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Stop bragging op. Thank your God for your success but also know that overtaking is allowed. Those who you think have not gotten what you have now can overtake you tomorrow. Enjoy your success

flexyrule:
Nobody that has 30m in his bank account would come to a public forum to say I have 30m in my bank account.

Nobody!

Some stupid pedantic fellow can divulge such financial secrecy in public.

Nazgul:
A good wife and cute kids.

A good job or a thriving business or both.

A property either in the city or village or both.

An account balance of not less than 1m

Must have built a network of connections with the right people.

Must have a voice in your family.

Must have a passport.

Must have visited at least 3 countries outside Nigeria.

marriage is not an achievement

omooba969:
If you had concentrated on the topic you wouldn't be dishing out stories of the Jewish ancestors. The topic is about real life issues, not attempting to equate life struggles of this modern age to that of biblical days...GOSH MAN!

I see you deflected from my response bcoz I grabbed you by your balls...but that's fine.

The black man needs a mental overhaul really.

1 Cor 3 vs 19:
The wisdom of this world is foolishness with God..The reasoning of the wise are futile"...
Low self esteem must have made you refer to ALL BLACK MEN, you inclusive as needing some kind of overhauling...while you will praise a white idiot because of his colour. You want to sound or appear reasonable but see how you end up... Moreso, I notice anytime you hear GOD, it triggers you and make u react negatively. What has happen to you, do you mind sharing your pain?
There are INTELLIGENT BLACK MEN here that will answer you...

After your secondary school education, you went for apprenticeship instead of going to the University. You learned the trade, became a boss of your own and acquire a degree and every other thing you mentioned at 25. You are not saying the absolute truth.

Fairview1:
How can a poor boy with no money and no connections, from an impoverished village with little chance of making it survive in life?

The answer is surprisingly simple. Read on...

Like every other man on earth I was born, but not into a rich family..I never counted it as a loss of privilege because all are not born with a silver spoon...The background of a poor boy has nothing to do with his life and our background must not put our back on the ground.

So, I have a career today, that only existed in my imagination just some few years ago because I fed my dreams and starved my fears. Recognition and discovery of purpose changed it all for me.

I worked it out by first obeying the voice of God, through coming out of my locality because I was not destined to succeed there.

Is it not possible that I could have gone into this corporate City and failed?..Absolutely YES!.

But I have made it a lifelong commitment to acknowledge my fear without catering to it. I have made it second nature to nurture my dreams because that is the only way to turn them into reality...

You see, I finished my secondary school as a Science student, I won some competitive awards along the way and had good WAEC and NECO results...

With my JAMB score, which I later jettisoned and opted for the protracted 7yrs Traditional Apprenticeship scheme, I could have easily got admission into any University of my choice I wanted in Nigeria. Move into the school, study and graduate.

Not bad for a boy that was raised in a village with little or no sure chance of making it in life. The problem was that financially, my hands were tightly strapped behind my back. It was like a huge elephant on my way, I needed to gain financial freedom before thinking of going back to school. I wanted to experience places I occasionally see on television and read about in books...

I wanted the highest academic degree I could get. I want to study Civil  Engineering; my childhood dream to broaden the my scope of my knowledge, challenge my perspectives, make good and quality friends, engage with the world…I wanted more...only if wishes were horses!

I decided go for the traditional apprenticeship program...I temporarily gave up every idea of pursuing my education and became an apprentice...a routine, vague but sure way of getting out of abject poverty. That's if you will-fully pay the price and make the required sacrifices...

The only thing that stood in my way was FEAR! The fear of everybody around me. Mum, Dad, Friends, Siblings, Step brothers and sisters...

Those closest to me didn’t understood why I would want to leave a partially guaranteed average life for an uncertain future. Many have gone that path but couldn't make it to the end but ended up wasting their time.

Where is that?

Do you know anyone there?
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Have you ever been there before?

Why not consider a bigger, more diverse city like Lagos or conventional city like Onitsha, where majority of the people from our village housed themselves!?

