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Obavoh:
This is how I’ve been sitting on the floor in the hotel room. I am dying.

Do not hesitate to post the pictures of how you have been crying too.

Richy4:
We used to discuss this issue Wayback in Uni with my friends but they don't always agree with me... Most times I felt like John the Baptist..a lone voice in the wilderness..

When a woman said No.. she was not into you.. just let her be.. That was always my stance..If u ask her twice and she maintains her stance, just Waka pass...But my friends always disagree...Saying it was an African women thing to do Shakara...I am not against that but two times is enough...I know that every reasonable individual knows whom he/ she wants to be with without so much persuasion...why waste persuasive skills on someone that loves another?

OP, you and I knows that you will never trust her again.. even if she pleads for forgiveness..
And anytime she says honey Na 4PM I dey show.. and due to traffic, she arrives at 4:15PM.. U and I knows where your mind will be going within that space if 15mins...

In my Opinion, I will suggest that you leave the house for 3 days to think.. where no one will disturb you, persuade you, distract u or emotionally blackmail u.... After 3day, comeback.. whatever u decide, good , ..If u want to kiss and make up great!!.. do it and mean it without revisiting the issue... But if trust is dead and you think there's nothing to salvage... U know what to do..

Peradventure u want to try the three days solitary program, please stay off Nairaland especially this thread to avoid Home Wreckers association Nairaland chapter influencing your decisions.. Good luck buddy..

Wisdom

Obavoh:
I swear on my life, since we’ve been married I have never hit this woman. I have never slept with another woman.

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I love and trust this woman with my soul. I have sacrificed so much in this marriage just to make her happy.

Since day 1 that we met I Always try my best to see her smile but this woman took everything for granted.

When we newly met and I was trying to get her to be my girlfriend, she refused because she was dating another man. I did not give up on her, I kept on doing everything to remain close to this woman to the extent of going to clear her father’s farm just to be on her good side.

One day she came to tell me she was pregnant for her boyfriend and the guy rejected her . She confessed she had done an abortion before and did not want to repeat it.

I decided to marry her and cover her shame because of the love I had for her. Till today, I did not open my mouth to tell anyone about it. I paid her brideprice in full and did all marriage rites.

Some months into the marriage, she lost the pregnancy. I even borrowed money to evacuate the baby from her stomach. I suspected that she drank herbs to try to remove it but I didn’t say anything.

All these years, we have not spoken about it until few days ago she asked me to help her send some money to her father.

I became suspicious because the account number she gave me was strange. I asked her about it and she lied to me it was her cousins account and they want to use the money to buy her father drugs.

I innocently sent the money. I was waiting for her father to call and thank me as usual but a week passed and I didn’t get any message from him.

I asked my wife about it and she said he told her to thank me. That was when I knew something was wrong.

I went through the new phone I bought for her last month and saw this woman chatting with the same man that dumped her with pregnancy.

He was begging her for money and they even planned to meet in her Mum’s village.
She told him she was waiting for me to receive my salary and give her money so she can travel to the place.

I felt like dying.

I showed her the message, I didn’t even wait for her to explain before beating her. I feel very bad for doing that but I couldn’t control myself.

I left the house since yesterday afternoon. I lodged in a hotel in another town. I can’t eat or sleep. I’ve just been crying.

I don’t know how to go about this. I am thinking of my children. I still love my wife. I can’t even open my mouth to tell my people. I don’t know what to do.

Unfortunately she never loved you....


She must have a thing with the said man and she is keeping it a secret

Unfortunately kids are now involved which makes it complicated....

I don't know what to say at this point Shaa...

God go help you my guy

Dbest10:
Guy surely you have missed heaven and you will not miss hell

The guy no get joy

Clap for yourself

@Op, I have zero pity for you. Men like you are the reason women think they can misbehave and another man will lovingly accept them.

Shame on you again. A woman that was already pregnant for another man? Na him you wan take form hero? Na WA o.

O boy, manage your marriage. And you better run back to your house and take charge, make the girl no run you street- make she no pack all your valuable properties to her lover

Obavoh:
This is how I’ve been sitting on the floor in the hotel room. I am dying.

you made the greatest mistake of aborting another man's child.
Make sure you send her packing and take your children from her. Also stop that your' I love my wife statement'.
accept the heart break as a man,but don't give in,channel that love to hatred,you'll be fine....

But there's no proof that she cheated on you.

You only saw a message of her promising to send the guy the money and to meet in the village.. Maybe she forgave him and it just happened that the guy was in desperate need for financial assistance.

You should have waited a bit and did a little bit of investigation before going physical on her, not that I'm in support of you using violence on your wife.

