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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by kazyhm(m): 5:14pm On Dec 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. WOW! shocked
2. CHEEZUSSSSS! shocked
3. Aye!! shocked

Well, just so you know, the Law has declared marriage abandonment, which it admits is typical in Nigeria, a criminal offense! lipsrsealed
https://www.nairaland.com/7492801/abandon-spouse-go-jail-three#119359476

So I have read the thread about the abandonment law.....that is actually a shabby law.......the burden of proves will render this law inactive......
Incase of unwanted pregnancy, DNA would be required.....
In a case of marriage, circumstances would have to be proven beyond reasonable doubt...

So you think this law will solve any problem ant all ?

Meanwhile, the law stipulated fine option as well.

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Udemzy05: 11:50am On Dec 25, 2022
Wetin men really want?
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by tctrills: 11:53am On Dec 25, 2022
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If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/
It doesn't even make sense, even your kids do not do all you tell them to do.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Exceed15: 11:54am On Dec 25, 2022
It's your opinion though. Stay with what works you in your marriage.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by yinkeys(m): 11:55am On Dec 25, 2022
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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by seanwilliam(m): 11:56am On Dec 25, 2022
brain54:

Sending wives to their parents wasn’t divorce…

It was a way of strongly cautioning an erring wife. I would say 95% of such cases ended with the wife returning back to her husband’s house. Most times it was a threat that was never even carried out by the men. Some communities in the Niger delta region still use this means of settling marriage issues till date. It’s a means of settling the issues and not divorce as an end in itself.

The idea of sending the erring wife to her parents was for them to give her a “brain resetting pep” talk. Mostly after the man may have shown his displeasure in some other ways…like refusing to eat wifey’s food.
It’s just a way of showing displeasure. Divorce to ancestors was almost a taboo and only done if absolutely necessary like a cheating wife.

I insist divorce rates is higher now than back then by African oldies. You may disagree with my reasons for the higher rates but don’t tell me divorce rates back then was higher than it is now or even try to compare.

Marriages pack up less than 1year or below more easily than it did years ago.
bro, pls ignore that guy you’re quoting . You seem not to know his history on here. Just leave him to bask in ignorance as usual
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Hussein035: 11:58am On Dec 25, 2022
Jeon:


The thing is too much. angry
Crying West and late Queen Elizabeth, as if they forced us to follow up with their way of living / forced us to sold out our siblings to them as slaves for gins, mirror /gun powder.


Or are they still the one pointing guns on our heads to go slaughter /fight / bury juju on the floor for our brothers/sisters ?

if Africans wanna forbid them, they should start from their technology advance +civilization revolution + educational system to mode of survival.

Even the power supply systems should not be left out. All the constructed projects should be brought down too[starting from the bridges them constructed to the houses they designed]... THAT'S
Their architect knowledge should also be ban [it's West ideology and cuz more harms to Africans]

It is good to select what is good and reasonable from their ideology and leave the bad ones. Their ideology leads to LGBTQ today that doesn't mean they've not contributed more positive to the world.

We just need the to reject the ones that will give us problem
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by nesgeeek(m): 11:59am On Dec 25, 2022
being the head of a family doesn't mean u make all the decisions. Ur wife must also contribute little in decision making. So he is right.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Agbegbaorogboye: 11:59am On Dec 25, 2022
Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/
Simpson
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Jimmythewise: 12:04pm On Dec 25, 2022
yinkeys:

The man doesn’t understand that logic doesn’t usually work when dealing with women
Most of them want a Superman lol
Their women are extremely promiscuous
Paternity fraud over there is crazy
I know two women in the states that tell me some of their secrets
I’m telling you their women have way more body counts than men it’s crazy
Imagine a woman sleeping with three men& then pinning the child on one(usually the weakest of them)
when it comes to Emotional intelligence (EI) and manipulation, women bring their A-game. They want a super man because all they ever imagine about a man is a something far from reality. They are trapped in their Disneyland visions of life and that's why playboys usually win them over within a few minutes.

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Jeon(f): 12:04pm On Dec 25, 2022
Hussein035:


It is good to select what is good and reasonable from their ideology and leave the bad ones. Their ideology leads to LGBTQ today that doesn't mean they've not contributed more positive to the world.

We just need the to reject the ones that will give us problem

No, reject everything please. We should stop being dependent, they are humans like us not aliens so why can't we be independent/by providing the goods and services by ourselves /for ourselves?

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by dannykares: 12:10pm On Dec 25, 2022
Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/


AJ Morgan stop misleading the youths, society n religious people cause you are the type of petson that mislead people to divorced, and if I may ask a question " so if I ask now his child does few but not not all so therefore automatically his child now the wife? "
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Judolisco(m): 12:11pm On Dec 25, 2022
brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!


major decision is different from all decisions
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by lochi01(m): 12:16pm On Dec 25, 2022
And makes major decisions not every decisions � wizzy oooo
brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!


Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by kkins25(m): 12:18pm On Dec 25, 2022
Kobojunkie:
About 40 years ago, the population in Nigeria was at about 42 million, and abandonment in marriage(a la divorce) was still the norm even back then. I knew at least 10 cases of divorce— marriage abandonment— on my street alone during my secondary school years. And in my own high school class, I had at least 15 coursemates from broken homes — some of the kids were conveniently stashed away in boarding school because papa don marry another woman. Now, why was it all not as visible then as it is today? Because it was a thing of shame and needed to be hidden. The children born the shame, so also the abandoned spouse. undecided

