Geminita1:
Forgive her and pray for her too. I'm very sure she would change one day.

funmisticqueen:
Actually, the cheating is his fault, he pushed her into the arms of another man by calling her fat after bearing his child. He should accept responsibility

mysticwarrior:
you are a potential cheat and I feel pity for your future husband, young lady you are not married cos if you are married you won't be sounding like this.

So as a married woman who has given birth the best thing to do if your husband call you "fatty" is to go outside and spread your leg wide open for another man? Listen to yourself talk.

funmisticqueen:
I am a potential cheat because i told the simple truth and IDGAF anymore where men are concerned?

I can't come and carry marriage and man matter on top of my head, and give myself stress and chronic diseases.

The gym instructor called her beautiful, despite the fact that she is a FAT nursing mother. Obviously, she wasn't being appreciated and complimented in her home. Women love appreciation and compliments are a way of showing that.

she just gave birth to your child, of course she will gain weight, of course her body will change. But instead of you to be grateful that she is sacrificing her body to bear and look after your child. You tell her with body language that she is fat. Forgetting that one day men will grow fat, bald and unattractive.

If a man pushes a woman out of the house feeling unloved and unappreciated, she will find it outside and vice versa. So Stop being hypocritical.

If cheating makes me happy, then so be it. I have learnt to never sacrifice my happiness for anybody.

mysticwarrior:
from the way you are sounding there is no way you won't cheat on your husband.

bukatyne:


Very funny

mysticwarrior:
how far na you find me reach here again?

bukatyne:
@OP:

It is either the wife is pregnant for Mr. Gym instructor or just had unprotected sex and wanted to sleep with the husband to avoid stories that touch.

The husband should weigh the pros and cons of all options and take the one that best suits him.

He and his family would be the ones faced with the consequences of his decisions.

Modified:

See where I have problem with some women.

Your husband wanted to make love to you, you were tired.

Yet you can wind your waist for your gym instructor.

Let's assume you felt insulted or hurt your husband insensitively called you fat after you put to bed.

What stops you from addressing that and make love to him thereafter.

Why reject your husband while jumping on the gym instructor?

funmisticqueen:
Chee! Let's see where the problem lies.

The husband is boring as Bleep,and is just a child in an adult body. Babe needed a real man, and she got it. I'm sure that gym instructor has abs that the husband, doesn't. He probably screws her better too.

Let him kick the wife out if he wants to. It's not like he can stay single and bitter for long. Chances are, his next wife will be worse off. Or he can decide to be a good Lil boy and keep his family shit together. Like a man.

bukatyne:


I know you before?

bukatyne:


If the husband is not a real man aka can't screw properly and does not have abs, how do you expect him to suddenly behave like a man after his wife cheated?

I think you are expecting too much from him.

And it shows how the wife lacks decision making skills if she picks a boy out of all the 3 billion men in the world.

mysticwarrior:
yes now, for the other thread, no be you the quote me, abi you don forget?

bukatyne:


Bros, I have quoted a lot of people.

I can't even remember the thread you are referring to.

Quote the thread link here or mention me on the thread.

funmisticqueen:
i am not expecting too much. I am expecting him to man up and ask the tough questions nobody is asking. That's the bare minimum. He is the head and leader of the household after all.


@ op Nksleek these are the questions you should ponder on instead of kicking her out without thinking. A true leader acts, not reacts.

Why did she do this?
Did my actions drive her into the arms of another and how can it be prevented in future?
How can I save my marriage?
Does she still want this marriage?
Do i still want this marriage?
What do I stand to lose if i send my wife away? What do instant to gain if i send her away? Where's a good marriage counselor we can see?
What's the way forward?
Do i still love her and does she still love me?

Answering these questions honestly help one in the face of infidelity.

We have to learn to look introspectively and be honest with ourselves.

Happy to help

bukatyne:


It is easy to rope the guy in as the head and the leader now.

If she thought him the leader, she would have told him her concerns and they address it.

Using your analogy, what she did was disloyalty which was punishable by death in the olden days.