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Biko i have a question..... So if i don't have sex with my girlfriend, how do I know we are sexually compatible? Or when we get married and we discover we are not sexually compatible, we divorce and go our separate ways??

That mean sexual urge or thought of it is also a sin. In other words, we are all going to hell.

buygala:
Na fvck I dey fvck, no be say I dey thief, rape or kill anybody

But you don't live in a country where the law says 'Thou shalt not fvck at all'

Nigerian Christians' obsession with sexual "sins" at the expense of other transgressions is very very irritating

Well, I am one of them, and the sins I am obsessed with...90% of the time are my own sins, the remaining 10% are corruption, lies, and political mismanagement. I find it difficult to be obsessed with the sins of others much these days....maybe in my early days, but even then, most of the time I think about how bad a sinner i am, and how I need to change.

Plus, the rules around seggs evolved to prevent humans from killing themselves over who was with who was with what. Humans are nootriously possesive. Even those who claim to live in 'open relationships'.

Add the issues around STI's , the consequences of sleeping around (pregnancy unwanted, and having abortions is not something one can do easily even if legal and available)., and the idea of trust breaking...and discipline in one's morals, and yeah., sex needs regulaiton...like sugar.

(Oh , and by the way, I love sex. Very much).

With all the killing, cheating, stealing, embezzlemsnt of public funds, etc going on, na who pesin fvck be una major problem?

[/quote]Yes, we do need to do more. But then again, a lot of christian leaders and people like me have spoken up. You don't hear them because it does not serve your purpose.


DISCLAIMER: I am not telling you to live like a monk at Mount Athos by the way.

generalwo:
Biko i have a question..... So if i don't have sex with my girlfriend, how do I know we are sexually compatible? Or when we get married and we discover we are not sexually compatible, we divorce and go our separate ways??

Well, when you get married, you will find out.

Plus there are many people who are seggusaly compatible...but cannot stand each other in many other aspects. (that's why many people are not married to their original sex partner...eventho they had mind blowing seggs).

But my advice to you...get to know your girl better,.her dreams, aspirations, etc. Help her out in the kitchen, with the laundry at market, take her out, surprise her, listen to her advice once or twice, and I guarantee....sexual compatibility will be there on the wedding night and forever

Because babes dig men who see them as more than units of pleasure.

Interesting15:
Sexual immorality has been causing a lot of damages in the lives of so many people (particularly young people). It is really heartbreaking watching young folks suffering and living a damaged and wretched lifestyle and giving room to the devil to get them ruined.

Sexual immorality (particularly premarital sex, porn and masturbation) has turned many young and brilliant people into a nuisance without purpose and focus in life again. Many are now public dogs, STDs carriers, drugs and alcohol addicts, single parents, and the evil devil has brought all form of ugliness into their lives.

The truth is, our society will continue to be an unpleasant one if we keep going contrary to the will of God and embracing immorality. Immorality (like other types of sin) empowers the kingdom of darkness to wreck havoc in our society. So, if people failed to go back to God in repentance, then you can expect more headaches in the society

The Will of God for sex is that all forms of sexual pleasures should be shared only between a married husband and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution, with no other party involved.

Anyone that will obey God's instructions can be sure of living a lifestyle that is devoid of the fatal pangs and pains associated with sexual immorality.

If you will obey God's loving commandments as regards the enjoyment of sexual pleasures (which is actually for your own safety and good), then you must stop these sexual acts and not carry them with you to this new year:

1. Premarital Sex: Fornication is having sex when you are not married. Sex is actually meant for married couples (a male and a female) alone. Even if fornication is the norms out there, don't follow the crowd. Be unique and pure. Yes, it is possible to tame your sexual urges. Don't indulge in premarital sex, and you won't have to experience the negativities attached to it (unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and so on). You can also see more tips on sundayakanni.com

2. Extramarital Sex: Adultery is simply about having sex with someone other than your own spouse. As a married person, ensure you are contented with your husband or wife, and don't have an extramarital affair. The repercussions of adultery are usually deadly. Believe me, the few-minute pleasure derived from illicit sex is not worth the coming pain.