Fast forward to Nigeria in 2022, with a population is about 220 million what do you have? The very same trend going on except now the abandoned children and partners refuse to bear the shame of abandonment(a la divorce) alone. They speak up and speak out about their predicament for all to know of and hear, and society itself has taken a turn in the way it handles such situations. undecided Records haven't changed much since official divorce rates on paper in Nigeria still indicate a rate of less than 1%, pretty much a similar rate as it was in the 80s. undecided
So why do you claim here that divorce rate is high in Nigeria? It all boils down to the fact that you now view abandonment for what they are as it is no longer hidden from anyone for what it is. What is still observed to this day in Nigeria is marriage abandonment(a la divorce), the same practice your ancestors engaged in, condoned, and justified. undecided

Yet again you beat me to it. cheesy cheesy

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Babastrong(m): 12:20pm On Dec 25, 2022
That is your life and ideology. It doesn't mean you're wiser than me. LIVE!
And let me live my own. I am the head of the house and i took major decisions. Though i am an ordinary mortal prones to error, it's her right to call my attention to those errors/mistakes.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by franconian: 12:21pm On Dec 25, 2022
Kobojunkie:
You mean the 75% official divorce rate is different from the almost 75% marriage abandonment rate in Nigeria which goes largely undocumented given that it remains a thing of shame for the victims in all of those cases? undecided

If they are largely undocumented, how then did you arrive at that figure?
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Slurity(m): 12:25pm On Dec 25, 2022
Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/
even your children can't and should not be doing everything you asked them to do
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by JeffreyJunior: 12:25pm On Dec 25, 2022
Nobody knows it all but for peaceful coexistence, a good wife should be willing to share her reasons for refusing to yield to what her hubby asks for and vice versa.

You can't just say no, I won't do it to your husband or your wife and just end it at that, not nice.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Sanbuchi: 12:25pm On Dec 25, 2022
Jeon:


The thing is too much. angry
Crying West and late Queen Elizabeth, as if they forced us to follow up with their way of living / forced us to sold out our siblings to them as slaves for gins, mirror /gun powder.


Or are they still the one pointing guns on our heads to go slaughter /fight / bury juju on the floor for our brothers/sisters ?

if Africans wanna forbid them, they should start from their technology advance +civilization revolution + educational system to mode of survival.

Even the power supply systems should not be left out. All the constructed projects should be brought down too[starting from the bridges them constructed to the houses they designed]... THAT'S
Their architect knowledge should also be ban [it's West ideology and cuz more harms to Africans]

brother, go back to your history and read for yourself, technology and civilization started here in Africa...
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Jeon(f): 12:28pm On Dec 25, 2022
Sanbuchi:


brother, go back to your history and read for yourself, technology and civilization started here in Africa...

I see that.
Even the Belgian black marble stone was stolen from Africa and transported to England for the Queen's family.

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Osashalom: 12:30pm On Dec 25, 2022
I pity folks that feed on these junks
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by AZControversial(m): 12:33pm On Dec 25, 2022


It's like this man is in love with trouble!

You manage to have a submissive wife, something divine, in this present dispensation where marriages barely stand the test of time. Yet, on your own, without pressure, you're seeking a partner who should readily challenge you?

Not saying you should have a puppet for a wife.
Simply saying some problems are better handled when they come to you not when you go searching for them!!!

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by HaneefahRN(f): 12:38pm On Dec 25, 2022
brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!



Your old father's had long toxic marriages and their generation gave birth to this generation of women who saw the bullshit their mothers went through and would not tolerate it just to bear Mrs and they give no hoot about the judgemental society. You all should keep crying on social media and not build your home's with your wives

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Treasuredgift(f): 12:40pm On Dec 25, 2022
Who ever raised you sir, did a great job.

You see all those allahkaduna and their likes with their gullible follwers, I pity the women who will enter their trap.

Not me, not my sisters, not my daughters, my friends......not even my enemies.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by justmondris: 12:42pm On Dec 25, 2022
brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!



This kind statement nor Dey make divorce rate go higher. If you need someone that will always do whatever you tell her be it good or bad, the. You should marry a robot and be prepared for a doomed marriage. You will should not do some things you tell if it’s bad for the family or might lead to wahala latter. She has a brain to think for her self
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Goodcitizen1: 12:44pm On Dec 25, 2022
Why do men pays for the marriage diary if we are equal ?!. I thought we bought our wife’s since we(Men) paid for her diary’s. If we follow the traditional way of acquiring our wife’s then we have to follow the same traditional way to lead the home. We can’t follow the traditional way to buy our wife’s and then follow the western way to be equal. Nawwwwww!!!. Lets parents stop selling their daughters to us then we are equal.
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by MansoryMX(m): 12:48pm On Dec 25, 2022
I have said this before and I will say it again. Social media women of this generation has no values, no moral standards, no home upbringing. Only a selected few are decent and understand what submissiveness in marriage means. Being submissive to your husband doesn't make a woman a child or a slave in her marriage. Look at the divorce rate in Nigeria today! It's so high!


Let's not forget men pay the dowry of women. They spend fortunes they could have used in bettering their lives on paying dowry of women who will still ruin their lives. We are not ready for this discussion. All I can say is kudos to women who knows how go structure and keep a home.

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by Enumerator(m): 12:49pm On Dec 25, 2022
Stupid marriage councellor, na why dem dey councel nonsense into the brains of thes vagina people and no get sense again to be submissive in marriage thereby increasing divorce rate
Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/

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Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by MrSensor(m): 12:55pm On Dec 25, 2022
Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/
he is not man enough
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by brain54(m): 12:55pm On Dec 25, 2022
seanwilliam:
bro, pls ignore that guy you’re quoting . You seem not to know his history on here. Just leave him to bask in ignorance as usual
Thanks for the heads up…


Noted!
Re: 'If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife' by anochuko01(m): 12:56pm On Dec 25, 2022
Maybe he didn't choose his words right. I'll rather say "I don't have to always tell my wife what to do because she's also an adult and I expect her to take decisions that's in the best interest of the family".

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