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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by clockwisereport: 8:49pm On Jul 09, 2023
Will you die if you don't marry her?

Why put a woman you claim to love under such stress. Abeg, let her go

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by samuelson06(m): 8:50pm On Jul 09, 2023
End the relationship.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by shortgun(m): 8:50pm On Jul 09, 2023
How people just like to complicate their lives baffles me.
For the fact that your genotype doesn't match is a very clear indication to any rational person that you are not meant for each other.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Osashalom: 8:51pm On Jul 09, 2023
Why are you so afraid that Faith coming into the discussion has become a treat to you? You guys should faithup in life because life is spiritual. I and my wife were both AS to the glory of God, I ask God to change my genotype to AA and after that I went to three different laboratory and they all confirmed AA. God still does miracles, have faith in God.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Sweetvie: 8:53pm On Jul 09, 2023
Hmmm
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by searchlight: 9:00pm On Jul 09, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion
I am here in Nigeria and I am in your shoes. My woman is exactly your woman in everything according to your explanation. I am going on with the marriage and CVS is the best bet for me. She agreed too. Just that here we will have to pay.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Avast(m): 9:00pm On Jul 09, 2023
Se na by force to born

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by searchlight: 9:02pm On Jul 09, 2023
Kelechi009:
Most important question has been solved by confirming that she is 100% okay with it.

Another important thing is, is your family finances in perfect order, I mean are you guys loaded financially? This processes will require money, and may lead to regret if you keep trying and failing after spending thousands of dollars.

Money solves a lot of problems.
You didn't read where he said that government takes care of such bill. You wouldn't read before jumping to conclusions. Beside CVS in Nigeria is 250k plus or minus 50k. That's not too expensive for an average family

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by BarrElChapo(m): 9:03pm On Jul 09, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

You don't need any advice.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Workch: 9:03pm On Jul 09, 2023
jmoore:
Abortion is terrorism.

You have to be a hypocrite to criticize bokoharam but you don't want to be criticised for killing babies.Abortion is terrorism.

You have to be a hypocrite to criticize bokoharam but you don't want to be criticised for killing babies.
stfu, a zygote is not a baby. It's incapable of metabolizing it's own food

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by NiceLegs(m): 9:03pm On Jul 09, 2023
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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by GreatKingg: 9:03pm On Jul 09, 2023
Don't overflog this issue. Since you really want this girl as wife irrespective of you guys' genotype, here is my advice

Both options might be your way out.

Option 1A and B are totally fine.

During the first pregnancy, you can go with option 1A (CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate).

Then try again, and if she gets pregnant the second time, you can go with option 1B (At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate).

Since both procedures are covered by the government and you don't need to pay a dime, you have nothing to lose. Now, here is what I want you to know. The abortion procedures in the West are totally safe. Be rest assured, you have nothing to worry in this regard.

Now, if both option 1A and B fails (if both pregnancy turns out to be SS and leads to termination), you should save up some money and go for option 2. IVF in Canada shouldn't cost you more than $20k. This includes all the medications and injections. Yes, IVF is not guaranteed (it might take 2 or more sessions to click), but if it succeeds, it will save you a whole lot of stress and the fear of the child being SS cos like the counsellor advised, the genotype would be selected, thereby eliminating the risk of having an SS or abnormal baby. The IVF route is the safest though, except that it's costlier.

So man, you really have no problem here. Just take your time to think through it. Both options can be explored with a successful outcome. You go dey alright las las.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by kenny160: 9:04pm On Jul 09, 2023
This kind of issue is very crucial, u can not eat it with kids spoon I have witness such in our family too just like someone wrote his own too up there.

We discussed this kind of matter on Friday at my work place where a guy said he want to marry someone who they are not compactable with genotype but his spiritual father told him it will worl out and a friend said someone give testimony that her blood change from SS to AS in their church but I told him is fake maybe there was error in checking the genotypes but his a religious type so I have to leave him to his believe..

