Samantha124:
Only my sister can answer that question, not me.

You didn't encourage her to be proactive against 'violence' like you have edged this woman on?

You care about this strange woman more than you do your sister?

thesicilian:
A man can feed his family for years and no one will hear about it. He's often proud to bear the responsibility. But the moment a woman starts bearing the responsibility, all hell must break loose, sooner or later

All hell breaks loose if the woman is not providing and not taking care of the home front as well.

You’ve chosen to not be truthful to yourself

Only the op can answer that question.

Luckysbab:


Her love is useless to him.

She is miserable from putting up with him.

What else is left until she lets the man loose from her suffocation?

Kobojunkie:
Osinachi is the ultimate example to all women out there in Nigeria land who thinks to rationalize violence and foolishness in marriage. That woman must have
● prayed and fasted her brains out
● asked every third-party her husband respected, including pastors, to intervene
● persevered for so long under very violent conditions yet all the while submitting
● sung her brains out to God to get Him to come down and fix the relationship
● taken on the role of breadwinner so she could be superwoman in her marriage
● made certain her family was aware of the problem in the marriage
● had in-laws who were aware of the conditions in the marriage, even though they did not care to do anything about it

where is she today? Wormfood and she was made that by that same man she did all that to keep.

What about Chidinma, the 'innocent-looking' lover killer?

Samantha124:
She's not holding him back and if he wants to leave, then he should leave.

I'm sure the op would be happy and finally have a peace of mind.

The man is ungrateful for mistreating the woman that has been by his side all these years... He doesn't deserve such a good woman.

We can assume the OP has a psychological disorder for continuing to beg him to stay.

Trying to twist my words wouldn't get you anywhere.

Say whatever you like, but the op did the right thing.

Luckysbab:


You didn't encourage her to be proactive against 'violence' like you have edged this woman on?

You care about this strange woman more than you do your sister?

Assumption is not proof.

Luckysbab:


We can assume the OP has a psychological disorder for continuing to beg him to stay.

Samantha124:
Only the op can answer that question.

At least now we agree the OP is just as much a problem as she claims her husband is.

Would you endure your ungrateful wife beating you up?

Luckysbab:


At least now we agree the OP is just as much a problem as she claims her husband is.

Samantha124:
Assumption is not proof.

The proof is the OP practically begging to stay on.

Is there a sequel I missed?

Samantha124:
Trying to twist my words wouldn't get you anywhere.

Say whatever you like, but the op did the right thing.

Now we agree you have been misleading the OP, intentionally or otherwise.

So much for women supporting women.

Samantha124:
Would you endure your ungrateful wife beating you up?

I don't have a wife I have to endure.

Well, apparently in Nigeria you guys believe in enduring in unhappy marriages because you don't want to bring shame to your families, which I find to be weird and wayward, if you ask me.

Luckysbab:


The proof is the OP practically begging to stay on.

Is there a sequel I missed?

Continue twisting my words...😂😂😂

Luckysbab:


Now we agree you have been misleading the OP, intentionally or otherwise.

So much for women supporting women.

If you had one, would you do it?

Luckysbab:


I don't have a wife I have to endure.

Persephone1:
One of my life rule is: You don't get to determine how a person react to your provocations. While you throw the first punch I hope you save the best for the last.

This is what is happening with Op. Husband acted, she reacted, husband is currently acting she's concerned. Things don't work that way.

It baffles me that the ladies supporting the law on this thread are not giving the headway on the real issue which is how does Op get her husband's forgiveness since she still wants the marriage.

Samantha Kobojunkie

Here is the bone of contention - why is the Op choosing for the man how he should react to her own reaction to his action?

This is my grouse, not the correctness of her action or otherwise.

And the problem with you is that you're emotional.

If you've been following me, you'd know that I'm unbiased and I support what is right.

This has nothing to do with me being a woman, but you wouldn't see that because your emotions have over clouded your level of reasoning.

Luckysbab:


Now we agree you have been misleading the OP, intentionally or otherwise.

So much for women supporting women.

Samantha124:
Well, apparently in Nigeria you guys believe in enduring in unhappy marriages because you don't want to bring shame to your families, which I find to be weird and wayward, if you ask me.

