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Is there any reason why issues in marriage between spouse should cause the father to avoid every need of the kids or wife while still married? I'm so interested in sharing. Join.

Marriage been a union in agreement should be in accordance and respect to each capacity. Two are supposed to be one, right, there comes in agreement and understanding because without it, two can never be one.

On what grounds does either spouse self desire to neglect a family? Biblical teachings, norms, law. Drop a comment.

ronicare:
Is there any reason why issues in marriage between spouse should cause the father to avoid every need of the kids or wife while still married? I'm so interested in sharing. Join.
Marriage been a union in agreement should be in accordance and respect to each capacity. Two are supposed to be one, right, there comes in agreement and understanding because without it, two can never be one.
On what grounds does either spouse self desire to neglect a family? Biblical teachings, norms, law. Drop a comment.

every men have the right to decide how they wanna react to any issue in their marriage... there are no rules set in stone saying that every men should take care of their family, regardless of what is happening in their lives.

i can fully understand why...
- many men will not pay support for children if/when their wife forbids them to see their own kids
- many men will not pay support for wives that are disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest/deceitful to them
- many men will stop supporting a wife that they have decided to divorce (unless a judge decides otherwise) even though they may still be married.

ronicare:
Is there any reason why issues in marriage between spouse should cause the father to avoid every need of the kids or wife while still married? I'm so interested in sharing. Join. Marriage been a union in agreement should be in accordance and respect to each capacity. Two are supposed to be one, right, there comes in agreement and understanding because without it, two can never be one. On what grounds does either spouse self desire to neglect a family? Biblical teachings, norms, law. Drop a comment.

In the case of neglect, the woman should consider suing the man for abandonment abeg! No need for a long talk.

This is loud oooooo. Hmmmm
1. Can a woman avoid a man from seeing his own kids? The man must have been neglecting responsibilities. Even if avoided by a woman, is there a real link between father and children which ought to negate feeling of neglect of a child?

2. A submissive wife deserves care and to be loved. Do men marry disrespectful women, cheat from start etc? I own her, I have paid for her blabla bla, making a Man expose a woman to certain attributes? The bible condemns adultery, it is worse for a woman. Marriage is for the matured my take.

3. For a man to decide on his own without notice or been divorced to care for his wife is bad. Divorce made provisions for both parties. Can a man reform a woman to become as she was before marriage? Any man who loves will for no trivial reason decide own his own. Love is sweet but marriage is for the matured.

MrBrownJay1:
every men have the right to decide how they wanna react to any issue in their marriage... there are no rules set in stone saying that every men should take care of their family, regardless of what is happening in their lives.

i can fully understand why...
- many men will not pay support for children if/when their wife forbids them to see their own kids
- many men will not pay support for wives that are disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest/deceitful to them
- many men will stop supporting a wife that they have decided to divorce (unless a judge decides otherwise) even though they may still be married.

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=122667988]In the case of neglect, the woman should consider suing the man for abandonment abeg! No need for a long talk. [/quot

Legally you are correct.

Morally, the society sees a woman doing such as arrogant but is there supposed to be betrayal from a spouse because without betrayal such issues are not expected?

Biblical, isn't a man indirectly encouraging the woman towards adultery? Infact in a situation where the woman does not work, hmmmmm. Now, the man expects a prayer answered by God who he betrays via a human being (wife)
This quotes applies to either party husband/wife

My view, let everyone work, woman be yourself and on no ground abandon your children. Men, the beginning for extra home, the beginning of more extra. No one is perfect except God.

ronicare:
This is loud oooooo. Hmmmm
1. Can a woman avoid a man from seeing his own kids? The man must have been neglecting responsibilities. Even if avoided by a woman, is there a real link between father and children which ought to negate feeling of neglect of a child?

many women out there use children to get back at their husband... and yes, many will stop you from seeing your kids because they are upset you dont want to be with "wifey" any longer. they will say BS such as:"we come as a package, if you dont want to be with me, you will never see you kids again"

2. A submissive wife deserves care and to be loved. Do men marry disrespectful women, cheat from start etc? I own her, I have paid for her blabla bla, making a Man expose a woman to certain attributes? The bible condemns adultery, it is worse for a woman. Marriage is for the matured my take.

sadly, many men only get to find out the type of wife they got only AFTER MARRIAGE... because many out there will pretend to be who they are not, in order to get married. the minute you say "i do" thats when you will now discover who your wife truly is.

