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tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

Women never learn. Madam, you are only surprised cos you choose too. The earlier you women begin to understand and embrace fellow sistas into marriage where the case arises, the better for your mental health and physical well being.

na so oo... you are only related to your mother

each to his own.

rickleye:
Let me share a story similar to yours and probably you can determine a course of action .

I am the first born of my parents and at a certain age. My dad decided that it was time I knew where all his properties were. So, one day he takes me to a school . He informs me that it’s a school he has built . I was shocked . To add to the surprise the way he was flirted with the principal, a female I knew something was up.
After 9 months, he picks me up from Unilag and we go to a baby naming ceremony. It’s the child from the principal my new step brother . He informed me that I cannot tell anyone. For 9yrs I carry this secret . Until one my cousins informs my mum that this is what he’s seen.
My dad inform my mother that yep, it’s true and out of respect is why he hasn’t broadcasted this in her face. But because he isn’t a Muslim he can’t officially being the woman home . He asks now that she knows , how do they move forward.
Long story short - both wives have separate houses and vehicles . Both represented in his will . He visits both places 3/4 days a week.
We the kids don’t care about our step siblings .

Beautiful story. I orgasmed while reading.

He provides for you innit?
Just take wetin you see, bear am.

He doesn’t owe you faithfulness, you were not there when he was sweating to be successful and even if you were you were doing nothing but waiting.

The end.

worksmart:
Your Dad's second wife's children are your half-brothers and half-sisters there are not step-siblings . In short they are you siblings period and even their mother cannot be described as a step-mother as you dad is still also married to your mother.

Technically, You are correct. But in reality more like step. He slept in our room while mum slept with our sister.
We boys would fall asleep in the living room.
Back then divorce & separation were pies in the sky for women.

Nonexisting1:
You will not give him children, he brought in someone who has done what you haven't been able to do even in a greater measure. Twins who are probably boys no be beans. He even respected you enough by putting the egg laying hen very far away from you. Now you, the old hen who probably damaged your womb with abortions are planning to do and undo. Okay then.

thank you sir. Very selfish self centered gender. Marriage no let u stay u leave 15 years no child and he did not throw u out.

tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

the picture of this lady you post here is picture of a lady who killed her friend with her 2 children at a town called nnokwa

tonywonder:
He is a selfish and wicked man as you rightly described.... Even if he must take a second wife, let her know and give her reasons why!... Even if she's barren, she remains the first wife and nothing can change that!

Let her know so she can make his life miserable okwaya!

twosquare:
At the time you did, how much did it cost per child?

I did it in the UK.

cococandy:
Pretty sure you guys believe in “for better or worse” but only where the woman is concerned though.

Following this logic any wife is justified to step out on her husband if she’s not getting what she expected from him when they got married even though it’s no fault of hi?

The point here is objectivity.

Now let's turn the table, if the man were to be impotent, the wife too should find a 'solution'.

Haven't you heard about cases where a man knows he is impotent but deliberately does not disclose his condition to his wife, yet she keeps getting pregnant?

So, what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Problems no dey show for face sha... After the twins then another child again. Na only God sabi judge the world

Hopefully the children are for the man cos it happened to my aunt and as far as she knew the man was azoospermia and she was being loyal.

Na so she decided to try her luck and na so she get preggers. DNA proved the children from outside are not his. He asked my aunt not to say her child is not his and the whole malachy and she continued to be loyal and it was after she passed on that he told us her family.

Daddy and daughter are still together and he lives with her and her family.



2 can play at that game and no need to get angry you can't control what others decide to do.


reg

virginprincess:
Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

1st. Never you make the mistake of fighting your husband et al over the matter. I know it's deep and very hurtful, but it's your cross. If you do and perhaps Bleep out, she'd move in to replace you fully, you'd lose the husband(if you eventually want to come back into the former home, def not with the former status). Guess what, other men out there will only sample and use you.

2nd. The fact that both your husband and the mistress do the shit outside of your home speaks volume; they respect you. Coupled with the fact that you even went there with gifts to congratulate them puts you up there.

3rd. Embrace the children if you have the opportunity. Who knows, God might grant you yours through such deeds.

4th. It'd be selfish to expect the man not to explore other means after 10 years of waiting. I know you would have tried severally, but you need to try harder. Don't take it up on him, simply put yourself in his shoes...

Your family just got broader... Embrace it!!!!

tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

You can't blame any of them.
The man respected the woman and at same time saved his own life.( some women would go to the extent of taking a mans life whenever the issue of getting a second wife comes in. ).
Not all men can stay with a woman for yrs without giving him kids.
Is she expecting him to expose his life to danger by telling her.
She has to take it that way and do all the needful to become a woman she is.

virginprincess:
Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

He should come out so that the woman will now kill him out of Hatred and Bitterness?