3. Same-gender Sexual Relations: This is sexual relations between members of same gender, like lesbianism (which is between females) and gayism (which is between males). Such things are dirty and an abomination that should be hated. If you are doing this, call upon the Name of the LORD Jesus for deliverance, and He will surely save you.

4. Pornography: God made sex to be an honorable act. It should be a private thing between a husband and his female wife. It is sinful to derive sexual pleasure from seeing the unclothedness of others. It is also sinful to video your sexual encounters and share them with others. Repent this year hence you will regret it!

5. Masturbation: You must not play with your sexual organs for sexual pleasures. You are going against God; and masturbation will only damage your body, soul and spirit.

6. Other Immoral Sexual Acts like smooching someone not your married spouse, sextings and the rest of them

Repent from immoral sexual activities and don't go with them into 2023. Live your life honouring God in holiness and purity. You are meant to have an eternal communion with God your Creator through Jesus Christ, as this is what will empower you to have dominion over creation. This is your destiny. Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and walk with Him in spirit and in truth.

Take the grace to live your life for God, in JESUS NAME.

https://www.sundayakanni.com/2023/01/stop-these-sexual-acts-in-2023.html?m=1

You need to back these up with scriptures

AntiChristian:
Get married o!

Invite me for owambe!

But the cost of weddings this days far exceeds that of fornication!

Make them bring am down!

There is a thread here where one Nairalander got married for a very low sum of money.

One does not have to do what society expects. After all if Society tells you to jump off a cliff, would you do it..or would you admit that Society has finally lost itself? and move on.?

Kobonaire2023:
Nothing wrong...except that people are very notoriously possesive.

If you were to be in love with someone, and you are in a relaitonship, and you sleep around, yet get angry when your partner sleeps around....well?

Sex has a lot of rules and regulations laid down by religion and society...because the alternative is mass anarchic behaviour. So centuries ago, some early men laid down the rules....to stop Og from taking Bog's woman by force, particularly as Og injured Bog...

Another thing...wars and millions of people have died because of....doubts of the heir to some throne's paternity. (It's not seirous business now in these days...but years ago....).

(One of the best demonstrations of why sex before marriage was wrong for me was the day I saw, in a hospital..two boys dating the same girl...brought in badly injured...because they both happened to meet each other at the lady's place at the same time...).


Finally, STI's spread easily in a sexually libertine area. You may not notice the bad effects of many of them because we now have drugs to treat them....but a 100 years ago...spending a night with Venus could lead to you spending a lifetime with Mercury.(In pain...Mercury is a very vengeful somebody).

Temptations for what is truly immoral do not make anything wrong. The likelihood of getting STIs does not make it wrong the same way the likelihood of divorcing does not make marriage wrong.

Sapiosexuality:
It doesn't make sense that it only has to be with someone you are not married to. Why is it so? If the idea was that having multiple partners has the propensity to make you infected with bad energy it will make some sense but guaranteeing it and assuming marriage for simply been marriage wouldn't, doesn't make any sense. How do you explain that?

I get you bro.
Let’s break it down in scenarios.

We have established that If you engaged in sex with someone you ain’t lawfully married to (fornication for singles, Adultery for married folks) you exchange diverse energy.

Scene 1: You’re married, both of you are COMMITTED to each other. What happens is that the energy exchange is monogamous and it’s effect can be tracked.

Scene 2: You have a girlfriend/boyfriend whose loyalty you can’t attest, even if you’re loyal to this person, their own energy is mixed up with the people they tangle with and if you have intercourse with them, their mixed energy is superimposed on you.

Scene 3: Multiple Partners
If you have multiple partners, then you’re even lost because you interact with people of different energy which you can’t even define the sources of their energy, the mixed components of their energy and also their energy level.

Why do people frown, cry, felt hurt, end relationships, when their partner cheats on them?

Their private part wasn’t stolen during the cheating process nor did their partner remained there. So why are they hurt?

