My friend Daniel (not real name) used to hate everybody in his family, from is dad down. He was the only boy in the family but there offence was that they wanted to shape him well and with every slight mistake comes a thorough beating. He grew up fighting for his freedom and when he ultimately freed himself, he became the most disrespectful kid, feared by his parents and siblings during our youthful stage . This is one of the result of excessive spanking.

There is no one-way to parenting, what works for Daddy nkechi might not work for Baba kudi. This is the mentality every parents must have as this will help us to know we ain't perfect and be open to learn more.

I read a thread asking if spanking a child is good or bad on frontpage some days ago, the writer and most people who commented on the thread seems to think you can't raise a kid without spanking them. Not that I don't agree with that disposition, but make it seems like the norm is wrong. You can raise kids without spanking or with atleast once In a blue moon spanking.

Please, stop thinking about what you see on televisions, there are Europeans and Americans who doesn't beat or spank there kids and those kids doesn't grow up to yell, shout or become indisciplined towards them.

Wait! Don't get me wrong, as an African I beat my little boy when his annoyance reach the optimum peak but there are a lot of time I overlook his excesses and try to make him understand that what he is doing is wrong, rather than spanking or beating him. To me this approach helps him learn why I hate what he is doing and why he should stop doing it.

Again, I'm not saying you shouldn't spank your kids, I believe it just a lazy and easy way we employ in trying to correct our kids and it is not really the most effective way. For example, when your little boy continuously jumps on a sofa in your living room and it disturbs you, you told him " stop", he looks at you and stopped for some minutes, do you notice that most times they tend to go back to the action? Yes, this is because you failed to address their feelings, the boy wants to play or to be more specific jump but you are not ready to think about another alternative for him. The best thing you should have done as a parent is to give him an avenue to exercise his feeling of jumping, instead of beating him to stop jumping on the sofa, tell him to go outside and jump or away from the sofa and you ( if the jumping is disturbing you) and jump or suggest another kind of play to him, like that, everyone will have the peace they want without having to quarrel.

To me, though spanking is a quick, easy and also an effective way to stop a child from misbehaving it should be used as a last resort when other forms of discipline have failed.

Studies have shown that children who are regularly spanked are more likely to develop aggression and behavior problems, have lower self-esteem, and suffer from anxiety and depression. Additionally, spanking can cause physical harm and may lead to child abuse if done excessively or without restraint.

Remember, I am not saying you should not spank your kids, but make it the last resort, try to reason as a kid and understand why they are doing what they are doing and try to present an alternative to them when they eer.

Nice write up but

Thank God you said we can all make our different choices.

Only failures beat their kids to ease their frustration

Dem go complain police brutality but doesn’t realize it’s just same thing as they have more power to correct/torture you.

I don’t ever believe in spanking of kids. My parents didn’t for once spank me so I’ll never spank my kids as well. I would rather talk to them. Nice write up

IyaebeTheGreat:
I don’t ever believe in spanking of kids. My parents didn’t for one day spank me so I’ll never spank my kids as well. I would rather talk to them. Nice write up

How did they make you listen to them then?

Ayilara1:


How did they make you listen to them then?

By talking to me

IyaebeTheGreat:
By talking to me

Lols.

How do you talk to your kid that bath your phone in water?

Ayilara1:


Lols.

How do you talk to your kid that bath your phone in water?

Why would you leave your phone carelessly at the mercy of a kid?

IyaebeTheGreat:
Why would you leave your phone carelessly at the mercy of a kid?

The question is what will you do?

In my opinion, it all depends on the age, but to be very frank, the punishment or spanking/beating of our parents made us or marred us.

Though there are certain unnecessary beatings we received from our parents which made some kids either hate or drift apart from them. Other cases we have received free beatings for what we knew nothing about.

I believe in first talk to our kids before resorting to spanking..the disadvantage of spanking however is when they grow to a certain level above spanking, how then do you correct them?