children's successes is enough compensation for the years of abuse they spent, and I agree with Nymah's (?) point that it is different for individual women.

I think for something to count as a wrongdoing to some extent and in some cases, the participant has to first of all see their situation as an aberration. But these women grew up seeing that dynamic as normal. Suffer in marriage for your children.

And it might seem absurd to us, but if they consider their children's success celebrations and the testimonies they'll give on that day as a reward ... well, so be it for them.

And I think we should really cut them some slack...so long as they are not trying to propagate and to preach with their experiences as the norm.

Magnoliaa:
Okay... so I've watched it this.

First, I must say it is an interesting discussion.

There's no time they never have an interesting topic, anyway, so...

They all raised pretty important points and great perspectives on the matter.

I still felt like Morayo's question was not addressed in-depth maybe because of the time.

One thing that jumped out to me is ... indoctrination. She was asking if those women's testimonies over their children's successes is enough compensation for the years of abuse they spent, and I agree with Nymah's (?) point that it is different for individual women.

I think for something to count as a wrongdoing to some extent and in some cases, the participant has to first of all see their situation as an aberration. But these women grew up seeing that dynamic as normal. Suffer in marriage for your children.

And it might seem absurd to us, but if they consider their children's success celebrations and the testimonies they'll give on that day as a reward ... well, so be it for them.

And I think we should really cut them some slack...so long as they are not trying to propagate and to preach with their experiences as the norm.

Oh wow, are you an ardent viewer of the programme like me?

In a nutshell, we all marry for different reasons. A lot of women of old and even today remained in marriages for various reasons today it is not always the case because women of today will not take in what our mothers did. It's one of the reasons why I am not too keen on the longevity of marriage but rather was the marriage long or short healthy and were the partners happy? It's the most important thing hence I have nothing against divorce because it has saved the mental health of some people and prevented other terrible things.
Many will not see it this way but rather be fixated on longevity of marriage because they misconstrue it for success.

Folake4u, your opinion

AmazonTopaz:
Oh wow, are you an ardent viewer of the programme like me?

Yes.

I was an ardent listener...just before I went to school.

Now I don't even even really keep up like that that much.

I love talk shows and programs, even on the radio, a lot.

Yes.

Times have changed definitely.

I think one reason why people liken longevity to success is probably because they feel that for a marriage to have survived that long, then no how no how, the couples would have learnt to live with themselves. And they count that as success.

Magnoliaa:
Yes.

I was an ardent listener...just before I went to school.

Now I don't even even really keep up like that that much.

I love talk shows and programs, even on the radio, a lot.

Yes.

Times have changed definitely.

I think one reason why people liken longevity to success is probably because they feel that for a marriage to have survived that long, then no how no how, the couples would have learnt to live with themselves. And they count that as success.

@bold, even when the environment is toxic and they are living like strangers. Nigerians can be easily fooled

AmazonTopaz:
@bold, even when the environment is toxic and they are living like strangers. Nigerians can be easily fooled

Like.

We care so much about appearances.

And in a very unhealthy way, as you said

pocohantas:
If men shouldn’t be responded to here, then they shouldn’t be mentioned either. That way they don’t have to respond to you and be left hanging. Simple pink pill courtesy.

Well said. Although sometimes we forget because we don’t really have beef with them. Na nature cos am.

AmazonTopaz:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8MTuN4q8JE

Good morning Magnolia and folake4u this is an interesting video I would love for you to please watch when you are less busy.

Hello Topaz! My apologies for the late reply.

My humble opinion:

A long lasting marriage does not necessarily mean a happy home.

Take for instance, the useless and jobless redpill cretins that usually chant "My mother has been married for 40years and she endured throughout... Nigerian girls(including their sisters and nieces) are useless" etc. They know the truth deep down in their hearts but too embarrassed to admit that their mothers were married for 40 years living in toil and agony. If really their mothers' long lasting marriage equated a happy home, why then are they bitter? Why do they not respect women?
A happy home begets happy children. Right? No?

Personally, I do not rate marriages based on longevity, it also doesn't necessarily represent its success because some of them experienced abuse in all forms, emotional torture and infidelity.
I rate marriages by how HAPPY both parties are. So yeah HAPPY MARRIAGES over LONGEVITY MARRIAGES.

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One important point from that video is "Do you treat your spouse the way you want someone to treat your children?"

It is something to ponder on.


Another interesting question asked is "Does a woman's success( through her children being successful or graduates) outweigh the suffering of 40 years marriage?"

Personally, my answer is "What if you don't live to enjoy the fruits of your labour?"
One cannot really determine these things.