Obavoh:
I swear on my life, since we’ve been married I have never hit this woman. I have never slept with another woman.

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I love and trust this woman with my soul. I have sacrificed so much in this marriage just to make her happy.

Since day 1 that we met I Always try my best to see her smile but this woman took everything for granted.

When we newly met and I was trying to get her to be my girlfriend, she refused because she was dating another man. I did not give up on her, I kept on doing everything to remain close to this woman to the extent of going to clear her father’s farm just to be on her good side.

One day she came to tell me she was pregnant for her boyfriend and the guy rejected her . She confessed she had done an abortion before and did not want to repeat it.

I decided to marry her and cover her shame because of the love I had for her. Till today, I did not open my mouth to tell anyone about it. I paid her brideprice in full and did all marriage rites.

Some months into the marriage, she lost the pregnancy. I even borrowed money to evacuate the baby from her stomach. I suspected that she drank herbs to try to remove it but I didn’t say anything.

All these years, we have not spoken about it until few days ago she asked me to help her send some money to her father.

I became suspicious because the account number she gave me was strange. I asked her about it and she lied to me it was her cousins account and they want to use the money to buy her father drugs.

I innocently sent the money. I was waiting for her father to call and thank me as usual but a week passed and I didn’t get any message from him.

I asked my wife about it and she said he told her to thank me. That was when I knew something was wrong.

I went through the new phone I bought for her last month and saw this woman chatting with the same man that dumped her with pregnancy.

He was begging her for money and they even planned to meet in her Mum’s village.
She told him she was waiting for me to receive my salary and give her money so she can travel to the place.

I felt like dying.

I showed her the message, I didn’t even wait for her to explain before beating her. I feel very bad for doing that but I couldn’t control myself.

I left the house since yesterday afternoon. I lodged in a hotel in another town. I can’t eat or sleep. I’ve just been crying.

I don’t know how to go about this. I am thinking of my children. I still love my wife. I can’t even open my mouth to tell my people. I don’t know what to do.

superCleanworks:
yes this is the time you should show her more love than you have done before. forgive her and cry in front of her so she can see how much you love her.
as for the children, please do not doubt if they are your children.
as for the cheating, it is your fault. you better go back home kneel down and beg her.
you also need to call the guy and apologize then send more money to him every month.

Dont mind that f**l. Honestly i wonder if people like the OP exists or he is just writing to chase clout. Hoe can someone be this foolish?
Even if the Children are not his, he has to accept them and cover the wife's shame, afterall he accepted the 1st pregnancy out of love some people are mad

Obavoh:
I swear on my life, since we’ve been married I have never hit this woman. I have never slept with another woman.

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I love and trust this woman with my soul. I have sacrificed so much in this marriage just to make her happy.

Since day 1 that we met I Always try my best to see her smile but this woman took everything for granted.

When we newly met and I was trying to get her to be my girlfriend, she refused because she was dating another man. I did not give up on her, I kept on doing everything to remain close to this woman to the extent of going to clear her father’s farm just to be on her good side.

One day she came to tell me she was pregnant for her boyfriend and the guy rejected her . She confessed she had done an abortion before and did not want to repeat it.

I decided to marry her and cover her shame because of the love I had for her. Till today, I did not open my mouth to tell anyone about it. I paid her brideprice in full and did all marriage rites.

Some months into the marriage, she lost the pregnancy. I even borrowed money to evacuate the baby from her stomach. I suspected that she drank herbs to try to remove it but I didn’t say anything.

All these years, we have not spoken about it until few days ago she asked me to help her send some money to her father.

I became suspicious because the account number she gave me was strange. I asked her about it and she lied to me it was her cousins account and they want to use the money to buy her father drugs.

I innocently sent the money. I was waiting for her father to call and thank me as usual but a week passed and I didn’t get any message from him.

I asked my wife about it and she said he told her to thank me. That was when I knew something was wrong.

I went through the new phone I bought for her last month and saw this woman chatting with the same man that dumped her with pregnancy.

He was begging her for money and they even planned to meet in her Mum’s village.
She told him she was waiting for me to receive my salary and give her money so she can travel to the place.

I felt like dying.

I showed her the message, I didn’t even wait for her to explain before beating her. I feel very bad for doing that but I couldn’t control myself.

I left the house since yesterday afternoon. I lodged in a hotel in another town. I can’t eat or sleep. I’ve just been crying.

I don’t know how to go about this. I am thinking of my children. I still love my wife. I can’t even open my mouth to tell my people. I don’t know what to do.

Go back to your wife and continue loving her.
You are PATHETIC!!
such a weakling

Samantha123:
But there's no proof that she cheated on you.

