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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by CoolAmbience(m): 6:31pm On Feb 13, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:


These are the kinds of issues reserved for you, after getting the cash. You will go thru it to see if it's that easy as you've posed it to be...(Only a Redpiller, A misogynist or a MGTOW) will be saved. Respect The Game. Just joking though


But I have been married for over ten years...

Just to let you know say....I don dey the game since...

Issues like this dey learn bro, believe me.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by CoolAmbience(m): 6:36pm On Feb 13, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:


These are the kinds of issues reserved for you, after getting the cash. You will go thru it to see if it's that easy as you've posed it to be...(Only a Redpiller, A misogynist or a MGTOW) will be saved. Respect The Game. Just joking though


But I have been married for over ten years...

Just to let you know say....I don dey the game since...

Issues like this dey learn bro, believe me.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by BRATISLAVA: 8:17pm On Feb 13, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:


First of all, we don't use a case for einstein generalisation. We can't say because a case such as the one you've narrated up there happened, then everyone who comes on here to spill it all out is lying. No. You said the man was enjoying the insults and bashings on the 35 pages. How does that affect reality? If anyone came on here with a well cooked lie, the highest thing he can get is to get high on the comments, after closing his browser he will fall back to reality (so who is fooling who). And again, since we need to hear both sides of the story to be sure. I'll also like to see the link to the thread, or the man and woman involved in that story up there to assert that truly such thing happened on Nairaland. Since you just advised us not to believe one side of the story

You're the one who with Einstein assumptions firmly in place said that the other side of the story is sometimes a lie. And you were given proof that it may not be, and rather how it provides a balanced view and often debunks lies in original posts that sound as manipulative as this one.

You shouldn't refuse the Einstein generalization on a forum known for lies and fables, when you have Einstein assumptions yourself. To ignore such is to pretend there's no other side to his angelic tale. Why should he be believed? Is there any reason to believe his story that is so one-sided?

I don't have to give you the link to that saga since you've already decided it doesn't exist and makes no difference to your rigid (for reasons that will soon become clear) point of view. How will it affect your perception of what you consider reality if you see it? After all, it's probably a lie you're being told.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Baolak(m): 10:21pm On Feb 13, 2023
Eriokanmi:
Guy, please don't listen to advice of all those small boys using their mum's phone to type trash here. If you believe God, pray and fast over this. It could be a sign of imminent crisis. The enemy is at work, going by your story, if true. God is lacking in many homes today which is why they divorce anyhow. No marriage without crisis bro. I was once there and I overcame it. I almost lost my beautiful home I built for over a decade.

Fast and pray for 2 days, at least and see changes. Don't over react. She'd come back to her senses. Good luck
I am sorry but its you who is sounding like a boy! Your advice is wrong, you are not being realistic at all.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Baolak(m): 10:26pm On Feb 13, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
Thank you for these words of encouragement.

I will fast and see how it goes.
Bro don't waste your time and energy any longer, be in charge of your emotion's. you really need to pull yourself together and act like a reasonable/responsible man!
The bitter truth is your wife is gone, let her be for your emotional/ mental wellbeing.
At this time be more concerned about your children's custody.
BE A MAN for ones and move on.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Baolak(m): 10:31pm On Feb 13, 2023
leisuretym:


To be honest there is nothing you can do about it even though she will go and ended up regretting everything she has done to kill the joy in her marriage , she has seen you finish , no spice any longer, and you sounded too weak to take the only way out, she’s got your mumu button

To revive your self you must first be a man, right now you are sounding like she’s the man of the house , you are too weak now, not saying you should use power or get physical

Do not demand for bedtime from her henceforth

Improve yourself , both in look, dressing and attraction

Spoil yourself with good things and create happiness within

Do what makes you happy to regain your self back first, create happiness within.

Do you work? You sound like the woman of the house because I don’t understand who take care of the kids if she comes back home late around 9pm.

Get a maid and free yourself, that way you can hang out with friends rather than thinking about her ugly behavior .

She will notice the changes in you and know you are just being responsible because you have a family , go haywire and take advantage of this to enjoy yourself with friends or create a hubby that will take you away from those thinkings . E. G swimming 🏊‍♀️ 🏊‍♀️ Will improve your physical fitness and soul .

