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JeffreyJunior:
All the heals over head for you as you said it can still fly away in a twinkle of an eye.

The extrovert lady may just be best for his type but he himself is not ready for marriage yet.

A man so down in socializing may measure up by getting entangled with an out of cage, free but not wild bird-woman. Recipe for disaster

JeffreyJunior:
If I were the one involved, the first lady might have acted differently towards me.

I'm not saying she is better than the second or vice versa but action begets reaction.

The same lady probably has someone she treats better now.

One thing is certain. She wouldn't have visited him and most importantly passed that sensitive comment to him if she was not interested.

Telling him that shows she is an open minded person and that's one character every man should go after in a woman, not someone that will call you 100 times everyday asking the same question of "you don chop?".

tosinhtml:
All of you are just funny, whether it is you o, another person or the OP. The case here is what is a 30 years old Abuja lady who is extroverted coping with being unemployed in FCT? This lady in question came down to Lagos to analyse her specimen(the OP) & she saw that he was not worth the catch. She has moved on to better options.

A clear red flag being white washed as open-minded

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

ItisWell22:
💯

What I was thinking exactly.

30yrs old extroverting with no job. How?

Las-las, men will always love who they want to; then come online tomorrow to generalize about how all women offer nothing! 🥱

Going by the standards they’re preaching online of late, we shouldn’t even be reading such here.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

pocohantas:
30yrs old extrovert without a job or skill.
On whose account is she extroverting?
Because you need money to be extroverted in Abuja of all places.

She doesn't call or check up on you and upon that, she still tell you say no connection. Data connection or what?

The first lady should never have been shortlisted. Not even for supplementary list.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

JeffreyJunior:
She is unemployed, fine but what if she has someone housing and bankrolling her there in Abuja, say a brother, a big sister, or parents?

I don't generalize and treat every lady as call girl until she gives me reasons to besides, my first comment laid emphasis on cage free but not wild lady.

My sister was very comfortable during her postgraduate days in Abuja because my mum and her then fiancee were stupidly bankrolling her lifestyle.

There was no way one wouldn't think she was dating politicians but I knew/know what my sister was/is capable of doing just like her fiancee now hubby knew too.

I can bet you that there may be more virgins in Abuja currently than in your village.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

pocohantas:
30yrs old extrovert without a job or skill.
On whose account is she extroverting?
Because you need money to be extroverted in Abuja of all places.

She doesn't call or check up on you and upon that, she still tell you say no connection. Data connection or what?

The first lady should never have been shortlisted. Not even for supplementary list.

mrblessed:
■ Baba, nawa o! Na you dey ask this kind question? This is skin to clearly seeing the road but electing to follow through the bush. Unless you have problem with the background of the second lady, your post, to me, is grossly unnecessary.

TippuTip:
■ Bro! e be like say Abuja-base extrovert sabi Bleep well well. She dey dance on top ya dick shey? I sabi the cruise broda. And she's probably olocho.

Marry the Lagos girl who cares for you bro, the Abuja girl will send you to early grave if you put her in your house

Lance008:
Abeg second lady
First Lady have better guys in Abj
If u want 2years marriage marry the first one
Maybe u no no how divorce rate take high for country

Kobojunkie:
1. So if your daughter were the Lagos girl, you would actually advise her to marry OP?

TippuTip:
There's nothing seriously wrong with OP so far I can tell It's purely human nature to want stuff we think we cannot have much more vigorously than stuff we know is already ours for the asking, so what I'd do is teach my daughter to keep better control of her feelings to avoid being treated like crap by fellow humans...that type of low-quality behaviour isn't peculiar to OP.

Kobojunkie:
So, are you saying that if that lacks lady na your daughter, you go allow her marry Op who clearly does not regard her?

Lance008:
■ If you are an adult full of bills and not working as a gal bro the gal is into hookup in Abj

Kobojunkie:
Or she could instead be from rich folks who still sponsor her.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

Farfalla:
There are 2 women;
1. One who needs you to grovel to get her attention.
2. One who has a strong interest in you and gives you an easy time.

Logically, who seems like a better candidate for a (possible) lifetime commitment?

bukatyne:
@bold:

You are just cracking me up!

pocohantas:
None babe.
The first one go kill am.
He would kill the second one.

pocohantas:
None babe.
The first one go kill am.
He would kill the second one.





Anything for you.

bukatyne:


Has OP decided which of the evils to go for or is he starting the selection process afresh

Lance008:
Bro with the statement from above you will know the gal is either from a poor or middle class
She also at Abj to hustle
She might be the destiny helper of the family

JeffreyJunior:
She is unemployed, fine but what if she has someone housing and bankrolling her there in Abuja, say a brother, a big sister, or parents?

I don't generalize and treat every lady as call girl until she gives me reasons to besides, my first comment laid emphasis on cage free but not wild lady.

My sister was very comfortable during her postgraduate days in Abuja because my mum and her then fiancee were stupidly bankrolling her lifestyle.

There was no way one wouldn't think she was dating politicians but I knew/know what my sister was/is capable of doing just like her fiancee now hubby knew too.

I can bet you that there may be more virgins in Abuja currently than in your village.

Kobojunkie:
For all you and I know, this gal has not opened up to OP at all and so it is not for us to assume we have her figured out. What we have here is OP telling us a story from his point of view asking which he should choose.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

pocohantas:
Only him can tell. I will suggest he starts afresh.