Morally, you say its not right but soulishly, the energy the shared with their partner has been distorted, the soulish empire they built with this person has been occupied by a stranger, so they are hurt! Because in the soul realm energy is monogamous, it can only allow for change in forms but not mixture.

If you were a science student, you will understand better. Water (H2o) can be solid, liquid, and gaseous at different energy level but it is still water.

So God knew these things and even more, the He gave us a law to abstain from sexual immorality. He encouraged us instead to get married and have our own partner.

Funny enough, premarital sex or fornication as it’s biblically called won’t stop you from making heaven but if you keep on it, you risk opening your soul to stuffs that may impede you on this mortal plane.

Happy Sunday.
Sorry my explanation is long.

Sapiosexuality:
Temptations for what is truly immoral do not make anything wrong.

Which sounds very nice, until someone betrays your trust because 'temptation'.

Again, humans are notoriously possesive. For some humans, religon acts as a brake against that possesive nature, and helps us to think about the effects that our stepping out of bounds may have on others.

The likelihood of getting STIs does not make it wrong

Largely because thanks to modern medicine you do not see the complications and long term effects of many STI's that the people who wrote the bible saw...and people knew until someone found out that that moldic fluid that Fleming produced somewhere was effective against those nasty bugs....

the same way the likelihood of divorcing does not make marriage wrong.

Divorce happens within the paradigm of a 'previously agreed agreement' not working out. It is a safety valve for marriage, not something that makes it wrong or right.


Note that I am not telling you sex is bad, or telling you what to do with your life. I am just telling you why we have some of the rules and regulations around sex.

Hisincrease:
I get you bro.
Let’s break it down in scenarios.

We have established that If you engaged in sex with someone you ain’t lawfully married to (fornication for singles, Adultery for married folks) you exchange diverse energy.

Scene 1: You’re married, both of you are COMMITTED to each other. What happens is that the energy exchange is monogamous and it’s effect can be tracked.

Scene 2: You have a girlfriend/boyfriend whose loyalty you can’t attest, even if you’re loyal to this person, their own energy is mixed up with the people they tangle with and if you have intercourse with them, their mixed energy is superimposed on you.

Scene 3: Multiple Partners
If you have multiple partners, then you’re even lost because you interact with people of different energy which you can’t even define the sources of their energy, the mixed components of their energy and also their energy level.

Why do people frown, cry, felt hurt, end relationships, when their partner cheats on them?

Their private part wasn’t stolen during the cheating process nor did their partner remained there. So why are they hurt?

Morally, you say its not right but soulishly, the energy the shared with their partner has been distorted, the soulish empire they built with this person has been occupied by a stranger, so they are hurt! Because in the soul realm energy is monogamous, it can only allow for change in forms but not mixture.

If you were a science student, you will understand better. Water (H2o) can be solid, liquid, and gaseous at different energy level but it is still water.

So God knew these things and even more, the He gave us a law to abstain from sexual immorality. He encouraged us instead to get married and have our own partner.

Funny enough, premarital sex or fornication as it’s biblically called won’t stop you from making heaven but if you keep on it, you risk opening your soul to stuffs that may impede you on this mortal plane.

Happy Sunday.
Sorry my explanation is long.

I'm sorry this doesn't explain how it is wrong. The soulish explanation at best explains what makes cheating wrong. As for premarital sex between two people who agreed to sleep each other there is no hurt because there's no betrayal.

Kobonaire2023:
Which sounds very nice, until someone betrays your trust because 'temptation'.

Again, humans are notoriously possesive. For some humans, religon acts as a brake against that possesive nature, and helps us to think about the effects that our stepping out of bounds may have on others.



Largely because thanks to modern medicine you do not see the complications and long term effects of many STI's that the people who wrote the bible saw...and people knew until someone found out that that moldic fluid that Fleming produced somewhere was effective against those nasty bugs....





Divorce happens within the paradigm of a 'previously agreed agreement' not working out. It is a safety valve for marriage, not something that makes it wrong or right.


Note that I am not telling you sex is bad, or telling you what to do with your life. I am just telling you why we have some of the rules and regulations around sex.

