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I have a friend who is currently in a great dilemma. He is a very serious and religious guy.
He is in a relationship with a girl. The love between them is obvious. The girl loves him dearly and she wants to marry with him and build a family with him. He also loves her but he said the only thing blocking him from taking this destiny leap is her salary.
She earns 7 times more his salary.

Despite all his explanations to convince her that immediately he will not be able to take care of her according to her standing she doesn't want to accept his arguments.
She even told him that the woman is made to help her man and she believes he will be greater.
His fears come from many bad stories in such family configuration.

Do you think in these years of modernity in 2023 these considerations should prevent 2 lovers from getting married and build their family?

Codivoar:
His fears come from many bad stories in such family configuration.

He should be hopeful that his case would be different

Tell your friend to watch this video- When women earn more

It made frontpage a few days ago and it addresses exactly all the issues you've described above that your friend is passing through. It explains why he can not ignore the earnings gap.
Let him pay particular attention to what the young men say, (Not the opinions of the ladies in the video)

Thank me later.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUrng-mfZpQ

When he's done with that, he should watch the video below and pay particular attention to the stories of the young men. Those who were faced with similar dilemmas.

This also made frontpage last week friday. It'll explain how his wife-to-be is currently thinking, and how she most likely will start to perceive him once they get married.

Again, thank me later.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR3MCsqxBvA

Zigzagman:
Tell your friend to watch this video- When women earn more

It made frontpage a few days ago and it addresses exactly all the issues you've described above that your friend is passing through. It explains why he can not ignore the earnings gap.
Let him pay particular attention to what the young men say, (Not the opinions of the ladies in the video)

Thank me later.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUrng-mfZpQ

Very edifying!

Zigzagman:
When he's done with that, he should watch the video below and pay particular attention to the stories of the young men. Those who were faced with similar dilemmas.

This also made frontpage last week friday. It'll explain how his wife-to-be is currently thinking, and how she most likely will start to perceive him once they get married.

Again, thank me later.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR3MCsqxBvA

Great video!

Quite long but worth every minute of watchtime

so how did it go?

good video

Codivoar:
I have a friend who is currently in a great dilemma. He is a very serious and religious guy.
He is in a relationship with a girl. The love between them is obvious. The girl loves him dearly and she wants to marry with him and build a family with him. He also loves her but he said the only thing blocking him from taking this destiny leap is her salary.
She earns 7 times more his salary.

Despite all his explanations to convince her that immediately he will not be able to take care of her according to her standing she doesn't want to accept his arguments.
She even told him that the woman is made to help her man and she believes he will be greater.
His fears come from many bad stories in such family configuration.

Do you think in these years of modernity in 2023 these considerations should prevent 2 lovers from getting married and build their family?

seven times more is not a joke o. so if he earns 100K, the wife-to-be earns 700K

Zigzagman:
seven times more is not a joke o. so if he earns 100K, the wife-to-be earns 700K

She will wear the pants in the relationship.

Why?

If they’re the regular young man and lady, it won’t work.

It’s high time we stop deceiving ourselves, but tell ourselves the bitter truth!
Most times ladies do the whole it doesn’t matter sh*t because they really want to get married and all, but once sh*t hits the ceiling; the man becomes irresponsible.

They both have to be exceptionally mature and intelligent to pull through it successfully.

Man has to have other qualities beyond amazing dxck and bedmatics, as familiarity causes their hold or value in a relationship to wane.

She earning 7x more is different from the man been jobless. All the guy has to do is be a MAN! if the lady is the one doing more of the loving then it's an added advantage. A good woman will always be a good woman regardless of what she earns. In the relationship ur friend should be able to tell if she is already dominating him or not