This late "Ekueme" crooner that was abused by her husband still remains fresh in my memory. Despite her staying back in the marriage (due to her own reasons) whatsoever, probably she thought she'd just "endure" just because of the kids and enjoy the fruits of her endurance, it led to her death.
And there are so many sad tales out there.
But oh well, one man's meat is another's poison.

In this part of our continent, Nigerians judge from the outside and conclude a perfect marriage from IG pictures and the likes, I think we should learn to value and normalize healthy marriages. The reward for Marriage is not for who suffer pass please. Gosh!

If I ever get married, that part where they exchange their vows and say "For richer, for poorer" , best believe when it's my turn I'm saying "For richer, for richer". Biko nu.

And also,children usually pick up on abuse even if and when their parents try to hide it. You can't hide abuse from children, it is not possible. That's why they pick up all those negative energy from their parents such as narcissistic tendencies. More reason we have so many toxic and dysfunctional people in the society today. Check the likes of Elon Musk and Donald Trump. Narcissistic attitudes. Check their background.

It is better to be open with children and tell them the realities of marriage so they do not make the same mistake their parents made. This is based on the fact that most of our old folks have long lasting TERRIBLE marriages and these children are traumatized from how they were raised.

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I like the fact that Yeni was honest about her marriage lasting for only 2 years, did co-parenting and raised a healthy child.
Co-parenting is a really nice idea if both parties calm down and there's maturity on both ends. It should be normalized in Nigeria in the interest of the children.

My humble opinion again.

I come in peace.

folake4u:
Hello Topaz! My apologies for the late reply.

My humble opinion:

A long lasting marriage does not necessarily mean a happy home.

Take for instance, the useless and jobless redpill cretins that usually chant "My mother has been married for 40years and she endured throughout... Nigerian girls(including their sisters and nieces) are useless" etc. They know the truth deep down in their hearts but too embarrassed to admit that their mothers were married for 40 years living in toil and agony. If really their mothers' long lasting marriage equated a happy home, why then are they bitter? Why do they not respect women?
A happy home begets happy children. Right? No?

Personally, I do not rate marriages based on longevity, it also doesn't necessarily represent its success because some of them experienced abuse in all forms, emotional torture and infidelity.
I rate marriages by how HAPPY both parties are. So yeah HAPPY MARRIAGES over LONGEVITY MARRIAGES.

_________________________________________________
One important point from that video is "Do you treat your spouse the way you want someone to treat your children?"

It is something to ponder on.


Another interesting question asked is "Does a woman's success( through her children being successful or graduates) outweigh the suffering of 40 years marriage?"

Personally, my answer is "What if you don't live to enjoy the fruits of your labour?"
One cannot really determine these things.

This late "Ekueme" crooner that was abused by her husband still remains fresh in my memory. Despite her staying back in the marriage (due to her own reasons) whatsoever, probably she thought she'd just "endure" just because of the kids and enjoy the fruits of her endurance, it led to her death.
And there are so many sad tales out there.
But oh well, one man's meat is another's poison.

In this part of our continent, Nigerians judge from the outside and conclude a perfect marriage from IG pictures and the likes, I think we should learn to value and normalize healthy marriages. The reward for Marriage is not for who suffer pass please. Gosh!

If I ever get married, that part where they exchange their vows and say "For richer, for pooer" , best believe when it's my turn I'm saying "For richer, for richer". Biko nu.

And also,children usually pick up on abuse even if and when their parents try to hide it. You can't hide abuse from children, it is not possible. That's why they pick up all those negative energy from their parents such as narcissistic tendencies. More reason we have so many toxic and dysfunctional people in the society today. Check the likes of Elon Musk and Donald Trump. Narcissistic attitudes. Check their background.

It is better to be open with children and tell them the realities of marriage so they do not make the same mistake their parents made. This is based on the fact that most of our old folks have long lasting TERRIBLE marriages and these children are traumatized from how they were raised.

_________________________________________________
I like the fact that Morayo was honest about her marriage lasting for only 2 years, did co-parenting and raised a healthy child.
Co-parenting is a really nice idea if both parties calm down and there's maturity on both ends. It should be normalized on Nigeria in the interest of the children.

My humble opinion again.

I come in peace.

It's Madam Yeni's marriage that lasted two years. Morayo is still married.
I agree with you and thanks for your input.
You mentioned those two narcissist Trump and Musk let me not even talk because I dislike them both and you are right about their background.