Bross I will advice you let her go I know it will be difficult but the aftermath whala no be for here and the love you both have will fly away if there is issue from termination of pregnancy or givn birth to ss or failed test..I dnt pray you do what you will regret oo abeg.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Bahose33: 9:04pm On Jul 09, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

The dilemma you're facing is indeed a complex one, deeply tied to personal, moral, and medical decisions. As an AI, I don't have personal feelings or beliefs but I can provide advice based on information and perspective.

Here are some potential approaches:

Keep an open mind: First, it's important to remember that there's no one-size-fits-all advice for this situation. What matters is what both of you are comfortable with and can live with. It's okay to take your time to come to a decision, and it's also okay to change your mind if your initial plan doesn't feel right later on.

Understand the risks: You've already done some research on this, and you understand there's a 25% chance that your child could inherit sickle cell anemia if both parents are carriers. This risk is real, but it's also worth noting that there's a 75% chance that your child will not have the disease.

Consider medical options: Both options presented by the genetic counselor have their pros and cons. In option 1 (CVS or amniocentesis), there's a risk of miscarriage and repeated emotional trauma if the fetus tests positive for SS. In option 2 (PGD), it's expensive, not guaranteed to work, and could involve physical and emotional strain. You should further explore these options with your partner and your medical team.

Mental and Emotional Health: This process can be emotionally taxing, and it's important to seek emotional support. This could come from therapists, support groups, or simply talking openly with each other. Your partner may bear the physical burdens, but you both share the emotional ones.

Values and Beliefs: Consider your personal, religious, or cultural beliefs around topics like abortion and IVF. If you have moral or ethical concerns, discuss them with your partner, religious advisor, or a counselor.

Future Planning: Even with genetic testing and medical procedures, there's no guarantee of a 'perfect' outcome. Life is full of uncertainties, and all you can do is make the best decisions with the information you have.

Honest Communication: Maintain open and honest communication with your partner. Discussing fears, expectations, and potential outcomes can help make these difficult decisions easier.

Respect Your Partner's Choice: It's crucial to remember that any decisions involving pregnancy and potential termination should be a shared decision, but your partner ultimately has the final say, as it involves her body. Respect and support her choices.

Lastly, it's important to talk to professionals. Discuss these concerns with a genetic counselor or a trusted medical professional who can provide personalized advice based on your situation. Their expertise and knowledge can help guide you through this process and can provide a clearer understanding of your options.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by IamMobisola(f): 9:06pm On Jul 09, 2023
Something is glaring and yet you two want to put your head. It is the lady I pity the most because after terminating two or three pregnancies all in the name of trying to have a child that’s not SS, then you will go and impregnate someone else that’s AA just because you want to have a child while she stays in the marriage as an “understanding wife” suffering and smiling.

Love is never enough to keep a marriage, it takes more than that. When issues become complex, na there una go know.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Sunkyapogee(m): 9:07pm On Jul 09, 2023
I'm AA and won't even marry AS woman.. this is because I don't want to limit my children in choosing a life partner.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by searchlight: 9:07pm On Jul 09, 2023
shortgun:
How people just like to complicate their lives baffles me.
For the fact that your genotype doesn't match is a very clear indication to any rational person that you are not meant for each other.
A happy home with the person you love is rare to get. You might end the relationship and marry jeezibel Las las. If the girl if cool with CVS they can proceed. There are higher chance that they can have three kids without aborting any.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by searchlight: 9:08pm On Jul 09, 2023
Osashalom:
Why are you so afraid that Faith coming into the discussion has become a treat to you? You guys should faithup in life because life is spiritual. I and my wife were both AS to the glory of God, I ask God to change my genotype to AA and after that I went to three different laboratory and they all confirmed AA. God still does miracles, have faith in God.
Life is not spiritual and God doesn't exist. Stop deceiving yourself

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by IamMobisola(f): 9:09pm On Jul 09, 2023
searchlight:
A happy home with the person you love is rare to get. You might end the relationship and marry jeezibel Las las. If the girl if cool with CVS they can proceed. There are higher chance that they can have three kids without aborting any.
Love? Lol.
When real issues and challenges start to happen in marriage, love will be forgotten.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Olarewaju89: 9:10pm On Jul 09, 2023
My wife and I were AS.

