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Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

I'm not a man and I'm definitely not married, but as a woman, I think the man should give her silent treatment and pretend that she's not even present in the house.

Eat out and come home only to sleep until she acknowledges her wrongs.

And I think that it'll also depends on the kind of event she went to.

I’m not married, but I’d think withdrawal of the D! will help me apologise; but my legs won’t let him rest.

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions aside sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Tell her why you didn't want her to travel to this particular event. Is it that you feel that you need to spend more time together, that you need her support, that you have an appointment yourself or whatever your reason is?

If she is reasonable, and your reason is, I don't see why you should not reach an understanding.

Samantha123:
I'm not a man and I'm definitely not married, but as a woman, I think the man should give her silent treatment and pretend that she's not even present in the house.

Eat out and come home only to sleep until she acknowledges her wrongs.

And I think that it'll also depends on the kind of event she went to.

This silent treatment affects everyone in the family, it creates a bad atmosphere in the home and more importantly doesn't work on many people as they will just go on about their business.

If there are kids, it affects them too.

And why would he leave his home? Is it not his place of rest? If there are kids, won't he miss time with them?

Okay, then give your suggestion.

And where did I say he must leave his home

Hathor5:
This silent treatment affects everyone in the family, it creates a bad atmosphere in the home and more importantly doesn't work on many people as they will just go on about their business.

If there are kids, it affects them too.

And why would he leave his home? Is it not his place of rest? If there are kids, won't he miss time with them?

And how will giving his wife silent treatment affect the kids when the both of them will be talking to them

Hathor5:
This silent treatment affects everyone in the family, it creates a bad atmosphere in the home and more importantly doesn't work on many people as they will just go on about their business.

If there are kids, it affects them too.

And why would he leave his home? Is it not his place of rest? If there are kids, won't he miss time with them?

There's no respect in your marriage, how could you have told your wife not to travel but then she disobeyed. Maybe your wife is the breadwinner of your family reason she disobeyed you. Better stamp your authority as the head or it keeps repeating.

But if I'm to be in your shoes I'll most definitely activate 1221 code.

Samantha123:
Okay, then give your suggestion.

And where did I say he must leave his home

Samantha123:
I'm not a man and I'm definitely not married, but as a woman, I think the man should give her silent treatment and pretend that she's not even present in the house.

Eat out and come home only to sleep until she acknowledges her wrongs.

And I think that it'll also depends on the kind of event she went to.

Would you also advise a mother to stay out and only come to sleep? If he is a father, he will deprive his kids of time together.

Samantha123:
And how will giving his wife silent treatment affect the kids when the both of them will be talking to them

When the parents are happy, the children are happy.

You haven't answered any of my questions.

Where did I say the man must leave the house?

And how does giving his wife silent treatment affects the kids when both parties will be talking to their kids?

And why must you make everything about the kids as if the couple are married to the kids and not each other?

Can you just give a logical reasoning without being emotional, because you're starting to sound annoying.

If she cared about how the kids would feel, she'd have listened to her husband and not attend the event in the first place.

Hathor5:
Would you also advise a mother to stay out and only come to sleep? If he is a father, he will deprive his kids of time together.



When the parents are happy, the children are happy.

NA to quietly ignore her oo, all through her stay, i will hardly call and when we talk, the call will be so formal.

if e pain me well well, NA to call MIL

Clear her doubt .,


Oh they will think they're in zee world

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

If truly you are married to her and you have been a respectful and responsible man
You should be able to take charge of your home and wife

If really she disrespect your order, then she is obeying some one else

Forget about apology, your concern should be how to take charge

You started by giving her freedom
End that nonsense by withdrawing the freedom

frozen70:
If truly you are married to her and you have been a respectful and responsible man
You should be able to take charge of your home and wife

If really she disrespect your order, then she is obeying some one else

Forget about apology, your concern should be how to take charge

You started by giving her freedom
End that nonsense by withdrawing the freedom

Yes, take charge is the word.

How do you go about this peacefully.

Rechargeam247:
Yes, take charge is the word.

How do you go about this peacefully.