These among others are just a sample of the questions I was getting from those who were genuinely concerned for me...

Going for this apprenticeship scheme ranks as one of the most uncertain but best decisions I ever made all my life. I have made friends and families here that I’ll keep for life and built relationships with people that will stand the test of time.

This is where I fulfilled a long-cherished dream of becoming a young business man. And, let’s face it, what’s better than living your own dream?! Having people file up in numbers seeking your attention? Getting consistent calls from Friends, Bankers, Suppliers, Customers, Agents etcetera...


Absolutely nothing!

I learned so much about business on my Apprentice and working for my boss that I knew I would be well prepared to set up my own business once I launched out.

The experience was so amazing, though it was protracted and grueling but amidst all, it was worth the price.

Working for my boss is probably some of the best training anyone can get as an entrepreneur, but starting your own business is a completely different thing to working for others.

No matter what obstacles are thrown at you or opportunities come your way, you have to make it happen; there's nobody telling you what to do next or giving you advice.

Obviously, starting your own business will literally change your life. I mean, all aspects of your life. There are more to entrepreneurship than what the majority think of it, and I'm going to tell the story some other day.

You see, It's never your fault that you were born into a poor family. It's ONLY your fault when you choose to remain in that state of poverty. You can change your fate. Trust me!

The dream of every young person born into a poor family is to go to the best schools, graduate with good results, become a successful Doctor, Lawyer, or some other prestigious professions and then get rich afterwards.

After that, it's all easy; vacations in the overseas, a beautiful wife, a great house, nice cars. Sometimes, some people manage to make this dream happen, but it's not a sure-fire thing because life has a nasty habit of getting in the way.

Some of the richest people in this country started poor..I was reading the story of MKO Abiola of blessed memory, how he sold firewood to survive. But, the man went on to become one of the richest Nigerian in history.

I also have a remote mentor called Peter Osalor, he was born poor too but have now become one of the leading Nigerian entrepreneurs today.

I didn't have an easy life either while growing up in my home town, Amanator Isu. I remember sleeping on a straw mat until I turned 18 when I left for the Apprenticeship.

But today, life is different. At 25, I built a befitting house for my Mum at the village, saw my siblings through different universities which I initially couldn't afford to pay for myself, have orphans in schools, recently acquired a prestigious university degree in Business Administration, established businesses that employes several people who through their earning are becoming better for themselves everyday and many more...

Even though the statistics about poverty are depressing -poor people tend to stay poor, just as rich people tend to stay rich. But it's not because poor people are lazy (far from it) or rich people are more industrious (they are not).

It's because of people allowing things to stay the way they are. It's because people who were born poor accept their fate and conclude in their mind that there's nothing they can do about their situation. With that mindset, they are not doing what's expected of them to get out of poverty.

I want to tell you (that have read to this point) that your DREAMS will always exist side by side with your FEARS. Both of them are product of your rich imagination. And you have the power to make one or the other a reality.

Poverty and riches are in itself is a mindset. To have life, to have liberty, to have happiness, you need to feed your dreams and starve your fears. What will prevent you from living the life you want is not lack of money, or lack of time or lack of talent.

What will prevent you from living the life you want is a lack of discipline and a sheer disbelief in your DREAMS. You have to believe your dreams to make them real. On several occasions, people have asked me how I managed to survive poverty?

How can a poor boy with no money and no connections, from an impoverished village make it in life? The answer is surprisingly simple.

I dream.

I dream..

And I keep dreaming..

The life I live today is the product of my dream some years back. I am dreaming right now of the life I want to lead tomorrow and I will not let fear dictate what I can or cannot become.

Nice2023:
I just clocked 40 year old and I feel as if I have not done well for myself. May be because I had always set a standard, hence my high taste and expectations.


Now goes the question,as a Nigerian,what achievement do one expects from a 40years old man irrespective of his education?