This is not my own grouse here. She chose to react however she deemed fit. It's selfish (which isn't unexpected of a typical woman) to try to dictate his own reaction.

Samantha124:
If you had one, would you do it?

I have no plan for one. Since I have not been tasked to write a movie script, I can't tell what the answer to that will be.

So it's good for the husband to react however he deemed fit, but it's bad when the woman does the same thing?

Luckysbab:


This is not my own grouse here. She chose to react however she deemed fit. It's selfish (which isn't unexpected of a typical woman) to try to dictate his own reaction.

Samantha124:
And the problem with you is that you're emotional.

If you've been following me, you'd know that I'm unbiased and I support what is right.

This has nothing to do with me being a woman, but you wouldn't see that because your emotions have over clouded your level of reasoning.

You support her arresting the man, good. At the same time, you want him to be grateful for that, hold hands with her to sing kumbaya, cos that is what happened between you and your sister, So who's been emotionally prejudiced now?

A40:
You dey fear cell or cemetery? Beat your wife nau. Ahn ahn e hard?

Yes I dey fear

Samantha124:
Continue twisting my words...😂😂😂

I would have been surprised if you didn't attempt to manipulate the man into taking responsibility for your own slip.

You're only huwoman afterall.

Lol... You know very well that you'll contradict yourself if you answer me.

And since you've refused to answer my question by showing me how hypocritical you are, this discussion is over... Bye.

Luckysbab:


I have no plan for one. Since I have not been tasked to write a movie script, I can't tell what the answer to that will be.

Samantha124:
So it's good for the husband to react however he deemed fit, but it's bad when the woman does the same thing?

Thankfully, I have not given any opinion on if she should have arrested him or not.

I don't want him to be grateful, I want him to be remorseful.

He wouldn't be in that cell if he respected his wife.

Luckysbab:


You support her arresting the man, good. At the same time, you want him to be grateful for that, hold hands with her to sing kumbaya, cos that is what happened between you and your sister, So who's been emotionally prejudiced now?

Dammyseyon:
People just dey talk like retard. How can you say she locked him up because she's doing better? He can never get away with such act in a developed country.
He got exactly what he deserved and if true love is involved, he should beg his wife and knack sense back into her. Your husband crossed the line and he should be punished.
You did the right thing

Good you admitted that. Can you now also advise her to stop suffocating the man with her selfish begging? Afterall, now he's doing the right thing by keeping away from having confrontations with her.

You don't lay your hands on me and get away with it... It doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman.

Luckysbab:


I would have been surprised if you didn't attempt to manipulate the man into taking responsibility for your own slip.

You're only huwoman afterall.

Yet you're busy quoting me.

Luckysbab:


Thankfully, I have not given any opinion on if she should have arrested him or not.

Samantha124:
Lol... You know very well that you'll contradict yourself if you answer me.

And since you've refused to answer my question by showing me how hypocritical you are, this discussion is over... Bye.

Be safe.

cutesharon:
Ignoring her right. He was home yet she came back to do all the chores and still deal with a man that went out to drink instead of taking care of himself at the very least feed himself. This is not her ignoring him, it is him being irresponsible not cos he lost his job but that he decided to be uselesss in other ways rather than support his wife. It is easier to say women are not supportive but we change the rules when same support is expected from men. The outburst was accumulation of bitterness and jealousy of his woman working which doesnt make sense. I will not support bad humans either male or female.

Men support and female support are different. A man is happy to support his wife financially, emotionally and psychologically... He will add domestic support as romantic support but when a man is handicapped and limited to domestic support only, he sees it as man abuse. No man prays to be a domestic helper to the wife only. It's unfortunate you don't understand how men are wired and you are likely to have problems with men. It's expected for men to understand women, it is also important for women to understand men. If you are not married yet, you will know when the time comes. You can do your man anything you like and go free but not when you bruise his ego and disrespect him carelessly. Note, that a man who dropped from been a bread winner to full time house husband is sick and a good wife should help him to cure the sickness and not worsen it. I know you will say he should go and hustle bla bla bla, sickness is sickness and must be cured with antidote or medication. Everybody needs help from everybody that's why God wants you to get a life partner.

We have heard your own side of the story but we never heard he's