NEXT time you catch her in any stupid act that is near to infidelity, take her home to her parents with your children

Tell them to train her how to be faithful and loyal, if they ask you what happen, tell them to ask her to explain

You will be sending allowance and if possible let the children start schooling there

Try this during holidays so that by the time she spent the holidays with her parents and you did not come for your children, her parents will know that it's no longer a joke

If her parents calls you, pick their call, listen to them ans if they invite you, tell them you will let them know when you are ready, that for now you need peace

By the time she sees that you are not responding her head will reset properly

Then by the time she comes back, let her have something doing
Either teaching or anything that will bring income to her, then let her face one responsibility at home, maybe children provision or whatever

By that time she will be busy with thinking on how to carry out her task

There is no time to tolerate nonsense

frozen70:
NEXT time you catch her in any stupid act that is near to infidelity, take her home to her parents with your children

Tell them to train her how to be faithful and loyal, if they ask you what happen, tell them to ask her to explain

You will be sending allowance and if possible let the children start schooling there

Try this during holidays so that by the time she spent the holidays with her parents and you did not come for your children, her parents will know that it's no longer a joke

If her parents calls you, pick their call, listen to them ans if they invite you, tell them you will let them know when you are ready, that for now you need peace

By the time she sees that you are not responding her head will reset properly

Then by the time she comes back, let her have something doing
Either teaching or anything that will bring income to her, then let her face one responsibility at home, maybe children provision or whatever

By the time she is busy and her income is committed, she will not think of having time to respond to men and her thinking will be on how to carry out her task

There is no time to tolerate nonsense

She works, she has businesses. The children are in the university.

She isn't cheating, just disrespectful.

Rechargeam247:
She works, she has businesses. The children are in the university.

She isn't cheating, just disrespectful.

Ok naw
Endure it

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I ll never disobey my husband for anything. But let's say some how a wife did that, I ll tell the husband to ask her asap. No silent treatment

Yes, do not talk to her for a day or two then seriously tell her your mind.


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Make married pipu tell us how dey take dey deal with their in-house issues diplomatically

post=119770518:
Tell her why you didn't want her to travel to this particular event.

SIMPLE AS ABC. People be asking MUMU questions.

Have a talk with her and point our her disobedience, if she flame's up snub her until she apologize.

Make her feel she's not existing with you in that same house your silence will eat her up until she apologize. But don't hit her.

2pep:
There's no respect in your marriage, how could you have told your wife not to travel but then she disobeyed. Maybe your wife is the breadwinner of your family reason she disobeyed you. Better stamp your authority as the head or it keeps repeating.

But if I'm to be in your shoes I'll most definitely activate 1221 code.

Abeg which code be that one again

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Give her monosyllabic answers

Cut the freedom

Hi

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Leave the home for the bar and come back by 12

Sweetplum:
I ll never disobey my husband for anything. But let's say some how a wife did that, I ll tell the husband to ask her asap. No silent treatment

meaning you will always say yes to all his biddings yeah?

Rechargeam247:
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Depends. If it's the first time I believe a verbal expression of displeasure should do. Considering she's generally a good wife. If it's reoccurring that's when you should consider other measures and that also depends on your wife. What works in for one person may not work for another. I have a good wife too but she can also be stubborn at times and get on my nerves. My wife will ignore your silent treatment and act as though she is not bothered.

You may not have to deal with every occasion of disobedience if you have a generally respectful wife. You have to also learn tolerance. But should it be persistent you may consider denying or canceling something that she values so well. Like not subscribing to DSTV on time if she's so into it and you are not. You don't need to spell it out as it's punishment for that but just be nonchalant about it till she complains and you find a way to subtly get her to realize that displeasing you can make you not to care about pleasing her. But be sure not to deny her an essential that is usually your responsibility. If she has to use her money to subscribe it and act as though she wasn't bothered then you may need to do something more serious which I won't want to be the one suggesting one for you. But even if she subscribes and acts as if not bothered it's likely just a facade. Trust me, most Nigerian women would rather keep their money for Jewels & clothing, so spending it on the sub will definitely get to her.

I once took an action that shocked my wife after about a week of cold treatment which she was ignoring. Since then (3yrs +) we've not had a major issue. There's been minor issues that I'm able to ignore but generally we are good. My wife is generally a good wife by the way.

Whatever it is, avoid inviting a 3rd party.