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Good afternoon everyone, I am currently in a fix and doesn't know my way around the cross road that I have found myself in. I will try to be very brief.

I just graduated not long ago and just finished my project a couple of weeks back. I've been looking for a job and submitted my cv is some places.

Now there is a single man in his mid forties that has been on my case, he has bailed me financially several times and already shown interest in me and my boyfriend knows about the man. He is also aware that the man tried to force himself on me when I went to visit him on two separate occasions but I managed to escape.

The man offered to connect me to a job that pays 50k in abj while I stay in a room in his apartment since he's not always in town. Now this is an upgrade to the 20k jobs that I've been seeing in my present location but my issue is that my boyfriend is against me staying in the man's house because he knows the man is interested in me.

Instead, he is suggesting I stay with my rich uncle that resides in Abj but the issue is that the man is too strict and everyone in the family avoids him so I can't possibly stay there.
My guy is facing some financial challenges and I can't depend on him right now. On the other hand I am not free with this man, I am always jittery around him and can't wait to leave. He's already playing a boyfriend role now and I am scared he will just colonize me if I stay with him and probably start thinking about marriage which I don't want at all because I just get that father or uncle vibe whenever I am around him.

Should I stay back in my location and look for better jobs or should I move to Abj and damn the consequences of living with the man because I already know the outcome?

Seun mynd44 Dominique

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Mtcheww, I don't have nice things to tell a graduate who is still confused about dating. Is the single 40yr old man interested in marrying you or interested in just sleeping with you, which one?

Tell your boyfriend to take her'' it is part of life' you have already made up your mind'
If you like don't go and make money' you go explain wetin no good and wetin no nice''

There is a long road ahead of you in preparing for nysc and life ahead. You should be able to make a simple decision between boyfriend and 20k monthly or manfriend and 50k monthly.

Doolove:
Good afternoon everyone, I am currently in a fix and doesn't know my way around the cross road that I have found myself in. I will try to be very brief.

I just graduated not long ago and just finished my project a couple of weeks back. I've been looking for a job and submitted my cv is some places.

Now there is a single man probably in his forties that has been on my case, he has bailed me financially several times and already shown interest in me and my boyfriend knows about the man. He is also aware that the man tried to force himself on me when I went to visit him on two separate occasions but I managed to escape.

The man offered to connect me to a job that pays 50k in abj while I stay in a room in his apartment since he's not always in town. Now this is an upgrade to the 20k jobs that I've been seeing in my present location but my issue is that my boyfriend is against me staying in the man's house because he knows the man is interested in me.

Instead, he is suggesting I stay with my rich uncle that resides in Abj but the issue is that the man is too strict and everyone in the family avoids him so I can't possibly stay there.
My guy is facing some financial challenges and I can't depend on him right now.

Should I stay back in my location and look for better jobs or should I move to Abj and damn the consequences of living with the man because I already know the outcome?

First question ask your boyfriend is he ready to marry you in two to four years time.
Second if you feel you can endure harassment to the extent of being r*ped or having sex with the man due to just 50k salary then go ahead.
Third if you feel like being strict is being bad without getting closer to the strict family member then it's okay.
Select which you prefer and do what pays you the most

Babamide:
There is a long road ahead of you in preparing for nysc and life ahead. You should be able to make a simple decision between a boyfriend and 20k monthly or manfriend and 50k monthly.

It's not really about my boyfriend, I am scared of the result of staying with the man, he has tried to rape me before

IconicR:
Mtcheww, I don't have nice things to tell a graduate who is still confused about dating. Is the single 40yr old man interested in marrying you or interested in just sleeping with you, which one?

I think he wants to marry me but I am not attracted to him at all, I don't like his company and always feel as if I am with my uncle when I am with him

Doolove:
I think he wants to marry me but I am not attracted to him at all, I don't like his company and always feel as if I am with my uncle when I am with him

Then why are you even considering him? You want to die early?

Op, you know you are asking us if you should accept the job of ashewo, right? Because most of us and you know what you'd be paid 50k for whether you sleep in his house or in your strict boyfriend uncle's house.

In fact, your unwillingness to sleep in the latter shows how willing you are becoming.

budaatum:
Op, you know you are asking us if you should accept the job of ashewo, right? Because most of us and you know what you'd be paid 50k for whether you sleep in his house or in your strict boyfriend uncle's house.

In fact, your unwillingness to sleep in the latter shows how willing you are becoming.

Take it easy my buda. Economy is hard now oh!

she's probably chanting the mantra "it's better to cry in benz."

You already made your choice aunty ..
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Welcome to Abuja in advance... Ican connect you a friend on here in case the man disappoints you

His monicker is illicit

Doolove:
I think he wants to marry me but I am not attracted to him at all, I don't like his company and always feel as if I am with my uncle when I am with him

Then why are you going into his space and stylishly leading him on for your selfish reasons? You are playing a very dangerous game, STOP IT

Doolove:
I think he wants to marry me ......

Then you think wrong, because he does not want to marry you at all.