You only saw a message of her promising to send the guy the money and to meet in the village.. Maybe she forgave him and it just happened that the guy was in desperate need for financial assistance.

You should have waited a bit and did a little bit of investigation before going physical on her, not that I'm in support of you using violence on your wife.

She told the supposedly father of her 4 kids to send money to her lover and you are still on “there is no evidence she cheated”, if that is not a strong evidence that she ain’t faithful then I don’t know what else will or is it until he catches them having sex then you will agree that the wife cheated. For me, the silliness is having her husband send d money, couldn’t she just have some respect for her husband, collect the money from the husband and send the money herself??

She no dey loyal and still come add disrespect join put for her husband but no be her fault totally sha. Na d husband wey go pay bride price for woman wey anoda man don impregnate.

Obavoh:
I swear on my life, since we’ve been married I have never hit this woman. I have never slept with another woman.

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I love and trust this woman with my soul. I have sacrificed so much in this marriage just to make her happy.

Since day 1 that we met I Always try my best to see her smile but this woman took everything for granted.

When we newly met and I was trying to get her to be my girlfriend, she refused because she was dating another man. I did not give up on her, I kept on doing everything to remain close to this woman to the extent of going to clear her father’s farm just to be on her good side.

One day she came to tell me she was pregnant for her boyfriend and the guy rejected her . She confessed she had done an abortion before and did not want to repeat it.

I decided to marry her and cover her shame because of the love I had for her. Till today, I did not open my mouth to tell anyone about it. I paid her brideprice in full and did all marriage rites.

Some months into the marriage, she lost the pregnancy. I even borrowed money to evacuate the baby from her stomach. I suspected that she drank herbs to try to remove it but I didn’t say anything.

All these years, we have not spoken about it until few days ago she asked me to help her send some money to her father.

I became suspicious because the account number she gave me was strange. I asked her about it and she lied to me it was her cousins account and they want to use the money to buy her father drugs.

I innocently sent the money. I was waiting for her father to call and thank me as usual but a week passed and I didn’t get any message from him.

I asked my wife about it and she said he told her to thank me. That was when I knew something was wrong.

I went through the new phone I bought for her last month and saw this woman chatting with the same man that dumped her with pregnancy.

He was begging her for money and they even planned to meet in her Mum’s village.
She told him she was waiting for me to receive my salary and give her money so she can travel to the place.

I felt like dying.

I showed her the message, I didn’t even wait for her to explain before beating her. I feel very bad for doing that but I couldn’t control myself.

I left the house since yesterday afternoon. I lodged in a hotel in another town. I can’t eat or sleep. I’ve just been crying.

I don’t know how to go about this. I am thinking of my children. I still love my wife. I can’t even open my mouth to tell my people. I don’t know what to do.

This is how all SIMPS are paid for been stupid. You won't learn cus all you said showed you have been a SIMP all your life. Worthless SIMP that cannot care his immediate family, them go finish your Timaya before you leave this World

So if you come to me in desperate need for financial assistance and I ask my fiance to help me out with the money, but I don't tell him the real reason as to why I'm asking for the money to avoid unnecessary suspicions, does it means that I've cheated on my fiance

ajailer:
She told the supposedly father of her 4 kids to send money to her lover and you are still on “there is no evidence she cheated”, if that is not a strong evidence that she ain’t faithful then I don’t know what else will or is it until he catches them having sex then you will agree that the wife cheated. For me, the silliness is having her husband send d money, couldn’t she just have some respect for her husband, collect the money from the husband and send the money herself??

She no dey loyal and still come add disrespect join put for her husband but no be her fault totally sha. Na d husband wey go pay bride price for woman wey anoda man don impregnate.

No don't have brain. You deserve what's happening to you. Ode boy... You're still a boy... Mumu

You be mumu man

You are a mumu man! am sorry to say it but its the truth. the issue is not your wifes indelity.the issue is your stupidity and you being a simp. you dont deserve your wife because you are too weak for a man and women dont like weak men. are you even sure you are the biological father of your children? look for solution to cure you of this foolishness you call love.

Samantha123:
So if you come to me in desperate need for financial assistance and I ask my fiance to help me out with the money, but I don't tell him the real reason as to why I'm asking for the money to avoid unnecessary suspicions, does it means that I've cheated on my fiance

Madam helping someone in need is not a bad thing but it’s disrespectful when u don’t tell ur husband what u want to use his hard earned money for……. Then u still go ahead to manipulate him to send d money to ur ex. U r making the husband look like a fool nah

Why did you beat her

Them


You left your house


You story is too complicated, you have allowed many shīt

Forgive her and fight for your love. Women are bound to cheat. Show her more love, let her know you’re worth being her husband

You are a numu man ... What's the assurance that you are the father of those children. You never learn nd from look of things you can't.