3. For a man to decide on his own without notice or been divorced to care for his wife is bad. Divorce made provisions for both parties. Can a man reform a woman to become as she was before marriage? Any man who loves will for no trivial reason decide own his own. Love is sweet but marriage is for the matured.

if a married man catches his wife in bed with the gateman, do you believe he should still provide for "her", because they are still married?

ronicare:
■ Legally you are correct. Morally, the society sees a woman doing such as arrogant but is there supposed to be betrayal from a spouse because without betrayal such issues are not expected?
■ Biblical, isn't a man indirectly encouraging the woman towards adultery? Infact in a situation where the woman does not work, hmmmmm. Now, the man expects a prayer answered by God who he betrays via a human being (wife). This quotes applies to either party husband/wife
■ My view, let everyone work, woman be yourself and on no ground abandon your children. Men, the beginning for extra home, the beginning of more extra. No one is perfect except God.

1. Society which you care so much for allows the betrayal so do you sit and continue to shovel the betrayal down your own throat too?

2. Forget the religious hogwash you have been fed by your pastors and mogs. God's simply formulae as far as prayer is concerned is that He does not answer the prayers, pleas, petitions, and requests of the unrighteous; the prayers of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins and rendered an abomination to God. So, it ain't all that marriage stuff that is the major problem as it is more unrighteousness. God, how vee, answers all the prayers of the righteous irrespective of gender or marital status. Simple, right?

3. Please inform whoever is caught in the mess you described to sue the other spouse foe abandonment of responsibility so that commonsense can reign abeg.

MrBrownJay1:
many women out there use children to get back at their husband... and yes, many will stop you from seeing your kids because they are upset you dont want to be with "wifey" any longer. they will say BS such as:"we come as a package, if you dont want to be with me, you will never see you kids again"

***** life no balance, this so called using children to get husband, does it really work? Don't want to believe that because some men says, *** you care more for the kids**** abeg is it another man or there own blood?
Same goes to delay in child bearing in some home, spouse cannot manage nor communicate well. What then is marriage?



sadly, many men only get to find out the type of wife they got only AFTER MARRIAGE... because many out there will pretend to be who they are not, in order to get married. the minute you say "i do" thats when you will now discover who your wife truly is.
**** it applies to both, either a man nor woman**** before marriage, a man reason towards requesting a wife to be to assist in food items, cooking and give out money for such to be done without been requested. Why will a working class man feel excessively reluctant to give money for food to the family? Pretence, in fact some women don't even know more than party and latest in town. Do people even show there true self, is better to be real than fake it. Some pretend to have stopped drinking, hide smoking and even gambling. Same to the runs women.



if a married man catches his wife in bed with the gateman, do you believe he should still provide for "her", because they are still married?

*** this is a broad topic, it is very bad. Is better to divorce than commence such. But come to think of it, where is the husband? Men sleeps more outside marriage, which makes some men not even care about the wife nor children. It is not funny when some men will suddenly even reject there wife or perform well due to been exhausted outside. A man that performs so regularly before marriage for no reason will leave a woman because he felt he already got her due to marriage, nah so. Hmmmm. It takes maturity.

Kobojunkie:
1. Society which you care so much for allows the betrayal so do you sit and continue to shovel the betrayal down your own throat too?

**** you are correct, the truth is, if things are fine, good. else action is better. It should be easy for a man to divorce a woman been abandoned. Why the second thought of silence as some men do through neglect or distance once not in similar location? Pure greed and wicked heart.

2. Forget the religious hogwash you have been fed by your pastors and mogs. God's simply formulae as far as prayer is concerned is that He does not answer the prayers, pleas, petitions, and requests of the unrighteous; the prayers of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins and rendered an abomination to God. So, it ain't all that marriage stuff that is the major problem as it is more unrighteousness. God, how vee, answers all the prayers of the righteous irrespective of gender or marital status. Simple, right?
**** let no spouse blame the other over there predicament, retract and seek forgiveness.

3. Please inform whoever is caught in the mess you described to sue the other spouse foe abandonment of responsibility so that commonsense can reign abeg.

That is the real thing, society needs sanctity and speaking out for help is better than silence.

ronicare:
■ That is the real thing, society needs sanctity and speaking out for help is better than silence.

1. Society will only wake up if individuals--- victims-- decide they have had enough of the wrong treatment. It is the same everywhere .