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Just as the topic says...

Nice Qualities

- Good cook

- Good home keeper

- Understands me

- Has a job

- Good in bed

- Respectful

- Good conversationalist

- Averagely intelligent

- Supportive financially


Undesirable Qualities
*Gullible

*Can't follow through with a plan without getting distracted

*Loud

*Doesn't know how to firmly say NO

*Easily persuaded especially by close family and friends

*Only follows my instructions when she likes

Yes

Nobody is perfect

TheGreatYam:
Undesirable Qualities
*Gullible

*Can't follow through with a plan without getting distracted

*Loud

*Doesn't know how to firmly say NO

*Easily persuaded especially by close family and friends

*Only follows my instructions when she likes

Na wao for dis kain oxymoron situation.

You say she "Doesn't know how to say NO", but then again, she "Only follows my instruction when she likes".
In other words, she only knows how to say no to you, and not others?

The hand writing is clearly on the wall.

TheGreatYam:
Just as the topic says...

Nice Qualities

- Good cook

- Good home keeper

- Understands me

- Has a job

- Good in bed

- Respectful

- Good conversationalist

- Averagely intelligent

- Supportive financially


Undesirable Qualities
*Gullible

*Can't follow through with a plan without getting distracted

*Loud

*Doesn't know how to firmly say NO

*Easily persuaded especially by close family and friends

*Only follows my instructions when she likes

Build her to your taste... Make her understand the importance of obeying you and be patient with her metamorphosis...

You wey disobeyed the 10 commandments....swims in sin.God still loves you.

onumadu:
Na wao for dis kain oxymoron situation.

You say she "Doesn't know how to say NO", but then again, she "Only follows my instruction when she likes".
In other words, she only knows how to say no to you, and not others?

The hand writing is clearly on the wall.

Let me give an instance. There was a time she needed to rent an apartment in Lagos. Meanwhile, she was living with me in another state cos he work is remote. During that period she got a loan offer from one of these loan apps. I asked her not to take the loan and be patient so that we can both gather the money together.

But before I could explain myself further she already took the loan.
She ended up not getting the accommodation again because she was partially duped by an agent.

Fast forward to some months later, she got another money and moved to Lagos to look for the accommodation. Less than a week after getting to Lagos, she told me she has lent the money that was supposed to be meant for the house to her brother to do business with. For that reason she no longer wants to stay in Lagos.

Wawelexy:
Build her to your taste... Make her understand the importance of obeying you and be patient with her metamorphosis...

She listens and apologises but would still behave her normal way.

Another example. I have been persuading her to take me go see her parents since January uptill April, which she refused cos according to her, a Pastor told her not to get married until she's able to travel abroad (She's a nurse).

Suddenly she calls me during the Easter and says she's ready to get married cos she just spoke with her parents and they gave her their blessings to get married before travelling abroad.

Initially she was adamant cos of what pastor said. Suddenly she wants to now listen to her parents, like someone who doesn't have a mind of her own.

I await the elders to settle this matter

Ireportlive:
Yes

Nobody is perfect

Thanks for your input. I appreciate.

Her positive qualities > negatives, so yes, proceed with the marriage.

You said she is a nurse and intends relocating abroad, how do you think the marriage would work out with "only follows my instructions when she likes"?

TheGreatYam:
She listens and apologises but would still behave her normal way.

Another example. I have been persuading her to take me go see her parents since January uptill April, which she refused cos according to her, a Pastor told her not to get married until she's able to travel abroad (She's a nurse).

Suddenly she calls me during the Easter and says she's ready to get married cos she just spoke with her parents and they gave her their blessings to get married before travelling abroad.

Initially she was adamant cos of what pastor said. Suddenly she wants to now listen to her parents, like someone who doesn't have a mind of her own.

If she wants to go abroad and you don't. Just forget about the relationship. How is it going to work?

But I don't know what you guys think women are, why must they listen to you blindly?

Exodus15v11:
Her positive qualities > negatives, so yes, proceed with the marriage.

What if the negatives are strong, does the number of positives still count?

1Sharon:
If she wants to go abroad and you don't. Just forget about the relationship. How is it going to work?

But I don't know what you guys think women are, why must they listen to you blindly?

I actually want to go as well, cos I am into Tech. But she felt going first will make her obey the pastor. Then we can get married later when she comes back. Meanwhile, I was asking for just a court marriage at least to solidify our relationship before she travels.

As for listening to me, she has ALWAYS made wrong choices whenever she doesn't listen to me and I end up with the burden of clearing up her mess. If I choose not to help her clear the mess, I get blamed for not being caring.

TheGreatYam:
I actually want to go as well, cos I am into Tech. But she felt going first will make her obey the pastor. Then we can get married later when she comes back. Meanwhile, I was asking for just a court marriage at least to solidify our relationship before she travels.

As for listening to me, she has ALWAYS made wrong choices whenever she doesn't listen to me and I end up with the burden of clearing up her mess. If I choose not to help her clear the mess, I get blamed for not being caring.

A woman that's too in touch with her pastor..yikes

You sef..In short, both of you dey very irritating

1Sharon:
A woman that's too in touch with her pastor..yikes

You sef..In short, both of you dey very irritating

You don't need to sound harsh or mean. Cos I'm actually engaging you in a conversation. You can pass your point without judgemental.

TheGreatYam:
You don't need to sound harsh or mean. Cos I'm actually engaging you in a conversation. You can pass your point without judgemental.

Must you marry her ?

Or is it because she's a nurse ?

Your complaints are much.

And you are planning abroad with her like this ?

Won't you go and find a woman that will call you ' my Lord' ?

If you can't marry a gullible person that means you can't marry an Obi supporter.

Diligent1:
If you can't marry a gullible person that means you can't marry an Obi supporter.

This is hilarious 😅

TheGreatYam:
She listens and apologises but would still behave her normal way.

Another example. I have been persuading her to take me go see her parents since January uptill April, which she refused cos according to her, a Pastor told her not to get married until she's able to travel abroad (She's a nurse).

Suddenly she calls me during the Easter and says she's ready to get married cos she just spoke with her parents and they gave her their blessings to get married before travelling abroad.

Initially she was adamant cos of what pastor said. Suddenly she wants to now listen to her parents, like someone who doesn't have a mind of her own.

At this point, you need to be careful so you don't father a bastard...

In all sincerity, I won’t advise you to go ahead.

Most times, ladies want to follow pastor’s prophesy when they feel there is a man out there better than who they are with, and as such, don’t want to lose out on that future goodness.
In essence, you’re not her choice but an option!

It’s further buttressed by her not taking you to her parents when you wanted, until when she felt it’s convenient.
If someone better than you had shown up, she would have dumped you!

She makes decisions which usually don’t end well, and expects you to clear the mess.
Wahala… 🤧
Woman wey wan dey independent suppose get brain and mind to see am through till the very end.

Being fair to her on the other hand, she fit dey reason sey the only reason you’re with her is because of her profession and the japa-ability! 🥱

But from the little I’ve known and understood of men, especially Southern Nigerian men, relationship wey woman wan be the head no dey work.

If you try too hard, it can only last for a while…

TheGreatYam:
What if the negatives are strong, does the number of positives still count?

Hmmm. The only strong negatives I see from the list are her being "Loud" and being "Easily persuaded especially by close family and friends". If you can talk to her about these two, she should be able to make modifications for you. Other than these, focus more on her positives, as they're much more than the negatives. You've found a good woman with great qualities. Happy married life in advance.