My question is, would it mean that I've cheated on him if I sent someone else the money I asked from him

ajailer:
Madam helping someone in need is not a bad thing but it’s disrespectful when u don’t tell ur husband what u want to use his hard earned money for……. Then u still go ahead to manipulate him to send d money to ur ex. U r making the husband look like a fool nah

Obavoh:
I swear on my life, since we’ve been married I have never hit this woman. I have never slept with another woman.

I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I love and trust this woman with my soul. I have sacrificed so much in this marriage just to make her happy.

Since day 1 that we met I Always try my best to see her smile but this woman took everything for granted.

When we newly met and I was trying to get her to be my girlfriend, she refused because she was dating another man. I did not give up on her, I kept on doing everything to remain close to this woman to the extent of going to clear her father’s farm just to be on her good side.

One day she came to tell me she was pregnant for her boyfriend and the guy rejected her . She confessed she had done an abortion before and did not want to repeat it.

I decided to marry her and cover her shame because of the love I had for her. Till today, I did not open my mouth to tell anyone about it. I paid her brideprice in full and did all marriage rites.

Some months into the marriage, she lost the pregnancy. I even borrowed money to evacuate the baby from her stomach. I suspected that she drank herbs to try to remove it but I didn’t say anything.

All these years, we have not spoken about it until few days ago she asked me to help her send some money to her father.

I became suspicious because the account number she gave me was strange. I asked her about it and she lied to me it was her cousins account and they want to use the money to buy her father drugs.

I innocently sent the money. I was waiting for her father to call and thank me as usual but a week passed and I didn’t get any message from him.

I asked my wife about it and she said he told her to thank me. That was when I knew something was wrong.

I went through the new phone I bought for her last month and saw this woman chatting with the same man that dumped her with pregnancy.

He was begging her for money and they even planned to meet in her Mum’s village.
She told him she was waiting for me to receive my salary and give her money so she can travel to the place.

I felt like dying.

I showed her the message, I didn’t even wait for her to explain before beating her. I feel very bad for doing that but I couldn’t control myself.

I left the house since yesterday afternoon. I lodged in a hotel in another town. I can’t eat or sleep. I’ve just been crying.

I don’t know how to go about this. I am thinking of my children. I still love my wife. I can’t even open my mouth to tell my people. I don’t know what to do.

Series title: The endless tales of Obavoh.

Fiction or real, you're one of the few interesting writers here, I'll give you that.
Your consistency is a plus too.

Ishilove:
A ma daran lowo Obavoh yi ke

Whalahi we don see something for him hand, Shuu.

To hell with u simp
U deserve to be hanged

superCleanworks:
yes this is the time you should show her more love than you have done before. forgive her and cry in front of her so she can see how much you love her.
as for the children, please do not doubt if they are your children.
as for the cheating, it is your fault. you better go back home kneel down and beg her.
you also need to call the guy and apologize then send more money to him every month.

hope you go fit give your brother this kind wonderful advice

DESAN:
what kind of advice is this haba do u know what the op is going through at all.

allow him to go through it jor
he is too weak to be call a man

Kharol1234:
No be you and your wife eat Garri and oil with pepper that day ? Wetin come happen today

..
water dun pass garri

mariahAngel:
Series title: The endless tales of Obavoh.

Fiction or real, you're one of the few interesting writers here, I'll give you that.
Your consistency is a plus too.

Muchecheche, Chai, lol at endless, fake, concerted lies of a 21St century Troll of Obavoh, winner of Nairaland.com Troll of Year 2022, 2023, hahaha

mariahAngel:
Series title: The endless tales of Obavoh.

Fiction or real, you're one of the few interesting writers here, I'll give you that.
Your consistency is a plus too.

Keeping up with Obavor..

Obavoh:
This is how I’ve been sitting on the floor in the hotel room. I am dying.

Is it from the small driver salary they pay you, you used in doing all this PAPARAZZI

Your stories no dey connect again..I thought your Wife's ex is bigger and has a ride they ones chanced you from entering?

Obavoh fear God small na..

I take you As an entertainer..I hope baby number 5 is on the way

Pooldrowning:



She has been using you for experimentation

If you consider trying to make that woman happy, I suggest you quit!!!!!

He did too much and now he’s confused. Why not be with someone who is dreaming about you instead of fighting to be someone else’s nightmare! This woman used him to cover up and now the baby is gone there’s no reason for her to stay. She will bring home another pregnancy and op will do his part again. This is the simp that simp means! He is enabling her Bleep ups

Weakling. Go and wash her boyfriends boxers