Sense.

ednut1:
Stop putting yaself under pressure. No manual to life in Nigeria

We should remember KFC founder, consistency is the key. There is no time line to success.

dapotemi:
1 Cor 3 vs 19:
The wisdom of this world is foolishness with God..The reasoning of the wise are futile"...
Low self esteem must have made you refer to ALL BLACK MEN, you inclusive as needing some kind of overhauling...while you will praise a white idiot because of his colour. You want to sound or appear reasonable but see how you end up... Moreso, I notice anytime you hear GOD, it triggers you and make u react negativity. What has happen to you, do you mind sharing your pain?

@bolded,
This is bcoz you see 'reason' all over my comments but your delusion of grandeur will not let you climb down your high horse of blissful ignorance.

Keep quoting scriptures ok...😂

SangoOlukosoOba:
Peace of mind.

hw u take know?

Satanistx:
40 year old fool. how many years mark zuckerberg take senior you?

You're the fool here, envious cockroach.

He only requested you to say what you feel a man should have achieved at 40.

This is not about competition, and you shouldn't envious or intimidated.

OP, just watch this video, you will get the right answers there. Don’t forget to thank me later.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvJmGY0XK_0

maasoap:
All these Elluup clowns and their warped mentality. Always trying to bring politics into every discussion! When will you guys learn to respect the choices others made even when you don't like it?




Hasn't it occurred to you that your dad might have accidentally impregnated your mum before both were ready?

Iru isokuso wo leleyii ntori oloun? My dad got married as an adult to a grown up lady. Things weren't so bad as they are today in the 70s. Go and ask your parents and they'd tell you the truth. Unfortunately,most of you born into indomie generation weren't opportune to witness Nigeria's better past, hence the way you reason. My dad attended free schools throughout. Why would he not marry early and enjoy good life? Jobs were waiting for them before graduation. So, when you're a graduate with a good job, what else are you waiting for? You marry and settle down!

WAEC result holders back then were hot cake cos Nigeria had a very few number of educated fellows and graduates back then. My dad was employed by National Bank at 18 after he finished form 5 with a good result. At 20, he got married. Mum was going to 19 at that time and this was same with most of his peers in his generation. Bank jobs were paying more than IT and Telecom jobs today. He was able to buy a beetle car called ijapa, brand new by the time he clocked 22 with his salary. Bank gave them and deducted the money for 2 years, in a manner they didn't feel it from their salary.

Life was so good back then. A shool teacher could easily afford a car. Mum got enrolled in a nursing school while dad took ICAN courses while working and passed all. He was admitted into 200L direct entry with it when he was already a chartered accountant. Dad was going to 45 when I graduated at 23. So, do the maths yourself.

The choice we made in life will only make or Mar us and that's why it's good to choose wisely. This is in response to your post. You don't even know my age when I gained admission and you don't believe one can actually get married at 20 years and with a good job in those days. Blame bad leaders for whatever condition you may be in today. I'm not referring to only tinubu, maybe that's why you called me elupee supporter. This still boils down to sentiments we're talking about and the way of thinking of most of you guys, which had placed you where you are today.

Our leader and the real omoluabi, in person of Pa Awo actually wanted everyone to graduate at 22 years, min so he gave our father's the opportunity of free education across our land. I benefited from it in my primary school days briefly. Universities never went on strike in those days. If you enter at 18, you should graduate at 22 and start a life. Is it so today? In America where I once schooled, an 18 years old boy would have owned an apartment, married and started a life, even riding a small car of his own. It used to be same here in Nigeria in the 60s/70s. They even encouraged dad to take that car by national bank, imagine.

Everyone has their own timezone, some becomes multimillionaire at 25 and die at 45, some becomes millionaire at 40 and stay rich and die at 90-100yrs. Destinies are not dsame.

omooba969:
@bolded,
This is bcoz you see 'reason' all over my comments but your delusion of grandeur will not let you climb down your high horse of blissful ignorance.