Yeah. The natural forces in us do not define what is morally right. We are notoriously possessive and we are also notoriously battling with temptations in our heads but until we act upon these temptations we cannot be said to have fallen to temptation and in the same vein the existence of those temptations do not make our concepts of things their existence could invalidate wrong.

As for religion, it is useful, but it also a tool for controlling people and shaping into whatever the handlers want.

Sapiosexuality:
I'm sorry this doesn't explain how it is wrong. The soulish explanation at best explains what makes cheating wrong. As for premarital sex between two people who agreed to sleep each other there is no hurt because there's no betrayal.

For the fact that you don’t see anything wrong with premarital sex doesn’t mean that it is right.

The fact that some people don’t like President Buhari doesn’t mean he isn’t the president.

The laws will catch up on you whether you acknowledge it or not.

For now, happy premarital sexing.

Hisincrease:
For the fact that you don’t see anything wrong with premarital sex doesn’t mean that it is right.

The fact that some people don’t like President Buhari doesn’t mean he isn’t the president.

The laws will catch up on you whether you acknowledge it or not.

For now, happy premarital sexing.

Same applies to you. That you think it is bad even without showing how does not mean that is wrong. We can't have an objective truth based on the words of a subjective moral being, your God, when there other Gods that say otherwise. The solution is to look at it outside the confines of closed subjective thinking and philosophically dissect it.

badBADbichh:
Stop them and there will be nothing left to do

Hmmm

AntiChristian:
Get married o!

Invite me for owambe!

But the cost of weddings this days far exceeds that of fornication!

Make them bring am down!

Hahaha, must you invite a mammoth crowd. You can have a private wedding at a little cost.

buygala:
Na fvck I dey fvck, no be say I dey thief, rape or kill anybody


Nigerian Christians' obsession with sexual "sins" at the expense of other transgressions is very very irritating


With all the killing, cheating, stealing, embezzlemsnt of public funds, etc going on, na who pesin fvck be una major problem?

No mind the hypocrites.

Sapiosexuality:
Same applies to you. That you think it is bad even without showing how does not mean that is wrong. We can't have an objective truth based on the words of a subjective moral being, your God, when there other Gods that say otherwise. The solution is to look at it outside the confines of closed subjective thinking and philosophically dissect it.

You think life is philosophy?
Did your philosophy explain to you the architectural framework and the possibility that gave you breath and explain tripartite dimension of mortality carved from the wisdom of the council of the Elohim?

You think your perusal of some textbooks and mortal opinions qualifies you to compare Jehovah God with mere gods?

How dare you bring such infantile and ignorant comparison to include Elohim, the only being that was not created and exist in himself.

There is nothing like subjective and objective truth.

Truth is Truth.

I do not want to bring you the judgement of God but I know that not so many days from now, you will encounter strange things that will shift your perspectives.

For now, enjoy your day!

Hisincrease:
You think life is philosophy?
Did your philosophy explain to you the architectural framework and the possibility that gave you breath and explain tripartite dimension of mortality carved from the wisdom of the council of the Elohim?

You think your perusal of some textbooks and mortal opinions qualifies you to compare Jehovah God with mere gods?

How dare you bring such infantile and ignorant comparison to include Elohim, the only being that was not created and exist in himself.

There is nothing like subjective and objective truth.

Truth is Truth.

I do not want to bring you the judgement of God but I know that not so many days from now, you will encounter strange things that will shift your perspectives.

For now, enjoy your day!

Lol.

Olasyke:
No be you go tell me wetin I go do.

He that has hear, let him hear.

buygala:
Na fvck I dey fvck, no be say I dey thief, rape or kill anybody


Nigerian Christians' obsession with sexual "sins" at the expense of other transgressions is very very irritating


With all the killing, cheating, stealing, embezzlemsnt of public funds, etc going on, na who pesin fvck be una major problem?

Sex is the only sin that is committed with the body. It’s an act which is also committed alongside with you soul. Have you ever asked your self why the whole world is rushing towards sexual immoralities? Devil nor Dey advertise or market wetin nor Dey work for am.

