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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by ablejesus26(m): 12:37pm On Feb 12, 2023
Do all you did when you met at first,start by looking for where you have faults and work on it.
Talk and communicate on where you are now.
Where you were before and where you intend to be.
In my home our first constitution is No stone walling,so We must talk about everything even the most petty stuffs.
It's 12 years Now.
I pray God will heal your marriage in Jesus name.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by IbileIfe: 12:37pm On Feb 12, 2023
Love is not by force.

Anyone who does not love you can kill you directly or indirectly.

You cannot have peace of mind with anyone who does not love you.

Let her go.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Strong87: 12:38pm On Feb 12, 2023
Meandmycrew:
When you act weak in front of women they will take advantage of you, you are so emotional and your wife can see that in you. She knows you love her so much and probably that why she is doing what she is doing. I tell men most times dont over pamper and over love your woman.Love her but dnt over show it. Baba you need to stand your ground and act like the man of the house and put in her place if she misbehave i love men who dont take shit from
Women. Atimes try to bring out the beast in you it will help them reset their brain.
You really know the full code that the best way to handle women I swear
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jimmychang:
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
There are levels to cheating
1.Emotional affair.
2.Physical Affair.

If it is just emotional,you will notice and you can still secure your marriage but once it is physical omo forget it.Except you are a weak man you will still beg her or feel you can't leave without her.

From her action's,it has shown that she has checked out of the marriage.One thing you need to know is that most women don't marry their affair partners.To the affair partners they are just sex objects.My guy I know it is hard man up and leave that LovePeddler you call a wife.

She doesn't respect you at all that shows that she has another person she is giving her respect and submissiveness to to.She comes home late.Maybe she is screwing her Co worker.

If I were you I would expose her,report her and her affair partner to everybody she knows and you accept the divorce.

She hurt you and threatened to divorce you on top and you are saying you don't wanna leave her.The moment she started cheating she didn't give a Bleep about you.Stop being a pussy and man up.I know men like to solve problems, this is beyond you and you can't solve this.Send the slut parking and move on with your life.

FOR YOU TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE YOU MUST BE READY TO LOSE IT
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Papichulostunne(m): 12:40pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
You both should go for councelling
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Blacksavage(m): 12:40pm On Feb 12, 2023
🤧🤧
Shey I go fit marry like this God...
Cuz as I dey so I no like things dey stress my head..
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by onatisi(m): 12:41pm On Feb 12, 2023
it seems the op is just whinning us jare , make we no disturb ourselves
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:41pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
Nigerian married woman dey write love letter?
I don't believe your story.


That can only happen by a girl in junior school.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by pappilo(m): 12:41pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
You cant. I know the human thing is to try to fix the marriage but the reality is once the love is gone, it will never come back. At most you patch it up for like 6 months but everything will still fall apart eventually.

I know this isnt what you want to hear but someone has to tell it to. Start making plans for a life without her and under no circumstances must you get physical/violent.

Source: Breakfast Experience
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:41pm On Feb 12, 2023
Your wife is an adult, as are you.

If within yourself, you're confident that you've been a good husband and haven't deviated from the things you used to do that have kept your marriage going for 10years now, then the worry is not yours to carry.

She's roundly entitled to her choices and the attendant consequences hitherto. So, if she's suddenly becoming a stranger in your home, give her the liberty she seeks, find happiness in raising those beautiful kids and if she presses for a divorce, let her have it but on your own terms, as regards custody of the children.

You have to understand that marriage is a tiresome lifestyle. The glow and butterfly effects are in the first 5 to 8years, afterwards it requires more than love and sex to keep. She's probably drained of the sweet feel that came with being married to you and has opted to seek more adventure out there. And between you and me, there's nothing you can do to change that, even if you decide to go sleep on a prayer mountain for a month without food and water, she'll only return to the wife you used to know, if and when she decides to. But if she doesn't, embrace the fact that your marriage has outlived its usefulness and take solace in the belief that you did your best.

Wake up and face reality!
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Anunakeeh: 12:42pm On Feb 12, 2023
Stupid and Weak Men everywhere these days.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jimmychang: 12:42pm On Feb 12, 2023
jaxxy:
Rekindle the old flame. Marriage is not automatically a success or happy place. It takes work, effort, effective communication and understanding.

Marriage is not a final destination it is a journey and a process.

Ur wife comes back late and can't cook and u think the solution is to nag? Sometimes u have to ignore abit and show the other person u value them. Its not by words bt actions and it's not by picking faults bt not showing any actions urself.

Handling a woman is quite simple if u understand them along as they are not self destruct.

Now u suspect her, overly bothered about her calls to the point u looking for faults more than building the marriage.
How the Bleep do you come up with this bullshit.This one of the most stupid write up I have read.The wife is gone her heart is with another.If you like give her the world her heart is no longer in the marriage.

Win his wife back Seriously?
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by colestephan86: 12:42pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
First,
You both must understand that contentment will help your marriage last very long.
You both most make conscious effort to make the marriage work
You both must be very open on how you put your income together to grow the family
Finally patience is very very and very important so tha your home dont shatter in pieces
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by dettolgel: 12:43pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
The day you start convincing someone to love you and be in a relationship with you is the day you lost it. Because for the rest of that relationship you will have to convince them to stay.