AmazonTopaz:
It's Madam Yeni's marriage that lasted two years. Morayo is still married.
I agree with you and thanks for your input.
You mentioned those two narcissist Trump and Musk let me not even talk because I dislike them both and you are right about their background.

My apologies. I've edited the name now.

I know right!!!!! Those two men are something else entirely.
I know say you nor like them.


You're welcome Mami.

Pocohantas these orchids are like 3 months olds (give it take). And still going strong. I just figured out how to care for them so they don’t die as easily as they used to.

So let’s just say I lied to you the first time about 1 month life span.
Only water sparingly once a month. And if the leaves die, they’ll sprout again. Don’t throw them away. They are actually supposed to last a few years. You can repot it into a bigger pot if it gets too big for the pot it came in.

cococandy:
Pocohantas these orchids are like 3 months olds (give it take). And still going strong. I just figured out how to care for them so they don’t die as easily as they used to.

So let’s just say I lied to you the first time about 1 month life span.
Only water sparingly once a month. And if the leaves die, they’ll sprout again. Don’t throw them away. They are actually supposed to last a few years. You can repot it into a bigger pot if it gets too big for the pot it came in.

What did you do differently this time?

The problem is I don’t want to be a plant mum. I see them on TikTok and it sure takes a lot of dedication. Plant nutrients, some kind water, changing the water regularly…etc. I won’t keep up. I discovered this flower shop in VI and hope to visit someday…

pocohantas:
What did you do differently this time?

The problem is I don’t want to be a plant mum. I see them on TikTok and it sure takes a lot of dedication. Plant nutrients, some kind water, changing the water regularly…etc. I won’t keep up. I discovered this flower shop in VI and hope to visit someday…

I stopped watering it too much. That’s what I did differently this time.

Before you water, feel the medium (it doesn’t use soul just medium). If it feels damp, don’t water. Wait for it to dry out before lightly watering again.

https://orchideria.com/orchid-potting-mix-the-right-and-wrong-medium/

cococandy:
I stopped watering it too much. That’s what I did differently this time.

Before you water, feel the medium (it doesn’t use soul just medium). If it feels damp, don’t water. Wait for it to dry out before lightly watering again.

https://orchideria.com/orchid-potting-mix-the-right-and-wrong-medium/

Wow! Easy peasy! Sounds like my kinda thing. I’ll keep this in mind, sis. Thank you.

Magnoliaa I'm really glad Greta Thunberg finished Andrew Tate with that tweet. That guy's just an ediot.

folake4u:
Magnolia I'm really glad Greta Thunberg finished Andrew Tate with that tweet. That guy's just an ediot.

She murdered him!

I was just laughing my head off reading those tweets.

Just #smalldickenergy in Twitter's search bar. Tate is now synonymous with that expression now.

And for a lot of people just knowing for the first time, that's what they'll come to know him as.

Magnoliaa:
She murdered him!

I was just laughing my head off reading those tweets.

Just #smalldickenergy in Twitter's search bar. Tate is now synonymous with that expression now.

And for a lot of people just knowing for the first time, that's what they'll come to know him as.

I know right! It's almost the end of the year and she dropped a missile.

He should give it a rest already. Dude is clearly losing his relevance these days.

err, is this supposed to be a thread where we share stories of great guys we've dated/hope to date or one where we post pix cute pix of guys off the net

This would have been an interestingly awesome discussion for this thread.

But mendem and monitoring spirits nor go allow us rest...

Pocohantas, mama de mama herself, Happy New Year. ❤❤ .

Folake4u, my sweet small head esqwaya of perspire chambers, happpppyyyyyyy new year. ❤❤ .

Persephone1, my comrade, and one and only LOML and kickass co-fighter, happy new year ❤.

Ishilove, my mummy GO in the Lord that tries to prevent me from going astray online, happy new year ❤❤❤.

Ahnie, cococandy, geminita, klass99, AmazonTopaz, primadonnaO, farfalla and the rest of other pinkpillers ... Happy New Year to you guys.

I wish y'all and yours nothing but fantastic and marvelous experiences!

folake4u, my sweet small head esqwaya of perspire chambers, happpppyyyyyyy new year. ❤❤ kiss.

Thank you soooooo much Magnoliaa baby!!!

Happy New Year to you and yours.❤❤


Happy New Year to all amazing pinkpillers. You rock!

Magnoliaa:
Pocohantas, mama de mama herself, Happy New Year. ❤❤ .

I wish y'all and yours nothing but fantastic and marvelous experiences!

Mango baby. One and only onijogbon!
Thanks for the new year wishes. I wish all of us the best this 2023.