Profgenius:
My husband is making sexual advances towards my 12-year-old house maid. What should I do?

malaria:
Are you denying him his right ?

Gloriagee:
And if she is, isn't it logical to resolve wateva is making a sane woman deny her husband his rights. Assuming, shes unreasonable and hes comfortable with adultery, are there are no adults and even prostitutes, side chics whose consent he can receive to commit his adultery with?

Abroad, he can be arrested and placed on a sexual offenders list for messing with a minor. Im sure when he ends up with a criminal record, he can justify it by saying his wife was denying him his rights.
I dont think the man is guilty yet , he is making advances that's why i asked such question to know the reason for that . If it's a man who wants to have a friend of the opposite sex he would go.outside immediately the woman would not even know ..this is not abroad .This is nija, she should act fast before her maids becomes her co wife. Its just that the girl is a.minor that's the luck she has she is still asking questions.

malaria:
■ Are you denying him his right ?

Gloriagee:
12 years old. You need to return the maid and look out for your daughters. [b]If he has actually abused her, he needs to be reported to his family and religious organisation. [/b]He's a sexual offender and he definitely doesn't have any sympathy from me.

Mindlog:


No, those who have the best interest of the minor in mind should have him reported to the Police and have him arrested and prosecuted, so he can spend some time in prison and away from minors.

I have personally intervened in a case where the house help was 15 at the time and have been severally defiled by the man of the house and the wife finally got the girl sent back to the village and got a new girl to take care of their 3 kids.

I got people to help me trace the abused minor to her village and brought her back to Lagos and got the pedophile and his wife arrested for being his enabler, their relatives were pleading that they have 3 small kids all under the age 7 as the youngest was months old, that it can be settled outside the judicial system, DVSTR (Lagos State) had the woman released but the husband is still in custody while awaiting trial

You don't report sexual abusers to their families, report them to the law.

Mindlog:
No, those who have the best interest of the minor in mind should have him reported to the Police and have him arrested and prosecuted, so he can spend some time in prison and away from minors.

I have personally intervened in a case where the house help was 15 at the time and have been severally defiled by the man of the house and the wife finally got the girl sent back to the village and got a new girl to take care of their 3 kids.

I got people to help me trace the abused minor to her village and brought her back to Lagos and got the pedophile and his wife arrested for being his enabler, their relatives were pleading that they have 3 small kids all under the age 7 as the youngest was months old, that it can be settled outside the judicial system, DVSTR (Lagos State) had the woman released but the husband is still in custody while awaiting trial

You don't report sexual abusers to their families, report them to the law.

Kobojunkie:
The wife simply sent the molested girl back and got another one to put in the same environment? There are very very wicked wicked human beings out there abeg. The woman ought not to have been released at all as her crime was as heavy as her husband's. The girl was a minor in her care and she abandoned her to the whims of her pedophile of a husband.

How certain are they the man didn't get around to molesting his own kids in all?

Mindlog:
■ I was discussing recently with someone that, there is need to have NGOs in Nigeria, that visits public primary and secondary schools in urban areas where most of minors who are househelps, attend school.
■They should liase with the school management to continually offer talks to the young ones on sexual exploitation at home and give them numbers they call when they find themselves in inappropriate situations.

Kobojunkie:
1. That sounds like a great idea.

2. Not too sure school management would be amenable to it though.

Mindlog:


They would with much engagement. I remember when I did a project in a public primary school some years back in Lagos, a good number of the girls from primary 4 to 6 were househelps and there was a particular girl in primary 5 who was brought into the headmistress office where I was discussing with her, the girl had belt marks all over body because she resisted being inappropriately touched at home[right][/right].

malaria:
Are you denying him his right ?