₦airaland Forum

achorladey:
■ Have you taken a look at this from this angle based on the below...... Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ

Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.

Kobojunkie:
1. Let's be reasonable here, shall we?

■ Majority of Nigerians do not concern themselves about Jesus Christ when thinking of marriage as they are instead filled with traditional ideas of what they want and how they can achieve it
■ The Law of Jesus Christ pertains to how we treat everybody we meet, and not simply those we are in a marriage with. I am not certain you realize it but most Nigerian couples believe marriage means cutting themselves off — their women in particular — from everyone else except their spouse and children. Whereas Jesus Christ commands that those who would follow Him abandon their father, mother, wife, children, friends, etc., in order to become worthy of Him - Matthew 10 vs 34 - 39. These are completely different poles we have here.

Let's be reasonable

Majority of Nigerians do not concern themselves about Jesus Christ when thinking of marriage as they are instead filled with traditional ideas of what they want and how they can achieve it

The Law of Jesus Christ pertains to how we treat everybody we meet, and not simply those we are in a marriage with.

I am not certain you realize it but most Nigerian couples believe marriage means cutting themselves off — their women in particular — from everyone else except their spouse and children. Whereas Jesus Christ commands that those who would follow Him abandon their father, mother, wife, children, friends, etc., in order to become worthy of Him - Matthew 10 vs 34 - 39. These are completely different poles we have here

DMerciful:
A decent and well brought up woman will respect her husband, not because he bears 100% of the responsibilities but because of his leadership, wisdom, love for her and his discipline.

A man carrying 100% of the financial responsibility when his wife equally work is gross foolishness!

Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.

Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

Amumaigwe:
Your standpoint is very weak. Are you now saying that wives that their husbands pay all the bills are all submissive and respectful to the man? The fact that you allude that just provision makes women honour their husbands should be viewed as an insult to decent wives.

Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.

Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

DMerciful:
Even if your wife is contributing 40% of her salary, you're still the head of the family if you're not a simp.

Respect is not because you carry 100% of the financial responsibilities but because of your leadership and discipline!

Kobojunkie:
It should be discussed indeed. But how many men are ready for these discussions which will essentially end up stripping them of their godhood status in marriage? Because no sane woman would want to contribute and still remain a mere slave/househelp cum glorified sex tool/worker cum baby mama in her own marriage.

razible5384:
you've got a very dark mind. Your kind ought to die single....spit

Kobojunkiee:
1. You are not looking at this from the right angle at all.

This isn't a matter of weakness but inner conflict. Are Nigerian men ready to exist as partners in their marriage with their opinions carrying equal weight as that of their spouse? Are Nigerian men ready to also share the responsibility in other aspects of their union? Are they ready to let go of the Head-of-Household status that traditionally goes along with bearing 100% financial responsibility? Many of these men know that the moment they begin to share financial responsibility, they are likely to also share in cooking and other household chores in addition to losing their god-like status in marriage. Are Nigerian men ready for such a change?

If a man is ok with being a partner, all he needs do is make that clear to the woman he marries in his marriage agreement with her, and they both go from there.

dbestuncle:
Even in partnership na 1 person go ve CEO. The home can't operate on equal right no! The man is the head n that doesn't mean you shouldn't help as a woman

Kobojunkie:
So, in your own brain, people who choose to live and die single do so as punishment of some sort? Yikes!

razible5384:
your's will not be out of choice, but improvidence

thesicilian:
For some men it mainly because of ego. They want to be able to brag that they're the ones doing everything. Then at the end it's either heart attack or untimely death.

ednut1:
To me its rubbish. Alot of men want to form provider and head of the home. Account balance nothing, no property, just managing. Meanwhile the wife is using her own money to buy land and build houses. Alot of women bought houses land in ikorodu, ikotun, ayobo and the like that year without their husbands knowing. Men be smart. Once a woman is not comfortable spending her own money on you or her self don’t marry her

Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.