Danisaint112:
You won't believe their are some people that are guilty of all.

Abeg nor loud am

kingsceemark:
Stop digging your grave through sex, invest that your energy into something more important to God

yes sir but this shit u typed has in no way answered my question just gives me more confusion

for my own prick wey God dash me...na lie


op salvation is personal...know this and know peace

I really need prayers then, because I am doing 4 out of 6 of them, depression is real.

It's hard to keep all these. Solomon and David and great men and women in the Bible didn't keep to all these but they are loved by God. Do what is best for you but don't lose faith in God, that's all.

I'm even feel like doing number 5 and 1 right now. I'm just craving...

If men don't do extra sex, most of the vagina gendered folks wud die of hunger

The way christians are obsessed with sex is alarming. There are other grievous sins, but every Sunday 'sex, sex, sex'

buygala:
Na fvck I dey fvck, no be say I dey thief, rape or kill anybody


Nigerian Christians' obsession with sexual "sins" at the expense of other transgressions is very very irritating


With all the killing, cheating, stealing, embezzlemsnt of public funds, etc going on, na who pesin fvck be una major problem?

People are overfvcking these days they are trying to bring it down........

Oga it's just an advise given to u. It's either u read it and pass than ranting out of pure brazen ignorance.

The writer was very specific with the topic.


Na fvck I dey fvck, no be say I dey thief, rape or kill anybody


Nigerian Christians' obsession with sexual "sins" at the expense of other transgressions is very very irritating


With all the killing, cheating, stealing, embezzlemsnt of public funds, etc going on, na who pesin fvck be una major problem?[/quote]

Interesting15:
Sexual immorality has been causing a lot of damages in the lives of so many people (particularly young people). It is really heartbreaking watching young folks suffering and living a damaged and wretched lifestyle and giving room to the devil to get them ruined.

Sexual immorality (particularly premarital sex, porn and masturbation) has turned many young and brilliant people into a nuisance without purpose and focus in life again. Many are now public dogs, STDs carriers, drugs and alcohol addicts, single parents, and the evil devil has brought all form of ugliness into their lives.

The truth is, our society will continue to be an unpleasant one if we keep going contrary to the will of God and embracing immorality. Immorality (like other types of sin) empowers the kingdom of darkness to wreck havoc in our society. So, if people failed to go back to God in repentance, then you can expect more headaches in the society

The Will of God for sex is that all forms of sexual pleasures should be shared only between a married husband and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution, with no other party involved.

Anyone that will obey God's instructions can be sure of living a lifestyle that is devoid of the fatal pangs and pains associated with sexual immorality.

If you will obey God's loving commandments as regards the enjoyment of sexual pleasures (which is actually for your own safety and good), then you must stop these sexual acts and not carry them with you to this new year:

1. Premarital Sex: Fornication is having sex when you are not married. Sex is actually meant for married couples (a male and a female) alone. Even if fornication is the norms out there, don't follow the crowd. Be unique and pure. Yes, it is possible to tame your sexual urges. Don't indulge in premarital sex, and you won't have to experience the negativities attached to it (unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and so on). You can also see more tips on sundayakanni.com

2. Extramarital Sex: Adultery is simply about having sex with someone other than your own spouse. As a married person, ensure you are contented with your husband or wife, and don't have an extramarital affair. The repercussions of adultery are usually deadly. Believe me, the few-minute pleasure derived from illicit sex is not worth the coming pain.

3. Same-gender Sexual Relations: This is sexual relations between members of same gender, like lesbianism (which is between females) and gayism (which is between males). Such things are dirty and an abomination that should be hated. If you are doing this, call upon the Name of the LORD Jesus for deliverance, and He will surely save you.

4. Pornography: God made sex to be an honorable act. It should be a private thing between a husband and his female wife. It is sinful to derive sexual pleasure from seeing the unclothedness of others. It is also sinful to video your sexual encounters and share them with others. Repent this year hence you will regret it!