I hope the OP will be reasonable enough to listen..
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Nobody: 10:50pm On Feb 13, 2023
pansophist:
Of course, I know. I have always said earlier that what Africans considered independence was a transition of the old method of exploitation (colonialism), to a new, self-sustaining, sophisticated method of permanent subjugation (imperialism). They replace the white colonial faces with black faces, whom they promise all the support and will ignore all their crimes if they continue sustaining all their exploitative structures that were built in the colonial era. So as countries were getting their so-called independence, they were ushered into western imperialistic ecosystems. So they became a member of the UN, and ICC, must use the dollar, imposed educational systems, their corporations coming in to control their resources, (eg Shell and Nigeria oil), and so on. In simple terms, think of how a butcher moves the cows from the farm to the slaughterhouse. In the cow's mind, he is free from the enclosed farm, but the slaughterhouse though modern and shiny with machines is worse than where they were coming from. You see the way the US froze billions of dollars of Afghanistan's foreign reserves, and as they did with Russia as well, that's exactly the fate that awaits any country that tries to pull off their imperialistic eco-system. While we are busy fighting each other like idiots, they are up there designing sophisticated systems to keep others down, and themselves on top. And this world order must go, or else, the global south will never develop. China refused to be part of that system, now look at them. Iran refused and was sanctioned to death, but they still thrive and built their own planes and so forth. Until we leave western dependence and walk our own part, no magic Peter Obi will perform. It's like putting a pilot in a ship, it can't do anything with it. How can the world be democratic when less than 15% of the world population (the west) controls everything? if this is not authoritarianism, then what is authoritarianism? But I always take responsibility, so I won't blame them much, I blame our ancestors for letting this degrade this badly, and makes it harder for current and future generation to solve. The rot is too much.

pansophist:
Josep Borell is a racist piece of shit. Sadly, this scum is a top EU politician, and calling the non-western countries jungle is a reincarnation of the mindset that led to colonialism and slavery pro-max. He still sees the world from a colonial lens, but his arrogance is needed since that's how he can cope in a changing world that is increasingly becoming multi-polar and catching up.

From 1991 to 2022, something that has never happened before in the history of the world happened, that thing is called unipolarism. After the collapse of the soviet union in 1991, China was dirt poor, imperial Japan has been defeated and occupied, the same with nazi Germany, India still recovering from British colonialism, Iran was in deep soup, and Africa was too backward to even be noticed.

The west, especially the US was the largest economy, and the strongest military power holds the world's reserved currency and enjoys an unparalleled political, economical, military, and soft power globally. The US was so strong that when it coughs, the world shivered. And then they showed themselves. Then the global bombing tour started, from Iraq to Syria, Venezuela to Yugoslavia, and Libya to Iran, to name a few.

Meanwhile, the Chinese who have suffered what they called a ''century of humiliation'' was in the background bidding their time, getting stronger, and building themselves up. The Chinese who lost territories the size of Nigeria x4, an empire nation that was torn apart by foreign powers, and saw what awaits you when you are weak, said to themselves, NEVER AGAIN.

Putin was then a KGB agent in Germany, young and smart, but silent and working his way up into the Kremlin. He witnessed how countries that used to be part of Russia have now become sworn enemies of Russia, and he dreamt of a stronger, independent, and sovereign Russia that occupies its rightful place on the international stage.

And February, 24th of 2022 will be remembered as the date when the world becomes clearly multipolar, after thirty years of failed unipolarism. The world has clearly understood the kind of monster the west is, and how they dream of a world where everyone is down, and only them up. Now, the way the international stage is set up, other stronger countries are now a deterrent, and they will never allow themselves to be weak again. NEVER.

It will not happen very fast, but the complete breakdown of western hegemony will happen faster than the time it took to build it. Destruction is faster than building, and destroying evil is even faster, especially when the destroyers are the victims of the very evil. I know the Russia-China alliances are cooking something, I suspect that they have set traps that will render all western imperialistic ecosystems useless.

From my calculations, the more the west throws out a country from its imperialistic systems, an alternative will be invented that will make that system useless. So for example, they threw Russia out of swift, but Russia created SPFS which they used to carry financial transactions between themselves and other countries.

If they threw China out of the UN for example, then a new UN that is fair will be invented, rendering the western controlled system useless. If you refuse to sell your tech, buy our oil, or ban us from visiting your countries (as they did with Russians), you will kill your industry and other regions will benefit financially from your market loss. One thing that kills a monopoly is competition, especially competent competition.

We live in very interesting times. Brace up, shit might get really bad before it gets better. Sha has proper wealth, not fiat money only, which can collapse. Have farmland, a water well, and livestock/poultry, these will keep you alive, not chains, iPhones, and paper money. Your survival is in your hands, not the government. Be vigilant, and use the internet to learn real stuff and how the world works, not just for social media and entertainment.

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by efficiencie(m): 10:25am On Feb 14, 2023
jimmychang:



Rest your virgin talk my gee.Na small pikin dey worry you.Virgins cheat too ; grin.One Bleep is all ot takes some turn nymphomaniacs.All these virginity na cap.Marry Virgin if she wan cheat she go cheat when she meets a man than has more game than you.What you need to is marry a mature wife or woman.Someone that has sense.

I am not saying you should marry a prostitute or harlot ooh but Virginity is not a criteria.


Guy hear wetin you dey talk. You talk sey one fk is all it takes to turn some to nymphomaniacs. Well is it not better to marry a virgin and she turns to a nymphomaniac to satisfy you than to marry a hoe that is already a nymphomaniac needing the dks of multiple men? Virgins are conditioned to the first man and can easily be conditioned not to cheat but you cannot condition a hoe that has tasted the dks of hundreds of men. So bro, if you like marry olosho. As for me and my sons, we shall marry virgins and virgins only.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jimmychang: 11:34am On Feb 14, 2023
efficiencie:


Guy hear wetin you dey talk. You talk sey one fk is all it takes to turn some to nymphomaniacs. Well is it not better to marry a virgin and she turns to a nymphomaniac to satisfy you than to marry a hoe that is already a nymphomaniac needing the dks of multiple men? Virgins are conditioned to the first man and can easily be conditioned not to cheat but you cannot condition a hoe that has tasted the dks of hundreds of men. So bro, if you like marry olosho. As for me and my sons, we shall marry virgins and virgins only.


