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My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by MrPresent(m): 9:43am On Nov 07, 2021
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by daddytime(m): 9:49am On Nov 07, 2021
Lol

Overtake don overtake, overtake.

Overtaking is allowed, madam.

The first shall be the last, and the last.....?


* I sell clean US used laptops.
My WhatsApp number is on my signature..

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Nobody: 9:54am On Nov 07, 2021
Nannies are humans, she should shut up and mind her business.The least she can do is to stop living under the same roof with her since she's now a madam as well.Smart nanny lol.I'm just after the old man's happiness,that's all.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by spinna: 9:56am On Nov 07, 2021
Why not be happy for the girl and accept her and await your own change of levels..this story is a parable against pride

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by crackhaus: 9:57am On Nov 07, 2021
daddytime:
Lol

Overtake don overtake, overtake.

Overtaking is allowed, madam.


The first shall be the last, and the last.....?
cheesy cheesy

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by neonly: 9:59am On Nov 07, 2021
DriverX:
Mumu. The way you looked down on her, it's your turn now. Get a bucket, cry into it, then drink your tears later


I tell u d way women hate themselves no get part two imagine calling her new mother in-laws a nanny no be d same under them get
I remember dis song
Those who u meet on yur way up you might meet them again when u coming down
If nanny can make d father in-laws happy so bi it
Nice one from d husband standing by his father decision atleast how long d man get to live dat she want to deprive him of happiness

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by crackhaus: 10:02am On Nov 07, 2021
When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid...
This woman don't have sense. She will just die for nothing.. grin

I wonder what makes her think she's more special or on a higher level than a maid.

Abi is it not the same vagina both of them are carrying, or does her own taste like strawberry and smell like fresh roses?

Wonderful!!

I've said it before and it's a fact that women look down on other women than men looking down on women. cheesy

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Abfinest007(m): 10:08am On Nov 07, 2021
You're married and you are happy why not allow others to marry and be happy .
2)why do you have to refer to her as common nanny.common nanny is not common to your father inlaw
3)you don't have the right to decide for your father in-law who to be with weda nanny or not .it all about his happiness




Finally advice take her as a mother forget the age difference or her status if not you be the one to be kick out of the house

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Biglittlelois(f): 10:24am On Nov 07, 2021
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neonly:



I tell u d way women hate themselves no get part two imagine calling her new mother in-laws a nanny no be d same under them get
I remember dis song
Those who u meet on yur way up you might meet them again when u coming down
If nanny can make d father in-laws happy so bi it
Nice one from d husband standing by his father decision atleast how long d man get to live dat she want to deprive him of happiness
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Ninety6: 10:27am On Nov 07, 2021
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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Drakkernoir: 10:37am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

Humans are naturally selfish..see ehn..this life is too short...whatever makes you happy..by all means do it. If the nanny makes the man happy..then because of status of pride..no one has a right to deprive him.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Kobojunkie: 10:49am On Nov 07, 2021
So because the lady was her nanny, somehow madam of the house think say nanny no get right to advance herself in life or marry whomever she chooses abi without her, madam's, say so? undecided

Madam of house believed nanny needed permission from her because somehow nanny was meant to exist as Madam's personal property/slave, right? undecided

Na wa oo! undecided

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by GboyegaD(m): 11:01am On Nov 07, 2021
The madam is very selfish. So a nanny doesn't deserve love or riches? What a wicked soul she is.

My only advice will be she convincing the husband if possible for them to go rent their own apt so that she can focus on her family. If he doesn't agree, she should learn to live with the nanny and please see her as her father-in-law's newest wife.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by muller101(m): 11:04am On Nov 07, 2021
So she should remain a nanny forever. Selfish woman.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by DriverX: 11:04am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him
If they are happy together, why not? Is my mother supposed to get pregnant by me? That he's a driver, does it make him less human?

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by GboyegaD(m): 11:07am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

Aren't adults old enough to make their decisions?

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by bigjackass: 11:10am On Nov 07, 2021
Why do you mean by your nanny? No be monthly salary you dey give am ? Or have you already paid her to be your permanent nanny for life? Let them marry then you face your front and hire another nanny.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Biglittlelois(f): 11:22am On Nov 07, 2021
GboyegaD:


Aren't adults old enough to make their decisions?


Do you know the difference between feeling and decision?

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Biglittlelois(f): 11:25am On Nov 07, 2021
DriverX:
If they are happy together, why not? Is my mother supposed to get pregnant by me? That he's a driver, does it make him less human?


I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by RealAdewole(m): 11:26am On Nov 07, 2021
Another thread about ladies bitter about fellow lady progress...
so you did not want your father-in-law happiness? Afterall we find love in unexpected places.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by GboyegaD(m): 11:30am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:



Do you know the difference between feeling and decision?

Sure I do and all I'm saying is there's nothing to feel when an adult makes a decision.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Biglittlelois(f): 11:31am On Nov 07, 2021
GboyegaD:


Sure I do and all I'm saying is there's nothing to feel when an adult makes a decision.


When it involves family? Very funny.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Klass99(f): 11:35am On Nov 07, 2021
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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by GboyegaD(m): 11:37am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:

When it involves family? Very funny.

It isn't funny, we should learn to be less selfish and allow others enjoy their choices.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by neonly: 11:44am On Nov 07, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him


Has long has she go dey happy dat all dat matters

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Biglittlelois(f): 11:44am On Nov 07, 2021
GboyegaD:


It isn't funny, we should learn to be less selfish and allow others enjoy their choices.

Who said they shouldn't enjoy their choices?

Get it, making ones opinion known on an issue positively or negatively as in the case of the Op, and expressing it is not a bad thing, this shouldn't be too hard to understand.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Hayee(f): 11:50am On Nov 07, 2021
Is it just me
But actually don't see any problem here undecided undecided

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Nobody: 11:53am On Nov 07, 2021
MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

Why did you come here to make public your your kind of person. You are very dangerous person. How rich were your family before you got married? Imagine yourself saying you were married into a wealthy family. It's something to be eternally grateful..

You have not a percent say to who the old man wants to marry. Who are you by the way?
I know your pains is that your maid will now be richer than you. Marrying the old man automatically lands her a share in the family inheritance. That's your bitterness lady

You weren't there when the family went through tooth and nail to build a fortune. You have got no say whatever on what happens to the fortune. You're entitled to nothing.


Wahala no de finish, so what if you were the late wife but still alive and the man decides to marry another woman?

"Your maid for that matter", she was ur employee not ur slave, you bitter woman.
She's just being lucky, just like you

You're sad because your husband didn't support you. That man must have had enough of your bad character, he did no crime, he only gave you an opportunity many never had. Do not frustrate his life

You asked of ma thought. This is what I think

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by cayorday89(m): 11:54am On Nov 07, 2021
She brought it upon herself, ego and pride, immediately Big Papa don dey chop am, she suppose respect the Papa not lady and mellow since it is not her husband. Even at that I see no big deal here, of only she hadn't talk low of the said lady, she could have gotten the respect of the lady and they will work in tandem and still use the lady to do all he house chores since it has been her duty from day one and if not, they will get another nanny which is still same.
This is a clear case of treat people well on your way to the top, you don't know when you might be needing them or how quick they will also get to the top.
Now two men dey house with their woman, she is the lesser woman and her husband the lesser man. Oga Madam your girlie is now the bigger Madam.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Nobody: 11:56am On Nov 07, 2021
When you decide to hire a nanny, do not hire an adult, beautiful nanny.

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