I remembered when we want to get married and we were told to do genotype test, I did not even answer them because i don't believe in that rubbish undecided. I told my wife not to take heed to those nonesense that i don't believe in those things. To cut the long story short, we got married and God bless us with two children. Gusse what, both of them are AA.

(beautiful and gorgeous girls grin)

Op remove your mind from that thing and go ahead marry your wife. Also both of you should be prayerful.


Shallon.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by marvellous2222: 9:12pm On Jul 09, 2023
When you can use local herb to correct the abnormalities
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Nwokolo100: 9:12pm On Jul 09, 2023
Terminating an SS baby is not as easy as it sounds. It looks doable now because you are considering the pain of letting such a great girl go but these acts have a way of taking a toll on someone or a couple. Think about it, You guys will never be comfortable when she gets pregnant, you can't celebrate the blessing, that feeling of expecting a mini you, not till you confirm the foetus's genotype. That's three or four months of emotional turmoil, uncertainty and fear. And even after you confirm at three months, you only feel sure when the baby is born and is retested again to confirm that he or she is not a sickler.

The ultimate decision is yours, you know what you want and I respect that. But think deeply, don't just take the issue at face value. Hopefully whatever decision you take will favour you.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Babamide(m): 9:12pm On Jul 09, 2023
Your topic says responses should be rational.
But areyou being rational? Are you thinking straight?

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by sammirano: 9:14pm On Jul 09, 2023
She is okay until she is not. Dey play, so people still take the word of a woman for it, when men's word is not even holding water anymore.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by emmylight4u: 9:17pm On Jul 09, 2023
...dated for five years and still counting. For the sake of love, pray about this as I have seen genotypes change. God can do yours. If it is not changing for you guys, part ways please.

Since you have confirmed severally that you are both AS, please part ways.

Now, note that withdrawal method is a sin and bad let alone abortion.

I have a sister who has 5 children, 3 are SS, bro it's not funny.

Make stop here first.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by DMerciful(m): 9:18pm On Jul 09, 2023
You should have asked her genotype when you started dating. You have no excuse!
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by jmoore(m): 9:18pm On Jul 09, 2023
Workch:
stfu, a zygote is not a baby. It's incapable of metabolizing it's own food

Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by donbenie(m): 9:19pm On Jul 09, 2023
IconicR:
She's not in right thinking mode
Maybe she should employ you, to be thinking for her..
After you are through with thinking for your own self..

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by jmoore(m): 9:20pm On Jul 09, 2023
Olarewaju89:
My wife and I were AS.

I remembered when we want to get married and we were told to do genotype test, I did not even answer them because i don't believe in that rubbish undecided. I told my wife not to take heed to those nonesense that i don't believe in those things. To cut the long story short, we got married and God bless us with two children. Gusse what, both of them are AA.

(beautiful and gorgeous girls grin)

Op remove your mind from that thing and go ahead marry your wife. Also both of you should be prayerful.


Shallon.

Una the genotype result was probably wrong.

Many medical labs do nonsense test.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by donbenie(m): 9:23pm On Jul 09, 2023
emmylight4u:
...dated for five years and still counting. For the sake of love, pray about this as I have seen genotypes change. God can do yours. If it is not changing for you guys, part ways please.

Since you have confirmed severally that you are both AS, please part ways.

Now, note that withdrawal method is a sin and bad let alone abortion.

I have a sister who has 5 children, 3 are SS, bro it's not funny.

Make stop here first.
You have seen Genotypes change?
Really?
Things we see and hear in Africa..🙆🏽

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Olarewaju89: 9:24pm On Jul 09, 2023
jmoore:


Una the genotype result was probably wrong.

Many medical labs do nonsense test.

No. Not wrong bro. I was forced to do it twice because i was stubborn to do it at first. I don't just believe in it.

I would have post the two result here but immediately i collect them, I tore them grin

I don't just believe in that rubbish thing honestly.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by akinsmail51: 9:24pm On Jul 09, 2023
I salute your courage, I wish you more strength and healthy living

slimvida:
In all you do please be careful not to add to sickle cell population. I am SC and I will tell you for free it's not easy. It's a very painful experience. I would choose heartbreak over the pain caused by sickle cell disorder.

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