5. Masturbation: You must not play with your sexual organs for sexual pleasures. You are going against God; and masturbation will only damage your body, soul and spirit.

6. Other Immoral Sexual Acts like smooching someone not your married spouse, sextings and the rest of them

Repent from immoral sexual activities and don't go with them into 2023. Live your life honouring God in holiness and purity. You are meant to have an eternal communion with God your Creator through Jesus Christ, as this is what will empower you to have dominion over creation. This is your destiny. Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and walk with Him in spirit and in truth.

Take the grace to live your life for God, in JESUS NAME.

https://www.sundayakanni.com/2023/01/stop-these-sexual-acts-in-2023.html?m=1

I have bn battling with this number 2 but it seems d answer is far fetched. May God help me,amen

Interesting15:
Sexual immorality has been causing a lot of damages in the lives of so many people (particularly young people). It is really heartbreaking watching young folks suffering and living a damaged and wretched lifestyle and giving room to the devil to get them ruined.

Sexual immorality (particularly premarital sex, porn and masturbation) has turned many young and brilliant people into a nuisance without purpose and focus in life again. Many are now public dogs, STDs carriers, drugs and alcohol addicts, single parents, and the evil devil has brought all form of ugliness into their lives.

The truth is, our society will continue to be an unpleasant one if we keep going contrary to the will of God and embracing immorality. Immorality (like other types of sin) empowers the kingdom of darkness to wreck havoc in our society. So, if people failed to go back to God in repentance, then you can expect more headaches in the society

The Will of God for sex is that all forms of sexual pleasures should be shared only between a married husband and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution, with no other party involved.

Anyone that will obey God's instructions can be sure of living a lifestyle that is devoid of the fatal pangs and pains associated with sexual immorality.

If you will obey God's loving commandments as regards the enjoyment of sexual pleasures (which is actually for your own safety and good), then you must stop these sexual acts and not carry them with you to this new year:

1. Premarital Sex: Fornication is having sex when you are not married. Sex is actually meant for married couples (a male and a female) alone. Even if fornication is the norms out there, don't follow the crowd. Be unique and pure. Yes, it is possible to tame your sexual urges. Don't indulge in premarital sex, and you won't have to experience the negativities attached to it (unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and so on). You can also see more tips on sundayakanni.com

2. Extramarital Sex: Adultery is simply about having sex with someone other than your own spouse. As a married person, ensure you are contented with your husband or wife, and don't have an extramarital affair. The repercussions of adultery are usually deadly. Believe me, the few-minute pleasure derived from illicit sex is not worth the coming pain.

3. Same-gender Sexual Relations: This is sexual relations between members of same gender, like lesbianism (which is between females) and gayism (which is between males). Such things are dirty and an abomination that should be hated. If you are doing this, call upon the Name of the LORD Jesus for deliverance, and He will surely save you.

4. Pornography: God made sex to be an honorable act. It should be a private thing between a husband and his female wife. It is sinful to derive sexual pleasure from seeing the unclothedness of others. It is also sinful to video your sexual encounters and share them with others. Repent this year hence you will regret it!

5. Masturbation: You must not play with your sexual organs for sexual pleasures. You are going against God; and masturbation will only damage your body, soul and spirit.

6. Other Immoral Sexual Acts like smooching someone not your married spouse, sextings and the rest of them

Repent from immoral sexual activities and don't go with them into 2023. Live your life honouring God in holiness and purity. You are meant to have an eternal communion with God your Creator through Jesus Christ, as this is what will empower you to have dominion over creation. This is your destiny. Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and walk with Him in spirit and in truth.

Take the grace to live your life for God, in JESUS NAME.

https://www.sundayakanni.com/2023/01/stop-these-sexual-acts-in-2023.html?m=1

Sir, do you post this on your Facebook account? I want to be sharing it on my Facebook. Well done sir. God bless you sir.

AntiChristian:
Get married o!

Invite me for owambe!

But the cost of weddings this days far exceeds that of fornication!

Make them bring am down!

lol,dont mims them so if sex dey hungry man na,we should just be ensuring ba