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Good morning friends.

Having given up on a number of relationships in the past for reasons bordering on trust and behavioral issues with the ladies I was involved with, I met a lady recently that I like but I'm a little concerned on another issue.

Though we met recently, about two weeks to be precise, she professed love for me early and easily too, I am even the one struggling to catch up with her passion.
She told me she's never been lucky with men and especially her immediate ex and how the fella really mistreated her and do hoped I'll be different of which I promised to always treat her right.

My concern: when I talk to her sometimes, she'll completely blank out. I'll sometimes repeat the same thing time and again without getting a response from her, not even an acknowledgement that she heard me or doesn't understand whatever it is I was saying. For instance, she visited me some days ago and while preparing to leave was rubbing perfume oil that was almost exhausted, I asked if I should give her another because I had an extra bottle, she never responded, I repeated same words three times and she didn't behave as if she heard me or understand me. I went on to get the perfume oil and gave to her and she was so ecstatic and thanked me so much.

Communication is central to the life of every relationship and while we are not really misunderstanding each other, my girl seems to suffer partial or occasional loss of hearing abilities. I am careful not to bring this up with her so soon given how young our relationship is but it's really affecting how we relate as I am gradually getting used to it and hence can't communicate freely with her.

Though she's Numan from Adamawa and I'm Yoruba, tribal differences has never affected how I relate with people.

Give it time. Good things often come with challenges laced up with them. Besides, its not yet confirmed, that she's got a partial hearing problem. You never can tell, she might just be absent minded, not the other way round. However, if you love, and most importantly, trust her, then stick a little longer, you might discover mysteries that'll amaze you.

Treath her well. She has good heart, that is what matters most.

Study her more to know her kind of personality. If she posses what you want in a woman then don't joke about with the relationship. She seems like a good woman though..
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i think she has hearing problem. discuss it with her when you're together, she will tell you whether or not she hears

udede:
Treath her well. She has good heart, that is what matters most.

Treat her well?
She has a good heart?


Oga, do you realize she's a Nigerian girl

i think she might currently be going through a mental or psychological phase.

try to know if something negative happened to her recently like when was her last breakup?
or is it her nature?
such knowledge will help you understand her better.

Should you take her serious?

No, really?

If you're not going to love someone all through the way, why exactly are you with them again?

What exactly has she done for you to be contemplating her 'unseriousness?'

Why aren't you talking to her HER? You cannot CHAT (have the discussion) with her on WhatsApp where she has the time and can read to respond to you?

Or when she's at your place, and at the times she listens, ask her, and when she zones out, write it on a piece of paper, or tap her? Since you've seen that she's always quite interested in something you did for her but she doesn't hear when suggest it.

Basically, she's your woman and you should not be asking us how to love her. If you're ready for a relationship, you should be learning about her and asking the important questions upfront, since this is going to be a great part of your relationship. Get a full disclosure upfront, know where you want to stand with her, and work around the issue.