Keep quoting scriptures ok...😂

Lol, o tilor
Strive a nerve there.... wahala ear and there

dasnan:
You should not be quick to jump into conclusion on certain issues.

exactly what I expected from a skint fellow like you 😘smh

Nice2023:
I just clocked 40 year old and I feel as if I have not done well for myself. May be because I had always set a standard, hence my high taste and expectations.


Now goes the question,as a Nigerian,what achievement do one expects from a 40years old man irrespective of his education?

Seriously! Ok, Obasanjo, Gowon and Buhari were heads of state before 40. Dangote, Otedola, and Elumelu were billionaires before 40. Okonjo Iweala, Adichie Chimamanda and Pat Utomi were professors before 40. Oya compare!
Must you live your life based on the achievements of others? What you should be talking about is, are you comfortable, can you pay your bills, are you happy with your relationship and family! Those are the issues, not what another man has. If not you will become very greedy and jealous.

tonididdy:
@40 I’ll love to be retired and concentrate on my kids
Make them college graduates… the rest is their headache, I don try.

@40 I’ll love to have my dream home with a blueprint from scratch

@40 I’ll definitely want a licensed gun in Nigeria.

@40 I’ll love to attempt politics or at least be influential in society ( roll with the real big boys in politics in Edo state )

What do you think 40 is

I guess you're still a teenager who thinks 40 is too far to reach.

In no distant time, you'll wake up one day and see yourself at 40, and will quickly realize you're far from retirement.

dapotemi:
Lol, o tilor
Strive a nerve there.... wahala ear and there

Strive a nerve....ear and there?? 🥺🥺🥴🥴🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

I don't think you need the scriptures yet, what you need is quality education.

Free2Fly:
What do you think 40 is

I guess you're still a teenager who thinks 40 is too far to reach.

In no distant time, you'll wake up one day and see yourself at 40, and will quickly realize you're far from retirement.

I’m about 7 clicks away from 40 boy

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omooba969:
Strive a nerve....ear and there?? 🥺🥺🥴🥴🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

I don't think you need the scriptures yet, what you need is quality education.

LMAO, you did not highlight 'wahala'.....
Wahala ear and there....

dapotemi:
LMAO, you did not highlight 'wahala'.....
Wahala ear and there....

Finally, you came out of your shell. 😂

Bye preacher! 👋

Life begins at 40 they say, so ur life just started.

Entanglement:
abeg go sit down poor man
You too dey watch America movie too much
How many persons Una police don pick?
No be after when crime don commit like 5hrs later you go see your yeye police dey access the damage!

No allow me Mark you ohh

I hear you
If you continue like this, I pity you.

DeeBaDan:
Trust me. Ive been creating jobs since eight years and oga. Your 10 Million doesn't intimidate me


You created this thread with a motive to brag. Hence I'm asking you to come out fully to say what you think you've achieved that's alot.

Common man, the OP only wanted to calibrate his life…to see what he has achieved relative to an “average “ 40 year Nigerian man.
That’s my understanding and he wasn’t going to brag about anything.

omooba969:
Finally, you came out of your shell. 😂

Bye preacher! 👋

Alright, be nice to others okay.
It's a working day for me.
Have a good day and avoid wahala ear and there, teacher....

Eriokanmi:
Iru isokuso wo leleyii ntori oloun? My dad got married as an adult to a grown up lady. Things weren't so bad as they are today in the 70s. Go and ask your parents and they'd tell you the truth. Unfortunately,most of you born into indomie generation weren't opportune to witness Nigeria's better past, hence the way you reason. My dad attended free schools throughout. Why would he not marry early and enjoy good life? Jobs were waiting for them before graduation. So, when you're a graduate with a good job, what else are you waiting for? You marry and settle down!