Seriously, what did you "graduated not long ago and just finished my project" in?

kkins25:

Take it easy my buda. Economy is hard now oh!

she's probably chanting the mantra "it's better to cry in benz."

Then she should stop trying to pull the wool she's pulling over her own eyes over our eyes and just go for the Benz at given price.

Candidlady:
You already made your choice aunty ..
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Welcome to Abuja in advance... Ican connect you a friend on here in case the man disappoints you

His monicker is illicit

I don't do love triangles

I am out

budaatum:
Then you think wrong, because he does not want to marry you at all.

Seriously, what did you "graduated not long ago and just finished my project" in?

@bolded
Why is that so funny

You this buda .. you and Kobo be throwing jabs with serious face 🙁

Doolove:
Good afternoon everyone, I am currently in a fix and doesn't know my way around the cross road that I have found myself in. I will try to be very brief.
I just graduated not long ago and just finished my project a couple of weeks back. I've been looking for a job and submitted my cv is some places.
Now there is a single man in his mid forties that has been on my case, he has bailed me financially several times and already shown interest in me and my boyfriend knows about the man. He is also aware that the man tried to force himself on me when I went to visit him on two separate occasions but I managed to escape.
The man offered to connect me to a job that pays 50k in abj while I stay in a room in his apartment since he's not always in town. Now this is an upgrade to the 20k jobs that I've been seeing in my present location but my issue is that my boyfriend is against me staying in the man's house because he knows the man is interested in me.
Instead, he is suggesting I stay with my rich uncle that resides in Abj but the issue is that the man is too strict and everyone in the family avoids him so I can't possibly stay there.
My guy is facing some financial challenges and I can't depend on him right now. On the other hand I am not free with this man, I am always jittery around him and can't wait to leave. He's already playing a boyfriend role now and I am scared he will just colonize me if I stay with him and probably start thinking about marriage which I don't want at all because I just get that father or uncle vibe whenever I am around him.
Should I stay back in my location and look for better jobs or should I move to Abj and damn the consequences of living with the man because I already know the outcome?

Tell us the truth already. Why are you considering going to stay with the man in the first place? Are you planning on banking and sleeping with him after all this time or what? Something tells me this your story isn't just about securing a job at all.

If you are desperate for marriage then leave your boyfriend and go with that man already. And accept whatever comes from your decision.

If u come to Abuja to take a job of 50k I can assure u that u will spend that money on transportation.

Most sales girls now are stopping work of 40- 45k let alone 50 that u are not sure of its location to the house.

Better go stay with ur rich uncle if he can allow u.

See,that man would sleep with u that is for sure...nothing goes for nothing.

Doolove:
I think he wants to marry me but I am not attracted to him at all, I don't like his company and always feel as if I am with my uncle when I am with him

is d 40years old man married or u want to pretend u don’t know now only to realize u are d 5th wife after marriage?

Nice2023:
If u come to Abuja to take a job of 50k I can assure u that u will spend that money on transportation.

Most sales girls now are stopping work of 40- 45k let alone 50 that u are not sure of its location to the house.

Better go stay with ur rich uncle if he can allow u.

See,that man would sleep with u that is for sure...nothing goes for nothing.

Girls will get into this situation, and pretend they don't know whats up.. 😂 😂 😂.. Once money is involved, forget... U can drive women(not all oh, abeg) into dilemma.

Doolove:
It's not really about my boyfriend, I am scared of the result of staying with the man, he has tried to rape me before

The idea is to sleep with you. You think there is a ready job waiting for you in Abuja??

So you'll rather stay with a Dangerous predator who you don't trust than to stay with your rich strict uncle?
You left so many things out of this story.
And your boyfriend is in a relationship with himself..

budaatum:
Then you think wrong, because he does not want to marry you at all.

Seriously, what did you "graduated not long ago and just finished my project" in?

Even if you boyfriend is not against it, you no get sense? He tried forcing himself on you 2x

You will definitely get what you're looking for.
Nonsense and ingredients.

OP what kind of story is this? Someone tried to rape you before and you are still thinking of going to stay with him?
Go and stay nah. It's your life.

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Doolove:
I think he wants to marry me but I am not attracted to him at all, I don't like his company and always feel as if I am with my uncle when I am with him

But you enjoy collecting his financial resources like you alluded to in your post abi!

Just forget about the job and the man if you don't want to get into a disastrous situation.

Doolove:
It's not really about my boyfriend, I am scared of the result of staying with the man, he has tried to rape me before

OP, what did you major in back in college?

Is your goal in life to become someone's wife and have kids all over the place, or is it to become independent and maybe marry someone who is your equal? Please let us know exactly what your goal is in life.

Doolove:
It's not really about my boyfriend, I am scared of the result of staying with the man, he has tried to rape me before

then stay with your uncle.

You don't leave a goat 🐐 and a yam in the same place

IyaTola:
You don't leave a goat 🐐 and a yam in the same place

God una won't kill me on the forum

Abeg who come be yam and who is the goat 😁😁😁😁