Read my last paragraph gee.You talk too much.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by FRANCISTOWN: 6:29am On Feb 15, 2023
CoolAmbience:

But I have been married for over ten years...
Just to let you know say....I don dey the game since...
Issues like this dey learn bro, believe me

Onye isi. I respect you sir, maybe you fit share some of the secrets give the man
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by FRANCISTOWN: 6:33am On Feb 15, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


You're the one who with Einstein assumptions firmly in place said that the other side of the story is sometimes a lie. And you were given proof that it may not be, and rather how it provides a balanced view and often debunks lies in original posts that sound as manipulative as this one.

You shouldn't refuse the Einstein generalization on a forum known for lies and fables, when you have Einstein assumptions yourself. To ignore such is to pretend there's no other side to his angelic tale. Why should he be believed? Is there any reason to believe his story that is so one-sided?

I don't have to give you the link to that saga since you've already decided it doesn't exist and makes no difference to your rigid (for reasons that will soon become clear) point of view. How will it affect your perception of what you consider reality if you see it? After all, it's probably a lie you're being told.

The word sometimes means not all the time so I guess we are cool.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by FRANCISTOWN: 6:40am On Feb 15, 2023
greypencils:
Did you marry her a virgin. If you didn't, there is the possibility that there is an ex lurking around. Okafor's law is real.
E fit be true o, nothing wey person no go see for the hands of these children of doom.
E fit even be say, that other man wey the OP dey talk about na the father of the the kids. Women get one kind softness for their pikin papa, especially the first kid.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by CoolAmbience(m): 3:33pm On Feb 15, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:


Onye isi. I respect you sir, maybe you fit share some of the secrets give the man

The secret is to be constructively firm bro.

Women, like humans, aren't easy to handle especially when marriage is involved.

I am an advocate of couples acknowledging their wrongs and apologizing, as well as, for them to care to truly care for, and be loyal to each other.

But my brother, in the case where a man is crying that he can't afford to loose his wife, despite strongly suspecting her of infidelity is what I do not understand.

No man should treat that with levity. Na to free her make she go dey with the man....women no dey finish, just like men. It's that simple!

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by jaxxy(m): 3:56pm On Feb 15, 2023
Amumaigwe:


You will read this your comment years after and discover how foolish you once were and then thank God for making you live long to cure your illusions.

ure not talking to a kid or sm1 naive of the happenings. I stated what I said based on what I understood from his problem even though we don't know all the facts.

I do not care what u think as u made no sensible point to explain urself or counter my submission.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Segzy19: 3:14pm On Jun 13, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
I don't understand the reason behind this misguided comment.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Mimicle101: 5:29pm On Jun 13, 2023
GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.



Oh God.

Why is does it seem like the devil is winning these battles


Why are our woman being easily influenced?

Why are our woman always I war with there husbands.

Why are our woman now competing with the husband's.

Is it the social media?

God.

Where did we go wrong.

Why are the people who should be our Queens in charge of our homes. Taking care spiritually and physically the homes always up in arms?

God.


Is it Greed?

Is it love of material things?

People no longer have compassion.
People heart has become too dark.

The devil is really fighting had to destroy MARRIAGE!

We must all pray
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by Mimicle101: 5:32pm On Jun 13, 2023
olisefom:
That woman has found a new love. If she wants a divorce herself, you can't stop her. Let her go.

The most painful word to hear.


Please don't loud it

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Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by kuverah(f): 10:45pm On Jun 13, 2023
Eriokanmi:
Guy, please don't listen to advice of all those small boys using their mum's phone to type trash here. If you believe God, pray and fast over this. It could be a sign of imminent crisis. The enemy is at work, going by your story, if true. God is lacking in many homes today which is why they divorce anyhow. No marriage without crisis bro. I was once there and I overcame it. I almost lost my beautiful home I built for over a decade.

Fast and pray for 2 days, at least and see changes. Don't over react. She'd come back to her senses. Good luck
Please OP, listen to this advice. This is all you need. Good luck
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by ChybuzzDD(m): 8:14am On Jun 14, 2023
kuverah:
Please OP, listen to this advice. This is all you need. Good luck

As in, Op should pray and fast for a women that's always threatening him with divorce?? Nawaoo!

You guys are definitely high on cheap and poorly fermented liquor.
Re: My Ten Years Of Marriage Is Falling Apart by kuverah(f): 5:10pm On Aug 19, 2023
Immature people like you should get off my post. You are too dumb to understand certain things.
ChybuzzDD:


As in, Op should pray and fast for a women that's always threatening him with divorce?? Nawaoo!

You guys are definitely high on cheap and poorly fermented liquor.

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