Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

IyaebeTheGreat:
If you still don't know who to choose then you should not go into marriage for now, you are not mentally matured for marriage

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

pocohantas:
30yrs old extrovert without a job or skill.
On whose account is she extroverting?
Because you need money to be extroverted in Abuja of all places.

She doesn't call or check up on you and upon that, she still tell you say no connection. Data connection or what?

The first lady should never have been shortlisted. Not even for supplementary list.

pocohantas:
30yrs old extrovert without a job or skill.
On whose account is she extroverting?
Because you need money to be extroverted in Abuja of all places.

She doesn't call or check up on you and upon that, she still tell you say no connection. Data connection or what?

The first lady should never have been shortlisted. Not even for supplementary list.

IyaTola:
If you decide to get married, make sure the woman is heal over head for you- anonymous 2023

Smokeybrain:
Happy workers day. Since am at home I decided to voice out what is bordering me. First let me give a preamble about myself. I'm an introvert, I don't take alcohol and I have never been to the club. I work with a commercial bank as an ABO and from Niger Delta. I leave in Lagos. I have two ladies in my life and I kind of confused.
The first lady is base in Abuja, 30 years old and an extrovert. She's unemployed and I have knw her for sometime now. This lady is the type that was perfection in everything. I have told her about my intention that I want committed relationship. She didn't say yes and she didn't say no. All what she did was ask me series of questions and I answered. She hardly calls and check on me. I do the most calls and initiate conversations. She can comfortably stay for days without hearing from me. I invited her to Lagos, she came spent few days and left. When she got home, she sent me a text that she didn't get the vibes she was expecting. I was confused. Vibes! What do u mean? She said connections and vibes was not there. Maybe she expects me to be gisting with her till midnight I don't really know. Sometimes I come back from work late, I will talk little, eat and sleep. I don't really know the vibes and I connections she's talking about. This is the lady I spent on, the her flight ticket I paid for it...am still confused.
The second lady, a Fulani Christian from the north, 24 years base in Lagos. A graduate and a fashion designer. She's just the opposite of the first lady. I don't give her much attention like the first lady but no day will pass without her checking on me. I spend little on her unlike the first lady and she doesn't complain. I will like to get married next year. I'm financially okay. Which of these two ladies should I go for am 31yrs.

NoToPile:
Lots of times men will not choose what's best for them. You will open your korokoro eyes and enter gbege later will start opening threads up and down.



So shey you don't like the Fulani lady ni? abi what's the problem because it's like the Fulani lady is not your spec if not you will be chasing her seriously.

Soo if you cannot like the Fulani lady let the friendship go, let her be so she can also broaden her options. Of course lady 1 told you plainly she doesn't feel you so that's not an option ( but I know it's that one you might keep pursuing)

JeffreyJunior:
All the heals over head for you as you said it can still fly away in a twinkle of an eye.

The extrovert lady may just be best for his type but he himself is not ready for marriage yet.

A man so down in socializing may measure up by getting entangled with an out of cage, free but not wild bird-woman.

Rokiat:
None of the above is for you, but if you are desperate and the type that can just settle for anything then choose one I suppose.

henrimoto:
So if you were in his 👟, you would choose the first lady ...

Jozilinn:
The first girl is unemployed the second is.
The first girl doesn't call, the second does.
The first girl is 30,the second is 24.
The first girl has a lot of experience in relationships her lack of seriousness shows she probably has someone else.
The second lady is still young and at this age she must be ready to settle down. So make up your mind is the second lady your spec...does she have the physical attributes you like cos it seems you are drawn to the first one for a reason and can't let go.

Don't marry now and come later to say you don't find her attractive oh...and start cheating later in the marriage,if you are financially capable think,ask questions,run tests and pray good luck.

JeffreyJunior:
If I were the one involved, the first lady might have acted differently towards me.

I'm not saying she is better than the second or vice versa but action begets reaction.

The same lady probably has someone she treats better now.

One thing is certain. She wouldn't have visited him and most importantly passed that sensitive comment to him if she was not interested.

Telling him that shows she is an open minded person and that's one character every man should go after in a woman, not someone that will call you 100 times everyday asking the same question of "you don chop?".