Oga borrow sense and respect yourself.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by NonnyDot(m): 12:43pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeneralPula:
Did you marry her a virgin?
General Pula hahhahaha
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by meekme(m): 12:44pm On Feb 12, 2023
Try to know her closest friend(s), observe their lifestyle. She probably just met some wayward cliques and trying to fit in.
It is better for you to stop being emotional around her. Withdraw your attention gradually and start taking care of yourself and your child. Make it obvious to her that you're all about your child and yourself and that her absence won't affect you.
This should help reset her brain. If not, it would help prepare your mind for her absence.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by MarketDispatch: 12:44pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

ously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
Your Wife's change of attitude lies in her WhatsApp. Until you find out, nothing will change
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Antell95(m): 12:44pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
let her GO. Carry your kids and focus.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Edusouls(m): 12:44pm On Feb 12, 2023
Brother u have lost ur wife, love don expire, she has already started cheating on u if u don’t know, see we have to understand that all is vanity in this life, nothing remains, nothing lasts forever
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Yankiss(m): 12:44pm On Feb 12, 2023
For you to have your marriage back, you must be ready to lose it. From experience, honestly that woman is seeing someone outside, if not already intimate with the one. Does she deny you sex as well? If she does, that's confirmed. But if she doesnt deny you sex, you can still save the marriage. Nothing prayer cannot do, but do not give her the impression she is so important and that you can't live without her. Even Siamese twins can be separated and live different lives. Summon her to her mother or anyone she respects much in her line. Complain and make it clear you can't take her current behaviour. Make it clear to her that you are not ready to continue with her if she doesn't change her attitude. She was no longer the woman u married. Then codedly start keeping late too and not caring. Are you the house maid? Things you have been covering, ignore them. She will come back to her senses or leave permanently. If you like go begging her, you are only emphasizing her resolve to dump you. If you find out she's digging outside, just dump her sorry arse. Give her a marching order. Divorce her yourself!!
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by adecz:
💔💔💔💔💔


Truth is, there is really nothing you
can do when a woman's heart has gone
somewhere else. The more you try to
work things out, the more intransigent
she'll become & view your efforts as
weakness. Do your best, but NEVER beg❗️❗️

Most times, she'll come to regret whatever
choice she is preparing to make.

My opinion is to prepare your mind for
the eventuality, no matter how painful.
Time will heal any hurt.

If you love something, let it go. If it comes
back to you then it's yours, if it doesn't
come back, it was never yours.💔💔💔


I come in peace and wisdom🕊️🕊️✌️✌️✌️

Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by twilliamx(m): 12:45pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
You will survive if she leaves. Get that in to your head first, the. That aside seek marriage counseling. It's not worth it holding in to someone who has lost love. It is not mentally healthy
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by bjdon: 12:45pm On Feb 12, 2023
As women falk in love, so they can fall out of love. Social media age makes it much easier. Your wife could be having an emotional affair o Facebook/IG and you would be none the wiser.
It's time for you to be a MAN. Have a proper conversation with her, and let her know how you feel about things. Her reaction will tell you all you need to now. You must prepare yourself for the real possibility that your Marriage may be over.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by xevove2061: 12:45pm On Feb 12, 2023
fman:
U r a fooolish SIMP just like moh247
My exact same thoughts. The kind of men society is producing these days. Very weak, emotionally unstable and feministic in nature. Because times have become soft, it has produced weak and lazy men.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by bjdon: 12:46pm On Feb 12, 2023
adecz:
💔💔💔💔💔


Truth is, there is really nothing you
can do when a woman's heart has gone
somewhere else. The more you try to
work things out, the more intransigent
she'll become & view your efforts as
weakness. Do your best, but NEVER beg❗️❗️

Most times, she'll come to regret whatever
choice she is preparing to make.

My opinion is to prepare your mind for
the eventuality, no matter how painful.
Time will heal any hurt.

If you love something, let it go. If it comes
back to you then it's yours, if it doesn't
come back, it was never yours.💔💔💔


I come in peace and wisdom🕊️🕊️✌️✌️✌️
Words of Wisdom. I salute you!!
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Victor08032(m): 12:46pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
Mine too was just clocked ten years last month 19th January with 3kids..

I want you to believe that no marriage is perfect, we are meant to manage ourselves and if you can succeed in managing your marriage till the end without division or falling apart you will surely make heaven because God created man and woman to be meant to become one flesh not 2 on one as the other religions Islam meant to be.

My brother, to my a Little experience, the only key to secure your marriage is to become a fool, ZOOBIE, humble and endurance .. pls don't be too arscious, just take it easy with her, woman sometimes act as if they have ego, but always give God space to have his way. It is well... 08020962020 for more counseling
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by NonnyDot(m): 12:46pm On Feb 12, 2023
jimmychang:
How the Bleep do you come up with this bullshit.This one of the most stupid write up I have read.The wife is gone her heart is with another.If you like give her the world her heart is no longer in the marriage.

Win his wife back Seriously?

Don't mind that Fool in a woman clothing's. They will always have justification for everything.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by IamtheTruth1(m): 12:47pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
Know this and know peace " You can never keep a woman that doesn't want to be kept"
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 12:47pm On Feb 12, 2023
Eriokanmi:
Guy, please don't listen to advice of all those small boys using their mum's phone to type trash here. If you believe God, pray and fast over this. It could be a sign of imminent crisis. The enemy is at work, going by your story, if true. God is lacking in many homes today which is why they divorce anyhow. No marriage without crisis bro. I was once there and I overcame it. I almost lost my beautiful home I built for over a decade.

Fast and pray for 2 days, at least and see changes. Don't over react. She'd come back to her senses. Good luck
I expected someone to bring the religious angle to this issue, and as usual, I wasn't disappointed.

Every bad thing for this country na work of the devil for ordinary citizens.

He should go and fast and pray... grin. Na him wan fast and pray pass Chris Oyakhilome wey be divorcee?
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Qatar2022: 12:47pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.
She is cheating on you, get ready for the worst
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Buksaylor: 12:49pm On Feb 12, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
I just registered this account few weeks ago and someone is equating me with another account. Is this how this forum works? Are there no admins to take charge? Please who is that Obama abi Messi?
No admins o..
This is a tribal forum!
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