WAEC result holders back then were hot cake cos Nigeria had a very few number of educated fellows and graduates back then. My dad was employed by National Bank at 18 after he finished form 5 with a good result. At 20, he got married. Mum was going to 19 at that time and this was same with most of his peers in his generation. Bank jobs were paying more than IT and Telecom jobs today. He was able to buy a beetle car called ijapa, brand new by the time he clocked 22 with his salary. Bank gave them and deducted the money for 2 years, in a manner they didn't feel it from their salary.

Life was so good back then. A shool teacher could easily afford a car. Mum got enrolled in a nursing school while dad took ICAN courses while working and passed all. He was admitted into 200L direct entry with it when he was already a chartered accountant. Dad was going to 45 when I graduated at 23. So, do the maths yourself.

The choice we made in life will only make or Mar us and that's why it's good to choose wisely. This is in response to your post. You don't even know my age when I gained admission and you don't believe one can actually get married at 20 years and with a good job in those days. Blame bad leaders for whatever condition you may be in today. I'm not referring to only tinubu, maybe that's why you called me elupee supporter. This still boils down to sentiments we're talking about and the way of thinking of most of you guys, which had placed you where you are today.

Our leader and the real omoluabi, in person of Pa Awo actually wanted everyone to graduate at 22 years, min so he gave our father's the opportunity of free education across our land. I benefited from it in my primary school days briefly. Universities never went on strike in those days. If you enter at 18, you should graduate at 22 and start a life. Is it so today? In America where I once schooled, an 18 years old boy would have owned an apartment, married and started a life, even riding a small car of his own. It used to be same here in Nigeria in the 60s/70s. They even encouraged dad to take that car by national bank, imagine.

Na man you be!

tensazangetsu20:
To have bleeped at least 50 olosho with smelly pussy.

Hian, for posting this comment, l will call my Friend, The IG of police in Chile to arrest and detain you for 20 years in Satiango police headquarters without bail

gard9ner:
I don’t understand bro, what is he intimidated about?

Unfortunately I got to this thread late but you can still find the pony in my contribution. Most writers here have said well, so @40 besides peace of mind and a sustainable means of livelihood, the only thing missing is your relationship with God, how have you lived your life.

Let me just be brief, you see you can even acquire the whole world (which is of course what I assume you and some others feel that those are what life is about), and forget that you came without a pin and so shall you return unto dust. Many don’t believe in after life so they live anyhow, well even if you don’t believe in life after death atleast live a life worthy of emulation, make resounding impacts, touch humanity and live a life that something remarkable will be read about you in your eulogy and lastly fulfil your destiny.

If at 40 you haven’t asked God or your creator to reveal your purpose in life then you haven’t lived, don’t get it wrong, I’ve an abundance of worldly possession (not to brag but of course this is a faceless forum, those that know u know) so the point is, life isn’t about material gains or achievements but your topic of discuss here is much more complex and deeper than most think, thanks.
B
Cheers to being 40!

true bro the greatest tragedy in life is not death but life without a purpose! Without purpose life is motion without meaning,event without reason and activity without direction.Without God,life has no purpose, without purpose,life has no meaning and without meaning, life is pointless! So it all begins with God!God is not the starting point of your life but the source of it,His purpose for us predates conception; before we existed,He planned it, without our input,so we can chose our relationship, career, hobbies but never our purpose...I could go on nice topic anyway

tensazangetsu20:
To have bleeped at least 50 olosho with smelly pussy.

Choi craze 🤣

Where is the 10m? did he modified the initial post?

DeeBaDan:
Trust me. Ive been creating jobs since eight years and oga. Your 10 Million doesn't intimidate me


You created this thread with a motive to brag. Hence I'm asking you to come out fully to say what you think you've achieved that's alot.

ufotty2001:
At 38yrs I have achieved alot.. I have gotten what an average man is looking for .. I have everything u think an average man needs but my area I know am backward is that am not yet married..

wetin be the thg when get outside family when u Dey call achievement.by my rating u r failing.materially I have everythg,houses business cars but I also have a family.and I’m 38.I have been married for over 10yrs now.Watch ur life and do the necessary corrections now.There’s really no achievement outside family.