I don't believe story narrated by a woman.

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ghettochild:
Poison the bastard slowly

I will find you, I will arrest you and you might go to prison, Mark my words

Madam, my first question is why don’t you children for your husband all these years? Is the problem from you? I guess it’s from you since your husband has other children.
To be sincere with you, no man can remain in a marriage for many years without a child at least. You’re still in that marriage comfortably because your husband has other children. If not, you may not be in that marriage till now. What is the solution to your childlessness? Is there any solution in sight?

What you should really be concerned about right now is how to get your own children. Don’t let your husband second family weigh you down because that was expected. The new generation has made it difficult for a man to bring a second wife home, which is why side chicks and second family has increased in the society today. Only Muslims have that luxury of second and third wives. I will advice you to keep calm and focus on how to have your own children.

Inasmuch as I don't support your husband's action,you shouldn't use his betrayal to rob all men in the face. Hell is meant for all who disobeyed God's word including your gender who sleeps around with married.

IconicR:
Second paragraph is where most women get it wrong , how can you not interfere in your husband's dealings? Why then did you marry him if you don't want to interfare in all his dealings. Men are very cunning and manipulative, they will always come up with lines that will give them space for cheating e.g don't pick his calls, don't check his phones, don't question his movements and all that. A relative of mine was doing her traditional wedding and all those elders (men) were busy giving advise that'll enable the man to cheat, each time they give the advise I'll giggle with a bombastic side eyes till my mom stylishly summoned me and took me inside my aunt's room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Iyaebethegreat, the notorious evening newspaper, you once told me that you are 65 years old. Can a grandma behave irrationally like this?

So what the difference now? Your sister just ended up messing up your mind. Your husband did not tell you cos he deemed not necessary to. Even if he tells you, there is nothing you can do about it, your sister is to blame.

virginprincess:
Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

Because some women will kill u before they allow u get another woman to bear kids. Not every woman is understanding

Sleekfingers:
Nigeria is the headquarter of paternity fraud in the world.

I have done DNA test for my Sons. Remaining my daughter. Women are good at keeping secrets.
She was angry when she found out that, I did DNA test for my kids. I no even say a word.

Angry for what? Me dey announce my own if u want vex takt head slam wall.. I'm not going to use mumu trust to eat shit... These modern women that can't and should not be trusted

dkidd:
Angry for what? Me dey announce my own if u want vex takt head slam wall.. I'm not going to use mumu trust to eat shit... These modern women that can't and should not be trusted

Said that I don't trust her. I no even answer her.

oh, ok

Sleekfingers:
I did it in the UK.

Sleekfingers:
Said that I don't trust her . I no even answer her.

Lol 😆

twosquare:
So, he waited for 7 years...e try.

He try no be small aswr

dkidd:
Lol 😆

I know a man in Gbagada. He has four children. , he found out that out of the 4 children, the 2nd born is his only child. The man now is battling with stroke. I do visit him every Sunday.. I told him to move to United States with him Son. He just finished his NYSC.
He sent those three children and his wife outta his house.


Na wetin make me do the DNA be that

tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

You shouldn't do anything bit give God thanks and if you desire to have your own children, pray that He opens your womb for you to conceive cos firstly; you didn't mention him being abusive or a bad husband to neither did you mention his family coming after you.
Secondly; I perceived from your communication that he has been treating you well and loves you.
Thirdly; seeing that she has conceived twice it means the challenge isn't from your husband but you and that you might have a secret concerning that too which you didn't state in your write up.
Finally; don't ruin your home and you've got an opportunity to make it beautiful and the best you can make it

virginprincess:
Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

It is easy to judge when you are not in the picture directly. Would the woman have agreed for the man to take another wife if he had intimated her?

Have we not seen women who left with other men because their husband could not put them in the family way? Could she herself have remained in that position if it was the man that had issues? These are the things we must look into.

I think the man has even tried for not rubbing it on her face directly and sleeping outside regularly. She should bear it and soldier on. If not, she can choose the only option left. I feel her pains, May God help her.

Sleekfingers:
I know a man in Gbagada. He has four children. , he found out that out of the 4 children, the 2nd born is his only child. The man now is battling with stroke. I do visit him every Sunday.. I told him to move to United States with him Son. He just finished his NYSC.
He sent those three children and his wife outta his house.


Na wetin make me do the DNA be that

Bro regardless of what any woman wants to think it's mandatory as a man to do it on all ur kids. Women should not be trusted... No man should make that mistake of trusting any of them no matter what. Na as the world come dey now. U did well. I pray the man survives it

dkidd:
Bro regardless of what any woman wants to think it's mandatory as a man to do it on all ur kids. Women should not be trusted... No man should make that mistake of trusting any of them no matter what. Na as the world come dey now. U did well. I pray the man survives it

Amin o